nkellie write: I'm of mixed race and I don't understand why in today society there is still so many issue with race. I believe that when you truly care about someone it doesn't matter what the color of there skin is. I would also like to say that black women talk about white men not wanting to date you, well so what if he doesn't someone else will. Why are you tring to get a rich man in the first place so that he can take care of you, I'm not rich and I've never dated a rich man but that's okay because I can take care of myself and i don't want to be with someone just for them to take care of me, so get off your but find a job and be a women. I believe that you make all of us look like GOLD DIGGERS and not everyone here is like that that makes black women look bad.
You have what Im saying all wrong and by your comment you just make clear what my problem is. First of all don't get it twisted I can take care of myself an I do take care of myself. I am a union carpenter with a future degree in business and I already have a real estate certifate so don't think because I want a wealthy man I am a "gold ddigger" because I am not and if if you have enough brain to read what i said you will know why I want a wealthy or established man.
I really do not think you ladies should be really concern about weather or not white men have interest in women of color because if they have any interest in you they will let you know if not why get offended over spilled milk because I believe that ther are somebody for everybody it is just a matter of finding them so if you are feeling sad about it don't why should you that only means that the right one has not come along yet plain and simple when you capture someone attention they will let you know if it takes some time oh well what can you do not trying to sound sarcastic or anything but what can you do but continue to wait until the right guy show up and if white guys are your preference then you might be in for a long wait then maybe not who knows I have never dated a white guy before and I don't if I will ever date out side of my race but I have white guys as friends and they are really really cool but I am not attracted to them nor are they attracted to me well they have wives and girl friends as well which are close friends of mine that is how I know them but some are good men and some are not when my firends complain that their husband beat them or did not come home last night I give them the best advice I can if any man of ANY RACE beat you or don't come home at night and you are tired and talked about it several time then I'd say run and don't look back! The same for men because women can be unfaithful as well but that is another subject bottom line don't worry be happy!
I'm of mixed race and I don't understand why in today society there is still so many issue with race. I believe that when you truly care about someone it doesn't matter what the color of there skin is. I would also like to say that black women talk about white men not wanting to date you, well so what if he doesn't someone else will. Why are you tring to get a rich man in the first place so that he can take care of you, I'm not rich and I've never dated a rich man but that's okay because I can take care of myself and i don't want to be with someone just for them to take care of me, so get off your but find a job and be a women. I believe that you make all of us look like GOLD DIGGERS and not everyone here is like that that makes black women look bad.
I would also like to state that I am still looking for the man I want to be a good wife to. A man asked in another part of this forum why a woman want a wealthy man, and for me that answer is very simple. I am a determined woman and I want a man different from those I have run into in the past. I would like to experience the other side of life where a man loves and spoils his wife and she should not have to worry about every little thing. I no longer want to be with men that makes me feel guilty or bad when I don't have a lot of money. I even had a situation where he tried to make me not buy spring/summer clothing for my 2 children. I want to relax and enjoy my life with my husband and family. I want to finish my college education without feeling like I should be spending more time working than on finishing school. I want a sense of security. With me that allows me to be a better woman, mother and WIFE.
Hello everyone. I am the person that started this forum and as of now some people are taking this discussion to a place that is not answering but arguing. First I want to be clear in saying I love black men. I think they are one of the many beautiful creatures on the earth but that is not my problem. See I want to know why men period including Black men who are well off or wealthy do not prefer black women. I am open to dating and having a family with a an of any race or origin(As Long as he can speak English:0) When looking through profiles ALL of them have checked every box except the one for black women. That means the profiles of White men Black men Latino men etc. Also I'd like to say that for a woman that does not have to deal with this particular prejudice she doesn't understand and really cannot comment on the subject. Only women who feel the way I do and the men that make these choices can respond and be valid.
Miss black woman from the UK, I can totally understand what you are saying and agree with half of it. Number one people shouldn't look at color as being the basis for who they should and shouldn't give a chance, but at the same time, people do have preferences and as someone stated before, in a lot of the white males'profiles here,they have excluded African-American/Black women out of their preferences. That was an extremely stereotypical statement that you made about American Black women being loud and boisterous because the way people behave has a lot to do with socio-economic status and I know for a fact that there are Black women in the UK who are just as GHETTO (As I have seen on television as well) but I think it is extremely ignorant and unintelligent to assume that the images you see on television represent people as a whole.
I'm black and i dated a millionaire for about a year, who happened to be white. i live in the UK though but a problem i feel with American black ladies when i see them on the TV are often loud and as such project a negative view of black ladies. we need to be more respectful and stop making your sole aim a white guy it shouldn't matter as it seems quite hypocritical when you are after a white man what about black men, if you only want a white man why shouldn't they also want a white girl. love everyone and set a standard bar for them. I've dated all races as long as you are lovely they will love you.
And like someone stated (I forget who it was) if I need such and attitude adjustment, BOBSTHENAME, how come most of the white men's profiles here includes almost every ethnicity instead of African-American/Black? If you can provide an answer to that question then I stand corrected and maybe I do need an attitude adjustment.
I think bobsthename got it all wrong. I never said that I don't date white men and have given up. I do still date white men and I don't have a problem attracting men of any ethnicity, creed, nationality because I have dated many men of different ethnicities, but the truth in the matter is that THE US is a country where people are afraid to cross many "racial" lines. If you think this is not so, please get a clue because people have their biases and let stereotypes dictate them more often than not. I know I am an attractive woman and have lots of potential and am doing well for myself, I'm not bitter nor have I given up, I'm just stating mere facts.
I believe this is part of American culture to stereotype (which is sad) and like the one girl said (I forgot her name), they are afraid of what their friends, family, and society may say, so many of them will sleep with you or date you but anything beyond that.....it's pretty disappointing because I am attracted to caucasian men.
I am really happy with the responses here and would hope for more feedback because I am very curious as to what is going on. I have heard that some men prefer women that they have a bit more control of and I guess many of us (NOT ALL)are too "strong" but for me if I had a man that was able to handle things and take care of me and business then I could step down and not have to always be in control or strong. I would love to have the chance to be submissive but I have not found a man that is strong enough yet so I hope he is out ther and finds me soon
I think a lot of men like black women but still you have peer pressure here in the USA fromd dating outside your race,I think many men want to and see balck women they want to date but are like waht will my friends say I say Love for yourself and get out of the bubble,,,
I am sure many men if they were more confident would date a black female..
and not care thats what my best friend is to me a beautiful black barbie...
Ok I have dated a handsome black man did you know some of my friends had problems gave me hell for it ! How could you? quite easy I am attracted to him,It was mutual attraction we met at Sallys beuty supply he was bald and had white lined on and nice sandals was classy, I asked if he needed help I didn't even work there next thing we had a date LOl
I wasted no time girls..
Not everyone was narrow minded this is what it is!
This man Colin Abrams was in the olympics won a bronze biclying for the US team he was on won it, he was the first black captain for DHL airlines
So I did date me a tall dark handsome gentleman ..He was a sweetie and when we would go out I had men rudely say look at her and I would get remarks I would want to say things Colin hushed me and said this is the ignorance.
he was of peace I cried one night at how ugly racism is ..I saw it when I dated him first hand..
My son is part Brazilian, venezeulan, and peruvian daddy is a hot head south american.
In barbados my son goes to school with children of many colors mixed tons of them..his best friend is black ..
In the caribbean we see children that are mixed many so Bootiful.....I just am amazed green eyes honey skin and even dark beauties , MISS UNIVERSE from TRINADAD Wendy Fitzgerald was a dark black woman not honey skinned but BEAUTIFUL features...amazing I met her on the plane in business class I was like WOW..The attendants asked me If I was a beauty contestant to I was like Oh please as I sit next to Wendy who was Gorgeous.
I said get some glasses would ya...wink
So MEN LOOK AT THESE BEAUTIES>>>AND take a chance..The heart, soul doesn't see color and benfactor I am impressed...You are ahead of the game you set your own rules...
Dianna Ross married a billionairea nd in her 40's ahd kids with him he was from Norway he was in the Bahamas and had to have a island beauty.he didn;t even know she was famous just a pretty exotic beauty he thought and so on and on.
Living in Barbados I see tons of European men loving island beauties...