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Posted on Fri, Apr 21, 2006 19:09

I wouldn't mind signing one. The reasons are as follows:
1. I hope that the relationship would last.
2. I am not a gold digger
3. I take pride in knowing I can take care of myself and I don't need a mans money to do it.
4. I believe people have a right to protect what they have worked hard for.
5. IF you really love someone then money doesn't matter.



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Posted on Mon, Apr 17, 2006 14:44

What is so bad about ending it with some money? I think it would be a hard thing to discuss, obviously, but I don't think I would sign one. I wouldn't care if all I got was $10,000. That would be enough for me. Even $5,000. But no less.



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Posted on Sun, Apr 09, 2006 18:16

In my opinion it would also depend how things are agreed and settled, because just as a girl could be after a guys money the guy might be looking for a trophy wife for a wile or something, if the person I loved asked me to sign it as the eventuality of us falling out of love, or any other problem with honesty and love yes, but if his assuming I want his money then well, weddings off, cause if he assumes that before the wedding he doesn't trust me enough to marry me, and I need someone that trusts me!

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Posted on Wed, Apr 05, 2006 15:54

Prenup, sure....ditto...it protects both parties. I'd sign it just to make the other person not feel threatened. I think two people should be very upfront and be in agreement about how the finances in the relationship should be run. I'm a Long Range planner myself but I don't like planning anyone's finances for them. Ask me and I'd give my best opinion but that's all.

  


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Posted on Mon, Apr 03, 2006 21:43

Yes, I would.



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Posted on Sat, Apr 01, 2006 21:37

september1998 write:

As for a prenuptial. For some it is necessary because of the history of marriage and we still cannot 'read hearts'. Maybe a prenupt with a time frame. For some that would be a security measure. But me personally...only one divorce under my belt and I wanted NOTHING that was his. I have my own and I don't really need anyone elses. So, that being said...if he felt better about it...so be it..but it will work both ways...that's for sure.


I think I would sign a prenupt if it was like she discribed above. A timed prenupt, maybe one where the prenupt only takes affect after we've been married awhile.



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Posted on Sat, Apr 01, 2006 17:58

yes..

What was his before is his and what is"ours ' from the time we cohabitate and live as man and wife marriage is ours..
It makes sense second marriages which many of us would be going into have a less success rate stastically speaking then that of first marriages and third marriages even less.
So I would sign one and have an attorney look it over and also many men just want what is earned from point of marriage to be protected especially if they have children from a previous marriage...When you fall out of love you will be glad you had one because it does protect both parties if written well.
It makes sense..sorry this is how it has to be,,



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Posted on Wed, Mar 29, 2006 18:54

PiratePrince writes: "Do you have a will? Why bother with one of those? After all, it's not fun to think about your own death, or decided who get's your gandmother's wedding ring or the ferrari. I'd much rather spend a weekend in Paris than sort through that mess."

It is irresponsible to say 'forget the will'. And it is not as funny if you are the one holding the baggage left behind when someone dies.

As for a prenuptial. For some it is necessary because of the history of marriage and we still cannot 'read hearts'. Maybe a prenupt with a time frame. For some that would be a security measure. But me personally...only one divorce under my belt and I wanted NOTHING that was his. I have my own and I don't really need anyone elses. So, that being said...if he felt better about it...so be it..but it will work both ways...that's for sure.

  


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Posted on Fri, Mar 24, 2006 05:06

Today everyone should be required by law to sign as a condition of marriage.

This could eliminate many mariages and reduce the divorce rate.

  


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Posted on Fri, Mar 17, 2006 19:14

thegoodlife421 write:
Saw this topic come up on another thread and thought I'd start a new one here.

Seems some women seem hurt and offended by the very suggestion of a prenup. I, on the other hand, think it's a sensible move because it protects BOTH parties.

What do YOU think?

I would sign one...



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Posted on Wed, Mar 15, 2006 12:33

Yes, but with stips. What was yours before the marriage is yours after but what we build together is ours.I am not the type of woman who would be happy just sitting around the house sipping on drinks everyday I need something to do, weather it's helping you run your $1,000,000.00 company or starting my own.If you are worth $2,000,000.00 when I married you and $10,000,000.00 after am I not entitled to something??? And on the flip side of that what if I started my own company from the money you given me when we were married and now my company is worth far more then yours aren't you the man entitled to half?Or NOT. If my love and support helped in you building your company and your funds helped in me building my company are we not entitled to half of the profits we build while we were together?? And even if I had not worked a day in my life was not my love, and support worth something?? Now don't get me wrong I am not saying anyone should get half but there are alot of factors to look in to at the end of a marriage that is not as cut and dry as a prenuptual.

  
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Posted on Mon, Mar 13, 2006 07:23

As a lawyer , I think prenups are essential in anticipating the sort of problems that will plague all marriages which no one in love would be in the mood to do. But if couples before marriage sit down logically to address all these issues and the responsibilities and the rights encumbent on each party to the union , then there will be less issues and less grounds for the marriage to break up in future.

If in fact in the process of discussion on the terms of a prenup, both parties begin to have doubts about each other or are unhappy about it, certainly it would be the very issues that will surface later to erode that union if not addressed earlier and if both can't come to any solution then it would be less painful not to proceed with the marriage.
The prenup could be the acid test to your love and the sensitive aspect that binds or breaks the proposed union.



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Posted on Sun, Mar 12, 2006 12:11

To be honest, I really don't care one way or the other. If it made the other person feel better, I'd be happy to sign one. I don't want them or their friends or family worried that I am after their money. What they have they have worked for, not me. If I love them, I love them and money can not buy that from me.

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Posted on Sun, Mar 12, 2006 11:59

Yes, I would sign a prenuptial agreement. Matter fact, my ex and I signed one before we were married. When we divorced he wasn't able to take away my stuff or money, I had before the marriage. If we hadn't signed one, he could have taken me to the cleaners. And, at that time he probably would have. If you truly love each other and want to spend the rest of your life together, then there should be no problem protecting yourselves.



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Posted on Sat, Mar 11, 2006 08:36

Absolutlely. Marriage ALWYAS ends. Now, before you attack me, I'm not talking about love, I'm talking about marriage. Marriage is by definition a legal contract. Marriage may end after 65 years when one of the partners dies, or it might end a few weeks after the Vegas wedding when someone decided 'it's just not working out'. The point is, all marriages end one way or another.

Do you have a will? Why bother with one of those? After all, it's not fun to think about your own death, or decided who get's your gandmother's wedding ring or the ferrari. I'd much rather spend a weekend in Paris than sort through that mess.

So, do the easy thing and forget the will. Let your heirs fight about how to divide up all of your stuff in the middle of their grief (or in some cases their celebration).

The same goes for a prenup. Why have have a difficult conversation with your new love? After all, marriage is all about good feelings and fun right? Why throw cold water on this beautiful romance? Then if something does go horribly wrong with the union, you and your kids can fight with her and her kids about all of the stuff later on. It will be fun for everyone really. Especially fun the the lawyers - who at the end of the process will be the only ones that can afford the trip to Paris. :)



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Posted on Tue, Mar 07, 2006 12:05

I would sign one, I am not out to use anyone, I want love....and if it takes that to make him happy I would do it in a second....I am not fake and shallow, but love and money together is nice...



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Posted on Mon, Mar 06, 2006 05:48

id sign a pre nup i think its a gud idea it protects both sides as long as its what they want



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Posted on Sun, Mar 05, 2006 18:06

tanamaria write:
if it is the real deal, then why dispute?? its just a lil' ol' piece of paper to protect everybody all around, right?? unless you've got something to hide????


No it's not a Lil' ol' piece of paper.
Even though I've been cleaned out before, I think that if you have to sign a prenup it's a sure sign that you PROBABLY shouldn't marry. Besides if you marry a person with bad credit don't you marry their debt?- guess I'm the only one to fall into that trap, huh? So why shouldn't you benefit from the good as well. Furthermore marriage is a contract in itself and prenups contradict the terms of that agreement. With all that being said, I'd like to redirect your attention to the word in all caps at the beginning of my statement- Yes I'd consider signing one if asked but I wouldn't ask someone else to.

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Posted on Sat, Dec 31, 2005 15:02

thegoodlife2005 write:
Saw this topic come up on another thread and thought I'd start a new one here.

Seems some women seem hurt and offended by the very suggestion of a prenup. I, on the other hand, think it's a sensible move because it protects BOTH parties.

What do YOU think?





No, I would not...and If he won't want to marry me because of that decision...

Then he does not love me enough to know that I love him enough to marry him for LOVE....NOT for love of his money....



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Posted on Fri, Dec 30, 2005 17:04

I would most definitely sign a prenup and I would expect him to do the same.

Ok you love each other, but what happens down the track when loves leaves and complacancy sets in???

I have been badly burnt in past relationships, with the naive belief that "hey, we are in love and he would not take my money and run" HHAAAHH how wrong I was, and now am left struggling to suport myself.

Prenups are a neccesity to protect yourself. I do wish they were in existance in Australia when I needed them. But, no use in crying over spilt milk.