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Posted on Tue, Jul 05, 2011 22:01

The question on the table is what do men want?   In the case of Devo her husband left and others men have said their wife left. 

Divorce sucks.  As Margaret Atwood once said, "A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there's less of you."   The stats show that 90% of women leave the marriage.  Why?  Usually, they tried everything to salvage it but men are oblivious to all that.  Sadly, we really are clueless of a woman's needs.  I'm not talking about sex.  I'm talking about love, romance, friendship, courting your wife, and meeting some of her needs.  

I failed to do that.  I thought I was a good husband but I failed in some ways and succeed in others.  Still, it takes two to tango.  No marriage can fail alone.  Marriage is the culmination of two souls who mean well by marrying, but have poor execution skills.  It's work.  I learned that too late... but so did my ex. 


So, finally what do men want?  We want the same as a woman.  A fullfilling relationship.  Consider the word "relationship."  What does that mean?  Relationships involve love, trust, listening, communication, empathy, etc., etc.  It is the soft skills.  We all want relationships!  We were born relational and brought up that way.  Then we marry and relationships go out the window in favor of personal wants and needs.  We seek "I" before "We" I'm sad to say. 



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Posted on Fri, Jul 01, 2011 04:35

Speaking as another who's wife was having an affair when I was away working. What do I want?
I want somebody that wants me. If both people have that desire then there should be no cause to stray. I admit my job sucks when it comes to relationships. I'm home for sometimes no more than two or three days. Then back to work for four days. And my job keeps me away for all of those four days. I missed kids plays, games, even a graduation. But I also missed my ex's birthday, anniversary... So she found someone that could be there for her.
Now we are divorced she's split up with him and I understand she's on a web site or two looking for love.

But I digress! I certainly dont want a younger woman. Yes they look great, but come on... theres alot more to a relationship than sex. Someone that can take care of my needs, and me hers, Someone that looks forward to seeing me, and while I'm away will not stray.



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Posted on Fri, Jul 01, 2011 04:06

Quoting airbusdriver:

hello devo2000,

Well your situation sucks and it seems that you are in the same situation most of us find ourselves after many years of devotion and trying to have a marriage or relationship. let me give you my short story. I am a successful guy who busted my ass for the welfare and benefit of my family, thought I was doing everything right, working hard, taking care of the kids etc etc etc, anyway find out my wife has an affair with the neighbor , nice huh ? maybe because i wasnt home enough, not enough attention, who knows. in the end it doesnt matter. It is what it is, people change, thats the thing in the modern world. To me, it seems there is no value in for better or worse, it seems its easier to just leave and see whats on the other side, which is not always greener as your ex is finding out how ironic huh? To answer your question, Its hard because we are all built different. As a man, my needs are simple #1 I dont like drama, if there is a problem , fix it, or at least do the steps to fix it. #2 relax, its all good, the man, whoever that is, cant eat us, hahah just a little humor.#3 life is full of ups and downs, ride it, highs and lows, but stay in the coaster or youll find yourself back in line. Thats just a bit of philosophical tidbit. I'm sure he made mistakes as well as you did, just as I did. You can continue to do the what if's, as I did or just move on. There are some great people out there, I havent found one yet and I guess you havent either. but trust me there is. Thers an old joke, it basically goes like this: this guy asks god to grant him a wish, tell me what women want or build me a highway from california to hawaii so I can vacation whenever I want. God replies " do you want A 4 LANE OR A 2 LANE !!! BTW that applies to men too !! once again just alittle humor, its awesome. so heres my other shot at this, I didnt see your profile before, as I dont really look that much, but I work out of orlando and Im there quite a bit. If I would be as bold as to communicate with you, would you like too. I will go on your profile and send you a message, if thats ok, if you got back together with your husband or are dating, good for you.



in some rear cases like this,it just feeeeeeeeeeels,ummm..:this man is cool, not matter what).



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Posted on Wed, May 04, 2011 14:07

So man wants a friend? Where is he?
Time ago I heard for a year from one man "you so smart and genuine" than suddenly he went for 19yo hooter's waitress. so why to lie if always wanted only a doll? Being trust-worthy and warm isn't enough from a girl! Seems like A good cook, a good maid and the best mother seat alone...



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Posted on Mon, Nov 29, 2010 15:55

devo. By the look of your photos, it seems you have already made your mind up as to what men want.



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Posted on Tue, Nov 02, 2010 19:29

Mr. Airbusdriver your a nice guy.



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Posted on Wed, Oct 27, 2010 10:30

Men want love, respect, adoration, attention, positive reinforcement, sharing, and caring. Boys want you to take care of them, and then whine that you aren't doing a good enough job of it.

You'll know a man from a boy by how much they have achieved and done for themselves. If they something to show for life after 40+ years, they're more likely to be a man.



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Posted on Tue, Oct 26, 2010 23:00

" a cook in the kitchen , a maid in the living room , and a whore in bed ".......

basically true , but all kidding aside .......

a best friend and a cool person who is spontaneous and light ....



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Posted on Wed, Oct 20, 2010 21:43

hello devo2000,

Well your situation sucks and it seems that you are in the same situation most of us find ourselves after many years of devotion and trying to have a marriage or relationship. let me give you my short story. I am a successful guy who busted my ass for the welfare and benefit of my family, thought I was doing everything right, working hard, taking care of the kids etc etc etc, anyway find out my wife has an affair with the neighbor , nice huh ? maybe because i wasnt home enough, not enough attention, who knows. in the end it doesnt matter. It is what it is, people change, thats the thing in the modern world. To me, it seems there is no value in for better or worse, it seems its easier to just leave and see whats on the other side, which is not always greener as your ex is finding out how ironic huh? To answer your question, Its hard because we are all built different. As a man, my needs are simple #1 I dont like drama, if there is a problem , fix it, or at least do the steps to fix it. #2 relax, its all good, the man, whoever that is, cant eat us, hahah just a little humor.#3 life is full of ups and downs, ride it, highs and lows, but stay in the coaster or youll find yourself back in line. Thats just a bit of philosophical tidbit. I'm sure he made mistakes as well as you did, just as I did. You can continue to do the what if's, as I did or just move on. There are some great people out there, I havent found one yet and I guess you havent either. but trust me there is. Thers an old joke, it basically goes like this: this guy asks god to grant him a wish, tell me what women want or build me a highway from california to hawaii so I can vacation whenever I want. God replies " do you want A 4 LANE OR A 2 LANE !!! BTW that applies to men too !! once again just alittle humor, its awesome. so heres my other shot at this, I didnt see your profile before, as I dont really look that much, but I work out of orlando and Im there quite a bit. If I would be as bold as to communicate with you, would you like too. I will go on your profile and send you a message, if thats ok, if you got back together with your husband or are dating, good for you.



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