Actually I'd appreciate knowing the answer to that question myself. Sometimes I think its because there aren't that many *available* men around, sometimes I think proximity is a problem. I've been told that I intimidate men, (what the heck does that mean?), is that just because I've raised my kids alone, dealt with their needs and knew where to get the car fixed? I'm sure the answer is somewhere in the middle, there are many men I could turn to, but none that turn me on. Do we look for what we can't have, just so we don't have to stop looking? Someone clue me in, this vicious circle is making me dizzy.
I can't say what one sees as beautiful...but...for my part, men often just 'assume' I am taken and simply do not come up and say hi, I have friends who have told me this. etc. (Yes, I have done the asking before...it would be nice for a change if a man did the asking). I don't know about other women, BUT...some of us simply are like some of the men in here...way too busy to have time to go out and date, etc...so...we try to find a worthwhile site that narrows the field to like minded people. Meeting someone on the internet sometimes is just less of a waste of time, I think.
dannyspl write: Ok Im open to all opinions. I want to know why ladies who are mainly 25 to 45 and are above average in the looks dept., are still single and can't seem to find a guy to settldown with. Many are looking here and other personals sites. From my dating experiance they seem to have higher than average expectations for men. Men on the other hand, such as myself tend to avoid these women once they are figured out. I want to know from both sexes what you think these expectations are and why women dont want to except the character of guys that are attracted to them?
I have been on and off and for my experience I have met alot of foneys on here...not to mention hot headed jealous chics,ha. It is tuff to meet a kewl, fun guy without baggage and money problems apposed to millions like the site claims... I am not a gold digger, but I also don't want to be scapping to make it when I'm old... To find a man now a days really bits.... I want to get serious and most guys I have met on here are all talk and no action... I have the goods they want, but nothing strong on the relationship side from them...the getting to know you for a while gets old. You know if you want to settle or not???
dannyspl write: Its been awhile cause I moved but I thought I would fire this question up and respond to a couple of ladies here. I love it when you ladies like to tweak a subject by turning it around when the question is made to you. You have all the time you want to discus why men dont want committment or why they get cold feet after 1 year of dating or why they withdrawl cause they are not feeling valued and appreciated. But this thread is why ladies who are exceptionally pretty but single. I have talked to many and they say among other reasons they are looking for the perfect storm in a guy. Does all the qualities always exist or do they come out at different times during a relationship? In other words he may be the right one for you but its how you react to his faults that make you ladies do an about face. Ladies the perfect storm in a guy or the perfect acting guy doesnt exist and never has. Its the way you react to him that deternines where you two go next. Remember keep it on the subject of why ladies reactand the decisions they make to remain single. Dont keep turning it around. Be accountable for yourselfs just on this thread...
You assume that 'beautiful single women' would PREFER to be married? Why? Why do you assume that marriage is necessary, or even desirable, especially to women who are not only 'beautiful', but also independent, self-sufficient, self-reliant, self-supporting, professionals? Is this YOUR insecurity speaking? Why are YOU single (you are handsome) at YOUR age? What are YOU waiting for ~ the "perfect" woman (she doesn't exist)? Or maybe, just "perfect for you"?
I don't know that I ever desire to be married again. I would like a life-long committed mutually respectful romantic love affair with the perfect mate for me.
In my opinion, the institution of marriage itself has ruined many a potentially wonderful relationship!
Its been awhile cause I moved but I thought I would fire this question up and respond to a couple of ladies here. I love it when you ladies like to tweak a subject by turning it around when the question is made to you. You have all the time you want to discus why men dont want committment or why they get cold feet after 1 year of dating or why they withdrawl cause they are not feeling valued and appreciated. But this thread is why ladies who are exceptionally pretty but single.
I have talked to many and they say among other reasons they are looking for the perfect storm in a guy. Does all the qualities always exist or do they come out at different times during a relationship? In other words he may be the right one for you but its how you react to his faults that make you ladies do an about face. Ladies the perfect storm in a guy or the perfect acting guy doesnt exist and never has. Its the way you react to him that deternines where you two go next. Remember keep it on the subject of why ladies reactand the decisions they make to remain single. Dont keep turning it around. Be accountable for yourselfs just on this thread...
YES,,IM BACK!!! NOW YOU CAN SLAM ME TO MY FACE! MEOW!
Welcome back dahlin...Hope you are well from your accident :)
Now Cat sheath those claws!!!!! After all he did say something very nice about you!!!!. Of course you had better duck(no pun intended Mandi)because it will come i am sure of that one..LOL
I know I know Dahlin...I know the routine! Just like my X gosh what a sweetheart...sweet as pie!!! This was the routine...he'd be like this about a week...You would be high on cloud nine feeling like the princess you were born to be!!! Then it would start dieing down...by the end of week 2...he was a monster...Yelling, screaming, throwing things, acting like a 5 yr old child having temper fits...that would go on a week...Id get ticked and to the point where I was like GET OUT!!! Then he would be so sweet again...it was a vicious cycle...Until I finally broke it for good! So trust me dahlin I do know the routine!
I'm single, because I was born single, I'm just going back to my natural state.....
Besides, I admit it, I am shallow and superficial and I won't settle for less than the perfect..............drummer. ROTFLMAO (I think I'm obsessed! or possessed! no I'd like to be possessed!) HAHAHAHAHA! ~evil/crazy laugh~
fun4two write: My My My ... the ghost of Steve is now posting ... that's interesting!
Nice to see your ghost posting ... feeling better after the crash?
Hey, I have an idea ... we're all meeting in Columbus on the 30th ... you should bring Kisses and Vika ... and Garrett ... and we'll even invite Lion personally ... it could be so much fun!!
Missed you Babe ... welcome back!!
OMG..you are too funny,,,you are on top of things..are you dear? I didnt see your name ,,so I was supprised you were already here,,I was also going to post about HIS posting..I notice he posted after me..and I hardly if ever post on this thread,, he misses me..lol
Oh,,,I want to add this too,, the age bracket you mentioned...well thats because by that time in a womans life,,she has reached a stage where she no longer has to depend on another income,,or even a roomate,,to make her way.
women of this age are a lot more independant,,they are in a place where they can finally say to theirselves,,"ya know, I have finally made it to a time in my life..I dont have to take any more of anyone..i just want to be happy"
If that means waiting for the right guy then so be it,
I am going to be patient this time..I want my best friend, I want to find my Man, a guy who I want to tell everything to..all of my darkest secrets, I want to share those rainy days, thunderstorms under the covers,, those moonlit beaches,, long drives going nowhere, and ending up anywhere, and still enjoying that same company , when Im 65..Im looking for my partner in Life,, and to have until i leave this world..Im not looking for just a good time,,i have had plenty of great times,,and still do..but as far as being single, I know what I want.
Ok,,back to the topic...
Why are they still single...or should say ..why are they single.....
Maybe they choose to be...maybe they were married for a long time and are divorced..maybe they got sick and tired of trying to find a perfect match for them,,which can be exhausting,,to say the least..kind of like a rollercoaster ride at times..
Maybe if men would just be honest,,about what they want..
Maybe if we weren't so picky..or ,maybe if men were a little nicer to us.,, we wouldn't be single.
maybe if men realized that they need to treat a woman with respect,,instead of a bed buddy,, or to be at their beckoning call..and..instead to treat women nicely, and respectfully ALL the time ..except when they want something..maybe if they were a little more sensitive,,and tenderhearted,,maybe if they werent always in a bad mood,,maybe if Men were just kinder, and more thoughtful.
You seem to place the reason that women are still single,,as if they are because its their fault...I think it goes both ways...
Im single, because I chose to be..and until I meet a man who deserves to have a relationship with me,,that being,,,treat each with MUTUAL RESPECT....this goes both ways... and I meet a Man who isnt looking for a One night stand..or those that want repeaters only,,
then I will not be single anymore...until then..IM GOING TO BE SINGLE..
I have a lot to offer in a relationship,, Im a very thoughtful, giving, Loving, sharing, caring.passionate, person..
Im not setteling again for second best...and We dont have too.
babydol write: Danny... I'm sure it's been said...haven't read the whole thread...but men have high expectations for the girls they meet too... check out SpeedDallas...there was a whole thread practically devoted to his expectations... unfortunately that seems to be why there are a lot of goodloooking MEN that are still single... too many folks look at the outside and never see the inside...
Babydol Im sure you are right however this thread is about why beautiful women are still single. Lets stay with the thread. There are other threads to discuss about men and why they are the scum of the earth.
To me, it's not just the women but the men as well. There are many men on this site, in the same age range as you described but haven't found the right woman yet.
Settling down with someone in my eyes is just that, settling.
Must disagree. "Settling" to me means stopping one's search having found someone who may be less than one's theoretical ideal, for reasons known only to the settler. "Settling down," on the other hand, MAY mean "settling" but is primarily to do with committing to a specific individual, whether ideal or not. Most of us agree there is no such thing as absolute perfection, in which case, all "settling down" may mean the same as "settling."
But I'm holding out for a nonsmoker who makes me weak in the knees just to look at her, whose kisses make me forget my name and feel like a student again, because being more or less my intellectual equal (or superior) there will be times when her brilliance is blinding.
I find one like that who feels the same as me, I'm likely to settle down. Will I settle for less? Not in this lifetime.
Wilfred...I think Mandy is not referring to settling for someone less than they desire, but settling down with the perfect women...eg stopping the search, living in bliss happily ever after in their little white picketed fence...you know the all American (as in North America) dream! :-) None of us want to settle for less than we desire. As for the intelligence...did you read the thread I began? What criteria do you use to determine someone's level of intelligence? A degree/PhD/Masters? or their ability to engage you in intellectually stimulating conversation on a wide range of topics?
The latter. My grandfather, one of the most intelligent and erudite people I've ever known, left school after the 8th grade to help support the family when his father became incapacitaded by a stroke. I have a BA and a Diploma from the University of Wales. I spent 18 years dropping in and out of six college and ended up with a single 4-year degree. That hardly screams "Intelligent!" A degree simply means one did the work to a particular level of satisfaction. Bassed solely upon test scores, I'm in the 98th-99th percentile and in many ways this has been a hindrance. But, short of a lobotomy, I suppose, it's not something I can change. So I continue to hope for a woman of like mind in many respects. Indeed, I am in a group for singles who belong to Mensa, and I find some of those women intriguing, but they are either way too young or as far away as the women wholook at my ad here at MM. In the meantimne, you folks in the forums are quite a lively and thought-provoking bunch, which is why I stay here too.
I'm not certain I saw your thread, Sharp. Would you please enlighten me? Be well,
Bill (aka wilfred06)
Wilfred it's under the Message Board forum called "Intelligence ... Is it a valid criteria?"
A man I dated last Fall, we're still friends, at the very start said he enjoyed everyday conversation, nothing about business or anything too technical. I wasn't too sure what he meant...could that be conversation like, "Nice day today, don't you think?" But he didn't. Just a normal converation about things that interest us. He is very intelligent, and extremely successful. We're still good friends, because we could talk about anything and everything. It never got too technical! But the conversation was kept interesting...thought provoking as you stated! :-)