Hello Jen Sorry I deleted my last post because I did not want to mention any names in the Forum. Things appear to be getting "touchy" and "ouchy" on here. I would love to hear about Paula Deen and Alec Baldwin..........let er rip!! lol
Be, I sent you an email about what's going on. Funny you mentioned it. What does umpf mean? I can't figure it out,sorry.
Sunny, I would have sent you a private email too but I still don't have your address. Bepositive, if u have Sunny's address, would u please email it to me.
As far as Vegas goes, it's the one place where anyone can enjoy something!! I would just be happy to meet the two of you but i think it would be a riot to meet some other members.. and non-members!!
Hi Jen, Just popping in to say HI and that I enjoy reading your posts. Hope you are having a marvelous summer!!!! Lets chat soon....:)
Hello Bepositive :)
Hope you're doing well. I'm glad someone enjoys my posts!! I'm afraid they sometimes tend to be more negative than positive but the good, positive stuff is boring and I don't feel the need to type about it.
I think we should get some fellow members together and meet in Vegas in the Fall when it's cooler. What do you think? It's a great location for entertainment and there are deals if you look hard enough. My daughter gets really good deals at the Hoot*** hotel there.
More about some aquaintances/friends. You know I always hated when I would read male profiles that said something negative about baggage and/or drama pertaining to females. I hate to say it though , I hate found several reasons why those words are used.
Years ago when I was younger and more naive, I would have thought that the adult friends that I would have would be all grown up and act like grown-ups. Unfortunitely this is something that is not true with a good amount of people I know. Does it have something to do with the state of California? Yes, I think to a degree it does. For example, I have one girlfriend who moved from North Carolina because had she gotten divorced there, her whole situation would have been tougher because she may have committed adultery there. Sorry I'm not up for posting why it's different but it is. She did try to patch up her marriage but a couple yrs later (now in 2013) she is getting divorced in CA. Also in the Midwest and BiBle Belt there are more people who have the structure of religion that teaches wrong from right. By no means am I saying people are all better citizens there but my experience in California has been different in general than Michigan. One more thing to add, my experiences had I stayed in Michigan could bedifferent now just as a sign of the time. Participation in churches,etc is lower, the internet has changed minds and souls,etc.,etc.
Now I do have friends who stay out of trouble and have good family lives BUT because I live in a bedroom community (family oriented and not a metropolitan city) I am limited with having only so many single girlfriends that can go out on the weekends,etc.
Well just when I should be getting to the juicy part, i am gonna have to continue this subject later.
Last night was disappointing. Went to the local pub to see a band I like. Nothing was right. If you are looking for some positive bull**** here then stop reading. I'm a slow typist so I will be leaving out some details.
First thing almost made me turn back from entering. Nutshell version only, two girlfriends who once were friends and now do NOT like each other are both going. Wouldn't u know, neither one has their own friends showing up so I am their only friend there. Awkward is putting it mildly.
This is what I got to be a part of. Lonely old man stalker staring at me most of the night. At some point this jerk made the "come hither" motion with his hand to summon me. That was the last straw, I said no, gave some hand gesture of my own (not the finger) and he finally got the hint. Now I only have to deal with harmless, drunk old man/bad dancer who is a regular there, said no to him too,.. several times then there was the drunk, young guy who wanted me. Told him he was a couple decades too young, it didn't phase him. He gave up eventually and hit on my girlfriend who has a bad lack of judgement and kissed him..more than once. At least she didn't go home with him.
There were a few others, "Married Guy" waiting for his buddies who didn't make it but should have been home with his wife anyway. Birthday Boy who got too drunk for his own good. There was one more I will not type about. Anyhow, by now you should have gotten the gist of it. Too old and undesirable, too young and undesirable. Too young and desirable but I won't go there so I lose out. One married guy who may have been desirable but again, I won't go there.
I posted this yesterday on a different site that asks for your First Date idea. There are reasons why I chose my status (you have multiple choices but can't type your own) as a HopeLESS Romantic because it is nearly hopeless. I do have a speck of hope left though :) Read below for part of my reason why.
First Date; Meet at Costco and split our bulk items in half while having some brief small talk as we are waiting in line to pay. You can even claim we ate together if we both manage to try the food samples. Don't forget to show what a gentleman you are by packing my vehicle then we say good-bye and plan to do this every other Wednesday. At least this would be more productive than the Meet & Greet that you can't commit to. I won't even mention the word "date" cuz that would just be too much for you to handle.
* As tempting as his suggestion was to meet him in 10 minutes at Costco (cuz he was already there!), I had to say no. There was no offer to split our purchases, had he thought of that one, I may have actually said yes. If he had been thoughtful enough to bring some ziplock bags (for our split food) I may have fallen instantly in love.
Costco is a step up from the other guy who told me he likes to meet at the gas station where they can both fill their tanks up and in those 4 minutes they have to get to know each other while pumping their gas, if magic doesn't happen then they can both drive off their separate ways. Both true stories and no, I will not be meeting you or anyone else at either the gas station or Costco.
HA!! I just thought of something. How happy would both of those guys have been had they gotten the combo deal of getting their shopping done (plus free food) at Costco then filling up their tanks at Costco's gas station.
All kidding aside, I think something short and sweet like visiting one of the wineries makes for a great first date, or maybe bowling or miniature golfing.
You know I never met this thread to be all about me. With the exception of a couple of added,interesting posts way back by someone else, it has pretty much been me...all me. I am NOT self-centered!! I really don't like attention although I am a people person and love conversation. I was shy as a kid and still work at overcoming it in certain ways. I am outgoing yet shy, lol, try to figure that one out!! The need to connect to people is stronger. Certainly my views and beliefs leave me wanting to find other like-minded friends, of course the ideal would be finding the man I'm also romantically interested in. Did I find these like-minded people? No, very rarely and when I do, they don't live nearby :( I do have some local friends though, they just don't share in my views for the most part. I do find something in common with them though, enough that we are friends.
Here is an example of my shyness: For my one & only wedding, I really did not want to walk down the aisle and have everybody looking at me. I solved that problem and got married outside, up a mountain near a hiking trail, no aisle for me. I really only wanted my mom to be there, I didn't care about the others having to come. I'm divorced now, I hung in for two decades, more than a decade longer than I should have. I wish I could get some of those years back...sigh..oh well !!
Ahh, I just checked the RSVP guest list. The party seems too good to pass up! Lol, just because those two are heathens it doesn't mean their guests are. I know a few of them well enough to know.
What I wish everyone would do is just state what you are early on. Be forthcoming!! When I think about all the wasted time I have spent online with certain men who misrepresented themselves. They think that it isn't your business to know when isn't the point TO KNOW?
One guy tells me on the phone that he has 3 kids, they're 5,8 and 10 years old, he says "I'm sure you can keep up". Hello, I don't want to keep up! We had already planned a date by the time he told me. The date ended up not happening for more than one reason, his fault, not mine.
Another guy claiming how honesty was important to him had someone else's photo posted as his own on his profile. The phone call was long, he was quite a talker, three hours! The next day I looked at his profile, he must have decided he was finally time to post his real photos, big disappointment. He was weird on the phone anyway.
I could go on. Maybe I will later.
This is gonna take some time for me to sort out how I am gonna relate to this person. As it goes right now, I have been more like acquaintances of this married couple for a year or two. Lately I have hung out with them a little more at some public places usually involving a laid back bar/lounge/restaurant locally.
I knew that my outgoing female acquaintance/friend had much more of a social life at night then her more quiet husband does but was beginning to wonder if there was something more to this nightlife of hers. I found out yesterday that they have an "open marriage". Of course I've heard of the concept and have come across some some swingers,etc. and kept them at a distance once I knew but this is different, I KNOW them!
We talked some about it last night without me giving my personal opinion which is I consider it wrong!! I'm no angel but come on now! Why did you get married, what were those vows about? Why complicate matters? I could never handle even kissing someone else let alone anything else, not in a kabillion years. I can only have passion for one person and if I was married to someone, even if the passion was gone, I have and will always remain loyal to that one person. I am not the type to even conceive anything different.
Usually this open marriage arrangement cannot last forever. Someone gets hurt, someone discovers they have feelings for someone other than their spouse. There are a million different scenarios that can happen.
Now what do i do? I know we can never become close friends but am I capable of putting all my feelings (some may call it judgement) and being able to socialize with them as friends? I really don't know. I am in a little bit of a quandary about this since I put in a Yes RSVP to a day BBQ type party at their house that is coming up fairly soon.
For the average Californian maybe I am overthinking this but do I want to be associated with them so much that I go to their house party? By the way, I am NOT Californian, I just happen to live here. Will others at the party somehow think I approve of their lifestyle? I am not the type to make waves and be disrespectful and certainly would NEVER bring up my new found information of them at their party. I am not a strict Christian at the same time but still, hmmm, just not sure how to be about all this though.
I have a crush on someone I actually have met in person,lol. This is a very uncommon event. Does it mean I am any better off that I've seen him in person? No, quite the contrary, it's a little like torture. Thinking my reality of my crush should only be used as a fantasy. Sad but true. I'm used to it.
Those who wish to sit, shut their eyes,
and meditate to know if the world's true or lies,
may do so. It's their choice. But I meanwhile
with hungry eyes that can't be satisfied
shall take a look at the world in broad daylight. (1896)
Written by India's great poet Rabindranath Tagore, exemplified in his poem "Against Meditative Knowledge".
The only thing I will ever meditate on is God's word and I pray. I detest New Ageism. I do not want to clear my mind or create space in my mind. I hate all thet Zen bull****. "Opening" your mind opens yourself to bad spirits,etc. and I want no part of it
One reason why it is hard to find a good man in California, so many of them are New Agers, athiests,etc. It's sad how many are following false doctrine or seem to hate Christians. When I post a Christian belief in a forum (not here), I get persecuted by many people yet I have posted nothing against them whether it's their beliefs or lack of beliefs. It is not freedom of religion or freedom of speech, it is a palpable hatred of Christians. I believe this hatred and persecution will only get worse from our government on down to misguided (or worse) individuals.
Another friend posted this today. I absolutely do not agree with it. What has happened to friends being real friends?! Is everything just suppose to be positive? This was posted by someone who had posted last week about her father going to the hospital , that she was worried, etc. and left us all waiting and worrying, and in my case, praying for her father and her whole family. The good news is that it was a minor health issue and he is fine. But why are you now choosing to post just an insensitive note? Think BEFORE you post..that also includes me. The following is what she posted that I DON'T agree with.
So the question is if I am negative? I would say no but I am a realist. To my friends; I have to say I'm sorry if you don't like what i type or post on Facebook but I am just being me. I feel that if I post something political or a current event on Facebook that I am going out of my way to take the time to make someone aware of something. If you don't like it, you can ignore it, hide it, hide my activity (except "important" stuff, whatever Facebook considers that to be or remove me as a friend.
Funny how I have put up with your crap but because I choose to sometimes post what you perceive as negative news, you can't handle it. Now your crap is what people call "baggage". I really don't like that term but if I hop on the bandwagon I would say YOU have a lot of it!! Note; I should probably not use the word "crap" either. I have not judged you on the fact that your 17 year old son has created a lot of drama in your life, I have only tried to support you regarding him. For anyone who wants to know, he was just arrested for two felonies and is now under House Arrest, he quit school and has no job, she can't wait till he's 18 and is no longer responsible for him. I am very thankful to God that my child grew up as a responsible adult. I honestly don't know what I would do or feel if he was my child and I don't have to know since this isn't my situation. There is no judging on my part whether you choose to be done with him when he turns 18 or not. There are several other events i am not judging you on.
I have not judged you on your lack of belief in God, don't judge me of my faith in Him. It's sad when people feel they are not allowed to even show aspects of their life without fear of being shut down, that you may be "negative" or politically incorrect" or "religious". You don't like it? Oh well !! Yes, there is a time and place for some of it and I know not to carry on about certain topics or not mention them at all but don't try to silence the very essence of my being. Remember how I listened to your latest drama while we were enjoying a nice and rare night out together? Do you remember?
She just texted me. I cannot even look at it. I will later at some point. When I see her in person I will be gracious. I will not gossip about her. I will pray that her family problems get better. I don't believe though that she will ever be a true, close friend.
PS The Monsanto Act just passed. Yay for our government poisoning what we eat and since the FDA doesn't have to label it as a GMO, we don't even know what we're eating! Obviously the yay is just me being sarcastic ;/
I've been kicking a** in the gym lately. Okay,..maybe my version of kicking a** isn't exactly someone else's idea of kicking a** but it's good for me. I even went on a Saturday and took a class and exercised for one of my longest stints, two and a half hours. Today's scenery was especially nice, that usually doesn't happen at the location I was at. I wanted to stay longer but two hours was plenty. You do know what I mean by scenery? Maybe if i get lucky I will see the same scenery again,lol, soon...very soon ;)
So the idea is to step it up and go more often and more Saturdays and Sundays, scenery or no scenery. Spring is here!!