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Posted on Thu, Dec 29, 2005 17:56

I think it's ok to be with a man who is older than you are. I like older men. ;))



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Posted on Thu, Dec 29, 2005 12:16

you know I can't wait till I'm 60. Then I'll be able to date all the 50 year olds, 40 year olds, 30 year olds, and 20 year olds.



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Posted on Thu, Dec 29, 2005 05:00

Angel_Kleo write:
So, what you think about it?


Angel_Kleo,

Follow your heart, I had an aunt 15 years older than her husband, I have another aunt 9 years older than her husband, I have uncles who are 10 to 14 years older than their wives...there is no barrier but what the heart perceives as one. Don't just dream, do the dream then you will know its full richness in true experience, you are on a quest to find true love and true love will only materialize the day you take action to find out its true meaning. Only the true raw experience of life will offer the meaning your heart and soul longs for; otherwise it will stay just an imagination and a dream and perhaps one of the greatest opportunity missed.

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Posted on Fri, Dec 23, 2005 15:02

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Just think...You could register the bride at Toy R Us ....X-box, coupla games- you'd be all set.


Ok, I confess. When I was 35 I dated someone who was 21. I did not know that at the time, I thought he was at least 29, which for me, was still pushing it a little.

It was a "great" relationship until we tried to have a "conversation." If he talked and I listened, it was fine and if I talked and he listened, it was great. But I don't believe we ever had a 2 way conversation.

And that is because he could not contribute to my experiences, and I couldn't contribute to conversations about the decible gage for his soupped up muffler.

It was weird, but also great, I think I became "comfortable" with complete silence for the first time in my life. What was even stranger is that I was physically more active than he was, but overall it was a very "relaxing" relationship.

Needless to say it lasted about 6 months and then we ran out of attempting conversation.

  


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Posted on Fri, Dec 23, 2005 08:33

Angel_Kleo write:
So, what you think about it?


What is the age difference between this man and your father/mother? From the theory standpoint, I don't think there is anything wrong at all with an age gap, but I think the practicality of the relationship would be odd...

My mother was 24 years older than me and my father was 30 years older, that seems like a lot of time for a gap in a romantic relationship.

But if you and your partner both gain from the relationship what you want, then go for it. Consideration for a long term relationship should be given for where your relationship interaction will be in 5 years, 10 years and 20 years. If you get a satisfactory answer from that, then go for it! Of course, that is just my perspective, since I am looking for a long term partner. If the goal of the couple was perhaps a 6 month fling or a 5 year time period, then a large age gap would not be such a consideration.

One time during a discussion with a former lover, she had made a few comments to which I rhetorically asked "so in other words, you will hang around as long as they amuse you?"... As the years have passed since then, I ponder how true that seems to be. Should you expect to find your soulmate everytime or do relationships come with a season???

The important part is that you find someone with whom you share values of life, intellectual plateaus, and physical interactions. In a relationship, look for commication, negotiation, and compromise... from both parties involved regardless of age.

AK: You are a very good looking woman. There are not many words in your profile on which to review intellectual or emotional natures. 36 years is a big age difference. You at 18, would put him at 54, and the average man only lives 70-75 years. You are still coming to the physical peek time of your life, and male body parts do start to wear with age... If you are shopping, you might want to consider something with a little longer warranty period.



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Posted on Fri, Dec 23, 2005 04:47

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To: niceguylooking,........
What I posted about 50/50 is a famous play on words like "Who's on First" introduced by the same 2 people!..

In the future I'll place a "LOL" for you.
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LOL: Two men went fishing,their boat was anchored under a bridge, A funeral passed over the bridge and one man put his pole down,stood up and placed his hand over his heart.
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After it passed his friend commented on his friends respect by standing up. His friend said it was the least he could do, she was a good wife these last 30 years. LOL.......

LOL Men: every time a man makes a mistake it is because he did not follow his ladies instructions.LOL........

LOL At the Rose Bowl a speaker asked the men to form 2 groups on the field, on the left only Hen Pecked men and on the right everyone else.When the dust settled only one man was on the right. Talking to the lone man who was in the Not Hen Pecked section the speaker asked "Why are you the only one here, The man said "I don't know, my wife told me to stand here" LOL........

niceguylooking your comment was crude, don't be so quick to judge what you do not understand, as a nice guy you can do better.



Larry, Your right, there is something I'm missing. Please help me to understand. Its way above me, I guess.



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Posted on Thu, Dec 22, 2005 17:05

As a general rule I won't consider marrying anyone younger than my dog Tess.

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Posted on Tue, Dec 20, 2005 21:01

To: niceguylooking,........
What I posted about 50/50 is a famous play on words like "Who's on First" introduced by the same 2 people!..

In the future I'll place a "LOL" for you.
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LOL: Two men went fishing,their boat was anchored under a bridge, A funeral passed over the bridge and one man put his pole down,stood up and placed his hand over his heart.
.
After it passed his friend commented on his friends respect by standing up. His friend said it was the least he could do, she was a good wife these last 30 years. LOL.......

LOL Men: every time a man makes a mistake it is because he did not follow his ladies instructions.LOL........

LOL At the Rose Bowl a speaker asked the men to form 2 groups on the field, on the left only Hen Pecked men and on the right everyone else.When the dust settled only one man was on the right. Talking to the lone man who was in the Not Hen Pecked section the speaker asked "Why are you the only one here, The man said "I don't know, my wife told me to stand here" LOL........

niceguylooking your comment was crude, don't be so quick to judge what you do not understand, as a nice guy you can do better.

  


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Posted on Mon, Dec 19, 2005 21:34

Does this work :
Everything is community property, meaning everything you both own is 50% yours and 50% his. So when he gets something he give you your 50% ,since everything is 50%/50% when you receive yours, you give back 50%.

  


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Posted on Mon, Dec 19, 2005 16:50

Angel_Kleo write:
So, what you think about it?


A man that would even think about that is way to scarey !

Run, Girl Run !



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Posted on Mon, Dec 19, 2005 10:46

GEm, thanks a lot for your advice, i visited your profile and you look AMAZIBGLy!!! really!!!!
wish you good luck and happiness!!!!
Sveta



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Posted on Mon, Dec 19, 2005 10:43

the problem is (or maybe not a problem) that i EXTREMELY LOVE this MAn, and He EXTREMELy LOVES me...
yes i want to make a great career, he is only agree and ready to help.
with this peson i feel VERY HAPPY , and ABSOLUTELY don't feel any age difference



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Posted on Sun, Dec 18, 2005 11:45

bobsthename write:
I draw the line at 30 years. You have to have some self respect. Besides, anything younger that that for me is jailbait.

25 is young, your really agreeing it is ok, admit it, bob, you really would rather have a younger chic, but the question is, would they want you, without a dollar sign attached..lmao



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Posted on Sun, Dec 18, 2005 11:03

I draw the line at 30 years. You have to have some self respect. Besides, anything younger that that for me is jailbait.



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Posted on Sun, Dec 18, 2005 05:58

WrightWoodPT write:
Just think...You could register the bride at Toy R Us ....X-box, coupla games- you'd be all set.






ROFLMAO....Let's add you can buy clothes at Kids R Us and get into movies half price!
WrightWood, I've seen you on other forums....your wit is awesome!

I don't think I get this 'quote' function right...what's the trick?

  


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Posted on Sat, Dec 17, 2005 05:40

Just think...You could register the bride at Toy R Us ....X-box, coupla games- you'd be all set.



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Posted on Wed, Dec 14, 2005 08:50

I think it depends on the reasons behind marring someone below the age of 30 if the man is much older. If he's marring someone that young because he's hoping to "control" her then I think it is wrong. I think if an older man specifically sets out to marry someone so young then he should truthfully evaluate his feelings about, perhaps feelings of inadequacy when dating a woman. And I say woman in general because a female at 21 might have formed just as many opinions as a female at 40.

Or I think if you are like Picasso who seemed to happen to fall in love with women much younger that is ok. But I also think Picasso had a love for all females no matter what age.



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Posted on Wed, Dec 14, 2005 06:34

DoctorX write:
Nothing wrong if the girl intends to outlive her man by 36+ years.

Nice one Doc.
Hi AK. Personally, at this time I couldn't see myself marrying someone who is the same age or younger than my daughters, so the girl would have to be at least 23, "only" 25 years younger than me :)
However, when my girls are in their 30s I'll re-assess the situation and let you know if my views have changed.