I tend to think that beauty is in the eye of the beholder . That being said I can only speak for myself I feel that the older, smarter and more assertive I get i just scare the sh** out of a lot of guys...hahaha... It´s the duality of things they want sexy but not to sexy..they want smart but not to smart ...they want independent but not to independent . It just seems like I cant get that middle ground ;)
i would consider myself pretty and im now single because my ex husband cheated and im not willing to stay in an untrusting relationship with a man who would do that so here i am single...the reason? i am a single mom! i dont have a lot of time to go out so we have to do it online...doesnt mean we dont do things that ugly women do nor does it mean our expectations are higher!
They are too busy sorting through inappropriate guys. Higher expectations on their side - guy has to be better than they are - and a lot of good guys not hitting on them as those girls "are not available" when, in fact, they just might not appear to be.
In translation, if girl is the wait to be picked type, she will not initiate the contact.
Meantime she will be busy being polite and trying to know better the people who hit on her. A lot are not the right kind.
So, two ingredients:
1. higher expectations (maybe)
2. fear of failure on behalf of the guys which are an appropriate fit.
To be too smart, or too beautiful, or both, might be a curse in disguise.
This is the good case, but there are also other reasons for which good looking women are alone.
ooooooooooohhhhhh my the question i love to answer it seems i did a survey and men told me ugly women do more things than pretty women which i felt is not true because i do everything and i mean everything also some men said they dont have to worry about other men looking at they women but i feel thats crazy because if she have a nice body and she ugly men still look some men that is some men dont have standards and some men do my situation is that men feel threatened by me being smart and high maintenance thats my problem sorry a lot of pretty women dont like to be looking any kind of way.
Back in the days of the Kinsey report (early '50s) men were found to cheat about 4 times as often as women. That has changed considerably. The number of women who cheat today has become almost equal to the number of men.
If you expect someone to cheat, they will--it will just become a self-fulling prophecy. Not saying one should go into a new relationship without open eyes, but don't start with negative expectations.
Question of the millenneum (sp? I never peg that word correctly.)! Firstly, there are far more women in the world than men. That means when it's time to pair-up, a lot of us have to be left out. That's just how it goes. Then of late, I notice so many men around my age have so much emotional baggage they carry with them from one flitting relationship to the next without having given themselves time and introspection to process it all and reflect on it, other than licking their wounds and giving themselves an empty pep talk before hitting the scene again with someone new. This isn't a good situation the guy or for the new girl, or the ten girls after that. Humans have to do some introspection before moving on to the next entanglement, or they are just spreading poison, in my opinion. That's not to say women don't have their variety of counterproductive issues, too, 'cause we've all got *some* emotional hang-ups.
Besides the emo-baggage... There's still hope that two paths will cross at just the right moment, and chemistry, timing and such will do their parts to bring two beautiful people together. I'm still hopin' and open! Best to you all in your searches! :)
Ok Im open to all opinions. I want to know why ladies who are mainly 25 to 45 and are above average in the looks dept., are still single and can't seem to find a guy to settle down with. Many are looking here and other personals sites. From my dating experience they seem to have higher than average expectations for men. Men on the other hand, such as myself tend to avoid these women once they are figured out. I want to know from both sexes what you think these expectations are and why women dont want to accept the character of guys that are attracted to them?
Maybe because she's not attracted to him. It has to work both ways, no? Why won't you accept the charater of women who are attractd to you? Surely there are some?
I am finding out that men tend to assume that if they are interested, and the women must be interested as well. Am I wrong here?
From being a female of 24 in age..it's not that we can't find men..it's the kind of men we find. I am not saying every guy is horrible, but lets be honest most guys don't know how to treat a woman. They don't really know what they want. I think a lot of the issues come with communication. If you can't communicate how are you going to make the relationship work? Most guys seem to bottle up a lot of their emotions and don't know how to express themselves.
The Matchmaker Man on The Today Show a few days ago stated to Kathly Lee that statistics show: 20% of all married men cheat on a regular basis, weekly (OMG)....60% of all men stray on business out of and in town several times during their marriage and 20% of the rest of what is left over are actually honest and committed.
With "statistics" like this, it is a wonder all of us women do not stay single and never marry...on the other hand why hasn't the statistical bar changed for all us women, if we cheated regularly, we wouldn't really ever give a crap then, would we. How would men feel if we cheated on them all the time?
Maybe if there were stiffer laws, men wouldn't cheat, there just insn't any punishment for them yet, unless of course we all take the "Lorena Bobbit" mode of fixing them!!!!! The middle east puts cheaters "only women" to death and praises the men, I think the US has the same situation....see "John Edwards, Bill Clinton, and several preachers, etc." Men are conquerers, not nesters, is what I heard from a 58 yr old man many times a few yrs back...he stated to me and my boyfriend at the time "Dan, all men cheat...none of us are nesters, only women are, don't you agree?! I heard that so many times I wanted to slap that doctor's face!
I, myself, am staying single to find the right one, if u just go with anyone, chances are they will cheat, if u find the right one, good chances r, he will never cheat! It does take two!