since world is made, beautiful girls(and the others, not so lucky) wants to merry with the rich guys...because of the power that money gives?...who knows? it's human nature
maybe it's coming from our childhood...nice stories about prince and princess...
reality...it's such different:)
i wanna be like a princess,i wanna be with a man who could be my boyfriend,my lover,my best friend,my man,and i wanna be with a loser because i knew that and it was so catastrophic!
i wanna a funny man,artist,clever,nice,cool,rock'n'roll and honest who love me !i wanna dreamin so why not?
we can to be nice,good human and the best will!
I decided when I was a teen that I would not marry for money. This is the age when I first dated a rich boy and realized that he had already realized the power that his money had over girls. He was actually a really nice guy and cute but the money did the talking and girls always praised me for being with him.
In college, older wealthy men were always hovering around but I thought that was gross. I knew that I was going to be educated and earn my own money so I didn't have to rely on my body alone. As I entered my 20s, I realized that the money that I could earn as a doctor would never make me rich but I also realized that I didn't care. In New York, you have to have at least several million dollars to be rich anyway so it was something that I never thought possible.
In my 20s, I realized that some of the girls I knew were gold-diggers. But even more surprisingly, I discovered that tons of men (even poor men) were ok with it. Many are willing to "buy" women and lure them in with expensive dates and gifts. Now I know that tons of marriages, even in 2011, are based on the younger more beautiful poor woman and the older, richer guy. Each person knows his/her role and play that part.
So, no it is not a crime to want a rich guy. Both parties just have to openly acknowledge that they are in the relationship as part of a contract. She gives her body and her looks and he gives material things. To me that sounds like prostitution but it is what it is. As long as both people know what they need to bring to the table then it is okay. Girls should not think that the man really loves her. She can be replaced in 10 years with a newer gold-digger. And guys should not think that the woman loves him. Most of the women that I know in these relationships have young hot broke guys on the side.
As for me, I can support myself quite well and I just want a guy who is not too poor to enjoy my lifestyle. More importantly, most men are not masculine enough to date a woman who is richer than they are so it is better for middle-class girls like me to date men who are more wealthy. That is why I am here. Right now I am looking for a travel buddy but if something more comes along that would fabulous- as long as it true and based on love.
As a man who has worked very hard and amassed a great deal of money, I dont find it to be problematic if a woman appreciates that I have money as long as it is a bonus for them and not the primary reason she is attracted to me. I have no need want or desire to have a woman there not because she loves me, but because I have money. I grew up poor, experienced the joy of a welfare Christmas as a child, and understand the desire many people have to live a better lifestyle, but marrying a man simply because he has money is not the way to go about it. Furthermore if that is what you are all about, most men who have been succesfull, and made the kind of money you are looking for are not stupid. They will see through your attempt to leech off of them, and use you just as you are trying to use them, or they will simply ignore you. The latter would be what the moral ones will do, but many of us surely didnt get where we are by being nice guys all the time. My advice is to seek out men you are attracted too, fall in love, and if you want to live a certain kind of lifestyle, work hard in your career and be successful. If you are somehow unable to make your own money, do all you can to support the man you LOVE in his career to help with his success. Behind every good man is a good woman, BE ONE!!!!
Of course is not a crime!... I was married to a millionaire and was a bad experience, money was his God and eveything was money. I am not saying that all millonaires are the same but money doesn't bring happines.
Money can buy great times but if goes together with respect for each other, love and honesty. I love to have money and love expensive things but I work for my money.
i understand that there are smart and decent people who are not wealthy; I know Paul Farmer of Partners in Health. But he is a professor at Harvard - as well as a man who is dedicated to helping poor people in Haiti. Sure, people do not have to be rich to interesting, money is just one metric for deciding whether you are having a real impact on the world.
And if i were a young woman, i would want a man who is achieving at a high level.
It would be a plain lie to say that women never look for money and always for love and protection (or he opposite). On the other hand we are not animals (although some do act like ones) - it's not just an instinct to look for the most successful male. Money gives more freedom of choice to pursue your goals - simple as that. It's not the goal itself, it's a way to achieve more. Obviously, most people wish to have more opportunities the world gives them.
It's not a crime, it's quite natural to want a better man - as long as you give something back. The simplest (and most popular) partnership is beaty/money. If the both parties are happy with that, then it works. However, I think that most successful marriage/partnership is responsibility and care for each other - the man loves to spend on his beloved and the woman gives all her tenderness and support, creating the perfect atmosphere at home. She doesn't "use" her man, she takes what he gives, nourishes, developes and gives back - that's the way the nature intended.
I couldn't of said it better myself. Very well said. I concur. And I adore your mind; your intelligence. Beautiful. :)
No......i dont believe it is......it depends on what you term as "rich".......does him being "rich" relate to the passion you desire from him, the time he devotes to you, the fire he ignites in the bedroom, his sensitivity towards your wants and needs, this list can go on and on and on.......Money alone can not answer these questions, it's his Being and him being there that gives quality to the term rich.......what if he's rich and a loudmouth or a crossdresser or non-chalant? For me the latter is definitely a no-no but if he can decide to surprise me and shower me with love then he's rich in my book...dont get me wrong,money does a play a part in this relationship scenario but love should always be the lead actor or then this 'movie' would turn out to be a FLOP!!!
N.B - Love is like a rainbow,each colour has its own uniqueness,from its wavelenght to its light velocity and radiation....(glad i still know a bit of physics),this just shows how so many parts make a whole.
I pray we all see/find/discover/know that LOVE IS A RAINBOW!!
Its not a crime to want to marry a rich man. Perhaps it is a crime to want to marry a rich man solely because he is rich.
Looking for a rich man is not a crime when you don't just focus on the money. Most people say better poor but happy and in love. I am sorry but I had a bad experience in this field (middle class), this men are more controlling, abusive and don't want you to grow and shine. I am looking for a rich man because they are more creative, more fun, easier going, protective of their family, taking risk to build a better tomorrow and the mindset they have. To be really true, all women want a strong man who protect them, offers them a beautiful lifestyle and a happy, romantic, harmonious, true love relation ship.
I read all the comments and according to my experiences , rich or not , the man must have some moral values ....that he can not buy with all the millions he has !!!
I had 2 relations with millionars and my idea about them so far is not good at all . Millionars please , don't take it personal !
I just came here hoping that mine were just bad experience and exist reach people that have real values .
Sandiegom2000 , dear , there are many ways to find out if a women wants you just for your money !
Good luck to all !