Why are beautiful woman still single? Message Board

  • View author's info posted on Feb 01, 2010 21:16

    You said they have a higher expectation ... I think they actually *have* expectations - that's the difference lol

    As for me: I'd rather be single for the right reasons than be with someone for the wrong ones.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 01, 2010 13:48

    The Matchmaker Man on The Today Show a few days ago stated to Kathly Lee that statistics show: 20% of all married men cheat on a regular basis, weekly (OMG)....60% of all men stray on business out of and in town several times during their marriage and 20% of the rest of what is left over are actually honest and committed.

    With "statistics" like this, it is a wonder all of us women do not stay single and never marry...on the other hand why hasn't the statistical bar changed for all us women, if we cheated regularly, we wouldn't really ever give a crap then, would we. How would men feel if we cheated on them all the time?

    Maybe if there were stiffer laws, men wouldn't cheat, there just insn't any punishment for them yet, unless of course we all take the "Lorena Bobbit" mode of fixing them!!!!! The middle east puts cheaters "only women" to death and praises the men, I think the US has the same situation....see "John Edwards, Bill Clinton, and several preachers, etc." Men are conquerers, not nesters, is what I heard from a 58 yr old man many times a few yrs back...he stated to me and my boyfriend at the time "Dan, all men cheat...none of us are nesters, only women are, don't you agree?! I heard that so many times I wanted to slap that doctor's face!

    I, myself, am staying single to find the right one, if u just go with anyone, chances are they will cheat, if u find the right one, good chances r, he will never cheat! It does take two!
  • View author's info posted on Feb 01, 2010 09:03

    Well, I couldn't possibly tell you why all beautiful women are single. Perhaps I could tell you why I am...

    I've had a terrible time with relationships. A lot of the terror I could have avoided now that I reflect on my innocent ignorance. I used to believe that my love could heal all wounds, no matter how deep. Now in my maturity I see that the person must want to help themselves first. I accept that I am powerless to change someone. I want to be with a man who is happy and content with being himself. So far, I have not met that man. This is why I am single.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 31, 2010 22:17

    good job. I like your post. :-)

  • View author's info posted on Jan 29, 2010 14:40

    I can only say that the beautiful women over 40 that are single today are smarter, savvy and have figured out (especially if previously married) what rocks their world and what does not. We have made choices based on experience and not so much interested in finding any partner to say we have one but rather open to the right partner that is cool to grow old with.
    Every woman has their own version on how to respond to this, the reality is....its simple.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 26, 2010 20:40

    I had a guy tell me once that I was too pretty to date- when I asked him to clarify what he meant- he told me that I was the girl that when I walked out of the room all eyes were on me.  He said he couldnt stand all the attention and that he'd always feel like he was competing with everyone in the room.  I was told he'd never be able to have a trusting relationship with someone like me.

    I would like to think I am a catch- I have a great career, financially stable, educated, fun- but for some guys it can be intimidating I suppose.  A lot of guys want you to need them and are insecure when they realize you don't.

    The rest I have found- expect me to be the dumb blonde and hit the door running when I open my mouth and something intelligent comes out.

    but honestly- if I knew anything I probably wouldnt still be single myself!!!

  • View author's info posted on Jan 25, 2010 20:42

    I don't know what your average expectation is but mine are high and I deliver. Personally, being on my own is preferable to being constantly annoyed. Maturity, at any age, goes a damn long way. Responsible, compassionate, kind - along with the sexy, hot and fun. I tend to find that good-looking men rely on their looks - great - have them.
  • View author's info Recommended posted on Jan 20, 2010 19:53

    I have been on many other sites and have not found them very good. I did meet someone on eharmony and it lasted 4 years. Which the last year and a half was us tapeing off.My point i am getting to is i totally relate to Texassunshines view. I have lived my life in limbo with the wrong women for so long that i barely recognize myself. It is sad how some of us become on our road to prosperity. So much so, it has effcted my prosperity ontop of my personality. I am ready for the right one. Where are you

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  • View author's info posted on Jan 17, 2010 16:39

    Moral of the story:

    This just goes to show that some beautiful women are not single

    Don't go to a boat show thinking you can grab a beautiful gold digger from someone who is NOT wealthier than you...looks do not matter to some when money is the object...

    A perfect example: One of the homeliest men in the world, Mick Jagger...nasty face and a teenage boys body. Yet with his fame and fortune he bagged many hotties.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 14, 2010 22:00

    This is a very good topic to explore...kudos for posting it!

    IMO...It takes a very secure man to date a woman "above average in the looks dept". It is a gift to find a man that not only appreciates a beautiful woman but is not threatened by it. A woman beautiful on the outside loves it when a man takes the time to really get to know her inner beauty.

    I feel it is best to have realistic expectations (i.e. similar to expectations you hold for yourself). A good rule to live by is treat others how you would like to be treated and expect of others only what you yourself have to offer. Above all be honest and be real.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 14, 2010 13:42

    A few years back a buddy of mine and I attended the Ft. Lauderdale Boat show which is a HUGE international event. We started over in the small boat section and were through there pretty quickly and into the mid-sized boats and through those pretty quickly making it over to the yachts by around 1p.

    As we sat at this little outdoor venue eating a bite and watching the people, my buddy asked if I saw anything different about the women in this section.

    I didnt and he pointed out to me there were no ugly women in the yacht section. As I looked around he was right. Every mega yacht owner and/or potential owner had an amazing hottie on his arms.

    Moral of the story:
    1) Dont go looking at mega yachts with an ugly guy by your side!
    2) Beautiful people have options. Since most nice looking people can have their pick of suitors, why settle for someone who doesnt meet your expectations?
  • View author's info posted on Jan 13, 2010 12:06

    You know I am a 54 year old and I am not bad looking at all. Though I have been single for the past ten years, but I did find myself attracted to a man my age, and my race too, but his perference seems to be young white blonde women (height did not matter), so I was annoyed, because he is a very nice person and everyone likes him, he is a musical virtuoso on the guitar, but I think I spent two years trying to impress this guy with absolutely no impact. So I have not only moved out of state, but I have moved on. The funny thing is I just met a young man (39) and we hit it off well, and we are friends and he is just so nice to know, but he is married, and I don't mess with married men at all, because I had that done to me by a woman I thought was my friend. I respect the marriage vow seriously and I will lecture a man on remembering why he got married, and if he has kids, then I am very much an advocate for marriage.
    Yes, if you see my Pic, you will see that I am a beautiful woman both inside and out, and I have been studying music for the past Ten years, and did not date or anything. Women my age are single because men my age want younger women, and they can have it especially if they are financially stable and own a home or not, but just is well to do....that what I see and what I know, so for me it is dis-heartning...
  • View author's info posted on Jan 10, 2010 14:51

    Women who have a lot to offer in all ways who are smart, kind in nature, respectful, honorable, successful and have accomplished their own personal goals do not really care so much for men that have problems such as huge debts, bad driving records, housing issues, crazy ex wife issues, mamma's boys, drugs/alcohol/gambling dependencies etc...I was once married to a super smart book smart professional but he was horrible with money despite his earning potential. He also had bad credit and a bad driving record that was a burden to our financial situation. No it did not put a dent into our lifestyle but what was wasted because of his bad driving and poor handling of money could easily have paid for a child's college education. I could deal with that and even with the fact he never had much of a sexual appetite due to vicoden for his back pain...but he not only was a mamma's boy, he eventually allowed her to control him and it killed the 10 great years we had together. When he realized his errors....it was too late. I felt I dodged a big enough bullet.

    I was raised by what I feel is a perfect example of a very good man and a very good woman catch wise. Since my parents were a good match for each other they had a marriage till death. That's 1/2 of a century of success...and a very good marriage at that and one I finally began to learn by after my own marriage failed. My marriage did not fail because of my mate...it failed because I chose the wrong mate.

    To better the chances of a successful LTR contains many ingredients that go into the recipe for a successful LTR.

    Similar social class, similar goals, similar personalities, similar with finances etc...It's not just all about looks...but attraction must be there and the "real chemistry" is not abut looks at all, it's how two people get along, interact, weather arguments and deal with each other's flaws as well as personality quirks. Yes, we all have flaws....I may be a great catch and have a lot to offer a mate but I too admit I have flaws. I would however like to think that the good person I have become really makes up for the flaws and what I bring to the table totally out weights the not so desirable personality quirks I may have.

    So CHEMISTRY is NOT just about physical attraction and similarities....CHEMISTRY is really more about what character flaws we will tolerate in our mate. It just go to prove that time between two people really counts and before we hop in the sack and rock each other's world physically we need to stop and think about how well that strategy has worked for us in the past relationships that resulted in failure.

    The bottom line:
    The better we feel about ourselves when in our mate's company....the better the relationship we have regardless if it's work related, platonic or intimate.

    YOU CAN LEARN from your past relationships, understand your present ones and or even predict the success potential of your future choices - be they personal, professional or other. YOU JUST HAVE TO STOP and GIVE IT SOME GENUNINE THOUGHT BEFORE TRYING TO START ALL OVER AGAIN

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  • View author's info posted on Jan 09, 2010 02:12

    it takes a REAL man to win a woman's heart, and it takes real commitment and hard work.
    No one wants a man whose eyes wander to another female, looks at porn, and acts like a fool?
    All of us women are not wanting the kind of men who look around, women are sick and tired of men cheating on them?
    I have been married twice and sincerely committed to my mate, and still they went else where...what does a woman have to do to find that honest and sincere man? A man who can love and cerish me for who and what I am.

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  • View author's info posted on Jan 07, 2010 16:00

    i love hearing about ur friend....     her happy ending was very encouraging, as well....  i'm i my 50's;  still very attractive im told....    but suffering silently because i don't know who to trust.   

  • View author's info posted on Jan 03, 2010 15:43

    OrionsQuest...I really enjoyed reading your post. You have matured and have learned to appreciate quality instead of being superficial. The ending of your post was too cute...:o)
  • View author's info posted on Dec 05, 2009 02:50

    OH, but KRCF, you're right! You know what? I find that women who remain alone, and are not so okay about that, are the usually extremely picky. I have dated a few times a guy that I would never "pick", but who has turned out to be one of the nicest, most sincere and open men I have yet to meet as a single-again woman. I still think there is a lack of chemistry, but am so glad to have met him, and we've been able to talk openly about our needs, wants, goals, etc. For that ONE man I still believe exists, in my optimistic mind, I have to say that if I can't smile, be open, love and allow myself to be loved, I may NEVER recognize him when he shows up. I'm going to boil that down to fear. Fear of making bad choices. Fear of yellow grass. Fear of intimacy with someone I may unmercifully and prematurely consider sub-standard. All in the French-Maid costume of "too good for you" :/
  • View author's info posted on Nov 26, 2009 06:30

    Yessssssss, many of us are picky..for good reason...Happy Thanksgiving!
  • View author's info posted on Nov 19, 2009 22:03

    Some of us choose to stay single.
    I'm incredibly picky and hard to match.
    I keep it that way on purpose.
    Yeah yeah I'm young, I've heard it all before.
    Love how the people who tell me that don't know a thing about me.

    I liked this post ;)
    - Nicollette
  • View author's info posted on Nov 15, 2009 22:33

    Hello, Dannyspl.¿ I'm definitely not one of those above average in looks women you're talking about...I'm pretty average.¿ But I've had close friends who are in that above-average category you're talking about.¿ All of them have said the same thing to me:¿ They have to put up with so many hits from men that if they didn't discriminate--on any basis they can find to eliminate the riff-raff--they'd do nothing with their lives but respond--or not respond--to men hitting on them.


    Very beautiful women have their own set of troubles to navigate through to get to a good love match that most of the rest of us women can't even begin to imagine having to deal with.¿ Let me give you an example from my own life:¿ Many years ago, back in Manhattan, I had a very dear, close friend who happened to be stunningly gorgeous.¿ She turned heads wherever she went.¿ We used to like to get together every few weeks or so for dinner to catch up with each other on what was going on in our lives.¿ We tried our best to find out of the way quiet bistros where we wouldn't be bothered--meaning where SHE wouldn't be bothered.¿ But no matter where we went to just talk between ourselves, no matter how quiet or unpopulated the place was, we had to put up with some jerk or another -- several jerks, actually, throughout every meal, coming over to our table to interrupt our conversation in an effort to get my friend to go out with him/sleep with him that night/fly off to the Bahamas with him the next day...¿


    My friend had to put up with this crap not just when she was having a quiet dinner with me, but wherever she went, and with whomever she went out with, whether it was a girlfriend she was¿spending time with¿or a man she was dating.¿


    This woman was a "real" woman, not a golddigger or a user, or any other kind of scammer.¿ She was quite accomplished in her chosen field.¿ After years of putting up with with such crap, by 35 she'd developed a very thick skin about it--and a rather nasty attitude toward the creeps who reacted so strongly to her looks--and she became quite cynical about ever finding a man who would treat her as just a normal woman with a head and a heart and a soul and real feelings and needs.¿


    Thank God, she eventually ran into the man who saw her as a "real woman."¿ The one man for her who saw her for who she was in total.¿ He was not particularly "taken" with her looks--Meaning her¿looks did not send him into "shock and awe."¿ He noticed her looks for sure, but after he noticed her looks, he noticed evrything her "looks" said about who she was.¿ He approached her as one human being to another, and began an intelligent conversation that betrayed nothing of how much¿her looks had initially attracted him.¿ This was easy for him because while he found her beautiful, he also saw in her face a powerful¿and unique intelligence--and he was right.¿ He took the tack of responding to that!!!!¿ He did his best to appeal to her unique intelligence and it worked.


    This pair dated for 4 months before becoming physically intimate.¿ FOUR MONTHS!!!!¿ The man who won my friend's heart had enormous patience.¿ He also knew instinctively that he had to touch her soul long before he'd touch¿her body.¿


    They've been married for 31--or maybe it's 32--years now, and¿they're still going strong.


    I hope this¿answers your question to some valuable to you degree.¿ Beautiful women, who also happen to be highly intelligent and on their own course of accomplishment, very often, especially is they're over 30 or so, appear to be aloof or cold or unapproachable.¿ But they're not.¿ If you have an approach --meaning if you have the good sense, insight and intelligence to look beyond their looks into what they actually LOOK like they¿"might be," -- you can get one of these women.¿ But, if all you can do when you see a beautiful woman is¿say to yourself "WOW" and get a boner and let that boner's head¿decide what you'll say to the woman--you ain't gonna get anywhere with that "broad."


    In summary:¿ If a woman is so damn gorgeous that when you look at her across a room all you can think of is how gorgeous she is--and you can't come up with any other ideas about who or what she might be and think and feel except gorgeous--give her a break.¿ Leave her alone.¿ She ain't for you.¿ She is so far beyond you, you might as well be road kill her automobile tires have just run over after 3,786 other automobile tires ran over it.¿


    Hope the above gives you some insight into why beautiful women up to the age of 45 or so may still be single.¿¿No offense intented here, Dannyspl.¿ I'm just telling it to you as I know it.¿ If you see a beautiful woman¿who makes you think "Boy, I'd like to boink her," and you can't think of any other reason to approach her and start a conversation, then you're better off NOT approaching her, because if you do approach her with the¿singular attitude that¿"You're beautiful and I'd really like to get to know you," you're going to get your nuts crushed faster than a lone pine tree in an acre wide empty field is going get hit by lightning in a state-wide thunderstorm.


    Unless, or course, the gorgeous broad is a hooker,¿in which cas she's¿going take your money....


    So, pal, go forth with this motto¿in mind:¿ Beautiful women are people too.¿ Keep that¿right up there in the forefront of your thinking and you'll find¿and connect with the exceptionally beautiful woman you're looking for.



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