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Posted on Thu, Nov 29, 2012 10:30

I think alot do have unrealistic expectations and not much to back it up from their own POV. I also think people lack patience, understanding and commitment these days. I'm also seeing a trend with men over 35, who are mentally unstable and very insecure. I've not dated many men, but speak to alot of men and also have friends who talk about men and relationships(my fav subject), so i won't speak as if i've first hand experience. 
I'm not sure what the problem between men and women are and why relationships aren't lasting, but one thing i do agree is that when sex became easy, love got harder to find. There is truth in that statement.
I also think people rush into relationships and they don't spend enough time talking and learning about each other.



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Posted on Fri, Nov 23, 2012 01:21

Sometimes they are still not single, but looking for something different, because at present they don't have what expected.



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Posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2012 03:57

I find this all very interesting. I believe that you have the right to be who you are. I don't have the right to judge or change you. I, however, have the right to hang out with you, or not. This is true of everyone I encounter, well, except for family. They say you can't pick your family....
If there was something annoying about me, something that you couldn't accept, tell me, (kindly  please), and move on. I'm capable of change, but I can't change something I'm unaware of. I call it constructive criticism. 
So, with all that said, let's just date and get to know one another.

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Posted on Wed, Oct 17, 2012 13:48

Quoting Kymbr77:

I think too many women want perfection in a man.  I think I am beautiful inside and out but I know I am not perfect.  Too often women have a check list of the perfect mate.  The checklist gets longer every time she dates a guy and finds something she does not like about them.  What man in this world can be everything on her list?  She is fooling herself and as the time clock keeps ticking she will find herself lonely and wish she had not been so anal about perfection.  The important characteristics on a list should be....  Attractive to me (not the world)  Fun!  Happy  Secure with himself and Kind (give or take a characteristics that are important to her)  The rest of who he is comes with....accept who he is and don't try and change him.  Enjoy the great qualities that are important to you and be a happy couple.  Don't run at the first sign of "imperfection"  We live in a superficial world but we do not have to follow this protocal...

Kymbr, that's incredibly well said.

[quote]When my girlfriends and I are out, men very rarely approach any of us. The intimidation factor definitely gets worse when we are in a group yet we're friendly and come across as approachable. I tend to break the ice for my friends, I'm from Michigan which automatically makes it easier. My girlfriend recently went out on a date with someone I introduced her to.[/quote]
Has nothing to do with an intimidation factor when in a group, it has to do with experience and any guy whose hit on more than 4 women in his life knows not to bother with a group of women...



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Posted on Tue, Oct 16, 2012 16:50

I think too many women want perfection in a man.  I think I am beautiful inside and out but I know I am not perfect.  Too often women have a check list of the perfect mate.  The checklist gets longer every time she dates a guy and finds something she does not like about them.  What man in this world can be everything on her list?  She is fooling herself and as the time clock keeps ticking she will find herself lonely and wish she had not been so anal about perfection.  The important characteristics on a list should be....  Attractive to me (not the world)  Fun!  Happy  Secure with himself and Kind (give or take a characteristics that are important to her)  The rest of who he is comes with....accept who he is and don't try and change him.  Enjoy the great qualities that are important to you and be a happy couple.  Don't run at the first sign of "imperfection"  We live in a superficial world but we do not have to follow this protocal...



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Posted on Mon, Oct 08, 2012 07:00

In my case let's just say God has a sense of humor and I am currently the punchline. Good men like good women these days are like a needle in a haystack to find, I had one and lost him, but I can say I am stronger now and open emotionally to get to know someone else. I can say I am spoiled and will not accept anything less than the best, and I don't mean material things, I mean emotionally. I am only compatible with a strong man, one who is not afraid to say what he means and mean what he says. Nothing in the world worse to me than a coward pretending to have a set of cahones, don't regret what you do, and don't do things out of malice, just be true to who you are and all your flaws, that way you can look beyond the superficial exterior of everyone else and see everyone for who they really are... Real Eyes, Realize, Real Lies...

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Posted on Sat, Oct 06, 2012 10:07

I like this topic. ^_^ For me, the men I have dated don't know how to court a lady these days. For example, it would be nice to open the door for me instead of going inside first and holding the door for me to come in after you. I even hold the door for my friends first. It's the nice thing to do. Also, a big factor is sometimes there's no chemistry. 
Hopefully our knight in shining armor will come ladies! In the meantime, stay classy, beautiful, and enjoy doing many various activities!  The world is our oyster!



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Posted on Sat, Sep 29, 2012 00:14

AMEN Charminglychar!



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Posted on Fri, Sep 28, 2012 02:28

Quoting 06roadster:

I think for some men they are afraid and intimidated to aproach beautiful women. They could be not confident enough or in some cases have flaws they feel may keep them from going out and introducing themselves. Same for women also. However I do feel both sexes are sometimes looking for the ultimate mate they feel to realize that the special one they look for only exist on the cover of Harlequin romance books.

When my girlfriends and I are out, men very rarely approach any of us. The intimidation factor definitely gets worse when we are in a group yet we're friendly and come across as approachable. I tend to break the ice for my friends, I'm from Michigan which automatically makes it easier. My girlfriend recently went out on a date with someone I introduced her to.

06roadster, I sent you a wink, hopefully you will read it before you're gone from this site. I was shocked to see someone on here from Temecula!



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Posted on Fri, Sep 28, 2012 00:33

I think for some men they are afraid and intimidated to aproach beautiful women. They could be not confident enough or in some cases have flaws they feel may keep them from going out and introducing themselves. Same for women also. However I do feel both sexes are sometimes looking for the ultimate mate they feel to realize that the special one they look for only exist on the cover of Harlequin romance books.



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Posted on Sat, Sep 15, 2012 04:18






I feel like the upbringing of men has definitely changed. Being part of the younger generation its actually quite sad. Now a days it kind of seems like the men are looking to have a woman who contributes 50% to bills and 100% to the home. The way I see it....I can do that by myself. I either have encounters with guys that work, work, work and feel that as long as they pay for things for you they don't have to be around or the guy that always wants to be around and has no intent to make a living to support himself. So to sum it all up, its harder to find a good guy now a days. Way more rotten apples. Patience is key....and a virtue.





 








Absolutely agree! A beautiful and independent woman doesn't need someone who wants 50% economic sharing from her and who controls her life. She can raise a child alone then, but he must be from a beautiful young man (she has choices to chose the best option).
A beautiful woman (I mean, a really beautiful woman) knows her value on the market. And if she is not stupid she doesn´t want to be with someone who can´t appreciate her.






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Posted on Sat, Sep 15, 2012 03:48

Absolutely agree! A beautiful and independent woman doesn't need someone who wants 50% economic sharing from her and who controls her life.  She can raise a child alone then, but  he must be from a beautiful young man (she has choices to chose the best option).
A beautiful woman (I mean, a really beautiful woman) knows her value on the market. And if she is not stupid she doesn´t want to be with someone who can´t appreciate her.



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Posted on Thu, Sep 13, 2012 10:03

Quoting Orlando__:

It is a U.S. trend to not marry.  The highest percentage of women up to age 44 who have never married was among blacks (55%), followed by U.S.-born Hispanics (49%), Asians (39%) and whites (34%).
Source: National Center for Health Statistics

I did ask about the physical looks in my OP out of curiosity only but much has been said since then. So I enjoy any woman here posting if she sees herself as beautiful inside and out. Men see it that way eventually as they mature. 

I again want to say women are as beautiful as they see themselves, not as others see them. If you think you are beautiful inside and out then I want to hear your response here. Because I know women use the word as a qualifier for how others see them. I say forget that. Stop worrying about how others see you. Your character and beauty is defined by you not the world. Men care about how you make them feel, to feel valued, emotionally stimulated. Your looks just attracts them initially. If you make them feel valued, they will stick around for the longterm. But the media, magazine pictures that are air brushed and movies will say women must be physically beautiful to be accepted by men and the world. 

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A common complaint GLP has stated and many women included is men don't communicate well and don't reveal who they are. I believe that. If you the woman have decided to date or marry this guy and you stay around him because you think you can change him, then why do you complain later when it doesn't grow or even fails? One of the first qualifiers to any dating relationship is communication. Again this is where women have most of the power. If he doesn't reveal who he is at the beginning why would you want to wait till he does. He may never. Move on! If he doesn't feel valued or emotionally stimulated by his woman why would he want to listen, help out around the home and with kids, or just be with her. He will withdraw eventually and do the things men are known to do when they are feeling empty.

If you are the type of feminist who empowers herself by emasculating or just criticizing and being judgmental toward men, you will have the most difficult time finding a man who will tolerate you. Unless of course you allow him to be empowering or dominate over you. But very unlikely that kind of match will succeed. And where physical looks and attraction plays a big role at the beginning, it's what's on the inside that will keep the relationship strong for the longterm. True beauty inside and out. My kind of beautiful woman I state in my OP.



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Posted on Thu, Aug 23, 2012 15:59

I see women with highschool educations who are wider than they are tall and who want a millionaire doctor with six pack abs and are somehow convinced they will land this mythical creature.  When I encounter them, I always ask: "what do you bring to the table" and most can't answer that question and the ones that can have answers that totally lack a grasp of reality.
Moving beyond that, I encounter lots of younger women who seem to also have unrealistic expectations.
So, I asked my son who's 24, 6'4, 220lbs rugby playing, newly minted CPA what he looks for and the number one thing on his list is: kindness.  In his words, "Superfical demands takes them off the mate list and puts them on the date list."
It's the same old story: "All the great guys are taken." when, in reality, there are plenty of great guys in the world, they just look for things that seem to escape the vast majority of women.
And that's why so many are single...



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Posted on Fri, Aug 17, 2012 10:47

It is a U.S. trend to not marry.  The highest percentage of women up to age 44 who have never married was among blacks (55%), followed by U.S.-born Hispanics (49%), Asians (39%) and whites (34%).
Source: National Center for Health Statistics



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Posted on Sun, Jul 01, 2012 21:58

Women who are 25-45 seem to not look for LOVE anymore, and ALL men any age is the same way.
Most men, even older men, seem to be looking for that 25-35 yr old woman but it seems that women that age group don't want to settle unless the man has money and can give her LOTS of attention, praise, and tell her countless ways how stunning she looks. Im not speaking this for all women but a majority of them.
Younger women want that sense of financial security but aren't really into the relationship for the RIGHT reasons and that is "to find true love" and although they maybe attending college at the time you meet they still want that financial security which is not a good start to a relationship.  They also demand more attention cause you have to remember they are younger and no matter how gorgeous they may be or HOT, most have ALOT of insecurities and constantly need the attention from men to feel more attractive and not just with the man they are with at that moment. They also feel as if they are in competition to look better than such and such's wife/girlfriend so they demand more bling so they can "look better". Alot of the insecurities lead to them not being trustworthy of you thinking you will be the same way, which can lead to relationship problems and so they can't hold a relationship in that aspect as well.
If you are with a woman that is over 40, most women have outgrown all the physical  insecurities and have learn to accept their appearance, they usually financially doing ok on their own and aren't searching JUST for the money but  more for LOVE and don't really care if any other man other than who they are with "take notice"of her. Shes happier in her own skin.
I am not saying bad things about women 25-45 and again this isn't directly toward all women in that age category. Just experience from what I have observed over the years.



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Posted on Fri, Jun 29, 2012 05:37

I feel like the upbringing of men has definitely changed. Being part of the younger generation its actually quite sad. Now a days it kind of seems like the men are looking to have a woman who contributes 50% to bills and 100% to the home. The way I see it....I can do that by myself.  I either have encounters with guys that work, work, work and feel that as long as they pay for things for you they don't have to be around or the guy that always wants to be around and has no intent to make a living to support himself. So to sum it all up, its harder to find a good guy now a days. Way more rotten apples. Patience is key....and a virtue.



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Posted on Sat, Jun 23, 2012 20:29

Yes...Maybe high expectations of wanting someone honest and faithful. Isn't that what most people want?



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Posted on Fri, Jun 22, 2012 21:50

They either expect much more out of a man than they themselves can provide, or they're smart enough to know what they want and patient enough to wait for it.



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Posted on Thu, Jun 21, 2012 23:13

Quoting 16Penelope:

We may single because they/men are looking for a second mother - maybe he is still living at home with his  parents.  maybe his casual drinking is more than casual and just looking for a new drinking buddy - likes her independent ways when first meet but then he become insecure because of her independence - maybe still stuck in his immature ways thinking he can play as he did in his 20's - maybe he may lack maturity and confidence choosing to be with younger ladies old enough to be their daughters - maybe once comfortable in relationship they become couch potatoes - maybe once they reach thei age of approx 50 they want to relive their teen years or try to hold on to youth by behaving as such - chivalry has been completly thrown out the door by men that or their parents have never taught them anything about it  - some men out their are just cons... - I can go on with many more reasons why beautiful women on the inside and out are single.

Penelope don't forget  you have experienced first hand all those things about the man you were involved with.
You are getting to know him more and more where you discover those things you speak. So at what point do you say I do not want a man like this?  But you continue to be with such a man even when you say he becomes a couch potato. All I can say is either you may be enabling him in some way or you are being codependent for some reason from your past. Either way you picked him to know and continue to stay with him. Before you can describe the negative character of such a man you need to take some responsibility for picking him and staying with him as long as you did.
Men don't change unless they want to but I bet you thought you could change him as soon as you began to experience his juvenial behavior. I could be wrong with that assumption but in many cases that is an accurate assumption.

Women, you can not change men and their behavior but you can have a powerful influence toward his behavior and actions. Your behavior and actions toward him daily may be the most important way you can hope he may change his ways. But at some time you need to move on if he chooses not to change his ways.



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