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Posted on Mon, Oct 10, 2005 04:27

Well, this one doesn't turn me on, I don't eat meat at all.

So.. let's go back to the subject...

I am among ladies who don't make the first step towards men. Mostly men like beeing free and doing things when the fancy takes them. I don't usually answer the winks either, don't even have time for that, and, if someone is timid he is just not for me, because I would like to meet a sure-footed man, who's sure of himself and maybe a bit cheeky - such man, especially if he's good looking, usually gets what he wants from life -
and not the one who would go with the flow like if with a flock... I must add, I had never made the first step and so far do not regret it.



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Posted on Mon, Oct 10, 2005 01:17

HOw did 'Chop LIver' as an euphemism become a dish here? lol

foie gras, pate-all my favorite.

MY favorite way of cooking liver:
chicken or pork liver sliced thinly.
Stir fry on high heat with lots of julienne stripped ginger and garlic. Stir in thick gravy made of Thick soya sauce, sesame oil and wine. We take that as a nutritious post-natal dish.

Japanese style -grill on skewers , baste with thick soya and mirin sauce marinade.
The trick in cooking liver is to have high heat so that the outside is cooked just right leaving the inside medium rare , as in steaks..

Blondelightning - you will now trigger my taste buds when I tuck into my foie gras..you are food for thought! lol

  


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Posted on Sun, Oct 09, 2005 19:25


weelassy1 write:

sharp1 write:

Bonnie88 write:

BlondeLightning write:
Yeah Bonnie,

You said it right. Being a very shy gentleman like I am, lol. Sending a wink lets the person know if the other person is interested in them if they reply back. It is sort of a green light scenario. Getting a reply back says, Ok I am interested, your move next. No reply is obvious- Get Lost, Not Interested.

So that is why I get no winks or replies, I must be "Chopped Liver", LMAO. ttyl.



NO Blonde...I love chopped liver my favorite dish..
Should start a thread to invent great 'winks'..lol

e.g. 'Hey , my grandma likes you, interested?
'All my 8 kids think you could be their dad.'
'I am planning my wedding next week, need a groom desperately and think you fit the bill.'
'Need a date to go to a wedding , mine.'


I learn something everyday! Chopped liver was always just a 'saying' to me. Today I was enlightened that it is liver prepared chopped with spices. I hate liver...fried like my Mother made it. YUK!

Oh my God...My Mother did the same thing....Still Puke at the thought of Liver...lol



My mothers worse dish was liver. She had other bad dishes but this was by far the worst of the lot. The liver started out about 3/4ths of an inch thick; disappeared into a pan for a while before emerging about 1/8th of an inch thick. I swear, you needed power tools to cut that vile stuff. Nobody ever ate it, but my mom kept cooking it anyway. I hate liver to this day.
I love good chopped liver though. Here is a recipe:
1 lb. beef liver
1 onion
2 hard boiled eggs
1 tbl. chicken fat, aka. schmoltz
salt, pepper, and garlic powder.
Broil the liver until it is almost burnt on the outside. About 7 minutes on a side (or at least 5 minutes less then your mothers cooked it. lol.) Allow liver to cool. Coarsely chop all the ingredients separately in a food processor and then mix together and chill. Yummy stuff. Enjoy.

  


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Posted on Sun, Oct 09, 2005 16:34


sharp1 write:

Bonnie88 write:

BlondeLightning write:
Yeah Bonnie,

You said it right. Being a very shy gentleman like I am, lol. Sending a wink lets the person know if the other person is interested in them if they reply back. It is sort of a green light scenario. Getting a reply back says, Ok I am interested, your move next. No reply is obvious- Get Lost, Not Interested.

So that is why I get no winks or replies, I must be "Chopped Liver", LMAO. ttyl.



NO Blonde...I love chopped liver my favorite dish..
Should start a thread to invent great 'winks'..lol

e.g. 'Hey , my grandma likes you, interested?
'All my 8 kids think you could be their dad.'
'I am planning my wedding next week, need a groom desperately and think you fit the bill.'
'Need a date to go to a wedding , mine.'


I learn something everyday! Chopped liver was always just a 'saying' to me. Today I was enlightened that it is liver prepared chopped with spices. I hate liver...fried like my Mother made it. YUK!

Oh my God...My Mother did the same thing....Still Puke at the thought of Liver...lol

  


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Posted on Sun, Oct 09, 2005 15:41


Bonnie88 write:

BlondeLightning write:
Yeah Bonnie,

You said it right. Being a very shy gentleman like I am, lol. Sending a wink lets the person know if the other person is interested in them if they reply back. It is sort of a green light scenario. Getting a reply back says, Ok I am interested, your move next. No reply is obvious- Get Lost, Not Interested.

So that is why I get no winks or replies, I must be "Chopped Liver", LMAO. ttyl.



NO Blonde...I love chopped liver my favorite dish..
Should start a thread to invent great 'winks'..lol

e.g. 'Hey , my grandma likes you, interested?
'All my 8 kids think you could be their dad.'
'I am planning my wedding next week, need a groom desperately and think you fit the bill.'
'Need a date to go to a wedding , mine.'


I learn something everyday! Chopped liver was always just a 'saying' to me. Today I was enlightened that it is liver prepared chopped with spices. I hate liver...fried like my Mother made it. YUK!



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Posted on Sun, Oct 09, 2005 09:58

Hi Wellheelednsxy!

I'm glad to see your post re women initiating contact. I have always gone after what I'm interested in & sent a few emails to men who had viewed my profile numerous times, as I had theirs. Some had viewed over 10 times & I decided to send a short, but personal email that was responding to their profile, never heard back & they stopped viewing my profile??? I then saw several comments on the forums that emails were sometimes lost, so I sent a few asking whether they'd received my initial email. Most did not respond. I then saw many women posting that men don't like women initiating contact & decided I'd stop sending emails & even modified my profile that I prefer the men to contact via email. Maybe I should amend it once again??? I did delete the comment re wanting men to initiate contact, the more I thought about it, the less comfortable I was with it. That's who I am, why on earth would I change that? I'll continue doing as I always have, going after what I'm interested in. Thanks to the men posting that they appreciate a woman showing interest, after all, it is the 21st century!

I've had quite a few emails from men that I wasn't interested in, but I generally took the time to thank them & wish them well in their search, but that I didn't feel we were a match. I consider this common courtesy, but it would appear many on this site just don't respond unless they're interested.

It's refreshing to hear an enlightened male's point of view on this topic of who should initiate contact. Thanks.

  


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Posted on Fri, Oct 07, 2005 07:02

I find no reason why I man would wink at a woman or initiate any kind of contact with a woman if they have not read their profile. Woman generally do not initiate contact without reading someone's profile even if it is friendly rather than romantic and even if it's to another woman!



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Posted on Thu, Oct 06, 2005 09:43

HM. OK. I might change my policy on WOMEN sending winks. But I discovered (quite to my embarrassment, on another website when I was an online dating newbie) that men DON'T VALUE the women who actively pursue them. So ladies, wink if you must, but then leave it alone!

MEN. WHAT IS UP WITH YOU GUYS WINKING AT WOMEN WITHOUT READING THEIR PROFILES? What is UP with that? PLEASE!

I state in my profile that I do not respond to winks from men. I'm very clear about a LOT OF THINGS in my profile that should dissuade most men on this site from paying me any attention AT ALL. Meaning, information about my relationship status, my geographic preferences, what I do and do not like, etc. It's a long profile, I admit.

But what do I get anyway? WINKWINKWINKWINKWINK from men who react to my photo, as if our potential compatibility were somehow irrelevant. They must be crazy or stupid to think I don't see right through them.

I also give readers a task at the end of my profile (a question they have to answer), so I can tell from their correspondence whether or not they read my profile all the way through. So far, ONLY ONE MAN HAS ANSWERED THE QUESTION! I put this man among my "favorites" even though he's not geographically desireable.

Sigh. Enough of the ranting. Fortunately my relationship status (I'm dating someone right now) makes it less imperative that I find someone, otherwise I'd be completely disenchanted with this and other dating sites, and men in general . . .



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Posted on Tue, Oct 04, 2005 13:11


BlondeLightning write:
Yeah Bonnie,

You said it right. Being a very shy gentleman like I am, lol. Sending a wink lets the person know if the other person is interested in them if they reply back. It is sort of a green light scenario. Getting a reply back says, Ok I am interested, your move next. No reply is obvious- Get Lost, Not Interested.

So that is why I get no winks or replies, I must be "Chopped Liver", LMAO. ttyl.



NO Blonde...I love chopped liver my favorite dish..
Should start a thread to invent great 'winks'..lol

e.g. 'Hey , my grandma likes you, interested?
'All my 8 kids think you could be their dad.'
'I am planning my wedding next week, need a groom desperately and think you fit the bill.'
'Need a date to go to a wedding , mine.'



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Posted on Tue, Oct 04, 2005 10:02


BlondeLightning write:
Yeah Bonnie,

You said it right. Being a very shy gentleman like I am, lol. Sending a wink lets the person know if the other person is interested in them if they reply back. It is sort of a green light scenario. Getting a reply back says, Ok I am interested, your move next. No reply is obvious- Get Lost, Not Interested.

So that is why I get no winks or replies, I must be "Chopped Liver", LMAO. ttyl.


You SHY? NO WAY! lmao!
Tell that to Cat! LOL



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Posted on Tue, Oct 04, 2005 08:08

blondelightning,
You don't look like chopped liver.
Do you really get no winks or replies?
I like your posts. imsoakingwet lives in Beverley Hills. Are you close to her?
Wht don't you pay the dollar and make your acquaintance?

  


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Posted on Sun, Oct 02, 2005 11:13

Yeah Bonnie,

You said it right. Being a very shy gentleman like I am, lol. Sending a wink lets the person know if the other person is interested in them if they reply back. It is sort of a green light scenario. Getting a reply back says, Ok I am interested, your move next. No reply is obvious- Get Lost, Not Interested.

So that is why I get no winks or replies, I must be "Chopped Liver", LMAO. ttyl.



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Posted on Mon, Sep 26, 2005 22:11

I think you folks forget that 'winks' are the only means for non-members to make the first move to someone whom they are interested in and hope to get a response. I get a lot of winks and I check them out usually for curiosity sake and if they are 'my type' I will wink back..but wish MM would be more creative with their winks. The guys who put in those winks have no clue how to invent imaginative 'pick up ' lines at all! They should also include 'reject' lines that are funny just to add a little color to the site..Hey MM inspectors , you guys need to employ some of us to improve your edge !



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Posted on Mon, Sep 26, 2005 17:54


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Sharp, I really can't fathom that men would view the issue of who made contact with whom first as a control question. Perhaps your experience with men is telling, but I've never been one to stand on convention and expect that "the man does this" while "the woman does that". I realize that there are neanderthals out there (not meant as a jab on anyone's age, more an attitudinal description) but I can't go with 90% as the figure. By the same token, there are women who stick by convention and won't vary their habits at all either and will insist on the man making the initial contact. That's the impression I got from TheGoodlife and what she seems to be advocating. I say, let's all be humans and do what we feel like, without regard to gender-based, stereotyped expectations.


Okay, I exagerated. Maybe not 90%, but I'm probably not far off suggesting 50%. Not my personal experience, but observations I've made ... listening to people talk. Urbanites tend to be more open to more liberal 21st century concepts. Those living in rural areas tend to follow more traditional old fashioned ways. Then you have various religions, strong family values imposed from one generation to the next within some families, different cultures, etc. Women who refuse to contact a man are probably influenced by these same factors.

I don't advocate this philosophy, which stereotypes male/female gender roles. I completely agree with you that male or female should go with what they feel, and act onit. Males and females do not differ in their feelings. Males & females would feel equally pleased to have someone ardently pursuing them, providing they are attracted to that person also.



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Posted on Mon, Sep 26, 2005 15:41

Sharp, I really can't fathom that men would view the issue of who made contact with whom first as a control question. Perhaps your experience with men is telling, but I've never been one to stand on convention and expect that "the man does this" while "the woman does that". I realize that there are neanderthals out there (not meant as a jab on anyone's age, more an attitudinal description) but I can't go with 90% as the figure. By the same token, there are women who stick by convention and won't vary their habits at all either and will insist on the man making the initial contact. That's the impression I got from TheGoodlife and what she seems to be advocating. I say, let's all be humans and do what we feel like, without regard to gender-based, stereotyped expectations.



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Posted on Mon, Sep 26, 2005 15:22

If I receive a 'wink' I check out to see if they have written any postings first. If they have and I like what they have written then I will email them cos obviously they can't email me if they aren't a paying member.

If they haven't posted in the forums then I don't answer their winks! I want talkers lol



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Posted on Mon, Sep 26, 2005 12:53

I delete winks. I assume if a man is interested he will put the effort into an email tailored to you!

This may be the 21st century Wellheeled, but try telling that to the other 90% of your species, gender, males I mean! lol
Many men do not like women taking the initiative. Maybe they feel we are taking the control out of their hands. To reply to an email would gives us control, and no reply allows them to retain control. Just brainstorming why men would be intimidated by a woman initiating contact.



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Posted on Mon, Sep 26, 2005 11:03

I detest winks and never would consider sending one. If I'm interested, it's not difficult to compose and send an e-mail that's both thoughtful and snappy and do it concisely. I don't respond to winks. If someone is interested in knowing more, it's not hard to drop a few lines and disclose that. And I have a dissenting view from that of TheGoodlife about women initiating contact. We're (presumably) all adults and women should also be able to express their interest freely. I have absolutely no problem with a woman going after what she wants, or anyone in whom she may be interested. Last time I checked it is the 21st century.



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Posted on Mon, Sep 26, 2005 07:30

Not all is based on the photos but mostly all. I do agree with TheGoodLife that the photos women display should show off her legs and chest. Men want a good looking woman. I am hesitant to put up a picture because I don't think I have any good ones. I do think pictures help initiate contact, though.



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Posted on Mon, Sep 19, 2005 23:16

wow goodlife,
Ar you working for MM otherwise you should be paid for all this community service to your fellow men...you deserve a gold service medal...

  


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