Why are beautiful woman still single? Message Board

  • View author's info posted on Sep 25, 2007 21:51


    Maybe it's because that real beauty is mostly inside. Good looks alone is not worth anything except to Hollywood.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 17, 2007 10:20


    I can't say what one sees as beautiful...but...for my part, men often just 'assume' I am taken and simply do not come up and say hi, I have friends who have told me this. etc. (Yes, I have done the asking before...it would be nice for a change if a man did the asking). I don't know about other women, BUT...some of us simply are like some of the men in here...way too busy to have time to go out and date, etc...so...we try to find a worthwhile site that narrows the field to like minded people. Meeting someone on the internet sometimes is just less of a waste of time, I think.

    :)
  • View author's info posted on Sep 10, 2007 14:22


    dannyspl write:
    Ok Im open to all opinions. I want to know why ladies who are mainly 25 to 45 and are above average in the looks dept., are still single and can't seem to find a guy to settldown with. Many are looking here and other personals sites. From my dating experiance they seem to have higher than average expectations for men. Men on the other hand, such as myself tend to avoid these women once they are figured out. I want to know from both sexes what you think these expectations are and why women dont want to except the character of guys that are attracted to them?

    Re:



    I have been on and off and for my experience I have met alot of foneys on here...not to mention hot headed jealous chics,ha. It is tuff to meet a kewl, fun guy without baggage and money problems apposed to millions like the site claims... I am not a gold digger, but I also don't want to be scapping to make it when I'm old... To find a man now a days really bits.... I want to get serious and most guys I have met on here are all talk and no action... I have the goods they want, but nothing strong on the relationship side from them...the getting to know you for a while gets old. You know if you want to settle or not???
  • View author's info posted on Aug 25, 2007 22:15


    dannyspl write:
    Its been awhile cause I moved but I thought I would fire this question up and respond to a couple of ladies here. I love it when you ladies like to tweak a subject by turning it around when the question is made to you. You have all the time you want to discus why men dont want committment or why they get cold feet after 1 year of dating or why they withdrawl cause they are not feeling valued and appreciated. But this thread is why ladies who are exceptionally pretty but single.
    I have talked to many and they say among other reasons they are looking for the perfect storm in a guy. Does all the qualities always exist or do they come out at different times during a relationship? In other words he may be the right one for you but its how you react to his faults that make you ladies do an about face. Ladies the perfect storm in a guy or the perfect acting guy doesnt exist and never has. Its the way you react to him that deternines where you two go next. Remember keep it on the subject of why ladies reactand the decisions they make to remain single. Dont keep turning it around. Be accountable for yourselfs just on this thread...

    Re:



    You assume that 'beautiful single women' would PREFER to be married? Why? Why do you assume that marriage is necessary, or even desirable, especially to women who are not only 'beautiful', but also independent, self-sufficient, self-reliant, self-supporting, professionals? Is this YOUR insecurity speaking? Why are YOU single (you are handsome) at YOUR age? What are YOU waiting for ~ the "perfect" woman (she doesn't exist)? Or maybe, just "perfect for you"?

    I don't know that I ever desire to be married again. I would like a life-long committed mutually respectful romantic love affair with the perfect mate for me.

    In my opinion, the institution of marriage itself has ruined many a potentially wonderful relationship!
  • View author's info posted on Aug 16, 2007 11:14


    Its been awhile cause I moved but I thought I would fire this question up and respond to a couple of ladies here. I love it when you ladies like to tweak a subject by turning it around when the question is made to you. You have all the time you want to discus why men dont want committment or why they get cold feet after 1 year of dating or why they withdrawl cause they are not feeling valued and appreciated. But this thread is why ladies who are exceptionally pretty but single.
    I have talked to many and they say among other reasons they are looking for the perfect storm in a guy. Does all the qualities always exist or do they come out at different times during a relationship? In other words he may be the right one for you but its how you react to his faults that make you ladies do an about face. Ladies the perfect storm in a guy or the perfect acting guy doesnt exist and never has. Its the way you react to him that deternines where you two go next. Remember keep it on the subject of why ladies reactand the decisions they make to remain single. Dont keep turning it around. Be accountable for yourselfs just on this thread...
  • View author's info posted on Jul 20, 2005 16:59



    smsweeendoggy write:

    TheCatsMeow65 write:

    smsweeendoggy write:

    TheCatsMeow65 write:
    OH OH I see it's back!!!


    YES,,IM BACK!!!
    NOW YOU CAN SLAM ME TO MY FACE!
    MEOW!

    Welcome back dahlin...Hope you are well from your accident :)


    Thanks, Im doing better than my Heritage, its destroyed,lol.

    What is that?
  • View author's info posted on Jul 19, 2005 07:32


    Food For Thought!!!
    Maybe Im still single cuz I eat too much Sushi and smell like a catipillar roll! hahaha
  • View author's info posted on Jul 19, 2005 07:31



    statuesque4u write:

    TheCatsMeow65 write:

    smsweeendoggy write:

    TheCatsMeow65 write:
    OH OH I see it's back!!!


    YES,,IM BACK!!!
    NOW YOU CAN SLAM ME TO MY FACE!
    MEOW!

    Welcome back dahlin...Hope you are well from your accident :)



    Now Cat sheath those claws!!!!! After all he did say something very nice about you!!!!. Of course you had better duck(no pun intended Mandi)because it will come i am sure of that one..LOL

    I know I know Dahlin...I know the routine! Just like my X gosh what a sweetheart...sweet as pie!!! This was the routine...he'd be like this about a week...You would be high on cloud nine feeling like the princess you were born to be!!! Then it would start dieing down...by the end of week 2...he was a monster...Yelling, screaming, throwing things, acting like a 5 yr old child having temper fits...that would go on a week...Id get ticked and to the point where I was like GET OUT!!! Then he would be so sweet again...it was a vicious cycle...Until I finally broke it for good! So trust me dahlin I do know the routine!
  • View author's info posted on Jul 19, 2005 01:18



    smsweeendoggy write:

    TheCatsMeow65 write:
    OH OH I see it's back!!!


    YES,,IM BACK!!!
    NOW YOU CAN SLAM ME TO MY FACE!
    MEOW!

    Welcome back dahlin...Hope you are well from your accident :)
  • View author's info posted on Jul 18, 2005 10:24



    babydol write:
    Danny... I'm sure it's been said...haven't read the whole thread...but men have high expectations for the girls they meet too... check out SpeedDallas...there was a whole thread practically devoted to his expectations... unfortunately that seems to be why there are a lot of goodloooking MEN that are still single... too many folks look at the outside and never see the inside...

    bbd

    Babydol Im sure you are right however this thread is about why beautiful women are still single. Lets stay with the thread. There are other threads to discuss about men and why they are the scum of the earth.
  • View author's info posted on Jul 18, 2005 05:53


    OH OH I see it's back!!!
  • View author's info posted on Jul 17, 2005 22:47


    We r still single...we PMS too much! lol

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  • View author's info posted on Jul 16, 2005 16:18



    sharp1 write:

    wilfred06 write:

    Mandalay207 write:
    Danny,

    To me, it's not just the women but the men as well. There are many men on this site, in the same age range as you described but haven't found the right woman yet.

    Settling down with someone in my eyes is just that, settling.


    Must disagree. "Settling" to me means stopping one's search having found someone who may be less than one's theoretical ideal, for reasons known only to the settler. "Settling down," on the other hand, MAY mean "settling" but is primarily to do with committing to a specific individual, whether ideal or not. Most of us agree there is no such thing as absolute perfection, in which case, all "settling down" may mean the same as "settling."

    But I'm holding out for a nonsmoker who makes me weak in the knees just to look at her, whose kisses make me forget my name and feel like a student again, because being more or less my intellectual equal (or superior) there will be times when her brilliance is blinding.

    I find one like that who feels the same as me, I'm likely to settle down. Will I settle for less? Not in this lifetime.


    Wilfred...I think Mandy is not referring to settling for someone less than they desire, but settling down with the perfect women...eg stopping the search, living in bliss happily ever after in their little white picketed fence...you know the all American (as in North America) dream! :-)
    None of us want to settle for less than we desire.
    As for the intelligence...did you read the thread I began? What criteria do you use to determine someone's level of intelligence? A degree/PhD/Masters? or their ability to engage you in intellectually stimulating conversation on a wide range of topics?


    The latter. My grandfather, one of the most intelligent and erudite people I've ever known, left school after the 8th grade to help support the family when his father became incapacitaded by a stroke. I have a BA and a Diploma from the University of Wales. I spent 18 years dropping in and out of six college and ended up with a single 4-year degree. That hardly screams "Intelligent!" A degree simply means one did the work to a particular level of satisfaction. Bassed solely upon test scores, I'm in the 98th-99th percentile and in many ways this has been a hindrance. But, short of a lobotomy, I suppose, it's not something I can change. So I continue to hope for a woman of like mind in many respects. Indeed, I am in a group for singles who belong to Mensa, and I find some of those women intriguing, but they are either way too young or as far away as the women wholook at my ad here at MM. In the meantimne, you folks in the forums are quite a lively and thought-provoking bunch, which is why I stay here too.

    I'm not certain I saw your thread, Sharp. Would you please enlighten me? Be well,

    Bill (aka wilfred06)
  • View author's info posted on Jul 16, 2005 15:53



    katiegrl write:

    z71 write:
    butterfly, the guy was no good for nothing and you married him? WHY????

    I am not picking on you, but that is the problem sometimes. You marry someone thinking; oh, they'll change, but they don't.

    And I said "SOME" women, not ALL. And.. I included guys in the equation.

    So take that!!!



    I love this question because people more often than not, miss a really key reason why we marry jerks.

    They weren't jerks when we said, "I do!!!!!"

    The ones we dated before we married them didn't say to themselves before they popped the question, "I want to marry this one! I'm gonna show them what a big freak I am and how impossibly rejectable I will be once we tie the knot!"

    Men only really pull out the big guns in their "excess gas arsenal" (pardon the pun) AFTER the ink is dry on the marriage certificate! Women only really start duct-taping the toilet seat to the bowl AFTER the throwing of the bouquet! Nobody ever shows their most disgusting, boorish, shrewish, biotchy side until the deed is done!

    THAT'S how we end up hitched to Spous-zilla and THAT'S why people are silly enough to ask, "What the heck did you ever see in that alien abduction reject, anyway?"

    Oh, BTW ... GoodLife Grl..... that's a very impressive ribbit response you inspired there! lol Good on ya!


    You answered my question, Katie: if women are aware that all men become jerks as soon as they are married, why marry them? I see that marriage is not on your list. My ex and I got married because we were from different countries and it was not possible to stay together unless we did. I divorced her for adult*ry, although whether that came about because I was "a jerk" or for other reasons is a topic for another time.

    Simply put, beautiful (and any other sort) of women in that age group now can have careers, children out of wedlock without stigma or even adopt babies. They are no longer dependent upon men to be the breadwinners, despite the glass ceiling. They stand to lose more than they gain by marrying, in many cases, and they know it. Who can blame them for staying single?

    So why do I list marriage? Mostly because I'm slightly older than that group mentioned above, and although I don't feel a burning need to be married for marriage' sake, neither am I unwilling to take the plunge once more if that's what it takes to keep that special one I alluded to in my earlier post.

    The reasons people change after marriage are fairly well documented, although they may not be well-known. It's a two-way street, a double-edged sword and not likely to change much any time soon. So we muddle on as best we can. Be well,

    Bill (aka wilfred06)
  • View author's info posted on Jul 16, 2005 15:23



    Mandalay207 write:
    Danny,

    To me, it's not just the women but the men as well. There are many men on this site, in the same age range as you described but haven't found the right woman yet.

    Settling down with someone in my eyes is just that, settling.


    Must disagree. "Settling" to me means stopping one's search having found someone who may be less than one's theoretical ideal, for reasons known only to the settler. "Settling down," on the other hand, MAY mean "settling" but is primarily to do with committing to a specific individual, whether ideal or not. Most of us agree there is no such thing as absolute perfection, in which case, all "settling down" may mean the same as "settling."

    But I'm holding out for a nonsmoker who makes me weak in the knees just to look at her, whose kisses make me forget my name and feel like a student again, because being more or less my intellectual equal (or superior) there will be times when her brilliance is blinding.

    I find one like that who feels the same as me, I'm likely to settle down. Will I settle for less? Not in this lifetime.
  • View author's info posted on Jul 16, 2005 09:08



    dannyspl write:
    Well after a month of vacationing in the Bahamas I see a bunch of great answers to my question. And I'm sure there are many more.
    My question was that a question and not to be redirected to another question or twisted around on unattractive women or even men.By the way, I think all women are attractive in one way or another. It amazes me to be attracted to a women who most men would find physically unattractive but shines in her femininity and sensuality. What a turn on! But like many people I tend to follow my self made list of preferences I seek in a woman. Because I'm slender and fit, I desire a woman who also is. I seek someone who is at the same level of intellect, moral decency, and spiritual conviction than myself. The rest of these preferences are listed in my profile.
    But back to my question. After dating for 10 years I have many reasons already but wanted to see others. I've heard it all from finding a man with substance (which I find is subjective)to finding an entertainment caddy...lol free meal ticket or sugar daddy. I think its our responsibility as guys to separate the sincere women who seek love and marriage from the ladies who simply DO NOT RESPECT MEN! Unfortunately I have met my share of these later gems.
    My criteria for finding a woman is very similar to some women's desire for a man. One who values, listens,supports, encourages, communicates well, acknowledges and affirms her man. Oh and someone who lives within an hours drive. I know my expectations are high...huh! Or are they? Is it that difficult to find someone who meets these expectations. I came close 5X and each wanted to marry me. But I had to make a responsible decision and hence here I AM! lOOKING, SEEKING, ON THE PROWL FOR THAT EVER ELUSIVE GIRL OF MY DREAMS. Keep the answers coming.

    DAMNITTTTTTTTT you went to the Bahama's w/o me :(
  • View author's info posted on Jul 11, 2005 21:49


    Well after a month of vacationing in the Bahamas I see a bunch of great answers to my question. And I'm sure there are many more.
    My question was that a question and not to be redirected to another question or twisted around on unattractive women or even men.By the way, I think all women are attractive in one way or another. It amazes me to be attracted to a women who most men would find physically unattractive but shines in her femininity and sensuality. What a turn on! But like many people I tend to follow my self made list of preferences I seek in a woman. Because I'm slender and fit, I desire a woman who also is. I seek someone who is at the same level of intellect, moral decency, and spiritual conviction than myself. The rest of these preferences are listed in my profile.
    But back to my question. After dating for 10 years I have many reasons already but wanted to see others. I've heard it all from finding a man with substance (which I find is subjective)to finding an entertainment caddy...lol free meal ticket or sugar daddy. I think its our responsibility as guys to separate the sincere women who seek love and marriage from the ladies who simply DO NOT RESPECT MEN! Unfortunately I have met my share of these later gems.
    My criteria for finding a woman is very similar to some women's desire for a man. One who values, listens,supports, encourages, communicates well, acknowledges and affirms her man. Oh and someone who lives within an hours drive. I know my expectations are high...huh! Or are they? Is it that difficult to find someone who meets these expectations. I came close 5X and each wanted to marry me. But I had to make a responsible decision and hence here I AM! lOOKING, SEEKING, ON THE PROWL FOR THAT EVER ELUSIVE GIRL OF MY DREAMS. Keep the answers coming.
  • View author's info posted on Jul 07, 2005 23:37



    wilfred06 write:

    ]
    Oscar Wilde said something like:
    "A woman marries a man, thinking she can change him.
    A man marries a woman, thinking she will never change.
    Both are mistaken."

    _______________________________

    Both are not mistaken but just have different parallel expectations and that is where the twain shall never meet..
    go for arranged marriages, at least you leave the choice to the people who love you most and know you as you are..your parents..and you leave the expecting to them cos all they expect are grandkids..lol...or kids or pals cos they really want you to be happy and you don't know how to go about finding it..
  • View author's info posted on Jul 07, 2005 16:13


    why are we single?
    When I was young my attraction was to my opposite because he had qualities that I wanted and strived to achieve. So I fell in love with an opposite which means-you either grow apart or with them and learn from each others strengths & faults. But if only one is ready to understand that after the "young" love comes an experienced love (meaning you know more of who you are and where you are going) then one grows in one direction and the other grows or stays put and even sadder desends. Then we reach a point were you make a decision on the above three paths you are going to continuing on. I believe if we are single in this time of our lives we have chosen two of the paths above (growth or desending). I know I have chosen to grow as a person and I am now searching for the right person to compliment me and be with me through my continuous growth and I the same for my future partner. Best of luck everyone - it is an adventure!
  • View author's info posted on Jul 07, 2005 14:12



    z71 write:
    butterfly, the guy was no good for nothing and you married him? WHY????

    I am not picking on you, but that is the problem sometimes. You marry someone thinking; oh, they'll change, but they don't.

    And I said "SOME" women, not ALL. And.. I included guys in the equation.

    So take that!!!


    Oscar Wilde said something like:
    "A woman marries a man, thinking she can change him.
    A man marries a woman, thinking she will never change.
    Both are mistaken."

    When we enter relationships because of what we think the other will become because of our love we are just asking for trouble. Such a person is an idealist. Disappoint them and you'll be in trouble. I'm here for that very reason, sadder, but a little wiser. When I didn't become what she expected, and never mind that she never even told me what she expected, let alone considered whether her dream for me was realistic, she washed her hands of me. And I'm lucky to have escaped, I reckon, because nobody can live up to another's dream forever.
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