OpenArms81 write: I don't want anybody to mistke what im saying. I don't mean only white men , I mean many many different types, colors, and races of men. I am open for any race/color/nationality that comes my way but there seems to me a shortage of men that will give a black woman a chance. Im not looking for anything in particular except to be able to take good care of his family and wife but I won't be 25 for ever
Aww, dont think it that way, just think that whatever age you get to......you will still get the man of your dreams.....just be patient for a while...Like my mama says.....All good things come to those who wait......It will be yours soon....Don't worry..
Bless you OpenArms81. Your question should not be dismissed as something that you should get over because for those of us who are sensitive to such issues we should not let it be swept under the rug like the rest of the things that are of racial concerns in this world. They effect us, we are entitled to be recognized as a people of worth as much as any other woman on the Creator's planet. This may be something that may offend those who will not understand what I say but I truly hope it is worthy of consideration.
My observations (about 47 years worth) has rendered me this vision of racial relations and the African American Women. First of all we are a strong force to recon with on any level...know that and be very proud of your heritage. You can not truly appreciate this statement unless you are fully aware of Ourstory (as African Americans) in regards to coming from greatness not taught in the conventional educational systems. Second, it does not matter if it is a white man, black man, or a man from any other ethnical group...just know that no man wants a "Saffire". You know...my beloved loud mouthed, hands upon the hips, fingers wagging in your face, yelling to the top of her lungs, usually wrong as two left shoes, Sista girl. This type of stereo typical behavior haunts every man that has ever seen one or been told about one. This sadly enough makes life so much harder for those of us who have no intentions of being anything like her. Unfortunately, many men couple "Saffire" with golddigger as if a black golddigger would be any worst than a white one or any other ethnic golddigger.
Just know yourself be proud of who you are without making ANYONE you meet feel uncomfortable in anyway. Feel free to let them know who you are and what you want. Most of all love and respect yourself because it really should not matter what color a good man is just as long as he is a good man.
I don't want anybody to mistke what im saying. I don't mean only white men , I mean many many different types, colors, and races of men. I am open for any race/color/nationality that comes my way but there seems to me a shortage of men that will give a black woman a chance. Im not looking for anything in particular except to be able to take good care of his family and wife but I won't be 25 for ever
Everyone has a preference.... It does appear that on this site Caucasian men are not as open about dating Black women.... however it is their perrogative and like anyone else they have their prefernces. Making it a racial debate seems inappropriate and offesive. I respect all people's preferences and if I'm not your flavour... I wish you the best in your search.
Its not a matter of white men preferring black women and vice versa.......it's a matter of what an individual wants as in getting to know or waking up to in the morning......,....i give you that some white men do want white women....because sometimes they have been brought up that way....to think that they have to be with their colour race....etc.......black men do the same.....everyone is the same.....its a matter of preference.
So if i was you,.....i will concentrate on getting to know the ones that come your way as they might really be what you are seeking for.
Do Not Play the race card....if you are not getting what you want......am not.....and am not complaining.....I'd rather meet a guy that wants me than waste my time thinkg what might have been with someone who doesn't even care you exist.....get my drift?
I know it can be grating at times but you have think....its kewl cos you might actually meet that white guy and he turns out to be Ur worst nightmare.....just chill and let love come Ur way.....pure and fulfilling and all the other mushy stuff...lol
jbowe write: I think your worring to much about the whys and not taking a close enough look at what you really want. A man whether he is rich or poor looks for a women that will complement him in many ways. Its not just a nationality thing like you seem to think. Perhaps you need to rethink the man your looking for because he may be right next door and you haven't even noticed him.
I agree with jbowe. Maybe instead of specificly going after a white man, u should be open to a good man of any color. True, a good man is hard to find but they do come in different colors.
Perhaps an actual good man won't care about the race of his soulmate. If u figure that all the good men are white and don't want a lady of color in their lives, doesn't that make them mr. Wrong? I dunno, I'm tired, goodnyte.
I think your worring to much about the whys and not taking a close enough look at what you really want. A man whether he is rich or poor looks for a women that will complement him in many ways. Its not just a nationality thing like you seem to think. Perhaps you need to rethink the man your looking for because he may be right next door and you haven't even noticed him.
WELL TO BE HONEST MEN IN GENERAL WANT WOMEN WHO HAVE A LITTLE PRIDE THEY WANT TO LOOK AT YOU AND KNOW THAT YOU LOVE WHO YOU ARE AND THAT YOU RESPECT YOURSELF RICH WHITE MEN GO TO VERY EXPENSIVE RESTAURANTS AND VACATION RESORTS WHERE YOU ARE LESS LIKELY TO SEE BLACKS EVEN IF THEY LIKE BLACK WOMEN IF THERE PARTNERS DON'T YOU CAN FORGET ABOUT IT. THERE'S ONLY ONE THING MEN LOVE MORE THAN WOMEN AND THAT IS THERE MONEY.
GOD MADE MAN(GUY/GAL) IN THE LIKENESS OF HIS IMAGE.REALITY IS- WE ALL LOOK A FEW DIFFERENT..SO AS TO DISCRIMINATE (IN A GOOD SENSE)WHO WE WANT TO BE WITH, WHAT LIFE WE WANT TO TAKE.(IF WE ARE ALL MODEL LOOKING, YOU AND I WOULD PROBABLY TAKE THE SAME JOB AND LIFESTYLE,DESTINY OF A MODEL..BORING)WE ARE PUPPETS ON EARTH TILL THE JUDGMENT DAY" WHO MADE IT TO HEAVEN"..COMPATIBLE LIFESTYLE BETWEEN MAN AND WOMAN AS A COUPLE IS IMPORTANT AS MUCH AS LOVE, TRUST AND SIMILAR GOALS IN LIFE..DO YOU HAVE COMPATIBILITY IN THESE AREAS WITH THE MEN YOU ARE SEEKING? ALSO I TEND TO THINK THAT WHEN PEOPLE CHANGE IE,FROM SINGLE TO COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP, THE IDEA IS FOR STABILITY AND NOT MORE CHAOS IN THEIR LIVES..
maybe there is a site that is more geared at interacial relationships. i dont know the answer. but there are as many black men that dont care to date white women too. maybe this site is predominantly white and the majority is less inclined to interacial connections. im not trying to be out of line, but if youre looking for that type of dating then maybe you should look for an interacial dating site. there are many white men that prefer to date only black women and they would probably be on those other sites. just a suggestion.