jennifersandiego write: Thanks everyone... I took your advice... I am moving on dating others. I emailed him actually and he is cool. He is not looking for a serious relationship and is confuse about things so I'm dating others and we still talk every once in awhile but we'll see what happens..
That is good you communicated! And now you know what the situation is. :o) Sad that he is confused but many people are. That is his to deal with in his own personal development, and it is not fair for you to have to wait for that to happen. Who knows, if you remain friends and he is able to work it out, and coincidence has it that you are both single, you might get a chance to try again. Good look in your search!
Thanks everyone... I took your advice... I am moving on dating others. I emailed him actually and he is cool. He is not looking for a serious relationship and is confuse about things so I'm dating others and we still talk every once in awhile but we'll see what happens..
Like everyone says you are better off. I just went through this myself with a man I met on mm. He was all into me at first but I soon started picking up hints about the real person he was. Most days his first thing to do when he came home from work was to log onto the computer not call to say hi..then I would catch him saying he had just walked in the door and his messenger would say he had been online for 2 hours..I ended up telling him that I wanted to end it and that I wanted more out of a relationship then he was giving...oh well life goes on..his loss
YOu are probably right that this topic should be in a gender free zone..that courtship in this day and age is suddenly too transient everyone wants instant romance , fast forward to the happy ending that they desire..the virtual , real and surreal have become unreal.
Relationships become disposable, no one has the time to wait and patience is a long drawn word ..
whatever happen to old style communication?
It became text messages, emails that are forgettable at a click .
Romance ala Mcdonald fastfood style is just what it is ..junk food for instant gratification and there is little memory of taste nor flavour..Obesity of the emotions and spirit is true impoverishment -malnourishment takes on a whole new concept in modern day romance and love..
jennifersandiego write: I joined this site about 2 months ago. I have been on 2 dates. The first one I knew there was no chemistry so we didn't even plan to see each other again. Next date was with someone from another city. He came all the way to visit me and we had a great time. I think he was more into me than I was into him, but I was not going to give up. Over the holidays he called me or text messaged me every single day and kept asking when I was going to visit him. I decided to go and see him right after the New Year. I paid for my own flight (even after he offered) because I am not on this site looking for money, just a stable man. I spent 3 days with him and we had a great time. He introduced me to his children. Now all of a sudden I dig him and he becomes a ghost, calling only maybe once a week, never text messaging, I was not the one who came on so strong, so what the hell?!?! He called me his "girl" and even suggested taking me to Hawaii to this hotel he is a member of. Anyone have any advice for a woman who is a great catch????
Can't help sympathising with you girls..I had that happened to me recently too..and it boils down to not listening carefully the male species' vibes and internalising his feelings...they love the chase and the prolonged chase enthuses them , challenges their hunting skills and trapping skills. Girls learn to PLAY hard to get..a forgotten game in this instant romance era. Never let them think we are desperate or like them that much..like fishing , we need to let them have lots of rope..reeling in too fast may risk losing the fish altogether..go fishing girls, it teaches patience, tact..the fish won't bite unless we give them a good bait they can't resist and we play their game..it is a game..so learn the ropes.lots of it..