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Posted on Tue, Apr 25, 2006 07:33

Angyson write:
GrapesOfGoodHope write:
katiegrl write:
GrapesOfGoodHope write:
Because he killed my love for him.


Because he tried to kill ME.

An even better reason!
I'm sooo glad you survived, Katie.


He should have finished the job.

You are a bastard for that comment. How dare you make light of such a heinous crime. Relationship abuse occurs in epidemic proportions. One in three women experiences at least one physical assault by a partner during adulthood. Before a police report is made a woman has already been assaulted as many as 35 times. Assault of woman happens in all education and income brackets and in all religious and ethnic groups. Children who witness abuse and violence are as traumatized as much as they would be if they had suffered the abuse themselves.Violence affects all family members. Whether they show the effects or not.

While abuse may take the form of physical violence, abuse can also occur on an emotional and verbal level. Every year hundreds of women in Canada are seriously injured or killed as a result of physical violence inflicted on them by their partners

Shame on you for being so ignorant to suggest Katies ex-husband should of finished the job. Can you imagine the devastation that it would of caused her child and her loved ones????Children who are exposed to violence against their mothers?even infants and very young children?may be seriously affected. Exposure to violence against their mothers can undermine children?s emotional development and cause serious behaviour problems and difficulties in school. The emotional and behavioural effects may be similar to those experienced by children who are themselves being physically abused.

SO BUGGER OFF ANGY...I am sending you a flaming finger up your kilt

  


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Posted on Tue, Apr 25, 2006 03:33

katiegrl write:
Angyson write:
katiegrl write:
GrapesOfGoodHope write:
Because he killed my love for him.


Because he tried to kill ME.




All I can say in conclusion is; if any MM men admire a survivor, a fighter, a champion for justice, a helper, a nutsy comedienne and a sweetheart to boot, they should snap me up immediately. I'm a great catch.


Katie, Your story breaks my heart. Thank you for sharing your life so honestly. You are an amazing woman with incredible talent. The reason we are here on MM, your last statement says it all; the one lucky enough to win your heart will be truly blessed. Wishing you peace.



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Posted on Sun, Apr 23, 2006 21:25

Angyson write:
katiegrl write:
GrapesOfGoodHope write:
Because he killed my love for him.


Because he tried to kill ME.


I don't blame him one bit.


NOBODY deserves to have their life taken, just because they didn't please some selfish bastard. My husband put me through five years of hell, Angyson, and for you to say a thing like this is the act of a coward and a brute.

NO WOMAN DESERVES TO BE KILLED BY A MAN FOR ANY REASON.

My husband was 6' 8" and weighed 240 lbs. He had huge hands. He used to grab my skull with only one of them and squeeze until I was able to fight my way free. He used to laugh and say I couldn't prove it unless I shaved my head to show the bruises.

We fought often. He frequently put his fist through the walls. He could give me one shove that would just about put me through one of those walls.

DO YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE TO LIVE WITH THAT EVERY DAY?

He yelled at me and slammed doors until the neighbours would pound on the ceiling to make us shutup. He called me fat right after I gave birth to our baby. He wanted to go out every night instead of stay home and help me with her.

His best friend was a coke dealer and my husband used to come home late, sniffing and wiping his nose and saying it was just his sinuses. The money was always short at the end of every month. We always had bigger bills to pay than money to stretch over them. When he wasn't hanging with his junkie buddy he was ice fishing up north or hunting with his other redneck school pals.

He stole from his employers and I was always settling out of court for him. He never held a job longer than a few months. All of his employers were "assholes." It was never him. He was NEVER wrong; just like you.

He moved us five times in one year. Strange men would come to my door sometimes and demanded to talk to him. I had to say he wasn't home. Then we would move again. He said those men had the wrong house every time.

One day, I fell and hit my head and suffered a mild concusion. He took 2 hours to come home when I called and when he got me to the hospital, he told them I had tried to commit suicide so they'd keep me there. I had a hard time, all alone (because he went home) convincing them I was not a victim of a suicide attempt but a battered wife.

Before I married him, I was extremely successful in my field. I had a car, a great apartment, and used to vacation in Lauderdale every spring break. I bought him 2 cars that he trashed within a year. He broke MY furniture and we had to buy new stuff. I never went on another vacation after I met him. He came home after work every night that he wasn't out, ate the supper I made, and then crashed and snored on the couch until bedtime.

Then one day, he kissed me goodbye and we both went to work after I dropped the baby at daycare. When I got home that night, my house was empty. He and his brothers had moved a truck up to the house after I left, and they took everything. They even emptied our bank account and grabbed the baby before leaving town, never to return. He didn't tell me where they were. I was insane with worry and sadness.

He filed for divorce first. Then he quit work so he could get out of paying alimony and child support. He also filed for sole custody and bartered with me for the assets of the marriage.

While he lived in comfort somewhere, I was left with no home, no baby and no money. I lived in a homeless shelter for a little while and ate bread crusts,... garbage that other people threw away. I cried every day and lost 50 pounds in 1 1/2 months. I thought I could never live without him. I was scared of everything. I wanted to die.

He offered to give up sole custody if I agreed to pay the thousands of dollars in debt he'd gotten us into. I agreed. Then he said he wanted sole custody again but would give it up if I gave up all the household possessions. I did. Then he bartered our baby for the car, my camper trailer, the TV and home theatre stuff. I had nothing when it was over. But I had my baby girl.

One time, about a year later, before the divorce was final, I tried going out on a date with a new guy. He slipped me rohypnol and I woke up next morning with no clothes on, alone. I vaguely remember what he did to me. I called my ex crying hysterically, but he said he didn't care anymore. I had to get through it all alone.

The reason I said my husband TRIED to kill me is because he choked me one day until I stopped breathing and lost consciousness. When he let go of me and my body fell to the floor, the wind was knocked back into me and I revived. It's a life-altering experience to know you were alive and well and had decades of life ahead of you and then, in one instance of primal, viscious temper ... it was all over.

NOBODY DESERVES TO DIE JUST BECAUSE THEY TICKED OFF A SELFISH PIG OF A MAN! Not ALL men! THAT man!

Years have passed since that time. My child is grown and in university. I've gotten passed all the heinous events that occurred in my life, and I'm on the road to more success than I've ever known.

I am a good woman, I have a big heart and I can love and care about people. I have been a regular joker on this forum for two years. Who else could go through what I have suffered and still joke around about life and love?

Obviously not you.

I think, for all I've been through, it's a bloody wonder I have a sense of humour at ALL, and still I have to put up with the likes of your disgusting slurs.

All I can say in conclusion is; if any MM men admire a survivor, a fighter, a champion for justice, a helper, a nutsy comedienne and a sweetheart to boot, they should snap me up immediately. I'm a great catch.



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Posted on Sun, Apr 23, 2006 10:12

Angyson write:
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If nagging were an Olympic event, he would have won the gold for as long as he could have stayed competitive.

I walked away and left him with whatever he wanted and started over. Only wish that he was happy now. However, his boat does not mind his constant nagging.


Usually it's the wives who nag.


Angyson, nagging is not gender specific.



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Posted on Sat, Apr 22, 2006 08:08

Angyson write:
thegoodlife421 write:
because I didn't like being a wife.


Would you rather be a husband?

haha! Angy you are too much. LOL.



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Posted on Sat, Apr 22, 2006 05:28

GrapesOfGoodHope write:
Angyson write:
katiegrl write:
GrapesOfGoodHope write:
Because he killed my love for him.


Because he tried to kill ME.


I don't blame him one bit.

Ok, that did it! I just started calling you Angy again, omitting the R, but now you've really gone overboard.
I shall ignore you until you take this comment back and beg an apology from Katie on bended knee. This is just about the worst comment I've read on the forums and lately there were really hostile ones.

I'm in too. Here you've been trying to show us your smarter, sensitive and sometimes funny, side and you blurt out something so stupid - yes, I said stupid! - and hateful that it turns my stomache.

Step up and beg for forgiveness. You'll be lucky if it's accepted but it will show that you know right from wrong and are willing to be accountable for your actions.



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Posted on Fri, Apr 21, 2006 02:40

GrapesOfGoodHope write:
Angyson write:
katiegrl write:
GrapesOfGoodHope write:
Because he killed my love for him.


Because he tried to kill ME.


I don't blame him one bit.

Ok, that did it! I just started calling you Angy again, omitting the R, but now you've really gone overboard.
I shall ignore you until you take this comment back and beg an apology from Katie on bended knee. This is just about the worst comment I've read on the forums and lately there were really hostile ones.


Thank you, Hope. That hurt a little.



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Posted on Wed, Apr 19, 2006 18:23

If nagging were an Olympic event, he would have won the gold for as long as he could have stayed competitive.

I walked away and left him with whatever he wanted and started over. Only wish that he was happy now. However, his boat does not mind his constant nagging.



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Posted on Wed, Apr 19, 2006 08:25

because I didn't like being a wife.