ItalianF8 write: That's good Devoted2FindingU. I like it. If women read this I have an alternate for consideration.
Men are like puppies. All we require is to be:
1) Fed 2) Loved 3) Excercised
men do everything for one of three reasons:
1) Power 2) Food 3) women
This, in my opinion, is a basic truth - if women would treat us like the puppies we are - almost every man would take a bullet for them.
of course, I am open to opinions.
Italian, I love puppies, but some are so shy they'll choke themselves on their own leashes trying to get away from you when you go to pet them. What is that? Fear of intimacy, fear of committment, fear of neutering? LOL
There's a lot of flirting and winking going on around MM ... but pitiful few dates being set up! S'sup wit dat?
Devo's list is good except for #4 (where did that come from?!) and I like IF8's puppy analagy as well.
So now we have a combined list of what men want:
1) To feel needed
2) To feel wanted
3) To feel at peace when they are with you
I think most women know these things and that men are simple creatures. I also think most women gladly give these things to their man.
But we could turn this around to you wonderful men and tell you the same list applies to women.
So here is one of my basic truths: If both gave all this to each other equally (understanding there are going to be times the scales will be unbalanced one way or the other), then there is harmony and a relationship can last.
Devoted2FindingU write: I do not understand why women continue to miss what a man is really looking for. It is very simple. Men are basic and uncomplicated. They desire four things from a their lady.
1) To feel needed 2) To feel wanted 3) To feel at peace when they are with you 4) To stop paying alimony
What about their fear of committment? How do we tell them we need them, want them, will scratch them behind the ears and not expect a stipend for doing it? Understanding these things of men doesn't mean they'll come running when we whistle! LOL