Why are beautiful woman still single? Message Board Forward to friends

  • View author's info Posted on May 06, 2010 at 03:56 PM


    Because what we want is hard to find. I can only speak for myself and all I really need and want in a guy is quite simple- A happy partner who loves life and has acceptance,enthusiasm, and enjoyment for his partner or companion and joy in everything he does.Believe it or not it's very hard to find.
  • View author's info Posted on May 03, 2010 at 04:27 PM


    Oh.. I should add..

    The original poster of the question asked about 25 to 45 year old single women?



    Well, check your working statistics- all people (male and female) are staying single longer and getting married much later in life. That's also why you can see a rise in the latter life pregnancy rates and see so many women in the 40s having their first children.



    People are waiting longer to get married because of the increased need/desire to establish themselves in a career before settling down. I for one have 2 undergrad degrees and finished my MBA last year (Age 30).  During the last few years I needed to establish my education and career goals in ensure that I can provide for myself and so that I can achieve my personal life aspirations beyond and husband, home, and 2.3 children.I didn't even have time to consider a serious relationship and I never knew how long a company would allow me to stay in a location or force me to move for a promotion. I couldn't see finding a man and then telling him that he has to move for my career- how many men out there would pick up and move for their woman's career goals? If you are out there- contact me! :)

    You simply cannot compare the status of single women today with the age of marriage in the past. The roles of men and women have dramatically changed in the last 40 years. Men seem to forget that yet they still want an "independent" woman who can provide for herself. In reality, if you want a woman to sacrifice her career aspirations to move and follow your career she will be in many ways dependent on your provider-ship. Otherwise, a woman needs to establish herself well enough that she has control over her career so that she has the power to find a equal compromise with her goals and that of her husband.

    This happens at a older age than in times past. So.. let's get out of simple stereotypes like "high-maintenance" and "golddigger". This conflict is rooted deeper in social changes than in simple stereotypes.



    Ms. Valky

  • View author's info Posted on May 02, 2010 at 08:35 PM


    Well, remember that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", and many women are "still" single, regardless of how they look.

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  • View author's info Posted on May 02, 2010 at 06:01 AM


    They are typically HIGH MAINTENANCE
    I am not talking about it takes them forever to do their hair and make up.
    No matter how much a guy is willing to do for them, it is never enough. It is always more,more, more. It is imposible to satisfy them and guys finally just give up and walk away.
    They are takers/not givers in every aspect of the relationship
  • View author's info Posted on May 01, 2010 at 04:15 PM


    Some us made bad choices in mate when we were young. I think infidelity and trust is a big factor in any relationships today. Once said always date or marry a best friend type with a lot of common interests, not to mention good physical chemistry!

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  • View author's info Posted on Apr 30, 2010 at 06:19 PM


    Quoting valkyrie1:

    I'm really pretty simple. I need a guy who:

    1. Is completely loyal- if only for personal health reasons- Did you know that the in the US 1 in 5 (or 20%) of all adult have some sort of STD? I can get over a guy who breaks my heart but I can't get over AIDS, herpes, etc. If you are interested in someone else.. tell me.. I'm friends with 90% of my ex-boyfriends- the ones that follow this rule. Sleeping around in these modern times is more than unethical- it's just reckless and idiotic.

    2. Have some ambition in life and a good work ethic- if you hate your job and you do half-assed work out of some passive aggressive deal- you're hurting others you work with. I judge people on how they treat others as much as how they treat me. I don't care if you are a garbage collector- but have a passion to be the best garbage collector of all time.

    3. Be generally healthy and able to participate in occasional activities. I'm not looking for Superman. I've dated bald guys, barrel-chested guys, emerging pot belly guys, skinny guys, gray haired guys, etc. Just keep it in check and don't fall of the end of the health scale and develop unnecessary health problems we shouldn't have to deal with.

    4. Be supportive of a woman with a career.



    Ms. Valky



     

    That's exactly right.  Too many people out there claim to be intelligent, but they just can't seem to figure this simple concept out. STD's.

  • View author's info Posted on Apr 27, 2010 at 12:11 AM


    I'm really pretty simple. I need a guy who:

    1. Is completely loyal- if only for personal health reasons- Did you know that the in the US 1 in 5 (or 20%) of all adult have some sort of STD? I can get over a guy who breaks my heart but I can't get over AIDS, herpes, etc. If you are interested in someone else.. tell me.. I'm friends with 90% of my ex-boyfriends- the ones that follow this rule. Sleeping around in these modern times is more than unethical- it's just reckless and idiotic.

    2. Have some ambition in life and a good work ethic- if you hate your job and you do half-assed work out of some passive aggressive deal- you're hurting others you work with. I judge people on how they treat others as much as how they treat me. I don't care if you are a garbage collector- but have a passion to be the best garbage collector of all time.

    3. Be generally healthy and able to participate in occasional activities. I'm not looking for Superman. I've dated bald guys, barrel-chested guys, emerging pot belly guys, skinny guys, gray haired guys, etc. Just keep it in check and don't fall of the end of the health scale and develop unnecessary health problems we shouldn't have to deal with.

    4. Be supportive of a woman with a career.



    Ms. Valky

  • View author's info Posted on Apr 21, 2010 at 03:59 PM


    wow yes why are good looking women are still single on this site ?????
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 19, 2010 at 09:05 AM


    Well i get asked that question all the time and its one simple answer....Lairs....Not saying all men are but its hard to find someone who's just brutally honest. ;)
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 06, 2010 at 02:52 PM


    Times have changed. Both men and women don't know what they really want from a relationship. What are the roles for today. Independence is the buzz word, but independence and living on your own at 60 is not quite the same as 21.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 04, 2010 at 07:07 AM


    In my opinion, women in general are looking for a guy who is a blend of successful, attractive, and commitment minded; not an easy combination to find.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 03, 2010 at 08:55 AM


    "EVERY WOMAN A PRINCESS"

    Woman do have expectations in finding her prince. A woman wants to live a lifestyler of her dreams. If a man can come close to that fantasy and make it as close to a reality then the interest is stimulated. A woman doesn't look at a man so much in looks as men do with woman. A woman wants to feel her prince will be able to take care of her and "their family they create together".
    If a woman feels that a man cannot, then she will most likely pass you up. It is just the same in the animal kingdom, in a species of birds, the male bird creates the nesting home for his mate, if she doesn't like it then she has him tear it down and rebuild a new one until he get's it right. So, the famle is particular in her needs. The best man wins the prize! Then she rewards him with her love and their life together. Women want a secure man within himself, and with someone she can trust. A man isn't happy being a man if he is not where he wants to be financially. If he is happy then his lady will be happy too "Because he is happy HE will make her feel like his princess".

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  • View author's info Posted on Apr 02, 2010 at 08:17 PM


    Quoting lord_d:

    most of the men are afraid to lose them. I think that men want feel better with something/someone they have "under control".



    I think, it's not so much "under control" as "being a hero". It is difficult for a man to feel like a hero with a woman who is striving to be equal to a man.

  • View author's info Posted on Apr 02, 2010 at 07:16 PM


    I am not in the rush.
  • View author's info Posted on Mar 30, 2010 at 05:42 PM


    Good point Mister Practical.. Actually brilliant............LOL my a** off 

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 30, 2010 at 05:18 PM


    Without the need or desire to become or remain a couple for the sake of having children and perpetuating a marriage, there really is very little that can attract and hold a woman or a man in a stable monogomous relationship, if they don't have a passion to be in one.

    Most men and women are simply more in love with themselves than they could ever be with someone else. Read the profiles. Women describe themselves as if they were glamourous movie stars in search of other glamourous movie stars. I just had a date Saturday night with a pudgy 50 year old woman who wrote in her profile that her friends thought she was like Audrey Hepburn. Really?

    The reality is that most of us are just refugess from multile failed relationships.

    Narcissim is a prescription for starring in mirror adoring yourself while life passes you by.

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 30, 2010 at 10:46 AM


    most of the men are afraid to lose them. I think that men want feel better with something/someone they have "under control".

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 27, 2010 at 11:25 PM


    To name a few?
    Some have a cull factor
    I are here you are not
    AND
    c'mere doesn't work

    Follow your Bliss Dahhling
    xoxo Ava

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  • View author's info Posted on Mar 27, 2010 at 03:54 PM


    I tend to think that beauty is in the eye of the beholder . That being said I can only speak for myself I feel that the older, smarter and more assertive I get i just scare the sh** out of a lot of guys...hahaha... It´s the duality of things they want sexy but not to sexy..they want smart but not to smart ...they want independent but not to independent .  It just seems like I cant get that middle ground ;)

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 15, 2010 at 02:17 PM


    i would consider myself pretty and im now single because my ex husband cheated and im not willing to stay in an untrusting relationship with a man who would do that so here i am single...the reason? i am a single mom! i dont have a lot of time to go out so we have to do it online...doesnt mean we dont do things that ugly women do nor does it mean our expectations are higher!

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