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Posted on Tue, Nov 08, 2005 22:39

BQ write:
but one thing for sure about game and women, when I got divorced the attorney I choose was a woman as I told her the reason why I chosed her: it was because I knew woman play game and I wanted the divorced sealed so tight there was no recourse to open the settlement again.

She told me flatly yes, women play games and she would make sure the divorce ssttlement is so tight no air could blow in it ha! it was funny how she said it but it was good having a woman on your side who understood the inner game of their own kind.



I am certain there are ladies who fit this description, and plenty that dont also.

I was just interested in that author and finding the title of that book.
But thanks anyway.

Robert



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Posted on Sun, Nov 06, 2005 16:18

sacredscientist,

I read this some 7 years ago, I am not in possesion of the book as it was not mine in the first place as it was borrowed. I can't remember the name of the attorney or the book as I have read some 350 books over, but one thing for sure about game and women, when I got divorced the attorney I choose was a woman as I told her the reason why I chosed her: it was because I knew woman play game and I wanted the divorced sealed so tight there was no recourse to open the settlement again.

She told me flatly yes, women play games and she would make sure the divorce ssttlement is so tight no air could blow in it ha! it was funny how she said it but it was good having a woman on your side who understood the inner game of their own kind.

Now if I have any type of legal agreement with a woman I choose a woman lawyer as they understand each other way of thinking so they know where to draw the line.

BQ



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Posted on Sat, Nov 05, 2005 08:03

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Another thing the attorney said was women play games which men have no understanding of it at all, she also wrote women plan revenge and will engineer fights and things like that..it was quite an interesting research she had done.

BQ


Please be so kind as to post the name of the author and the title of the work. My interest is piqued. I want to read how she conducted her research.

Thank You



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Posted on Fri, Nov 04, 2005 14:40

Another thing the attorney said was women play games which men have no understanding of it at all, she also wrote women plan revenge and will engineer fights and things like that..it was quite an interesting research she had done.

BQ



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Posted on Fri, Nov 04, 2005 14:39

I am just sharing information I read and take no position for or against. I am just looking to balance things from one side of the coin to the other side.

The author also mentioned that many men won't report abuse from a spouse because he is a man. You know the pride thing and keeping silent.

BQ



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Posted on Thu, Nov 03, 2005 13:33

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A woman who was an attorney I believe from Toronto wrote a book and said about 60% of domestic violence is started by women but by what you hear in the main stream media you would never know it. The man is still made to be the scapegoat for many things that go wrong in a relationship because he doesn't stand up for himself: also men are not good at expressing deep feeling emotion in vocal form.

BQ

I hate to sound antiquated here but, that is utter hogwash. I have BA in Sociology and I can tell you from personal research into the statistics of domestic violence that the lady attorney is completely wrong in her evaluation. I do not know how she conducted her research, or who she may have interviewed, but I can tell you with complete certainty her statement is wrong. A simple search with google can lead the layman to enough soundly researched statistics to evidence the falsivity of her work. I for one would like to know the name of the author and the title of work you read this rubbish in.

No offense to you as you are merely relaying what you have read, but misinformation like that is abyssmal and the author should be chastised publicly.

National crime statistics in both America and Canada are very similiar in regard to who is doing it and what type of crimes are being committed. Plenty of good resources (websites of police, government, and nonprofits that assist victims) are accessible through the net to show you the numbers on everything I just said.

For example the US Department of Justice issued this information: In 92% of domestic violence incidents, crimes are committed by men against women (Violence Against Women, Bureau of Justice Statistics, US Justice Department, January 1994).

Again, not trying to beat on you BQ, but that author needs to realize what she wrote is completely absurd based against the numbers seen in the real world.



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Posted on Sun, Oct 30, 2005 13:44

OK, the subject keeps coming up, and women on this site keep getting burned. So let's talk about it, OK?

thegoodlife,

I think you are only looking at one side of the coin, many men I know got burned by women. I for one was being cheated on by my ex, but like you my sixth sense caught it, you know how the field changes inside you and I proved it afterward even though she denied till I gave her the name of the man.

Women are more open with their feelings and share their emotion with one another and men keep their feeling mostly for themselves and are more aptly to express them through physical contact than by vocally sharing them.

The problem of getting burned exist in both sexes but men are made to look like they are the bad and the ugly ones but I could say that of women too...some are REAL mean spirited.

A woman who was an attorney I believe from Toronto wrote a book and said about 60% of domestic violence is started by women but by what you hear in the main stream media you would never know it. The man is still made to be the scapegoat for many things that go wrong in a relationship because he doesn't stand up for himself: also men are not good at expressing deep feeling emotion in vocal form.

BQ
OK, the subject keeps coming up, and women on this site keep getting burned. So let's talk about it, OK?

thegoodlife,

I think you are only looking at one side of the coin, many men I know got burned by women. I for one was being cheated on by my ex, but like you my sixth sense caught it, you know how the field changes inside you and I proved it afterward even though she denied till I gave her the name of the man.

Women are more open with their feelings and share their emotion with one another and men keep their feeling mostly for themselves and are more aptly to express them through physical contact than by vocally sharing them.

The problem of getting burned exist in both sexes but men are made to look like they are the bad and the ugly ones but I could say that of women too...some are REAL mean spirited.

A woman who was an attorney I believe from Toronto wrote a book and said about 60% of domestic violence is started by women but by what you hear in the main stream media you would never know it. The man is still made to be the scapegoat for many things that go wrong in a relationship because he doesn't stand up for himself: also men are not good at expressing deep feeling emotion in vocal form.

BQ



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Posted on Sat, Oct 08, 2005 19:07

People reveal themselves to you early on. It's up to you whether you choose to see or not.



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Posted on Wed, Sep 21, 2005 13:55

One big clue is he has a long tail hanging from his behind,lol.



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Posted on Wed, Sep 21, 2005 11:12

GoodLife: Received your note and checked your profile. It does speak for itself as you said but your "on the market comment" on the Trust Fund thread raised an eyebrow. However this is the new millenium where things change in a heartbeat. Best of luck to you. That is if you happen to be the sort to leave anything at all to chance. Anthony



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Posted on Tue, Sep 20, 2005 19:16

Tell the men you want them to cook dinner for you at their house!! Make sure your cell is charged and car with a full tank!!



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Posted on Mon, Sep 19, 2005 15:13

Well . . . I just found this all out at lunchtime today. Apparently, if it is publicly available information, it may be had online, for a price of course.

I've never investigated a man. However, I have a very good sixth sense about them and have been pretty good about avoiding the bad ones. Others, however, such as women who don't trust their instincts, might find the $20-$50 (or whatever) worth their peace of mind . . . .



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Posted on Mon, Sep 19, 2005 14:28

Wow Goodlife do you have all that information at your finger tips in the states?? I cant imagine that we would have anything like that over here in the UK due to data protection.

Are you able to get information on any one in other countries too or just in the states?

Curious

  


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Posted on Mon, Sep 19, 2005 11:24

from another article:

Diana House hears stories like this dozens of times a day. House founded the background-check service DatingChecks (the usual online suffix)to ensure women that their online boyfriends are being truthful. House, who has worked with thousands of grateful clients, says flatly, "Around 40 percent of the guys online are misrepresenting themselves in some way. The Internet is a perfect place to pretend to be someone you're not." Another investigative option is PublicData (the usual internet suffix) Says 50-year-old Bobbie Henson, a Dallas media relations expert who met her husband online, "I used the site to view a man's driver's license. I could then click on his address and see the driver's license of anyone else living at that address. So if he was married, it would come up on the search." Or, if you know his name and the town he lives in, simply try the online WhitePages where there's a chance the Mr. ‑- and his Missus, if he's married ‑- are both in the book. That knowledge is useful, but it can be painful once you've come to care for a lying lad. So why not start your sleuthing before you meet or very early on?



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Posted on Mon, Sep 19, 2005 11:11

Dang dogs, they arent happy with the dish they have at home. They are out there making it difficult for the ladies to tell the difference between good pooches and the curs.

Here is an idea to help some of you. Be nosey, pry into his life and/or business at every level as quickly as the relationship allows, talk to friends and family. Ask to meet his friends and family.(Even if you have to setup a dinner at your house for him to invite friends and family to. Make sure to get both groups- friends and family) Also, make him wait for the physical intimacy. Make him wait a long time.(For some women, 1 month is a long time, but I was thinking more like 6 months to a year, or longer) I mean you do want your man to think that you are worth waiting for, right? You know you are worth waiting for so make him prove that he thinks it also. If he doesnt think that, he isnt the one you want. (Some folks say that it is unrealistic to make a man wait that long, well I think that if he isnt able to wait for you, it is a problem. How do you know he will even wait for you to get home each day instead of wandering over to the neighbors house for company? Those are the guys who are out there chasing other women even when married.)
If he freely lets you into his life to look around and explore, it means he wants you to get to know him. Isnt that part of being with someone? Knowing them and sharing each day the things that happened? Hard to do that if the two of you dont talk. (Big secret time: Guys love it when their woman takes an active interest in the things that the guy likes. So join him in one of his activities, even if you dont understand it. Show him that you are interested in him....helps to flush out the liars also.) If he isnt able to let you in(whether or not he is married) what kind of relationship is thatgoing to be over the long term?

Think in terms of what you want from him, not what he will allow you to have from him.

Just my two cents worth.
A divorced guy in search of a good woman.



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Posted on Mon, Sep 19, 2005 10:22

Miss you have either gone through something bad or are going through something bad right now. While I believe it is true that men can be both stupid and guilty of duplicity I refuse to buy into the logic that it is only men that are pig*s. After all you yourself posted a comment on another thread that you are still technically on the market. What would your man companion have said if he would have seen you say somthing like that I wonder? Would he have called YOU a pig?



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Posted on Mon, Sep 19, 2005 10:08

found on a single woman's weblog:
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The observation about men that I wanted to write about is worth mentioning too ..... how to tell if he's married - well, for one, if the tan mark on his bare ring finger doesn't give it away, or the fact that he only gives you his cell phone number (and it's your 10th date); perhaps, that he has to go to the bathroom every 10 minutes (while dialing on his cell phone on the way) may be a clue.
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Actually, weird cell-phone behavior is a big, big clue. If he can't take a call in front of you, take the hint. One local married guy who was trying hard to get into my pants used to call me from his cell when he was walking the family dog. I never got his home phone number, and no, he never got in my pants.