is it ok to marry a man who is 36 years older than a girl? Long Term Relationship

  • View author's info Posted on Apr 20, 2009 at 04:40 PM


    I'm not sure what you mean by ok? Two consenting adults certainly have right to do what they feel is right.

    I will say this. You have to prepare yourself for the possible loss of someone you love and cherish.

    I lived with a man for 25 years, he was eleven years older than I was. It was instant attraction and I wouldn't have changed meeting him for the world, but he did die of cancer.

    Ultimately it is up to you. Good-Luck

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  • View author's info Posted on Apr 18, 2009 at 07:40 PM


    Not sure anything matters in 100 years unless it effects the planet/world/enviroment...who cares it they are happy.
  • View author's info Posted on Nov 24, 2007 at 08:53 PM


    OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOnly if you really love him.there is a gentelman in my life that 20 yrs older than i'am and it mean nothing to me. i would marry him in a heart beat if he knew I cared that much.
  • View author's info Posted on Oct 04, 2007 at 07:55 AM


    absolute_angel write:
    Angel_Kleo write:
    So, what you think about it?

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    I'm in love with somebody who is 35 years old than me. If you asked me "Could I fall in love with someone 35 years older than me" before, I'd say NO, but now I know love has no boundaries...My advice, if you're in love, make all possible to keep it., if you don't love him, don't waste your time..Trust me time goes so fast..So try to find that special someone and enjoy your life...

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    Yeh, I bet it's because he has a shit load of money he's willing to leave behind for you, you vulture.
  • View author's info Posted on Sep 02, 2007 at 02:39 PM


    Dressage1 write:
    I think it's up to the parties involved. I wouldn't do it, remember you're going to have to sleep with him. If love's not involved, it's just prostitution.

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    If that's the case...
    then perhaps on that note we shouldn't prosecute the 21 year old men who bed and genuinely love some 14-16 year old girls?

    Why, if it was fine 100 years ago... why not today, eh?

    Personally, I find no problem with it.
    Though I believe what you said it's the heart and soul of this website:

    Shameless prostitution for one's gain through a relationship.

    Am I wrong? :-(
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 12, 2007 at 05:39 AM


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  • View author's info Posted on Jul 05, 2007 at 04:28 PM


    Sure...if your name is Anna Nicole...lol
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 03, 2007 at 10:48 AM


    put it this way...youll have alot of money one day...but if your in love with him youll also be very lonely...not to mention youll becone a care giver in your prime and my have to adopt/be left to raise kids n your own...
  • View author's info Posted on May 28, 2007 at 06:08 PM


    In a hundred years will it really matter?
  • View author's info Posted on May 26, 2007 at 11:03 PM


    36 + 24 =...uh, 60.

    Hmmmm, that's a big age difference.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 14, 2007 at 08:07 AM


    Angel_Kleo write:
    So, what you think about it?

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    Sounds to me like you're trying to find the easy way out of life.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 09, 2007 at 02:07 PM


    Age is just a number!
  • View author's info Posted on May 08, 2006 at 07:44 PM


    BobbyStL write:
    tallclassy69 write:
    Hi,
    Thanks for this topic. I would not marry anyone I dont love 100%. If you are able to fall in love with an older man, then go ahead. However, people will still think you married him to gain economically. I would recommend you to live with an older for 2-3 years as if you are married to him to see if that relationship really works for both of you.

    I'm curious what that shiny, sticky material is that's splattered on your face in your pic. Is it what I think it is...?


    Sorry Tallclassy69 if i show up as having looked at your profile, I couldn't resist i had to see what that shiny, sticky material is...lmao
  • View author's info Posted on May 04, 2006 at 11:44 PM


    Hi,
    Thanks for this topic. I would not marry anyone I dont love 100%. If you are able to fall in love with an older man, then go ahead. However, people will still think you married him to gain economically. I would recommend you to live with an older for 2-3 years as if you are married to him to see if that relationship really works for both of you.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 01, 2006 at 01:19 PM


    I understand why men want a younger gals....and thats fine to a certain level. But I think there comes a threshold point of "respectability" among colleagues, peers, and friends.

    When it goes a bit far.....(age gap gets wider)....people are judgmental, society is judgmental.

    Just have to wish you the best of luck and hope that you dont lose respect from everyone in general (your peers, colleagues, friends and family). Because unless you (young lady) are some sort of prodigy who can stand on your own feet, I hope you can handle the "whispers" in the room and out of the room when you two are out and about.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 29, 2005 at 05:56 PM


    I think it's ok to be with a man who is older than you are. I like older men. ;))
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 29, 2005 at 12:16 PM


    you know I can't wait till I'm 60. Then I'll be able to date all the 50 year olds, 40 year olds, 30 year olds, and 20 year olds.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 29, 2005 at 05:00 AM


    Angel_Kleo write:
    So, what you think about it?


    Angel_Kleo,

    Follow your heart, I had an aunt 15 years older than her husband, I have another aunt 9 years older than her husband, I have uncles who are 10 to 14 years older than their wives...there is no barrier but what the heart perceives as one. Don't just dream, do the dream then you will know its full richness in true experience, you are on a quest to find true love and true love will only materialize the day you take action to find out its true meaning. Only the true raw experience of life will offer the meaning your heart and soul longs for; otherwise it will stay just an imagination and a dream and perhaps one of the greatest opportunity missed.

    BQ
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 23, 2005 at 03:02 PM


    WrightWoodPT write:
    Just think...You could register the bride at Toy R Us ....X-box, coupla games- you'd be all set.


    Ok, I confess. When I was 35 I dated someone who was 21. I did not know that at the time, I thought he was at least 29, which for me, was still pushing it a little.

    It was a "great" relationship until we tried to have a "conversation." If he talked and I listened, it was fine and if I talked and he listened, it was great. But I don't believe we ever had a 2 way conversation.

    And that is because he could not contribute to my experiences, and I couldn't contribute to conversations about the decible gage for his soupped up muffler.

    It was weird, but also great, I think I became "comfortable" with complete silence for the first time in my life. What was even stranger is that I was physically more active than he was, but overall it was a very "relaxing" relationship.

    Needless to say it lasted about 6 months and then we ran out of attempting conversation.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 23, 2005 at 08:33 AM


    Angel_Kleo write:
    So, what you think about it?


    What is the age difference between this man and your father/mother? From the theory standpoint, I don't think there is anything wrong at all with an age gap, but I think the practicality of the relationship would be odd...

    My mother was 24 years older than me and my father was 30 years older, that seems like a lot of time for a gap in a romantic relationship.

    But if you and your partner both gain from the relationship what you want, then go for it. Consideration for a long term relationship should be given for where your relationship interaction will be in 5 years, 10 years and 20 years. If you get a satisfactory answer from that, then go for it! Of course, that is just my perspective, since I am looking for a long term partner. If the goal of the couple was perhaps a 6 month fling or a 5 year time period, then a large age gap would not be such a consideration.

    One time during a discussion with a former lover, she had made a few comments to which I rhetorically asked "so in other words, you will hang around as long as they amuse you?"... As the years have passed since then, I ponder how true that seems to be. Should you expect to find your soulmate everytime or do relationships come with a season???

    The important part is that you find someone with whom you share values of life, intellectual plateaus, and physical interactions. In a relationship, look for commication, negotiation, and compromise... from both parties involved regardless of age.

    AK: You are a very good looking woman. There are not many words in your profile on which to review intellectual or emotional natures. 36 years is a big age difference. You at 18, would put him at 54, and the average man only lives 70-75 years. You are still coming to the physical peek time of your life, and male body parts do start to wear with age... If you are shopping, you might want to consider something with a little longer warranty period.
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