About women (and/or men) choosing to raise a child on their own just because "they" don't feel the need for having the other parent involved, I think it's not OK.
I think that is selfish. How about thinking a bit about what a child needs?
I divorced my first hubby and father of my two children when they were babies (only one and two years old, today they are almost 22 and 23)
But still, their father has always been highly involved in their lives, and I didn't use our children as weapons to solve pending matters with their father.
But today I see it very often. My second husband had only one son, and the boy wanted to move with us and his mother was reluctant to let him do so just because of her personal differences with her ex.
So, to me, and for the sake of chidlren's mental and emotional health, and general wellbeing, it is in their best interest to raise them with both parents highly involved in their lives.
Just my opinion here ...
( or possibly babbling .. lol )
Many men see a Beautiful Woman and assume ( right or wrong ) that surely she must have a significant other and simply choose not to go beyond that point .. guilty of that myself .. lol.
And I'd also like to add that any Man with manners is fully aware of the constant "hounding" that a Beautiful must constantly endure. Wolves are plentiful unfortunately. A Gentlemen will most likely give a smile and a quick Hello and leave it at that :)
I would be happy even if he was bald or fat,if he loved me and I loved him I would be happy.I think that there is just as many handsome men as women that would love to find lasting love.Some women do think that as men that there is someone right around the corner better,maybe there not ready for a lasting relationship.
when being beautifull...u always have honds dogs all over u, were ever u go...so ur options r always open....i agree with superstar.... there r alot of butt holes out there that dont know how to treat a lady....why is that ? why r alot of men just so forward and cant just try to get to know a gitl?
I agree but one thing is important that few have mentioned on here. That is how much women have changed in the last 40 years. They are more empowered and independent now than ever before. Men on the other hand have lost their balls in the relationship.
I came across a book that will be out in hard cover within the year. His name Andey Randead and His ebook is reviewed at (email me for the site)
Most of what he talks about relates to what he calls the ?modern women? or women in their teens, twenties and early thirties.
All of his conclusions are based on facts he solicited from over 100 women in that age group. That combined with statistical information, which is available freely on the Internet regarding marriage, relationships and divorce.
Andeys book is a perspective of the modern woman and her evolution the past 40 years. An amazing read for any man who lost his balls and smart women. Some questions answered include
What do women really think about men and how do they strategize with each other to get what they want from them?
Why are women cheating as much as men?
Why have women become so selfish and feel so entitled?
How have marriage laws become so grossly unfair to men?
How has this led to many of the problems we now face in society?
Why do women push for a commitment then become unhappy once they get one?
Why do they lose interest in sex with you?
Why can they be so hard to get along with?
Why do they become attracted to someone else and start cheating?
Why is it that the better you treat them the worse they treat you?
Why do they blame everything on you, become resentful and angry?
Why do they desperately seek marriage, but become unhappy in marriage?
Why are men not willing to commit?
Why can women seem to justify anything in their own minds?
After reading this book one may understand why beautiful women are still single. Maybe some men dont want to be married because of this.
Actually I'd appreciate knowing the answer to that question myself. Sometimes I think its because there aren't that many *available* men around, sometimes I think proximity is a problem. I've been told that I intimidate men, (what the heck does that mean?), is that just because I've raised my kids alone, dealt with their needs and knew where to get the car fixed? I'm sure the answer is somewhere in the middle, there are many men I could turn to, but none that turn me on. Do we look for what we can't have, just so we don't have to stop looking? Someone clue me in, this vicious circle is making me dizzy.
I can't say what one sees as beautiful...but...for my part, men often just 'assume' I am taken and simply do not come up and say hi, I have friends who have told me this. etc. (Yes, I have done the asking before...it would be nice for a change if a man did the asking). I don't know about other women, BUT...some of us simply are like some of the men in here...way too busy to have time to go out and date, etc...so...we try to find a worthwhile site that narrows the field to like minded people. Meeting someone on the internet sometimes is just less of a waste of time, I think.
dannyspl write: Ok Im open to all opinions. I want to know why ladies who are mainly 25 to 45 and are above average in the looks dept., are still single and can't seem to find a guy to settldown with. Many are looking here and other personals sites. From my dating experiance they seem to have higher than average expectations for men. Men on the other hand, such as myself tend to avoid these women once they are figured out. I want to know from both sexes what you think these expectations are and why women dont want to except the character of guys that are attracted to them?
I have been on and off and for my experience I have met alot of foneys on here...not to mention hot headed jealous chics,ha. It is tuff to meet a kewl, fun guy without baggage and money problems apposed to millions like the site claims... I am not a gold digger, but I also don't want to be scapping to make it when I'm old... To find a man now a days really bits.... I want to get serious and most guys I have met on here are all talk and no action... I have the goods they want, but nothing strong on the relationship side from them...the getting to know you for a while gets old. You know if you want to settle or not???
dannyspl write: Its been awhile cause I moved but I thought I would fire this question up and respond to a couple of ladies here. I love it when you ladies like to tweak a subject by turning it around when the question is made to you. You have all the time you want to discus why men dont want committment or why they get cold feet after 1 year of dating or why they withdrawl cause they are not feeling valued and appreciated. But this thread is why ladies who are exceptionally pretty but single. I have talked to many and they say among other reasons they are looking for the perfect storm in a guy. Does all the qualities always exist or do they come out at different times during a relationship? In other words he may be the right one for you but its how you react to his faults that make you ladies do an about face. Ladies the perfect storm in a guy or the perfect acting guy doesnt exist and never has. Its the way you react to him that deternines where you two go next. Remember keep it on the subject of why ladies reactand the decisions they make to remain single. Dont keep turning it around. Be accountable for yourselfs just on this thread...
You assume that 'beautiful single women' would PREFER to be married? Why? Why do you assume that marriage is necessary, or even desirable, especially to women who are not only 'beautiful', but also independent, self-sufficient, self-reliant, self-supporting, professionals? Is this YOUR insecurity speaking? Why are YOU single (you are handsome) at YOUR age? What are YOU waiting for ~ the "perfect" woman (she doesn't exist)? Or maybe, just "perfect for you"?
I don't know that I ever desire to be married again. I would like a life-long committed mutually respectful romantic love affair with the perfect mate for me.
In my opinion, the institution of marriage itself has ruined many a potentially wonderful relationship!
Its been awhile cause I moved but I thought I would fire this question up and respond to a couple of ladies here. I love it when you ladies like to tweak a subject by turning it around when the question is made to you. You have all the time you want to discus why men dont want committment or why they get cold feet after 1 year of dating or why they withdrawl cause they are not feeling valued and appreciated. But this thread is why ladies who are exceptionally pretty but single.
I have talked to many and they say among other reasons they are looking for the perfect storm in a guy. Does all the qualities always exist or do they come out at different times during a relationship? In other words he may be the right one for you but its how you react to his faults that make you ladies do an about face. Ladies the perfect storm in a guy or the perfect acting guy doesnt exist and never has. Its the way you react to him that deternines where you two go next. Remember keep it on the subject of why ladies reactand the decisions they make to remain single. Dont keep turning it around. Be accountable for yourselfs just on this thread...
Hello Steve why have you not mentioned the accident to me? I am so sorry, I didn't read all of the posts, I do thank you very much though. I also don't have the same email as I did 2 yrs ago, y*h*o messes with people too much...lol, had to get a new one. I am also not too single anymore, lol, I just love my friends in the forums and got addicted to chating with all of them, some very nice people. I have been sweeped of my feet by a wonderful man I hope this is real with my whole heart. Sorry for not posting for a whole day and night kiddios...lol I had so much work I didn't know where to begin and where to stop...lol. Missed you, Hugs. Kat
YES,,IM BACK!!! NOW YOU CAN SLAM ME TO MY FACE! MEOW!
Welcome back dahlin...Hope you are well from your accident :)
Now Cat sheath those claws!!!!! After all he did say something very nice about you!!!!. Of course you had better duck(no pun intended Mandi)because it will come i am sure of that one..LOL
I know I know Dahlin...I know the routine! Just like my X gosh what a sweetheart...sweet as pie!!! This was the routine...he'd be like this about a week...You would be high on cloud nine feeling like the princess you were born to be!!! Then it would start dieing down...by the end of week 2...he was a monster...Yelling, screaming, throwing things, acting like a 5 yr old child having temper fits...that would go on a week...Id get ticked and to the point where I was like GET OUT!!! Then he would be so sweet again...it was a vicious cycle...Until I finally broke it for good! So trust me dahlin I do know the routine!