Dear St. Nick, I don't want much this year, I just want the person reading this to be HAPPY. Friends are the fruit cake of life --- some nutty, some soaked in alcohol, some sweet, but mix them together and they're my friends. At Christmas you always hear people talking about what they want & bought. This is what I want: I want people who are sick with no cure to be able to be CURED. I want children with no families to be ADOPTED. I want people to NEVER have to worry about food, shelter & heat. I want PEACE and LOVE for EVERYONE!
P.S. It would be nice to kiss someone special under the Mistletoe, if you could send me someone, that would be wonderful. I will keep it hanging up for a while, in case you can't find someone by Christmas since this is nearly a last minute request :)
I am not so happy at the moment for numerous reasons.
I thought I had this crush, he certainly appeared to have one for me. He came on strong, I was thinking & feeling all kinds of good things then he dumped me. I always try to stay on an even keel with anyone because I know men and their limited attention spans on the internet but I'm human, I have feelings too.
I also am still getting over a major disappointment from someone a few mths ago. It's too personal to get into but it was one of the worse let-downs that I've had in my life.
Don't think that crushes with possibilities come across often because it is more rare than anyone could comprehend. I very rarely date because I very rarely come across anyone that I would be interested in dating. I'm pretty good at filtering and find out BEFORE a date gets to happen that it shouldn't happen at all, so there you go!
I only managed to type about one reason. It is the biggest reason though,.. not having love in my life. I will be alright, I always am. I did want to be better than alright. Love is what life is all about, if you don't have love, what do you have?
P.S. In case you're wondering why there is no name with most of the posts, it is because my previous profile was hacked into so I lost my old user name,etc. All those with no username are my posts.
I am starting to come to the conclusion that there may not be one guy in the entire male species that is right for me. The problem is I'm not gay! Lol,yeah I just can't change the facts, I am what I am,a heterosexual, mmm hmmm.
Now a lot of this conclusion has to do with where I live, which is California. Yeah the weather is somewhat better than where I used to live but I say "We pay for the weather" because it's lacking in other areas. One of those areas is definitely the decent man category.
The area where I live is inland which is quite different than LA or Orange County people which has it's own problems, namely the freaks, snobs, or crime, whatever it is, I am not going into it right now. Right now it's time to talk about where I live. I call it the Land of the White Bread Married Republicans, white bread because you're boring, married because...duh, that is pretty self-explanatory and Republicans, it is more conservative here which has it's good points.
Don't bother guessing what my political views are but I will be voting for Ron Paul who just so happens to be running under the Republican ticket cuz what choice did he really have in the matter? He's smart like that. I always have to find a way to mention Ron Paul's name. Make sure you're registered to vote for him in the primaries!!
Okay, where was I? Talking about men, and my odds. Lol, I'd have much better luck gambling but I'm too thrifty to gamble. Going off track again! There are so many types here, all pretty bad. It's getting late so I am gonna leave you with this to give you an idea of what I mean when I say my odds are low.
*A tip before you read the following.
Think of Jeff Foxworthy's routine of "You might be a Redneck", these are my words with his timing. I feel I'm not just speaking for myself but on behalf of a good portion of women, if any of this sounds familiar to you then we might have a problem.
IF that thing on your upper lip you call a mustache looks like something could have crawled in there & died, we might have a problem.
IF your idea of shopping for yourself is going to Kmart once a year & "stocking up", we might have a problem.
IF keeping me company while shopping is finding the closest chair & dozing off, we might have a problem.
IF watching a play means staying awake for the first 10 minutes, we might have a problem.
IF you wear your UNDERwear as OUTERwear, we might have a problem.
IF your idea of a memorable night
includes a tattoo parlor, we might have a problem.
IF when a woman is talking to you and what you hear is the Peanuts/Our Gang teacher, we might have a problem.
IF you are such a sports junkie that you will watch badminton on T.V., we might have a problem.
IF you conveniently only have a $100 bill & you look at me like I should pay instead, we might have a problem.
IF you claim to be "sexy" and you're not, we might have a problem.
IF "your place" is your parent's basement, we might have a problem.
If your idea of getting ready for a date means slapping on some colonge to mask your B.O., we might have a problem.
IF your six-pack looks like a keg , we might have a problem.
If you park your bike or vehicle on the front lawn, we might have a problem.
If you think techno and anything autotuned is good music, we might have a problem.
If you have clothes inyour closet that you could wear for Halloween like 70's disco, Farmer in the Dell,etc., we might have a problem.
IF you didn't laugh at some point while reading this, we might have a problem
Did you discover you were hacked or did the support team find it? Scammers are getting more and more creative these day but if we keep reporting them then MAYBE they will get the hint and slowly die away. They are such SCUM!! I am sorry you were hacked, hope your account is back up and running. Always enjoy your comments on the blogs/forum. Stay positive girl.....it will all work out.
Hello bepositive :) hope you are doing well. You never did tell me how your date went, I wanted details!
It was easy to realize something when I saw this guy's picture replacing my own on MY profile!!! It was a "pending" photo but it was there, clear as day. Some older guy with gray hair, I will have to dig a little to see what his user name was. So it was me, NOT the support team.
I don't get to look back to see if I had any contact with this hacker before this happened because I immediately called this site's customer service and she proceeded to immediately, completely close my profile/acct. I can't look at any of my history whatsoever. I think he sent me an email once, whatever it was,I wasn't interested.
I agree, they are pure scum, preying on innocent people. They need some justice done big time!
Thanks so much,keep in touch and do I need to say-Be Positive? I think you got it already!
Did you discover you were hacked or did the support team find it? Scammers are getting more and more creative these day but if we keep reporting them then MAYBE they will get the hint and slowly die away. They are such SCUM!!
I am sorry you were hacked, hope your account is back up and running. Always enjoy your comments on the blogs/forum. Stay positive girl.....it will all work out.
I am not a paying member either, thought I would try the site out first and if anything interesting came up I would decide. I have a lunch date on Monday so I will let you know how THAT turns out (a day later of course).
Have you ever read the book THE SECRET ? It is a wonderful book and helps me maintain a positive attitude. Just bought the movie version and can't wait to see it.
What other dating sites are you on and have you had any luck??
The guy that kept sending you emails sounds like an idiot, glad you found out early. Just keep a positive attitude girl!
So sorry to hear about your friends medical problems. We all hear the word CANCER too often and pray one day they will find a cure. My sister and mother both had cancer and my beloved husband died of the dreaded disease 3 years ago. All we can do is pray and be there for them.
If you ever need to talk I am here for you.....
Happy to share, thank you for those kind words. There isn't any doubt that the absence of my father had an impact. Yes, hurt is one of the many words that could describe my feelings back then. I was able to express to him later in my life my thoughts and feelings.
The most interesting aspect was that I was there for him, in his life helping him until he passed a few years ago. In fact, when he passed after a long battle with a host of medical issues, and because he had no money to speak of, I paid for the entire burial cost. Everyone in the family including my Aunt (Dads sister) said they couldn't help with any of the cost.
I was happy I had the chance to have a heart to heart with him about many things that had been on my mind. I was not angry, upset, hurt, sad or disappointed. You might wonder whether or not I was able to forgive him, at that point. I was at peace there wasn't anything to forgive, he was my father, I loved him. Although to be candid, I don't think he ever forgave himself.
The really sad part was that my youngest brother to this day struggles with a number of issues related to the absence during childhood. He didn't have the opportunity to speak with him when he was here. With Dad now buried he continues to struggle with a host of unresolved issues.
I definitely agree that the grass isn't always greener....However, in many ways I am a better person because of my father. We may not have control of some of the things that happens in life, but we are the captains' of our ship. Our struggle to grow requires, that we overcome certain moral obstacles such as jealousy, envy, conceit, and resentment or else we become imobilized by our inability to understand.
As a combat veteran I've had many responsibilities none greater than the one to those who with whom I served. I am most proud of that service and the fine men and women who have continued that tradition.
There are some who think most soliders are pro war, in my experience the opposite is closer to the truth. Having witnessed firsthand the horrors of war, it should never, ever be chosen except as a last option.
After a number of years in the military, I used my hard earned, G.I Bill to go to school. Evetually I moved back to my hometown where I began a long career as an criminal investigator for a sex crimes unit. While my work has had its rewards, it has been one of the hardest in my life, for more reasons than most would ever know. On that note I'll close until next time. Take care.
Just came into the room, wasn't sure what to expect. I have to say it was interesting reading. I do want to thank you for sharing.
I was one of five children I was the middle child, two older and two younger. In looking back I'd say there were many more positives than negatives. Having two older brothers was a great experience, I always looked up to both of them. Of course, having the two brothers meant I was twice as likely to get their hand me downs. However, they were both pretty hard on clothes, which meant that on some ocassions there wasn't much left to hand down.
Having been raised in a single parent home meant there it was a struggle making ends meet. However, in the neighborhood where I grew up this was the norm rather than the exception. In some ways my experience didn't seem all that different from the majority of my friends. It doesn't mean that I had a sheltered life, no not at all. As a youngster I never quite understood why my mother and father weren't together. Especially given the rare times when my dad would come see us on those rare ocassions.
I suppose as children there is the tendency to feel a sense of responsibility for the things that happen in our lives. Of course, we reach a point when the realization that most of what happens is beyond our control. For some the realization is no consolation as the damage to the psyche slowly takes hold. Children are incredibily resilient and will often overcome some very difficult experiences. A quality that serves all of us at some point time.
I hope to continue my story in my next post, perhaps it will act as some sort of cartharis from once forgotten and buried memories. Unitl next time, and I do hope others will find their way here and join this exchange.