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Posted on Mon, Apr 03, 2006 14:39

I agree with Goodlife regarding "Winks". I tend to delete "winks". Sure some people just don't know what to say and all of us fear rejection but the easiest thing is to just make a comment upon something the person said in their profile and don't expect a response.
However, I do not agree with Goodlife when she says that "Men should make the first move". In days of old, women would drop their hanker chiefs and a gentleman would pick it up. This is a very simple "Gambit". People really do not know what a "Gambit" is anymore. Sometimes a "gambit" is just running into someone by accident...on purpose. We have all "strategically placed" ourselves near someone we might be interested in and just try to strike up a very innocuous conversation. Sometimes a person is receptive, sometimes not. If they are, they will "shape" the conversation to keep it going. If they are not interested....a person can pretty much tell from the tone of the voice, enthusiasm and body language. Gambits are very useful because in this way no one really gets hurt and no one really gets embarrassed.....even though they might be disappointed. In the final analysis it is the women who select the men they want to be with....not the other way around.....It just pleases our male egos to think that we "conquered" some woman....what chauvinistic myopic nonsense.
Women just don't know the amount of power they have over men..

  


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Posted on Mon, Jan 09, 2006 09:37

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I don't think it's very polite to just ignore whatever the first form of communication is....adults should be just that...ADULT...
I still believe a polite no thanks, I'm not interested" is the way to go...JMHO...

Leggz, I agree. It is only polite to reply back to any communication. What is the harm?



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Posted on Wed, Jan 04, 2006 07:29

When a man sends me a 'wink', I check out his profile, if he's not a paying member, and I'm not a paying member....what do you do?



There is one site I joined where neither are paying members, and there is an option to let the other person know that you are not a member...


I sent that to a guy, and he sent the same thing back...needless to say...I did no further communication with him....I just felt like if he were really interested...He would go ahead and join....He kept sending me all sorts of winks....I had to 'ignore' him in the end....I'm really glad I did...


I wink guys...if they then email me back...I respond....


If I see someone I really would like to get to know...[this has happened also], I join to be able to email this person....only to be told later....

He's married and looking, naturally his profile "relationship status" has him as everything OTHER than what he truly is....


I don't think it's very polite to just ignore whatever the first form of communication is....adults should be just that...ADULT...
I still believe a polite no thanks, I'm not interested" is the way to go...JMHO...

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Posted on Mon, Jan 02, 2006 14:11

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I thought this era was all about women's liberation. If she is interested, I think she will reply.


Women liberation created a lot of sissies and wussies among men and now they can't find a real man as he is as rare as gold in the ground " I mean the type who can make you women feel those emotions; I think you get it " because the social fabric of a real man is barely recognizable from the 50's in our North American society, I guess we need to get back to basic and re-learn our gender roles and re-balance the status-co.

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Posted on Fri, Dec 30, 2005 05:27

Hello Carcrazy!! You look just like my yoga teacher. Resemblance is striking!!



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Posted on Fri, Dec 02, 2005 09:00

I thought this era was all about women's liberation. If she is interested, I think she will reply.



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Posted on Thu, Dec 01, 2005 14:38

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I think a wink is an expression of interest and a friendly jesture. Nothing more, nothing less. Might just be a friendly jesture from someone who saw your post here on the forums and sent you a smile.

Don't read too much into it. I don't believe it is a marriage proposal. If you get a wink, and like their profile or their posts on the forums, wink back. What the heck...

I personally like the wink thing. I have done the internet personals thing for awhile off and on (ie. off after I find someone, back on when not dating anyone seriously). I used to sit and read their profile and write out this long letter tailored to them, pouring out my thoughts, dreams, etc. But you know what? The reality is that we are all looking for that special someone. The person you are winking at/writing to is as well. It all boils down to chemistry, which is either there or it isn't. You might feel some and spend a great deal of time writing out your letter, only to have your picture peeked, your profile skimmed and the letter deleted because they don't feel the same. Personally, I don't need the practice typing, so normally I will send a wink and see if I get one back. Atleast then, I know there is some common ground, and then I can begin some further communication to define what that common ground might be...

As for whose responsibility it is to initiate... WTF? Last time I checked it was 2005... What's with all the silly rules? Or maybe I am just biased as I am searching for a peer, not just an object of my affection. There was a book put out several years ago, training women on manipulating men to get that marriage proposal called The Rules. In response, Barbara De Angelis wrote a book called The Real Rules.

If you fall reaching for the stars, atleast you got up off your butt, and if only slightly, you have increased your odds of getting there.

Sure, I understand this is my opinion, but for those anti-winkers out there, it probably wouldn't have worked anyway, so the wink still does it's job.


Don't read too much into it. I don't believe it is a marriage proposal. If you get a wink, and like their profile or their posts on the forums, wink back. What the heck...

That was a good pointer, had a good laugh..keep them coming.

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Posted on Thu, Nov 10, 2005 10:01

I think a wink is an expression of interest and a friendly jesture. Nothing more, nothing less. Might just be a friendly jesture from someone who saw your post here on the forums and sent you a smile.

Don't read too much into it. I don't believe it is a marriage proposal. If you get a wink, and like their profile or their posts on the forums, wink back. What the heck...

I personally like the wink thing. I have done the internet personals thing for awhile off and on (ie. off after I find someone, back on when not dating anyone seriously). I used to sit and read their profile and write out this long letter tailored to them, pouring out my thoughts, dreams, etc. But you know what? The reality is that we are all looking for that special someone. The person you are winking at/writing to is as well. It all boils down to chemistry, which is either there or it isn't. You might feel some and spend a great deal of time writing out your letter, only to have your picture peeked, your profile skimmed and the letter deleted because they don't feel the same. Personally, I don't need the practice typing, so normally I will send a wink and see if I get one back. Atleast then, I know there is some common ground, and then I can begin some further communication to define what that common ground might be...

As for whose responsibility it is to initiate... WTF? Last time I checked it was 2005... What's with all the silly rules? Or maybe I am just biased as I am searching for a peer, not just an object of my affection. There was a book put out several years ago, training women on manipulating men to get that marriage proposal called The Rules. In response, Barbara De Angelis wrote a book called The Real Rules.

If you fall reaching for the stars, atleast you got up off your butt, and if only slightly, you have increased your odds of getting there.

Sure, I understand this is my opinion, but for those anti-winkers out there, it probably wouldn't have worked anyway, so the wink still does it's job.

  


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Posted on Sat, Nov 05, 2005 10:33

Hi Everyone!

Hey Sharon Sweetie,

I liked your last post. Quite an interesting theory too, and very possibly true also. One thing to ponder on photo's of people in business/life though. You can always take a photo further back from a distance so it leaves a little to the imagination without revealing the fine details like a bust shot or close up might!

FYI- I like your photo and the distance it is back from a potrait, and I also like one in a million's face shot. You are both very beautiful ladies. BTW- A close up like One In A Million is showing, really shows off her beautiful eyes, smile, dimples, and a few other features that can catch a gentleman's eye quick too. But I like your new pic also, and I still liked the last one of the walk on the beach too! Just my opinion for what it is worth, lol.



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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 14:16

Oneinamillion...I agree with most of your points, but you have left out one...many affluential people do not post their picturs for privacy purposes due to their position in business/life. They are more than willing to share a photo if they are also interested in you. You could inadvertently be closing a door on a potential significant other. One should always make sure they have as many options as possible...my opinion, you don't have to agree with it.
Oneinamillion...I agree with most of your points, but you have left out one...many affluential people do not post their picturs for privacy purposes due to their position in business/life. They are more than willing to share a photo if they are also interested in you. You could inadvertently be closing a door on a potential significant other. One should always make sure they have as many options as possible...my opinion, you don't have to agree with it.



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Posted on Sat, Oct 29, 2005 18:03

My take is a wink is good as it at least show the woman has an interest and someone you might have never notice who had an interest. When that is initiated then I read her profile for compatibilties; if all is well at this point I would send an e-mail and read her response, sometime it is a cold start and sometime it is a warm start.

I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman initiating contact,men should be smart enough to take the lead if he is interested in what he sees and likes about that person.

Looks & compatabilities are the top things I look for.

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My take is a wink is good as it at least show the woman has an interest and someone you might have never notice who had an interest. When that is initiated then I read her profile for compatibilties; if all is well at this point I would send an e-mail and read her response, sometime it is a cold start and sometime it is a warm start.

I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman initiating contact,men should be smart enough to take the lead if he is interested in what he sees and likes about that person.

Looks & compatabilities are the top things I look for.

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Posted on Sat, Oct 29, 2005 16:30

I agree...read the profile first men. Also, I don't mind winks first, but no photo...no reply. I get many, many contacts a day and if there is no photo, well, I don't have time to write and ask for one. Be honest and post your pic. I believe if you don't post a pic 1. you're married 2. you're fat 3. you're ugly...agree? Also..I agree..check that spelling guys. I have deleted many a email for that reason. I want an educated, smart man.
I agree...read the profile first men. Also, I don't mind winks first, but no photo...no reply. I get many, many contacts a day and if there is no photo, well, I don't have time to write and ask for one. Be honest and post your pic. I believe if you don't post a pic 1. you're married 2. you're fat 3. you're ugly...agree? Also..I agree..check that spelling guys. I have deleted many a email for that reason. I want an educated, smart man.

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Posted on Fri, Oct 28, 2005 15:08

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I will have to agree with Romantic Lass, on this one. Killian, you are such a doll, and a real joy to talk to, after all where would I be without my "little buddy"? . Besides which as has been previously stated, anyone who is too much interested in looks isnt someone that you want to be with anyway, theres more than enough pretty people to go around, but few who are genuine. Feel blessed, being one of the few. I have a hard time being taken seriously, and I think I am going to remove my pictures, they are just too... I dont know, overtly physical? Besides, Killian I have always enjoyed hearing from you I think that you deserve to be happy, so take the plunge, and post a picture. I think that you may be pleasantly surprised.
I will have to agree with Romantic Lass, on this one. Killian, you are such a doll, and a real joy to talk to, after all where would I be without my "little buddy"? . Besides which as has been previously stated, anyone who is too much interested in looks isnt someone that you want to be with anyway, theres more than enough pretty people to go around, but few who are genuine. Feel blessed, being one of the few. I have a hard time being taken seriously, and I think I am going to remove my pictures, they are just too... I dont know, overtly physical? Besides, Killian I have always enjoyed hearing from you I think that you deserve to be happy, so take the plunge, and post a picture. I think that you may be pleasantly surprised.

You're such a gent Musashi, Sorry I have been busy and haven't even had time to hit my email box.



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Posted on Sun, Oct 23, 2005 08:46

I think that little girl looks like you now, Blondeindian. I also want a diamond. I don't care if it's a canary diamond or not. I want a big diamond like Elizabeth Taylor.
I think that little girl looks like you now, Blondeindian. I also want a diamond. I don't care if it's a canary diamond or not. I want a big diamond like Elizabeth Taylor.



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Posted on Sun, Oct 23, 2005 08:19

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lass, the little girl looks like me when i was little to,lol..
lass, the little girl looks like me when i was little to,lol..

Some things are just meant to be...So have the canary escaped from the cage yet?

  


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Posted on Fri, Oct 21, 2005 18:52

lass, the little girl looks like me when i was little to,lol..
lass, the little girl looks like me when i was little to,lol..

  


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Posted on Fri, Oct 21, 2005 08:17

blondeindian write:
a canary diamond from california, would be nice, lol, whatcha think of that one lass...
a canary diamond from california, would be nice, lol, whatcha think of that one lass...

Ah yeah! Indian. I gave up years ago on holding out for my first diamond to be an engagement ring...FAH! I was engaged three years, never got a ring, and am now raising my daughter on my own...so I bought myself diamonds. But a canary diamond, well I guess I will have to pray to St. Barbie, Indian, LMAO.

We really are having too much fun with St. Barbie, you know?
LOL

He Indian, start praying now for that Canary and I wish you luck...LOL

  
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Posted on Wed, Oct 19, 2005 23:10

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Hey Bonnie Sweetie,

I almost missed this post of yours, but I didn't! I am still lol. You are too funny lil cutie!

Your Quote:
NO Blonde...I love chopped liver my favorite dish..
Should start a thread to invent great 'winks'..lol

e.g. 'Hey , my grandma likes you, interested?
'All my 8 kids think you could be their dad.'
'I am planning my wedding next week, need a groom desperately and think you fit the bill.'
'Need a date to go to a wedding , mine.'

Ok Bonnie, good subject to start, winks or chopped liver? lol. JK! Alright darling, first things first. Your grandma, is she willing to share me with you? Second, About your 8 kids, any of them look like me? You never know about those blind dates in the past, lol. And third, should I wear a suit or Tuxedo to your wedding? Thanks darling for the laughs!


Funny Blonde...my grandma would turn in her grave if you want to share her with me..my 8 kids might just be the offspring of some strange encounter you had , now tht you claim to be a CEO, shall I file paternity suits for some of them? YOu could wear anything to my wedding just don't forget the wedding ring...lol



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Posted on Wed, Oct 19, 2005 16:12

a canary diamond from california, would be nice, lol, whatcha think of that one lass...
a canary diamond from california, would be nice, lol, whatcha think of that one lass...

  


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Posted on Wed, Oct 19, 2005 11:12

Hi Romantic Lass Dear,

You are so welcome for the compliment sweetie.

Your Quote:

Blonde....

I LOVE that you get me!!!!! Thank you

And I have one more thing to interject here about your pic. Take a look at the woman sitting in the background looking at the male chippendale dancer, she just might be his woman admiring him while he performs, lol. Just a thought, still lol.
Hi Romantic Lass Dear,

You are so welcome for the compliment sweetie.

Your Quote:

Blonde....

I LOVE that you get me!!!!! Thank you

And I have one more thing to interject here about your pic. Take a look at the woman sitting in the background looking at the male chippendale dancer, she just might be his woman admiring him while he performs, lol. Just a thought, still lol.