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Posted on Sun, Nov 25, 2007 14:54

When I marry I want a prenup.



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Posted on Fri, Nov 09, 2007 15:10

I HAVE GOT TO AGREE,what Tarheelman 316 says is true...marriage is somewhat associated with values,morals and please G.d virtues and honorability...if so your heart at that time should be so in sync that what on earth are you doing signing a prenup? IF your suspicions are prevalent...dont get married..simple.No prenup



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Posted on Thu, Jul 05, 2007 16:24

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I see nothing wrong with signing a prenuptial agreement. The way I look at it if I meet the love of my life its not because of his money its going to be what is inside of him. If he has worked for everything he has why not sign one its not my money. I believe that would make him feel better about our relationship as well. Knowing I'm not with him for the financial gain. He will know I am with him for love. I look at it as non marital property he had it prior to me and god forbids if we don't make it together he will have it after me.

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You are RIGHT on the money...See, there are many ways to skin the cat here....Speaking for myself, this is my take...

If you want to marry me, and I feel the same way, yet I am the one with the assets here, then you should WANT to eliminate the potential "business" in our relationship and marry me because you are in love with me, and ONLY that reason...NOT because you know that you will never end up on skid row...NOT because it would be cool to drive a new Benz every 2 years, etc...

Frankly, if I was with a woman that DIDN'T think it would be a good idea to sign one, and that DIODN'T want me to know that no matter what, it was only for the right reasons, then I would question whether or not she really loves me...

Love is blind, but when it comes to all of the things that I have worked hard for, I am not ready to put that on the line to see if my heart is telling the truth, or if I can tell that hers is....

If it didn't work out, then we both take what we came into the marraige with, and thats that...

Also, if we have children, there would HAVE to be a child support agreement in place...NO CHANCE that a woman is going to get $200,000+ per year in child support for one child, from me...I agree that you have to do what is best for the children, and that doesn't include being dropped off at school in a SL600...

Other guys need to understand this...



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Posted on Tue, Jul 03, 2007 10:45

thegoodlife421 write:
Saw this topic come up on another thread and thought I'd start a new one here.

Seems some women seem hurt and offended by the very suggestion of a prenup. I, on the other hand, think it's a sensible move because it protects BOTH parties.

What do YOU think?

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WEll...Id be dissapointed to realize the man i think im spending the rest of my life with is even thinking of us not being together! Like his faith in our sucsess as a couple is shakey...witch would put doubts in my head as well.

But its not more than that. Im a strong beliver that marriage if forever, so to realize that the person your marrying dosent see it that way (or trusts that you do?...OUTCH!)

All that having been said if he wants one im not sure I can trust HIM or his intent to stick around when i get old...id have to really sit down and get to the bottom of it with him.

Is it really about him feeling he needs to protect him money from me? (indicating a lack of trust and perhaps a reason nt to get married) or is it more of a way for him to rest assured that i wont leave him for another( becouse he loves me so much) it would have to be one hell of an argument to put my heart at easy and if i did decide to sign it id make sure that if he messes up im taken care of as well. another option is just not getting married...id rather that than feel a looming distrust between us.

its really a complex situation and while i understand why a man with alot of hard earned money would want to protect that...its painful if you know you have only good intentions.



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Posted on Wed, Jun 20, 2007 11:23

I see a serious oversight in regards to prenuptial agreement. Your Will and Testament should be in order also if a union of marriage is proposed. Unfortunately Anna Nicole Smith is a prime example of what a mess things can be.

Love can be real and realistic at the same time. Most marriages only last approximately 5 years so if would be safer to protect assets.

However if you do a prenuptial agreement to protect assets a agreement should be signed by both so the other that has no assets understands if things go wrong they aren't left destroyed.

Again leverage is the question and having that over your relationship is your choice.

More Protection = Less Freedom
More Freedom = Less Protection
is just a fact of life.

Values of assets create personal preferences in these areas.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 19, 2007 12:25

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tarheelman316 write:

If you think you need a prenup, you shouldn't get married in the first place.

RIGHT ON!!!

...I couldn't have said it better myself.

I recognize that there are some pretty shady characters in this world and people will go to great lengths to swindle, steal and manipulate to acquire their wealth. HOWEVER, I am not one of those people and I do not want to be forced to make that guarantee in writing. If he is that attached to his "things", then he is most likely not the man for me.

I don't want to marry a man who doesn't trust me enough to know that I am not going to marry him and then divorce him and take his "stuff". The man I marry will value the love, honor, support and respect I provide far above the value of his physical possessions.

For those men who require a Pre-Nup...

You can lose material possessions in the blink of an eye for any number of reasons. True love will be there even when the money runs out and a GOOD WOMAN will help you get back on your feet and rebuild that empire.



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Posted on Sun, Jun 17, 2007 06:59

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It would also be necessary for a man to sign a prenuptial, don't you think?

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Indeed. I agree.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 12, 2007 16:25

It would also be necessary for a man to sign a prenuptial, don't you think?



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Posted on Wed, Apr 04, 2007 21:34

A prenup is necessary, sadly.

I wish it wasn't, but it is.
Personally, I can see why the women would use it as much as the men.

If I could get some rich woman to marry me, I'd divorce her the next second to get half of her fortune.

Selfish and cruel? Yes, but so is the idea of sex before marriage.

Comparing apples to oranges? Sure am, they're all fruit anyway.



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Posted on Tue, Dec 12, 2006 10:29

If you think you need a prenup, you shouldn't get married in the first place.



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Posted on Mon, Dec 04, 2006 14:48

I am going to be honest and speak for myself and some women I know. We are on here to find a man that is amibitious, strong and willing to do what it takes to succeed. These same men have played the field and are mostly ready to settle down and not play games.

Every woman I know, including myself have had dreams of a man that could take care of her. There is nothing wrong with that as long as she takes care of him in the home.

Being able to take your children to school, stay with them when they are sick, go on vacation, support them in extracurricular activities, fixing dinner on most nights, etc. is a dream come true. Not having to worry about how the bills are going to be paid, if you can work overtime, taking vacation or sick time and being off to do the things that make having a husband and children worth while.

Keeping this in mind, if the couple agrees with this arrangement then fine if not the man needs to respect the fact that she may want to work outside the home. Never the less an agreement should be signed. You can agree til death do us part but because of life you never know what may happen and you should always be prepared for the what if.

Now if I am with a man for 10 to 50 years, stayed at home or worked part time and we decide to break up it wouldn't be right for me to walk away from the relationship to start all over again. It has been done but that doesn't make it right. So when you are looking for a woman find out what she wants out of her life and relationships. Her past should speak for itself.

Everyone on here is not a millionaire and they can lie saying they are. Who is going to verify it? So the name of this site doesn't guarantee that he is financially stable.



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Posted on Tue, Nov 28, 2006 00:06

I see nothing wrong with signing a prenuptial agreement. The way I look at it if I meet the love of my life its not because of his money its going to be what is inside of him. If he has worked for everything he has why not sign one its not my money. I believe that would make him feel better about our relationship as well. Knowing I'm not with him for the financial gain. He will know I am with him for love. I look at it as non marital property he had it prior to me and god forbids if we don't make it together he will have it after me.



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Posted on Thu, Nov 02, 2006 09:04

L.O.L...
Hmmm, I am learning more about the femmine intuition every day! Man, have I been niave
about you ladies! A pre-nuptial is the only way to go after the first marriage! Especially if no children are involved, and if children arrive, that also can be covered in a pre-nuptial.



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Posted on Sun, Sep 24, 2006 12:28

yes i would because like many people have said it protects both people and it also makes sure that either party if something were to happen would be safe if a divorce were to proceed. along with financial safety it also protects the kids to make sure they are protected if anything were to happen...
with my first engagement i was goint to sign the prenup but then things went sour and dont want to talk about it but when i did get married i didn't because we didn't have anything but anywayz what im trying to say that if my future husband or someone that i plan to marry came up to me with a prenup i would have no problem signing it becuase its not just protecting them its protecting you to becuase it also helps them know if your marrying for love or money. and either way it should be signed. now im blabbling and so i will quit but thats all i want to say..lol



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Posted on Tue, Aug 08, 2006 19:55

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I wouldn't. A contract is only as binding as the lawyer, interpreting it to his client's advantage, is skilled. Why don't North American courts strengthen the power of the marriage certificate?

Right now, you can go to a church and swear before God, and sign an agreement in the presence of a clergyman or a civil service clerk ... and if one wants to hightail it away on the other, there is nothing the abandoned one can do about it. Even if the other takes all the property of the marriage with him.

If your business partner did that to you, you could sue his ass-ets so he doesn't even have a pot to pee in when you're through. But marriage and then divorce (or seperation) has ruined millions of people in Canada and the US, yet our courts have never modified the practise to make it more failsafe and less damaging to their citizens.

Oh, ya. The pre-nup.

I wouldn't sign it just on account of my stubbornness. If I say I will love someone for the rest of my days, I MEAN it. If he can't believe me, then what the heck does matrimony mean to him? Why get married at all?

Just my 2 cents.



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Posted on Tue, Aug 08, 2006 17:37

Could be very important is both sides have kids from previous marriages.



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Posted on Sat, Aug 05, 2006 18:07

Absolutely. Bring your heart into it and pray that your love lasts forever. If by chance it doesn't, be kind and wish them the best. Sort of a sad topic, but a good question.



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Posted on Sat, Aug 05, 2006 08:58

thegoodlife421 write:
Saw this topic come up on another thread and thought I'd start a new one here.

Seems some women seem hurt and offended by the very suggestion of a prenup. I, on the other hand, think it's a sensible move because it protects BOTH parties.

What do YOU think?


I never did and we ended our relationship just fine and without any distress. But the difference is the reasons we came together. Out of truly loving each other. Even when it didn't work many years later, we still loved each other and would never have hurt the other or our children. I think prenups are critical when it's obvious the man or woman is after only assets. Otherwise, if two people truly love each other, they won't need one. But with as shallow as many are these days, I certainly would be certain before I married, let alone got involved with any man.



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Posted on Sat, Jul 22, 2006 22:13

Anyone that makes decent money nowadays should. It is ridiculous to not protect yourself and your assets. And frankly if I was marrying a wealthy man I would think less of him if he wasnt wise enough to protect everything he worked so hard to make.



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Posted on Thu, Jul 06, 2006 06:00

Just about anyone with 6 figures or more stored away would want a prenup. Marriage is not what it used to be. Everyone is much more independent and can leave at the drop of a hat. As well many are marrying for the wrong reason. Their intentions may be good but when it all falls apart they are looking for a big payday.

Most of the people who would not sign a prenup have little financially. Most of the people who would sign a prenup have much. Nuff said.