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Posted on Thu, Oct 05, 2006 14:54

Morgans write:
I think that she should have responded as sorry I'm not interested. Not sorry, I don't date black men. I do agree that it does sound prejudice when she stipulates "black men". The majority of us don't say sorry I don't date white men, or sorry I don't date fat old men. It's just not respectful.

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thank you for your kind comments:)



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Posted on Thu, Oct 05, 2006 14:49

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Good reply S4U. It is about choice. I have a caucasion, blonde cousin who is 50 now. From the time she was 18 she would only date black men. She said she didn't like dating white guys. So Islands...does that make her prejudice against her own race? I think not. It is merely here preferential choice.

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Remember my definition and then read your comments:) I think you will have your answer.

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This is your definition:
"As i said: racism is a belief of superiority."

I'm sorry, but in no way do I perceive any form of S4U's believing that she is superior to you or any other black man in her explanation, nor in her choice that she would not want to date a black man. Nor do I note superiority in any of the other ladies choices who declined meeting you. Who knows, maybe they were prejudice, but their responses do not show it or prove it.

There are few men that I ever agree to meet. It doesn't make me prejudice against them, or by your definition that I feel I am superior to them...it simply means that I don't think they are my type, I am not interested, because I know I would not enjoy myself with them. End of story.

You know the book "He's Just Not That In To You" well it works both ways. Consider "She Was Just Not That In To You".

If you are feeling every rejection by a white women is a racial issue...then you must have issues. You have to believe in yourself, and have confidence. If you did, you wouldn't give these rejections a second thought. You'd be thinking..."there loss" and move.

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Mame I am not into you..let alone into her...ok..



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Posted on Tue, Oct 03, 2006 18:16

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This is another commment by a Italian member: just pathetic...

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Sorry but why you all don't respect the choice of other people?




this is clearly a comment by a fellow bigot and unintelligent.... person.. I have no comment. notice

"you all" omg......islands

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Island, the last time i checked we live in a free country which gives you to right to date or see whom you seem fit to. If this lady doesnt want to date a black man then so be it. Dont go on a open forum and belittle her or try to play the race card to make her feel guilty. Your a black biggot who's just trying to land a white girl,simple as that.
I have news for you partner, there's women who wont date younger,older, fatter,ugly men or even black women who wont date black men, so what do you call them?
Your a loser!



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Posted on Tue, Oct 03, 2006 12:49

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Good reply S4U. It is about choice. I have a caucasion, blonde cousin who is 50 now. From the time she was 18 she would only date black men. She said she didn't like dating white guys. So Islands...does that make her prejudice against her own race? I think not. It is merely here preferential choice.

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Remember my definition and then read your comments:) I think you will have your answer.

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This is your definition:
"As i said: racism is a belief of superiority."

I'm sorry, but in no way do I perceive any form of S4U's believing that she is superior to you or any other black man in her explanation, nor in her choice that she would not want to date a black man. Nor do I note superiority in any of the other ladies choices who declined meeting you. Who knows, maybe they were prejudice, but their responses do not show it or prove it.

There are few men that I ever agree to meet. It doesn't make me prejudice against them, or by your definition that I feel I am superior to them...it simply means that I don't think they are my type, I am not interested, because I know I would not enjoy myself with them. End of story.

You know the book "He's Just Not That In To You" well it works both ways. Consider "She Was Just Not That In To You".

If you are feeling every rejection by a white women is a racial issue...then you must have issues. You have to believe in yourself, and have confidence. If you did, you wouldn't give these rejections a second thought. You'd be thinking..."there loss" and move.



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Posted on Mon, Oct 02, 2006 18:42

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Island just call him Mr. Stupid as it tends to fit him to a tee!!!!

Now i did read this thread from start to finish and this will be an age old discussion that will never be agreed on. It's been going on since i was a child and it is still going on.
Island i don't think "Angelsedge was anything other than truthful in giving you her opinion. You started this thread so it's only fair that answers be directed TO you not ABOUT you. I grew up in Balto. right in the middle of a totally black neighborhood. My best friends were black, my nanny was black. I went to school with blacks and we were the minority. I also grew up with Blacks/white couples/marriage etc. It was apart of my life until i was 14. Texas got me then and here it was strange to see Blackmen/white women to Texas people.
You have to respect peoples CHOICE and not always try to define it. I, growing up with black people, still to this day will not date outside my race. That is my CHOICE. One of the problems i have always seen is when a black man asks a white women out and she declines it always comes down to racism. In college i had a guy ask me out and i politely said no. He asked me that question so i answered him. I told him the same thing. It's a choice. You don't have to always assume it's racism/prejudice just a PREFERENCE. The advice someone gave you about get your answer and move on if it's not the right one, is a good one. Granted there are ways to say things but then they do not know you so however they say it then it's not personally you, just telling you it's not their choice. The black race is one of the most racial/predjudice group of people there are. Ask anyone from Miss/Ala I think U forget that. Whether you agree or not just respect the Choice and don't always try to question it. Chances are it wont change.

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I want you to read this

Alvin Poussaint comments before you make such a comment.



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Posted on Mon, Oct 02, 2006 18:41

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Hey,,you might check out STATUESQUE4U or BUTTERFLYNJAX, these 2 golddiggers wouldnt turn any man down if they think he has money or a giant wanger,lol.

I have no commment to your stupid remark



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Posted on Mon, Oct 02, 2006 14:30

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Island just call him Mr. Stupid as it tends to fit him to a tee!!!!

Now i did read this thread from start to finish and this will be an age old discussion that will never be agreed on. It's been going on since i was a child and it is still going on.
Island i don't think "Angelsedge was anything other than truthful in giving you her opinion. You started this thread so it's only fair that answers be directed TO you not ABOUT you. I grew up in Balto. right in the middle of a totally black neighborhood. My best friends were black, my nanny was black. I went to school with blacks and we were the minority. I also grew up with Blacks/white couples/marriage etc. It was apart of my life until i was 14. Texas got me then and here it was strange to see Blackmen/white women to Texas people.
You have to respect peoples CHOICE and not always try to define it. I, growing up with black people, still to this day will not date outside my race. That is my CHOICE. One of the problems i have always seen is when a black man asks a white women out and she declines it always comes down to racism. In college i had a guy ask me out and i politely said no. He asked me that question so i answered him. I told him the same thing. It's a choice. You don't have to always assume it's racism/prejudice just a PREFERENCE. The advice someone gave you about get your answer and move on if it's not the right one, is a good one. Granted there are ways to say things but then they do not know you so however they say it then it's not personally you, just telling you it's not their choice. The black race is one of the most racial/predjudice group of people there are. Ask anyone from Miss/Ala I think U forget that. Whether you agree or not just respect the Choice and don't always try to question it. Chances are it wont change.

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Alvin Poussaint, MD, a professor of psychiatry at Harvard School, says there is an increase in interracial marriages this time because Black people are moving more more into what he refers to as the "mainstream of American society," and social barriers are dissolving. He and others also say that taboos against interracial dating and marriage are easing



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Posted on Mon, Oct 02, 2006 09:45

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Good reply S4U. It is about choice. I have a caucasion, blonde cousin who is 50 now. From the time she was 18 she would only date black men. She said she didn't like dating white guys. So Islands...does that make her prejudice against her own race? I think not. It is merely here preferential choice.

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Remember my definition and then read your comments:) I think you will have your answer.



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Posted on Mon, Oct 02, 2006 09:43

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Good reply S4U. It is about choice. I have a caucasion, blonde cousin who is 50 now. From the time she was 18 she would only date black men. She said she didn't like dating white guys. So Islands...does that make her prejudice against her own race? I think not. It is merely here preferential choice.

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senorita no say me lol



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Posted on Sun, Oct 01, 2006 10:12

statuesque4u write:
Island just call him Mr. Stupid as it tends to fit him to a tee!!!!

Now i did read this thread from start to finish and this will be an age old discussion that will never be agreed on. It's been going on since i was a child and it is still going on.
Island i don't think "Angelsedge was anything other than truthful in giving you her opinion. You started this thread so it's only fair that answers be directed TO you not ABOUT you. I grew up in Balto. right in the middle of a totally black neighborhood. My best friends were black, my nanny was black. I went to school with blacks and we were the minority. I also grew up with Blacks/white couples/marriage etc. It was apart of my life until i was 14. Texas got me then and here it was strange to see Blackmen/white women to Texas people.
You have to respect peoples CHOICE and not always try to define it. I, growing up with black people, still to this day will not date outside my race. That is my CHOICE. One of the problems i have always seen is when a black man asks a white women out and she declines it always comes down to racism. In college i had a guy ask me out and i politely said no. He asked me that question so i answered him. I told him the same thing. It's a choice. You don't have to always assume it's racism/prejudice just a PREFERENCE. The advice someone gave you about get your answer and move on if it's not the right one, is a good one. Granted there are ways to say things but then they do not know you so however they say it then it's not personally you, just telling you it's not their choice. The black race is one of the most racial/predjudice group of people there are. Ask anyone from Miss/Ala I think U forget that. Whether you agree or not just respect the Choice and don't always try to question it. Chances are it wont change.

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As i said: racism is a belief of superiority. you have conviennced me of your belief



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Posted on Sun, Oct 01, 2006 06:54

Good reply S4U. It is about choice. I have a caucasion, blonde cousin who is 50 now. From the time she was 18 she would only date black men. She said she didn't like dating white guys. So Islands...does that make her prejudice against her own race? I think not. It is merely here preferential choice.



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Posted on Sat, Sep 30, 2006 23:19

Island just call him Mr. Stupid as it tends to fit him to a tee!!!!

Now i did read this thread from start to finish and this will be an age old discussion that will never be agreed on. It's been going on since i was a child and it is still going on.
Island i don't think "Angelsedge was anything other than truthful in giving you her opinion. You started this thread so it's only fair that answers be directed TO you not ABOUT you. I grew up in Balto. right in the middle of a totally black neighborhood. My best friends were black, my nanny was black. I went to school with blacks and we were the minority. I also grew up with Blacks/white couples/marriage etc. It was apart of my life until i was 14. Texas got me then and here it was strange to see Blackmen/white women to Texas people.
You have to respect peoples CHOICE and not always try to define it. I, growing up with black people, still to this day will not date outside my race. That is my CHOICE. One of the problems i have always seen is when a black man asks a white women out and she declines it always comes down to racism. In college i had a guy ask me out and i politely said no. He asked me that question so i answered him. I told him the same thing. It's a choice. You don't have to always assume it's racism/prejudice just a PREFERENCE. The advice someone gave you about get your answer and move on if it's not the right one, is a good one. Granted there are ways to say things but then they do not know you so however they say it then it's not personally you, just telling you it's not their choice. The black race is one of the most racial/predjudice group of people there are. Ask anyone from Miss/Ala I think U forget that. Whether you agree or not just respect the Choice and don't always try to question it. Chances are it wont change.



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Posted on Fri, Sep 29, 2006 12:58

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I think she just cut you off from the beginning....she doesn't date black men....you winked at her apparently trying to connect with her because let's face it, no one's on here to just say "hi" to people and she cut you short without B.S.....at least she's honest and open-minded probably not...but everyone's not open-minded.

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I agree,,move on!!



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Posted on Wed, Sep 27, 2006 06:22

Are you still moaning about this? You'll never find ANYONE if you don't just get over it!



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Posted on Sat, Sep 23, 2006 05:47

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my comment was not that of anger, it was a statement from someone that has had the race card pulled many times and laughs at it. I was trying to make fun of the fact that you and so many others are so offended buy who they are.
Personal opinion, each person should be judged on his/her own merit. I don't fear differences i enjoy the color of life they bring and i only discriminate against ignorance in people that read things that are not there.
If you are going to start a blog please see what is typed and read it carefully, winks and lol are not angry terms.
Oh and why is it that everyone on here is racist except the one that pulls the race card....lol.... what a question to be answered. anyone have any idea...lol


If your comments were not in anger why are they directed at "me" alone.



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Posted on Fri, Sep 22, 2006 06:31

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my comment was not that of anger, it was a statement from someone that has had the race card pulled many times and laughs at it. I was trying to make fun of the fact that you and so many others are so offended buy who they are.
Personal opinion, each person should be judged on his/her own merit. I don't fear differences i enjoy the color of life they bring and i only discriminate against ignorance in people that read things that are not there.
If you are going to start a blog please see what is typed and read it carefully, winks and lol are not angry terms.
Oh and is why is it that everyone on here racist except the one that pulls the race card....lol.... what a question to be answered. anyone have any idea...lol

Well darling,I am not sure if your comments are addressing me or the general audience on the forum. perhaps you can make your comments more clear: example: "why is it that everyone on here" that is a direct quote from you.



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Posted on Wed, Sep 20, 2006 13:58

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well, i don't date ignorant men, does that make me racist? i am a firm believer that ignorance is just as genetically inclined as the color of your skin, (or just in the water). lol

Freedom of choice is something we all have, and no one should pull any CARD to make anyone else feel bad about a personal choice. If Not into Black bothers you than i think you are a racist. I am not into Italian men, just because i know to much of the way most treat women after the new is gone. But most of them are extremely hot. I also don't date black men that pull race card when the world throws them a curve ball and i don't date anyone i can not understand. Hence, my dating is very limited... winks...
And is it racist when someone will not date you because you are a blond and they want someone intelligent?????lol.

Sorry, just questions that make as much sense as being offended by who you are and how others see you. If they don't like something about you, then don't worry about it. It is just one less profile to look at.


Well dear intelligence is not one of your strong points.



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Posted on Tue, Sep 19, 2006 17:13

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well, i don't date ignorant men, does that make me racist? i am a firm believer that ignorance is just as genetically inclined as the color of your skin, (or just in the water). lol

Freedom of choice is something we all have, and no one should pull any CARD to make anyone else feel bad about a personal choice. If Not into Black bothers you than i think you are a racist. I am not into Italian men, just because i know to much of the way most treat women after the new is gone. But most of them are extremely hot. I also don't date black men that pull race card when the world throws them a curve ball and i don't date anyone i can not understand. Hence, my dating is very limited... winks...
And is it racist when someone will not date you because you are a blond and they want someone intelligent?????lol.

Sorry, just questions that make as much sense as being offended by who you are and how others see you. If they don't like something about you, then don't worry about it. It is just one less profile to look at.


Your comments are clearly very much in anger and not in any calm reply. First you need to look in the diciotinary for the term and secondly you need to know the difference between prejudice and racism. As I mentioned prejudice is not a preference its a BELIEF that one group is better than another.

Racism is a belief in the moral or biological superiority of one race or ethnic group over another or others.[1] The term racism is also sometimes used to refer to preference for one's own ethnic group (ethnocentrism)[2], fear of difference (xenophobia)[citation needed], views or preferences against interbreeding of the races (miscegenation)[3], and nationalism[4], regardless of any explicit belief in superiority or inferiority[citation needed]. Related concepts include prejudice, discrimination and racialism.

Racism has been used to justify social discrimination, segregation, and violence.



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Posted on Fri, Sep 15, 2006 06:01

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Black men love to pull the race card out as a vehicle to produce guilt in a beautiful lady who deserves the right to make their own choices. "If you dont date me or go to bed with me you must have been raised a racist" That's the crap many beautiful women here from you jerks, then if you do get them you treat them like crap and discard them. Quit whining and find a sista, they might put up with your bull sh-it.

Sween, at 50 you are hot as h*ll,lol..and I hate the race card thing, No I do not date black men, just not my preference...my choice, related not to race, but taste in men..I like tall tan or olive skeined men, black hair, eyes?, just sexy looking, and Italian/Irish a big PLUS

When two individuals have to respond to swearing on the forum. it is a unfortunate and a reflection of their ablity to communicate at a deeper level. It certainly reflects on what is imporant to one of them. We see two individuals discussing a very open topic , one says " she does not date black men , the other says he hates when black men pull the race card, Now you tell me which one is a "racist". Let not resort to name callng. ok. If you have an opinion make sure you know what your talking about



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Posted on Thu, Sep 14, 2006 23:05

Great topic! We need more thought provoking conversations! I grew up in a traditional Irish/Italian family back East and while my Grandmother was probably not the most tolerant (I think "prejudice" is a word too oft misused, to pre-judge is a natural reaction - we think a well dressed man or woman is successful, we think a young person in street clothes may be a challenge, however to "discriminate" is to act on these prejudgments without confirmation and that is totally unnatural, learned and divisive behavior), my parents were the opposite. As a child I was fortunate enough to grow up in a very racially diverse (albeit not the nicest) neighborhood and it taught me that people are the same whatever their race. I've dated black women, white women, asian women and latin women, and they all cried at sad movies, laughed at good jokes, loved, lived and were essentially the same. Upbringing and attitude is far more important than race.

I agree that we should not digress into name calling or accusations when having a good conversation like this.



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