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  • View author's info Posted on Nov 10, 2009 at 11:29 AM

    I absolutely agree with kimrich....its not so much women have high expectations but after previous relationships fail, people tend to become more cautious about initiating a relationship or if they seek one they prefer not to settle....which is absolutely fair if u think about it ....because building a relationship is making an emotional investment....n everyone is waiting for otha other person to make a move....its tha whole mating ritual game...noone wants to get screwed over so everyone jus plays it safe....tha truth is tho
    People have to put themselves out there if they wanna see sparks occur.
  • View author's info Posted on Nov 09, 2009 at 01:40 AM

    english0002 I absolutely agree with you!

    Have you ever asked yourselves why there are many "uglier" men dating very attractive women? I have a couple of girlfriends who are in serious relationships with "such guys".These men have the guts to go up to any woman and ask for a date,thus appearing self-confident,whereas men who consider themselves attractive AND successful wait for women to make the first move........ just to notice them sitting in a crowd of 1 million LOL.Well this will not occur.
    Men who just go ahead and ask a lady out are saying,"I like you and will protect you in all situations".That is what we are looking for.And these men do everything to keep the lady,bringing roses once in while and many other simple things which make a relationship last.They REALLY apppreciate her beauty.Unfortunately many good looking successful men want to gather "souvenirs"(I dated MISS....).Women generally do not want to be seen as status symbols.
  • View author's info Posted on Nov 04, 2009 at 01:21 AM

    I am a 53 yr old big beautiful women who can still turn heads when I walk into a room, but men won't come up to me because they sense my independence and this scares them. My close male friends have told me this also. What is wrong with being independent, nothing in my mind, so why are men scared of that? Why do men need needy women, does it make them feel more adequate or what? So because of this I have chose to stay single and enjoy life. I don't want to be judged by anyone, life is too short. Not all women are gold diggers, men just think they are or that is the picture that they paint and it is the men that judge women not the other way around!!!!

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  • View author's info Posted on Oct 31, 2009 at 06:47 AM

    Single and still enjoying life.... as the Bible says, one should be equally yoked! Why settle when you can hire someone to do the manly things around your home....it's about meeting a quality man ... not a quick fix .... anybody can have that.
  • View author's info Posted on Oct 27, 2009 at 09:27 AM

    On the other hand Danny I believe some women such as myself tend to scare or intimidate men because of the woman's independence. I am still single, i know that i am not a bad looking person and in my early 40s, i know that i have a good heart, am a kind person, however I believe the men I have dated prefer a woman who is more dependent and needy, yet because of my personality and character, it is unwise for me to be in that category which is probably a turn off for some men. Just my thought!

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  • View author's info Posted on Oct 27, 2009 at 09:18 AM

    I agree with you Tacora

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  • View author's info Posted on Oct 25, 2009 at 05:26 AM

    For myself, I have been divorced almost 4 years, and while I have met some great guys... several of them at my age, want to have their cake and eat it too, if you know what I mean. I definetly love to have fun in life and embrace it entirely, but I can't support dishonest ways. I know there are men who have figured it out..how to have a great relationship..but there are still some who are wandering around lost a bit seeing this and that woman.

    Now, for me, I went back and got a doctorate.¿I started it while¿I was getting a divorce. It took 3 years and then I had a daughter who was kind of going¿down a dangerous road, so this was all overwhelming a bit....and I was cranky....yep, for sure....I am sure these things were not appealing to any man.

    I just had my first boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Only lasted 6 months, but I thoroughly enjoyed it. I would still be with him if he could communicate openly and honestly. He admitted this was tough for him. I won't go into further details, but I felt like I would be banging my head against the wall in the near future due to frustration.

    Guys, I love you, but I draw the line on the above things....

  • View author's info Posted on Oct 24, 2009 at 02:32 PM

    I still recall the first rejection dealt me at my first Jr. High School dance. After waiting til 9:30 (the dance ended at 10) I mustered the courage to finally walk across the gym and ask a "plain jane" to dance with me. The hurt from being told "no thanks", albeit polite, was magnified by the long walk back to the opposite wall. Whether it was a first dance, a first date, or perhaps simply reaching for her hand first, there was always the expectation that it was up to the man to make the first move. Putting my arm around her at the movies, leaning in for a kiss at the front door, or even slipping my hand inside her sweater for the first time at the drive-in theatre, the onus was always on me to make the first move. She always had the power of rejection by simply saying "no".
    As if it wasn't difficult enough being told no by the "non-hotties", why would I even venture to be ridiculed by a "beautiful" girl?? After all, didn't beautiful women in school garner ALL the attention anyway from the handsome jocks? The fact that the "popular" or attractive girls hung out with each other didn't make it any easier to break into that clique. As far as I was concerned, I learned early in life that the beautiful girls were out of bounds
    It was a painful lesson that remained with me for a long, long time. It wasn't until a decade later that I realized that in actuality, often the most beautiful women get the least amount of attention in public settings. Which does little to instill confidence in them either.
    Today I find that I am intellectually attracted to the woman who is willing to help others, either with a kind word or offering a hand, that gets my attention. If she is quick to smile and say a kind word, all the better. Putting down another woman for any reason, being mean or cruel to another person for any reason are extreme and usually permanent turn offs.
    As far as sexual attraction goes, when the lights are out and the room is dark, if she purrs while she reazches for me, she'll never get any more beautiful/attractive/sexy than that.
  • View author's info Posted on Oct 21, 2009 at 09:25 PM

    I must say I have been woundering the same thing....OK...I'm 60 now,but I have taken the time to take a look at the compition and
    and I feel I may be have been a bit intimadated...but I'll stay
    a bit longer...
    In looking at the men I have been woundering the same thing...I've only been looking at 55 to 68....but have found that they have some realy specific physical requirements and age requirements...(ok I'm not moddel thin or short)But there are a lot of beautiful women on this sight and I would have thaught they would have been snapped up right away....

    I've been lucky..I'm a widow..and had a great love,but hopeing to find another....

    We are all looking for love and may have to change a bit of our
    expectations....A true relationship is a great deal of work and
    and a lot of compromising....But it's worth it for the right person....WE, men and women,have to let go of our EGOS and BE
    the person we want to have...If it's loving and careing..Be that.
    I'm not saying you have to be a door mat...I of all people am not that...but constructive..working together...finding the good stuff...get back to some oldfashioned values...

    Well that's my 2cents.....I hope I've helped..or at least made you think......Barbara....starlight444

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  • View author's info Posted on Oct 07, 2009 at 02:49 PM

    Well said:) Everything you said matches my life as a 39 year old single woman. A survivor of multiple bad long term relationships, now I am taking it easy on myself and not putting up with any unnecessary stress or nonsense anymore, I feel that I must save my energy for good things in life now, as far as a relationship, I am open, but not seeking, in fear that my life could be placed at risk again; however, if something nice comes along I am open, but for now, simply enjoying the safety, security, peace and quiet of solitude and just doing my own thing:)
  • View author's info Posted on Oct 05, 2009 at 08:00 PM

    Quoting Judy114:

    I'm single only because I haven't found the perfect guy for me. I'm not looking for perfect but I've found most men ASSUME I am so they don't try. Others that try have nothing in common with me - life healthier living styles.

    At my age I'd rather be single then to be with the wrong partner - been there done that NEVER doing that again. With that said I'd rather be with someone then being alone, MR. PERFECT WHERE ARE YOU?

  • View author's info Posted on Oct 04, 2009 at 11:43 PM

    Why are many beautiful women are still single are for various reasons. By popular vote, many women come into who they are, what they want and what they are really looking for in a man, at different times in their lives and at different levels of experience. Timing is everything, sometimes it may take a woman to go through several experiences to find the one. Often this occurs after being in bad relationship and by design she chooses not to compromise herself or her wants any longer and rather be single. With age, women are less apt to accept non-sense and simply look for what is authentic in a man. And until she finds it, she decides to remain single and happy.

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  • View author's info Posted on Oct 03, 2009 at 09:47 PM

    I'm single only because I haven't found the perfect guy for me. I'm not looking for perfect but I've found most men ASSUME I am so they don't try. Others that try have nothing in common with me - life healthier living styles.

    At my age I'd rather be single then to be with the wrong partner - been there done that NEVER doing that again. With that said I'd rather be with someone then being alone, MR. PERFECT WHERE ARE YOU?
  • View author's info Posted on Oct 02, 2009 at 12:49 AM

    My personal experience....I have been referred to as anything from "Drop dead gorgeous" to "Cutie" but, every man sees something different. It isn't beauty its appeal. Angelina Jolie is considered a real beauty but, does not appeal to all men. I am 53 and still get these comments however less frequently than when I was younger. I am confident and secure in who I am and what I want, and I believe that is intimidating to most men. On the other hand men with the same qualities get whatever they want. Seems to be a double standard....still....
  • View author's info Posted on Sep 27, 2009 at 08:29 PM

    I do believe that women that are above average with looks tend to be all about themselves they are all about the looks not whats in the heart.... Therefore they will never settle and be happy with anyone...
  • View author's info Posted on Sep 22, 2009 at 02:19 AM

    I think you have hit the nail right on the head!! I have actually been told that very thing by several men. And it doesn't have to be beautiful women over 40, it can be any age. Men are afraid of rejection so when they see a beautiful woman they either think "I don't have a chance with her" or "She must have a partner already". That's not always the case and in my personal experience if a man has the kahunas to come up to me and talk with me or buy me a drink or ask me out, what ever the situation, unless he is just a down right jerk, I will give that guy the time of day. I actually dated a man for almost two years and it all started because he had the nerve to ask me out and I said yes and had the time of my life. He was a wonderful man. So guys, go up to that beautiful woman and introduce yourself. The very worst thing she can do is say no and even though none of us like to be rejected it doesn't acually kill us. ;o)

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  • View author's info Posted on Sep 20, 2009 at 11:59 PM

    You just raised the million dollar question and I'm sure this crosses every Guy's mind.! For my nickel...there are different reasons and motives. Many of these gals have been there done that and are tired of the meat market scenes so they figure maybe they'll try the internet dating game....which after all is a relatively come lately method of attracting Guys....and in this case well situated ones......in fairness though....how come we are doing likewise.....in my case it's a convenient way to research and reach a lotta eligible females without traveling all over the place....squeezing into overcrowded bars or risking rejections,etc.....lol.....all though because I'm a showman, still look ok for my age and am very self confident and personable.....I never have a problem with the ladies.....lol.....!

  • View author's info Posted on Sep 13, 2009 at 02:24 PM

    Quoting LindaDFW:

    Let's turn the tables....why do the hot men over 40 stay single?

    I could not have said anybetter myself...

  • View author's info Posted on Sep 07, 2009 at 02:18 PM

    Let's turn the tables....why do the hot men over 40 stay single?

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  • View author's info Posted on Aug 26, 2009 at 05:34 PM

    I keep asking myself that all the time????
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