Gosh, women like you make life hard for all of us. You seem so desperate and really don't know what the dating game and attraction is about. Take a business strategy course, that'll help. If men aren't interested, then switch things up. You should learn that people do things genuinely out of influence not manipulation or guilt. If I were a man and came accross this type of behavior, I would snob you too because you are not savvy as a woman. Why would a quality man want to waste his precious time with a needy, unintelligent, as well as unattractive woman? A college degree doesn't mean that you're intelligent. It means you follow instructions well and can learn on a basic level. Attractiveness is intellectual as much as it is physical, so learn to be more cognizant with what you say and do.
Look, women and men are on the market like products. You can do three things: either you can learn your target base and offer a product that is sellable; If it's not moving, you can reinvent the wheel and offer something unique and desirable to shoppers; or simply go out of business. You pick which one is best for you but learn to get what you want with with dignity and tactfulness. These things should not ever be compromised.
You are so right. People have lots of money , but inside they are so miserable. I feel Its not about the color of our skin, its whats in our heads, and the way us as women carry our selves. Times have changed so much with color issues. Diversity is very much needed in our society if we are to survive. nice ????
Rejection is an integral part of love.And in love as in life you are going to get tons of rejections.This I believe has nothing to do with being black,white,chinese,asian and so on.The thing is we are all humans and so free to communicate and fall in love with whom ever we like.Sure enough some of us might have the "oh what would my parents,friends,think?" type of feeling.But in today's Global world i don't think anybody reason's that way anymore.People go for what makes their heart beat keeping aside customs, taboos and so on.It's one life So why waste time on one or two rejections or snobs.There's a lot of guys to choose from ,get past the snobs and pick the next guy that makes your heart beat.
I've been on the site less than 2 weeks and I have received nice comments and contact from white men. Everyone is entitled to their own preference, but I agree with the comments of easymantoloity more than black men from my personal experience.
If a person truly wants a interracial ve. In fact, I find that white men embrace my beauty, thirst for knowledge, and adventurous personalrelationship, or any relationship, it's important to be patient and be yourself. No one is every man's type but there are many men that recognize that beauty is skin deep.
BTW: People want to see who they are interacting with...I know I do so that may be part of the issue as well.
I think it's a person's preference. I like all men all races, colors and creeds. If he's sexy and have respect for me, it's game on.
My sister only prefers middle -eastern men, one sister loves only white men.
I agree witht he majority of the people on this forum. It all comes down to people's personal preferences. Don't get me wrong alot of it may have to do with race; but the majority reason is because, maybe that specific black woman or black women as a whole is not what the "white man" wants in his life. This doesn't make him racist, prejudiced, or anything else of the sort. Some times we have to stop looking at everything so deeply and take things for what they truly are.
Girlfriend, let me tell you, Im a african american woman who has been loved by the best and I might have been snubbed by the best but if so I havent noticed and if there had been something better out there I couldn't tell. I was too busy standing on cloud nine to even care. This man that loved me and I loved him was truly the best and there hasn't been and as far as I'm concerned never will be another he. And I'm ok with that.
How can I describe him, we both were young he was 22 and I was 18 when I met him. He was all that I ever wanted and then some. Like I said no one has compared to him ever since not to his wit, his charm and nor to his sophistication. He was the most sophisticated man I've ever known. Sure Ive seen sophicated men but none compares to him his love nor his personality. And He taught me self dignity, self worth and how to value myself as a black woman. When we were together I had all his time and undivided attention. He was just beautiful to me, and I didnt get tired of him telling me how gorgeous I was to him, am sure he did most of that to build my self esteem now which in fact I had very little of, his pockets were fat.if you know what I mean lol and he had all the material things that he needed and then some. Not only did the women all nationality of women flock to him but the men wanted to be his friend. In my small town where we were it was cool to be cool right lol, and He was the coolest you feel me in every way lol along with smooth and handsome and even his siluete left me breathless girlfriend let me add lol. And me being from a small town myself (I'm origanally from and had just came from the south when I met him) I thought the people in this town were cool but it wasnt until I met him (he being from chicago) realize they were jokes, lol. And yea in my small town I had met my big time hollywood, ok! hehe. We were suppose to go to california and there he would open his own entertainment business (a nightclub, no doubt, but hey we were young and adventurous,lol) but I had visions of him being killed. He was so charismatic and goal oriented that I thought he would rub people the wrong way basically I'd thoguht he'd step on a few toes. I was 21 by then and just had his baby our plans were to leave here after I had, had the baby and exactly three weeks later after the baby was born he was killed. And by some busters.
I'm sure you can just imagine what that did to me, in fact it hit me so hard that it took me exactly 17 years to get over him. He was very mature for his young age and was old school from the heart as he had been schooled by some original old schoolers when he grew up in the seventies in chicago. Those days are far gone, It was 1983 when we met and I think he was last of a dying breed and if you're wondering he was a black man. Although I won't even compare any of todays black men with him. I don't think most have a clue what it means to be a man let alone how to be loyal and loving or how to satisfy and be with a good black woman. If I had never met him I'm sure I would have never have known what I would have been missing and would have settled for way less than what I deserved all because of the way I was raised and the community I had grew up in. I would have thought I would have to had stayed loyal and loved the one that I was with despite how bad the relationship might have been. It is true that some men just dont know how to be men and that's a shame but that's life and it's a shame that is what it would take wake some of us up and send us looking outside our comfort zone to try and find love and hapiness. But we first must be happy with ourselves and love ourselves and treat others as we would ourselves. Eventhough, I know you know this, And if we can't love ourselves first and have some dignity and peace about ourselves, who can we give love too?
Now do I say all this to boast on what I had? No, not at all girfriend I only say this to tell you that just because someone don't seem to be that in to you it may have nothing at all to do with you but all to do with them. Even hating someone because of the color of their skin to me sounds like a personal problem or it may even have to do with the pressures of family and friends , co-workers maybe and even the community he lives in and or even his geographical location. In other words his enviroment may play a big part in who he chooses for a mate and even who he's use to dating and being with. Even his own way of thinking may play a big role in who he chooses. A lot of the older men may be widowed or divored and thier wives may have been the same color as they perhaps they never got over thier wives and look for someone similar to her. My man he called himself "Ricky Rose" by the way, and again I say he was a dying breed I was lucky to have ever met him and luckily he had some older men to school him and run the game down to him, lol so to speak and to show him how to be self reliant and to be a man.
He had skills and taught me how to love and gave me love even gave me a glimpse at the glamorous life he taught me style and sophistication but most of all how to take pride in myself have self dignity, self worth and some self esteem most of all be proud of who I was and learn how to be comfortable in my own skin. I've stayed out of the dating game for a long long time but knew I had the skills and the experience of what it took to know what to look for and to expect in a man and the patience for him to find me if I wanted him to find me, which I didnt. Because the best to me had died and I thought I had died with it. I wasn't even trying to be picky and when I did open my heart to love eleven years ago, and up until then I thought that that spark was dead but I had it that day I laid eyes on my new flame. I could have sworn It was love at first site But of course as it turned out it was'nt at all what I hoped it would be he just didn't live up too and couldn't compare to what I had gotten use to in Rick and not that I was even trying to compare him. I just couldnt settle for the imature nonsense and retoric.
I can be comfortable in almost any situation because I've been loved and cared for by the best, Up until now and a few years back I felt I owed much of growth as a woman to him but now realize I owe it alll to the Lord. And He has taught me a better way to love and to grow. So again it may not have anything to do with you who snubs you and who don't. Just be willing to do you and to love you and love others with the same love bringing the best you
Also, realize that when people are driven and even motivated by several things in thier lives that it may not always just one thing. Im not saying these are all good things nor am I saying they a bad thing but what I am say is to each thier own, right. on that note I wish you find your true love peace and joy
By the way take a look at some of the geographical location of these men and many of them are in the south. A lot of these men are old and in thier younger day may have been a part of something that you may not have wish to have taken part in to me those men can keep on trucking as well as the ones who have no clue as to how to be men. Could you imagine sitting down and trying to find something in common with these men when some of thier favorite words might be geared toward some ignorance they are use too. I can't imagine that girlfriend. Now I'm not trying to be bold or insulting what I've said I believe to be the truth. So just do you girlfriend. There are many children in this world who go hungry or who just need a voice. Go check them out. They too need love and for someone to care for them. I'm not putting all my eggs in one basket as the old saying goes. If love is here that's great if its not I can move on I don't need a man and his money to make me happy. And besides that who know's maybe the Lord has other plans and other ways for you to meet your Mr. Right.
im sure some white men dont date white women,your point is what,if a white man does not want a black woman its a felony.how about a preference or a choice.im a true certified millionaire,most of my relationships n 1 marriage were black.black women like me n im real comfortable with that.maybe white men just dont like some black chics n like others.personality plays a part,compatibility n chemistry too,but a racial preference has to b real,n dont worry who complains,just sharing an opinion.maybe creegan is just playing the old victim card that so many blacks play if they dont like something.''if u dont like me its cos im black''rich or poor we make choices to better ourseleves,not to better strangers.
TO EACH IS OWN I AM NOT MAD AY YOU. A PERSON LIKS'S WHAT THEY LIKE. I HAVE NEVER DATE OUTSIDE MY AFRICAN AMERICAN RACE BUT, I AM WILLING TO GIVE IT A TRY YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE THE SKY IS THE LIMIT 'FEEL ME'. I AM ALITTLE SHY ABOUT IT BUT THAT,S ALL GOOD. MY DAD ALWAYS TOUGHT ME THAT BEAUTY IS ONLY SKIN DEEP, AND THE COLOR OF YOUR SKIN DON,T MATTER IT,S WHAT,S INSIDE.JUST WANNA CHILL WITH A COOL DOWN TO EARTH PERSON WITH SOME PERSONALITY AND HUMOROUS,AND SMART AND, WHO AINT SCARED. WELL HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO EVERY ONE AND MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL. MISS NITA 'SEXY SISTA'
. I NEVER DATED OUTSIDE MY RACE BUT, I DONT MIND SOMETHING NEW. I LIKE A PERSON ON THE INSIDE, OUTSIDE MEANS NOTHING. I PROMISE U THAT. THEY SAY MONEY CAN'T MAKE YOU HAPPY. LIKE CEDRIC THE ENTERTAINER SAID, I JUST DON'T KNOW ABOUT THAT BABY GIRL. THERE GOES MY HUMOROUS SIDE COMING OUT. I DID'NT GROW UP RICH BUT, I SURE WOULD'NT MIND BEING RICH U FEEL ME. ON THE REAL, I WOULD HAVE TO LIKE U TO KICK IT WITH U I DON'T CARE HOW MUCH MONEY U GOT. I LOVE BEING BLACK AND, WOULD NOT CHANGE NOTHING ABOUT THIS BROWN SUGAR. WELL I AM NEW ON THIS SITE I NEVER DID NO STUFF LIKE THIS. IF MY KIDS ONLY KNEW THEY WOULD SAY MOM WHAT'S ALL THAT ABOUT L.O.L. AND, I WOULD SAY MIND YOUR BUSINESS SON... I WILL TRY THIS FOR A MONTH JUST TO SEE HOW IT GOES DOWN. I DONT KNOW....... PEACE I'M OUT... GOD IS GOOD........HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO YOU ALL.. MISS NITA
I dont think that at all is going on here..lets face it the more choices you allow yourself the better your chances at happiness!
Dont be silly! Opposites attract! and not to mention differences are fun.
Ilovebenme,, you hit the nail on the head with this one line, "Some white men may feel as though black women are not interested "
I personally don't have a problem approaching "Black Women",, because I look at all women the same,, if I'm attracted, I'm go'in for it. But it would be nice if they could help us out sometimes by starting the conversation/email (for here),, because maybe we haven't run across your profile yet.
One tip as ilovebenme said also holds true here, clean up the profiles and put in some nice pictures !