I disagree. I have had straight men over that I had known, and they have laid on my bed with me and we had no intimacy. Ultimately the decision to be intimate should always be up to the lady. They were all quite respectful and no intimacy ever occurred with them there nor in the future. We were just good friends. And yes I am straight as well.
Orlando, some of us really have great male friends. I don't think every male friend is a "boyfriend" in waiting. Since you love research and statistics, poll a sample size and do a study.
There is research on this already. Bleske-Rechek, et. al took 88 pairs of "friends" and had each fill out a confidential survey on attraction. These "friendships" averaged about 2 years in length. The authors consistently found that "men reported more attraction to their female friends than women did to their male friends." The study even looked at men and women who were in a relationship with another person. Again, men were still attracted to their female "friend" and repeatedly the female "friend" was unaware of the attraction. As the authors point out men had an, "attraction to (and desire to date) their friend regardless of their own current romantic involvement or their friend’s current romantic involvement." In essence, women were fooling themselves that their male "friend" really just wanted to be "friends."
Source: Bleske-Rechek, A., Somers, E., Micke, C., Erickson, L., Matteson, L., Stocco, C., ... & Ritchie, L. (2012). Benefit or burden? Attraction in cross-sex friendship. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships
I would like to believe your theory is wrong... however I will say, I have yet to find a male friend who truly knows how to be friend without hidden motives. I haven't given up... my search is still on! =)
I'm beginning to wonder. I think it is almost impossible to have a male friend. it always ends up with him wanting to eventually sleep with you. I do have one male friend but he is gay. He is a true gem. I wish I could find more like him!
I found that having male friends was healthier than females. At least in the past. Not to say that I couldn't have had female friends but the amount of drama was far less. Now that I am older it is easier to nurture friendships with women.
There isn't a single one of my male friends who can say that I had anything more than a friendship with him. In fact, I am travelling to Miami to spend a week with a (straight) friend whom I have known for 20 years. He and I were never involved. This may be one of the rare instances.
On my case..they REALLY exist!!! My male friends are fun to hang out with, reliable, adventurous and respectful. I have no problem on defending it as my experience is so positive and even if we don't think alike we still can count on each other and call us great friends! My female friends are sensitive, sweet and great for some girl time and my male friends are adventurous, players and great for more heavier stuff.
VIVE LA DIFFERENCE!
I love having male friends...Unfortunately,I only have a couple. I made it very clear to my ,male, friends that I have no interest but a friendship. Some of them accept and some try to persuade me into a relationship. One thing I know, is that those that stick around are my true ,male, friends that care and respects me. Yes, I do believe that a male can be friends with a female as long as you keep an open communication with them.
I have to agree with 4Ever. I think that your theory is flawed, Orlando. It does make for a good conversation and the percentages may favor your theory in the end but not anywhere near 100%. How many of the women that you asked have actually asked their male friends if they would sleep with them given the opportunity? And, it may just be wishfull thinking by the women when in reality the male friends would have no interest at all.
I have lots of female friends and I have no desire to sleep with any of them. Just because what she has between her legs is different than what I have doesn't make her attractive to me and just because she's attractive to me doesn't mean I want whats between her legs.
The benefit of friendship is that it allows you to accept a persons imperfections without being driven absolutely insane by them.