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Posted on Mon, Jun 20, 2005 01:31

Last posting folks..
Thanks for all the fun and amusement..

In the search for the ultimate love of our life..as in any goal in life, there is the Risk v. Reward factor that will constantly be the test ..in Love as in everything else, do we dare risk it and at what price to get that reward or maybe none at all? Every heart has a price of pain or pleasure , only you could know what price to risk and dare...so good luck folks may you all find your ultimate Prize! Be gentle with your own heart and those of others that you risk.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 20, 2005 00:35

Z you have had many good answers and some of us will be redundant in that. When we are 20 and we marry we look for those rugged good looks and charisma with attraction. We all have that young mind set not yet filled with the wisdom of our yrs. and experiences. Sometimes we grow with each other and sometimes we grow apart the older we get. We also go through many pitfalls and dealing with those can make or break a relationship. We see all the flaws in each other, some inconsequental some not so. If you become single again then as you get older you see those flaws and learn to be able to pick and choose better next time around.. The next one you find the looks but then you delve deeper and also find the character the humor,caring and many others that you want to have this time around. The inner person at and older age is much more important than when we were 20. When you can find the inner workings to be sincere and true with what you are searching for along with mental and physical compatability then you know that you are on the right track. There is room for flaws but those important attributes have to be high on the list now where at our younger age they were lower on the totem pole

Just as Fun and Mandalay stated we do not have to lower our standards this time around. We can pick and choose now with clarity and experience...



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Posted on Fri, Jun 10, 2005 14:39

CUB...Cupid's arrows going heywire..too many moving targets to aim at..and missing too much ..so hang on in there and stop moving so fast from one woman to another...lol
You need to hold still and be a sitting duck for a bit while she aims..
Also arrow factory on holiday , need to replenish supplies..so take a break , go on summer break, get a tan and you will be more visible..



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Posted on Fri, Jun 10, 2005 10:23


billzeke write:
Cat. People having fun and enjoying themselves are always much more attractive to most; than those that are "desparately seeking Susan" or Sam for that matter. LOL. I lurk more than anything, but I enjoy most of the conversation. Sure beats the stock message boards these days. LOL. Bill

LOL too funny Bill lol



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Posted on Fri, Jun 10, 2005 09:25

Cat. People having fun and enjoying themselves are always much more attractive to most; than those that are "desparately seeking Susan" or Sam for that matter. LOL. I lurk more than anything, but I enjoy most of the conversation. Sure beats the stock message boards these days. LOL. Bill



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Posted on Fri, Jun 10, 2005 08:56


billzeke write:
It seems to me that most of the people that post regularly on these threads are here for some fun and enterainment. I think most would be happy to find the perfect mate, but are not counting on this site to do so. I fear that anyone that joined thinking this was their answer to romance will be very disappointed in the result. One can never find someone when they aggressively looking for them. The best things come along when you are not seeking them. Just my 2 cents.

I agree Bill I was a lil disappointed myself...but have realized I've made some wonderful friends on here...and lord do some ppl make me laugh on here...I'd much rather join the humor here than sit and watch TV...unless I was snuggling w/that someone special...ok ok I do like to snuggle w/my snuggle bug from time to time



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Posted on Fri, Jun 10, 2005 08:47

I am sure that he will, Butter. You really have to find each other though.



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Posted on Fri, Jun 10, 2005 08:19

Bill, I agree, that is exactly what I said, Im patient, and i know he will find me..

im here to just have fun at this point!



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Posted on Fri, Jun 10, 2005 08:10

It seems to me that most of the people that post regularly on these threads are here for some fun and enterainment. I think most would be happy to find the perfect mate, but are not counting on this site to do so. I fear that anyone that joined thinking this was their answer to romance will be very disappointed in the result. One can never find someone when they aggressively looking for them. The best things come along when you are not seeking them. Just my 2 cents.



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Posted on Fri, Jun 10, 2005 06:27


TheCatsMeow65 write:

Me too...when you find the answers please email me :) lol


Which assumes I find the answer before you. Might be a tall order!



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Posted on Fri, Jun 10, 2005 02:08

U-rock:

Call it fear, I dunno. But what Z said about not seeing perfection bears some thought. So does Butter's statement about being wiser for the experience, and Fun's statement about standards. And Mandalay pretty much goes yard with his opinion, I do concur. Bottom line: being unable to find a happy medium between all these is what keeps us from envisioning everyday life with someone, big step that it is.

Solution? Hey, don't ask me, I'm clueless.

~URock
(posting in on an intelligent subject for a change)



I think U-rock , we all fear that with time our minds are conditioned and change is very difficult..easier when we are young , innocent, ignorant and more flexible and willing to change..and love was blind ..

Love, love changes everything..even the things we don't like we are willing to compromise and live with..and I did it all for that one unconditional love of my life..it was worth it..but would I do it all over again?
I need to be even blinder..putting on my extra-dark sunglasses and going to the beach to spectate..might catch some nice young toy-boys and have some serious unconditional fun...u gonna be there rock? Who knows..we could really compromise..don't like loud rock music but willing to put on ear-plugs..lol



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Posted on Fri, Jun 10, 2005 01:59

whew...Maayan, what happened at that Malay wedding..you caught the romantic bug huh?
OOH..watching turtles crawl out of the sea to lay their eggs embedded in the sand....smooth warm sand against naked body under the mellow moonlight and gazing at the sky full of twinkling stars, counting the shooting stars as they whisk by...sipping coconut juice from the shell..whispering sweet nothings...such evocative memories..Maayan I am gettting my sarong and joining you in July..Tioman, Langkawi, RAwa or Cherating? Mana pergi makan angin?? Anyone for a warm tropical rendevous under the sun???? Or just u and I maayan , we'll paint the town red...lol



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Posted on Thu, Jun 09, 2005 21:28

Maslow said that when a need is satisfied it ceases to be important, but another one will take its place. Maybe that is the problem with relationships today - we are never satisfied, no matter how great we have it.



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Posted on Thu, Jun 09, 2005 18:35


Solution? Hey, don't ask me, I'm clueless.

~URock
(posting in on an intelligent subject for a change)

Me too...when you find the answers please email me :) lol



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Posted on Thu, Jun 09, 2005 18:33


z71 write:
butterfly, the guy was no good for nothing and you married him? WHY????

I am not picking on you, but that is the problem sometimes. You marry someone thinking; oh, they'll change, but they don't.

And I said "SOME" women, not ALL. And.. I included guys in the equation.

So take that!!!

I understand where Butter is coming from...sometimes ppl change their mask...after they get you where they want you...especially after the I DO'S



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Posted on Thu, Jun 09, 2005 17:59


OrionsQuest write:
To make ANY relationship work requires compromise on both sides of the equation and a willingness by both parties to give more than either expects in return.

All of which is easier to do when you are young.

As we get older, normally we are in more and longer relationships. When these long term relationships end in a "less than friendly" manner, the cuts are deep, painful and take forever to heal.

As a result we tend to become more critical and less flexible of the opposite sex when subsequently seeking new companionship (other than sex).

Young love may be blind, but then again, youthful ignorance is often blissful.

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OrionsQuest,you are so right....smiles

  


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Posted on Thu, Jun 09, 2005 14:28

To make ANY relationship work requires compromise on both sides of the equation and a willingness by both parties to give more than either expects in return.

All of which is easier to do when you are young.

As we get older, normally we are in more and longer relationships. When these long term relationships end in a "less than friendly" manner, the cuts are deep, painful and take forever to heal.

As a result we tend to become more critical and less flexible of the opposite sex when subsequently seeking new companionship (other than sex).

Young love may be blind, but then again, youthful ignorance is often blissful.

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Posted on Thu, Jun 09, 2005 13:32

Why? Everyone has quirks. And let's expand this out to everyone, rather than being gender-sensitive and just saying "Why are WOMEN, etc, etc?"

The quirks, okay. Let's assume the person you were with previously had one or more characteristics that you didn't like. Let's consider the effect of "what you didn't like" on you. You say "there were things I didn't like" about him/her and you remember the effect(s) on you.

Then, out into the cold world you go to meet more people. And you do. Let's say you meet someone and none of those old bugbears from your previous insignificant other are there. BUT....(big "but"), there are other things you see in the person, characteristics that, well you might tolerate them. They may actually be insignificant things. But they are still things you don't like. AND....you remember the other things that you didn't like and you remember the effect(s).

Call it fear, I dunno. But what Z said about not seeing perfection bears some thought. So does Butter's statement about being wiser for the experience, and Fun's statement about standards. And Mandalay pretty much goes yard with his opinion, I do concur. Bottom line: being unable to find a happy medium between all these is what keeps us from envisioning everyday life with someone, big step that it is.

Solution? Hey, don't ask me, I'm clueless.

~URock
(posting in on an intelligent subject for a change)



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Posted on Thu, Jun 09, 2005 12:20

Z,,, well I married him because I was in Love, and very young, and not full of life's experiences yet. I wasnt taught the things that I taught my daughter to look out for, I was raised in a family of 9 children, My father a Cop. they didnt take the time to teach us anything about how to choose a mate, I had 6 older brothers, by the time they got to me and my sisters, they were exhausted, and too mean and hateful to each other to teach anything to anyone. My mother died when I was 16, But my point was that woman are different now. we have learned how to take care ou ourselves, we are able to teach that to out daughters, so they dont fall into the same traps that our age group fell into, and our mothers did as well.

Yes I married him, Love is Blind,,especially when you are 21, but I dont regret anything in my life, I have 2 fantastic kids, who have grown into very smart educated adults.Im not at all bitter about that man, or that marriage, i came out a much wiser woman, and for the first time in my life I really know what i want, and am able to wait for it..Im very patient.

So take that!!!!!

  


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Posted on Thu, Jun 09, 2005 10:06

butterfly, the guy was no good for nothing and you married him? WHY????

I am not picking on you, but that is the problem sometimes. You marry someone thinking; oh, they'll change, but they don't.

And I said "SOME" women, not ALL. And.. I included guys in the equation.

So take that!!!