Hi Jen, My prayers are with Johnny and Rose. Caring for my husband of 30 years and watching him die of cancer was terrible. With cancer comes so much pain, thank God for hospice and morphine. I was fortunate to be able to keep my husband home and give him all the medications he needed. It sounds like Johnny is not that lucky. I hope there will be someone there to care for him. On your second post "the wicked witch is dead" is too funny. She was an advocate for children and bullying yet she was bullying people on this site on a daily basis. She has been removed along with all her nasty comments. Thank heavens. John and Rose are lucky to have you as a friend....all you can do is be there and show your support. Hang in there my friend. Prayers and positive thoughts are on the way....:)
A quick look at the latest singles experiences. Experiences is a questionable choice of words, I could have chosen "disappointments" but none of them really get to that point. Here they are...
1) I've been waiting to find out if my current online interest is real. He has only one photo on his profile and there's the question of why he hasn't called me yet when I gave him my number a few days ago. Is it because it's hard to call from Nigeria? lol. He also has not sent me or posted new photos like I asked him to. I think I will give him a couple more days before I tell him I think he is probably a scammer.
2) Had a halfway decent, first conversation with a local guy (hardly ever is there a local guy), after that he had a couple of spur of the moment, "let's meet in 10 minutes" tries on his part that I declined. One of those he was going to be with his buddy at a winery, last thing I want to do is to meet someone for the first time when he is with his friend, kinda awkward. It wouldn't be so bad if they were bowling or something but the winery just wasn't right to have a tagalong friend right there next to us during a first meeting.
Then I tried by casually inviting him in advance to an event, he never even bothered to reply! How rude! Locals around my age always suck. They have no clue what manners are.
3) My girlfriend and I were at the local pub. This one guy was talking to both of us, after a bit, I sensed something odd. He was just TOO interested in both of us. I backed down. Later I found out that his single girlfriend/buddy was not that at all single and neither was he. They were swingers, secret swingers who finally told my girlfriend the truth because she drove them home.
4)Someone on here today asked me what my sign was. NEXT!! I cannot consider dating anyone who think that your "sign" makes a difference. I don't believe in astrology or horoscopes.
Here is the hanging outdoor bed I would sooo love to have. Which one is better if I had to choose just one? (The other pic. is directly below this post) I would choose the daybed shown on the beach. I like the adjustable suncover on it.
Yes!! Got some good news today :) Someone who was causing problems in our forum on here is gone. Lol, why is the line- "The Wicked Witch is dead" coming into my head? Unfortunitely some of her toxic words are left behind.
It was cold & rainy yesterday but I am keeping in mind that Spring is going to happen soon : ) Spring comes early in southern California. Sunday is Daylight Savings Time, the longer it takes at night to get dark, the better! I love warm evenings.
Can't wait to use my new, extra wide hammock and hopefully share it with someone special. We can look at the stars together from it. I have a balcony that I am gonna hang it from the railings up there. I recently saw 2 daybeds that I would love to have, I'm posting the pics of them here. In the meantime, I will just enjoy my hammock :)
Hope you are having a better day than I had so far.
First, my morning started with finding out I was lied to by someone I was interested in online then I read a very sad message frome someone who is a cyber acquaintance online that he is suffering and is in so much pain from cancer that he wants to kill himself. Plus I am concerned about my sweet neighbor, Rose, who is very sick and is also in constant pain that she is withering away. She has just about a month before she gets a treatment in the hospital that I have never heard of before. I was talking to her husband, he said they are going to "kill" her thyroid, they won't remove it. I need to do some research on it.
My cyber friend is someone I really don't know well. Something told me that he may be in bad shape and to contact him so I did. He is only 33 years old and has cancer for the second time from what i understand. I wish I could tell more because that would mean I know more. He lives in a far away state )Geogia)so I can't help him physically. I asked him some questions today, he may not have the strength to answer.
One of the biggest questions I have is why does God allow good people to suffer so much? It is a mystery that will just have to wait to get answered when I die. Maybe it is just that we are not living in Heaven, our bodies can fail us. Life here is not perfect and is certainly not fair. Sometimes we do receive intervention , I know I have. Miracles do happen.
if you're reading this, please keep Johnny and Rose in your prayers.
Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.
-Rainer Maria Rilke
I am definitely like a dragon waiting for one good, steadfast man to discover my soft spot.
I checked before I joined the various Christian sites. Settled on this one and joined. I put in a very reasonable search, basically you can't be married search. For my zipcode, there was ONE MALE..just one!! How pathetic is that?
You have to pay a membership fee for any communication so needless to say, I am not going to pay to communicate with ONE person who is probably on other sites and may not even be an active member.
I am so sick of this single status of mine. I'm close to giving up.
Since this pic. is stuck in my head, I thought I would be nice and post it so you can share in my misery. I also apologize now if it affects you as it did Me. There is a story to go along with it.
Lord help me, I am so sick of this single garbage. On one particular site, they have an "intent" to tell others what you're looking for. They have a "Seeking a relationship" which is what I had previously stated, now I've changed it to "ACTIVELY seeking a relationship". Lol, yeah,.. what nerd/staff member came up with 2, VERY different choices (among a few others) is beyond me but I did get to use in a witty way on my profile. Big whoop... men don't appreciate wit or a lot of other qualities.
So I made the mistake of typing something in the forum on a free, singles site. It got twisted into something else by people who were not nice to say the least. Now one guy did say something nice to defend my profile. The guy who did was...I can't even find the words but I will post his photo here and let you come to your own conclusions. I will say that he is a racist and made it perfectly clear.
Anyway, as it was time to defend myself and UNtwist what others typed, I couldn't because you are allowed exactly 5 posts in a time period and my next post exceeded that. In one way not being able to post helped because how do I say thank-you to the Pie-eater (guy in the pic), I didn't want to encourage his otherwise bad behavior. He also messaged me personally, I will spare you the details.
I wrote this advice article a year or two ago. I think it about sums it up. What do you think?
S-words you need to know !!
Sorting what you want in a relationship can be simple. The following are the S-words that most men are concerned with in no particular order. Each man decides on his own what takes a higher priority. Unfortunitely some men lack interest or have TOO much interest with some of these. Don't expect to change any of it. As women, we have to know what we have and if we can deal with it. If you can deal with it then most likely you will have a successful relationship.
There are a few others...
Seclusion: The Man Cave. Some men just need this to "unwind" alone. Sometimes though they want to invite others of their species to also "unwind". As woman we don't get to have this ourselves but some lucky men do. If he's a happier guy cause he has his space (literally & figuratively) then it may be good for both of you.
Spirituality: This is something that can change with anyone over time but it is important to know where this will fit into your relationship or maybe it won't fit at all !! Do you share the same beliefs? Are you okay with it if he doesn't support your faith? Obviously this can affect your relationship greatly. It may not be something you want to discuss on your first date but I wouldn't wait too long.
Selfish or selfless?: I think a lot of people with think of material goods when the word selfish comes up but if one of you is selfish with your time (other than unwinding) then it really doesn't help the relationship. Unfortunitely I was a Golf Widow. He would spend the best hours of the day playing golf and that was it for the day. I tried to make a deal with him that if he devoted four hours to golfing then he should devote 4 hours of quality time with me. In my experience it didn't work. You need to find out what works for the two of you.
I do have to mention that honesty, trust and communication skills are huge factors in a relationship too. Whether you're starting or maintaining a relationship I hope this advice has helped. Good Luck !!!
I found the key to lure men,lol..Hot Buttered Rum!! I will be making more of it in my future. Of course, hello, the topper is fresh whipped cream. No talk of New Year's resolutions and goals, it is all about the rum in my thermos with 2 cups. Okay..I thought of a goal! What is the best way to transport whipped cream? I will find the way ;)
*I think I already know the answer :) A ketchup container! Or the option would be I could buy a can of whipped cream. Of course it isn't as good as fresh whipped cream but I may give it a try.
Update: My "Lure Men" statement may be misconstrued, that is if you don't know me, and that would mean any readers right now. To set it straight, I only lure one at a time, geez! Wait a second, if I have a girlfriend around, I may lure two,lol.
I did find a can of whipped cream that actually contains real cream! Who would have thunk? So I have it all down to a science now :)
Dear St. Nick, I don't want much this year, I just want the person reading this to be HAPPY. Friends are the fruit cake of life --- some nutty, some soaked in alcohol, some sweet, but mix them together and they're my friends. At Christmas you always hear people talking about what they want & bought. This is what I want: I want people who are sick with no cure to be able to be CURED. I want children with no families to be ADOPTED. I want people to NEVER have to worry about food, shelter & heat. I want PEACE and LOVE for EVERYONE!
Since when did Slutty Halloween transfer over to Slutty Christmas? I know I am going to sound extremely conservative (which I'm not) but the idea of dressing up in slutty Christmas costumes and the making the rounds wherever, doesn't suit me (pun intended). Today for instance , it was the Wineries Tour, yes, we must all dress like complete sluts, add alcohol to the mix and viola! Actually some of the costumes were okay where others found yet another excuse to look like sluts. I know a few that act like it too so hey, no hypocrisy there!
I didn't go but saw plenty of pics that were shared on fb, I didn't go for a reason, just like I didn't go to The Rocky Horror event, etc., etc.. Geez, I need a new group of classier friends who like to socialize. I do have some but they are the ones that are doing family events ,etc.
I prefer the "Tacky Christmas Sweater Contest" party or the "We're Santa's Elves" Pub Crawl much better. I was at a particular establishment recently when in walked Santa and his troup of helpers doing a Pub Crawl. Now 2 helpers were particularly cute, dressed like twins but they weren't twins, I loved it!! I'm including a pic. of Santa and his two Helpers that I mentioned. Note:This was a separate
event from the slutty one that was happening today.
Update: The tacky behavior is now beginning to show in the photos of the slutty Christmas winery tour that's happening today. Photos of debauchery along with one holding a sign that says "Zero to naked in 1.2 bottles of wine." And that about sums it up!
My daughter subbed a class of 2nd graders for the first time yesterday. Three of those sweet kids gave her an apple. To think that sweet, innocent children lost their innocence today is so sad. Let alone the devastating loss of losing a child is beyond comprehension. My prayers go out to all those affected today by this tragedy.
It's decided, I'm going to have a party, that's right, me, Jenny is throwing a party :) It has been a long time since I've hosted one but hey, the world may end the next day so if there is any reason to party, it will be that night-December 21st!!
P.S. I absolutely do not believe one iota that the world will end because it's the end of the Mayan calender but it is a great excuse. *We have to go through the Tribulation first, it's 7 years long.
I know what the title is of my thread (yes, it was started by me,long story), anyway the point is I am going to post something about some friends or acquaintances instead. In typing about them, I'm not judging, I am just giving you a glimpse of some of the disfunctional people in southern California.
I call some of these people acquaintances because I do know them but can't call all of them my friends. Some people are just not met to stay your friends for one reason or another. You may be able to tell why from the following. Names may be changed slightly to protect the non-innocent! lol.
Olive: She went out on a date with a new guy. After the date was over she then went to see her F*** Buddy ( yeah, that is what they are called) of FOUR YEARS!! Something is haywire there. I felt sorry for the first guy that night.
Now what was way worse was when this grown, professional woman got in a fight with another female and hit her in the head with a beer bottle! The victim got some deep cuts from that bottle, regardless, it is ridiculous behavior and so wrong. THAT was too hard to deal with so I moved on completely.
Lindy: Before her divorce has occurred, she has already managed to have quite a track record. The upsetting thing is that she has continued to date someone who had at least two violent acts involving her. The first one was he came to her house (after she stopped seeing him)and surprised her and her new guy and beat him up while they were in her bedroom! The second incident was that he punched her beloved car causing some damage to it.
Would you date the guy again after he showed some extreme violent behavior? If she can't think about her own safety, she has 2 sons to think about. I would have shut it off completely. Unbelievable!!
Okay, I'm done typing for the night. Revisiting just two of these people's stories is enough for now.
Today I happened to come across someone's profile (on a different site) and his headline said "A gentleman with an edge". I almost laughed, I had previously met him through a friend of a friend and this guy had no edge. What was he thinking when he typed that? Did he mean that he has the edge of the bar in his chest while he is looking directly ahead at the wall? Cuz that was exactly how he was that night we met.
This is how part of that night went. A few friends and I were at a Spanish Tappas type bar/restaurant where they the band plays salsa/ Greek type music. My friend Renata saw her friend there named George. At one point or another ,we all danced. I don't know how to salsa but it wasn't going to stop me. This is where some of my favorite words come into play- So what and Why not. So what if I can't salsa like the others and why not have fun and dance anyway. I do have to say though I am particular as to what I dance to but if I'm feeling it then I will.
There was a guy at the bar sitting by himself. I felt kinda sorry for him. At the end of the night they have this special dance where you all are in a circle. I gestured to the guy sitting alone and said somethink like " Come on and join us, it's the last dance." He didn't come and just sat there like a bump on a log.
As we left, this guy was walking along with us. It was only then that I found out that he was a friend of George's. He managed to say a few words, even that he was taking salsa dance lessons. I'm sure he's a nice guy but as far as an edge goes, that's ridiculous! Wallflower would have been more correct. He is really not representing himself the way he should be with that headline of his. He could have typed that he was the strong, silent type, there are women who would like that type I'm sure. He did contact me later and no, I did not see him again.
Just one more story of a single lady in the Inland Empire.
I reached a big number today and it absolutely doesn't matter but 502 men on a different singles site think they want to meet me. Lol, well clearly, they weren't really thinking cuz I am pretty sure that at least 75% of them either didn't read my profile or chose to ignore what they read in my profile.
It's a feature where you click yes or no on a photo that shows up. You can read their profile if u click further but most don't bother so again, it really doesn't matter that they've clicked yes, they want to meet me.
First I want to say that I am not wanting any unreasonable qualities in these men. I have heard of some ridiculous standards by women like "He cannot wear flip-flops" standards. My odds are just extremely limited by what I would like in a guy and then hello! There has to be that chemistry that you just don't know if it's there unless you meet.
So one thing that automatically lowers my odds considerably is that he has to be a Christian. I don't know what it is like in other states but where I live in southern California, Christian men are the minority. I am not a Saint by any means but I just need someone who shares the same Christian belief. Don't tell me I'm not open-minded (I hate that),I dated an atheist,etc., so yeah, I do know what I want and what I don't want.
I also don't want someone who may think he has time for a relationship but his reality is far different than what he thinks. The guy who thinks he has time but doesn't, will usually be pretty obvious in his profile that starts with "I have my kids half of the time but I coach their teams and I go to the Gym 5 times a week and then I have my hobby that involves every Sunday and then I.... yeah.
I have not even mentioned the Age Factor. Okay..I just mentioned it,lol. You know who browses for women in their 40's or 50's? Mostly old men who look like they have one foot in the grave, that's who. I hate to say it but I find most old men repulsive, sorry, it's just a fact. The other browsers? I will leave to your imagination, I will just say that it isn't good, most of the time. I will add though that I have put an age ratio on at least one site so the too young ones and the way old ones can't message me.
Today, "Micheal" (who had my phone number somehow) was going through his cell and decided to call me. I didn't know who he was but had a good guess. He will just have to remain a mystery. "Micheal" claimed he didn't know who I was either (I think he did) so he thought it was a great idea that since he was going to Costco, that I should just hop in my vehicle and start driving to meet him there. I said no, I am not going to be meeting him at Costco and in mid-sentence, there was a disconnection. Not sure why we were disconnected but he didn't bother to call back and that was just fine with me. By the way, he conveniently had a blocked ID.
Who do I think he was? I think it was someone I had communicated with online who ended up showing his nasty, true colors so I blocked him. Because it was some time ago, he was hoping I had forgotten and thought if he played dumb, he would get a fresh start.THAT'S who I think" Blocked ID Micheal" is.
So I told you about Micheal, I may as well type a little about another recent phone conversation, my first one with "David", it may have also been my last conversation with him too. Why we are not compatible. The first reason- the guy wakes up at 5:30 AM...because he WANTS to, he doesn't have to at all, but he does it voluntarily!! To top it off, he walks up a mountain in the morning then goes to the gym then later walks up the same mountain (twice a day,yes, twice a day) Lol, okay, if i don't HAVE to wake up early then I will be sleeping!! I do go to the gym but having some Crack of Dawn walk and then it's still super early and I am in the Gym? Not gonna happen,lol. Sometimes Morning People are just irritating. You can leave that "Good Morning" crap to someone else, alright?
P.S. Sometimes I must come across kinda scary. It is just my sense of humor. I will allow a good morning greeting but just don't look too happy while you're saying it ;)
The world may be going to H*** in a handbasket but I bought a new dress yesterday and I am determined to wear it and have a great time in it. I only wish I have a good man by my side at the same time :) We'll see what happens.
I haven't touched too much on current events and our country's precarious position which is being constantly pummeled by Obummer. It is a almost a constant thought though. Because I am aware, I will appreciate the good moments even more.
Today is a Gift, that's why it's called the Present. Try to remember that in your busy lives :)
Thankful? Hmm. Not so sure. I can't be easily be one of those "Be thankful for everything, even the bad experiences." type. I would have rather passed on the bad or hurtful experiences, thank-you. I can say the end result of what you are partially comes from all those life experiences whether they were good or bad. I am definitely thankful for certain things though.
I think that saying "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." is annoying and only true for some people about some things. What doesn't kill you can break your heart, make you more scared, more anxious, less healthy, more poor, less confident, etc., etc.
During this Thanksgiving and holiday season, please remember to be compassionate towards others.