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Posted on Wed, Jul 05, 2006 19:09

How about this: "Once you go white, you'll always be right?" I have been all over the world and feel sorry you have had a bad situation in your varied relationships. But I don't think it is about the color, I think it is about whom you date. If you get to know someone well, instead of diving in head first with blinders on, you will never have a good relationship. You should find someone who loves you no matter what color, what kind of food you eat, what religion you practice, how you smell, etc. Don't look at me and say "Hey, she's cute and I am already in love, let's get married!" (I get that all the time) How can you be interested and want to be with someone forever and not even know them? I mean looks count greatly but it is really the inner self that defines a person. So look for both if that is what you need to do and go slowly and find someone who will love you, treat you good, and show you the respect you so richly deserve. Barbs like the one the ex threw at you...is definitely not true! Believe me, I know.

  


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Posted on Wed, Jul 05, 2006 15:18

Replying to the second paragraph about cultural differences....I would think that a couple would experience these things, such as "having trouble with introducing someone of a different culture, background, ethnicity, etc. to your family" in the beginning of the courtship or dating phase, not when you are married to someone. Come on people, how old are you to not know that everyone may not be as open-minded as you or your family therefore, that should be experienced before marriage is even an option. And as far as these personality traits of the Iranian woman and Barbadian lady, that's exactly what they are, PERSONALITY TRAITS and they have nothing to do with ethnicity. Gold diggers come in all shapes, sizes, ethinicities, backgrounds, and nationalities as well as women who are a little on the crazy side or violent side. So that's my comment. And yeah my ex belives that to be true as well...."Once you go black, you never go back....LOL....I love my caucasian brothers!

  


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Posted on Sat, Jul 01, 2006 13:58

IT WOULD BE REALLY VERY GOOD IF PEOPLE WOULD "THINK" BEFORE THEY SPEAK. tHE SITUATIONS YOU ARE ALL TALKING ABOUT ARE "INDIVIDUAL" NOT GENERIC. YOUR SITUATION "GOOD" OR "BAD" IS NOT THE norm FOR EVERYONE.

cAN WE GET OFF THIS WHOLE NEGATIVE RACIAL THING THAT IS OH SO DEPRESSING AND FOCUS ON "RELATIONSHIPS" BETWEEN "PEOPLE!" wHEN WILL WE LEARN.

CAN WE RETURN TO "SANITY?"

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Posted on Fri, Jun 30, 2006 21:10

I came to this forum because I am a Caucasian woman (one of the whitest I know, actually), dating a Chinese/Thai man and I was curious to see what others had to say. I have to admit I'm a bit disappointed in some of the limited outlooks I see here. The man I am seeing and I are very different, yes, but both of us are willing to learn about and accept each others' cultures and values. That's the key to making any relationship work, interracial or not. If I had been afraid of or unwilling to go to a Buddhist puja class, or eat some unrecognizable Thai delicacy (I still don't know what it was, but it was delicious) then I would have missed out on an incredible human being, one that accepts my need to eat matzoh ball soup every now and again and understands when I cross myself and say a paternoster whenever I see an emergency vehicle (my parents were Catholic and Jewish- I'm Jewthlic!) It's not easy all the time, our families still clash every now and again, as do we, but it's entirely worth it. I view this relationship as a great adventure, just as I did when I dated African-Americans, Hindus, and Caucasians (I enjoy men, what can I say?). I can't lump the men I have loved into one blanket statement or ethnic group, they are all individuals with different life experiences, strengths and weaknesses. There may be some cultural similarities between them, but the bottom line is, they have all been wonderful men, who have appreciated me for who I am, regardless of my color or religious beliefs, as I have done for them. This is just my two cents, but I encourage everyone to stop making it about race, and look for what lies in someone's heart.

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Posted on Fri, Jun 30, 2006 07:22

"Once yo go black you never go back!"

That is just wrong statement, that is not apply to everyone who dated "black" before. I date couple of African American before, and they are lied all the way through their toot for no particular reason. That make me think that I will never go there again.

I dont mean that everyone are like but I never see someone lie like that in my entire life.



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Posted on Sun, Mar 26, 2006 15:46

I find it really sad that in todays world there is still all of this racial talk and whether its right or wrong. It really does make me wonder about humanity. I remember when I left Alaska at the age of 16 I had never even seen a black person and had no idea what racisim was. Of course I moved to Fla. That was 1966. I use to stop at this Howard Johnsons on my way home from work every night and there was this absolutely beautiful african american that worked there and I had the worst crush you could imagine on her. I asked her out many times but she would never give me a real reason why she refused. Of course over the next couple of months I learned why and you know it didn't make any difference to me then and it doesn't now. We dated for about six months then it ended but I will never forget her as long as I live. What a wonderful women she was.



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Posted on Tue, Mar 07, 2006 06:59

Barbadian IS FROM BARBADOS SEXYDAPH..Sometimes called "Bajan" can be white, spanish or black it's a caribbean country I never want a black, WHITE SPANISH BAJAN MAN BARBADIAN EVER AGAIN..I call Barbadian men BARBARIANS...Sorry..I am divorcing a spanish barbadian...oops that conan the Barbarian...atilla the hun caveman..
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okay "barbadian" whatever that is,, is not the same as african-american, maybe if you meet an african american women maybe the statement is true("Once you've had black, you never go back.")! how bout not dating exotic women lolololo for awhile!:) seems thats all you know of. The way your talking you said it like youve tried all the races! try more!



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Posted on Sat, Mar 04, 2006 10:50

Stupo,
Nothing you have stated has anything to do with interracial dating. You have made some very bad choices in the women you chose to date and marry. It had nothing to do with being interracial.Iraninan is not a race it is a nation, Barbadian is not a race it is a nation. What you faced were cultural differences not racial.
And yes you are right!
Once yo go black you never go back!

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Posted on Mon, Feb 27, 2006 19:29

Frankly I dont care about race, but others did interfer when I had them. It can be a pain. I cannot wait until we have true color blind world ... but until then the interacial thing can be one more thing to deal with. I dont think two people who are in love should ever be kept apart but I think everyone should think carefully about every relationship before embarking.



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Posted on Tue, Dec 06, 2005 18:55

To me I only date Latino/Hispanic-Americans and Asian-Americans. Becuase, most African-Americans, and Caucasusians don't celerbrate any traditional value, or aren't family oriented. I'm not saying this just to be saying this. I've dated a lot of Caucasusians and African-Americans (Women of course lol, dont get it twisted!). I'm Hispanic by the way. (Just incase people wanted to know.)



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Posted on Tue, Dec 06, 2005 02:53

people should let people be with who they want to I've had mixed relationships and I've been happy and had a great time with my partner because you have to be in tune to each others cultures and needs and dreams.I would love to be in another mixed relationship.You just treat people how you want to be treated.



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Posted on Sat, Nov 05, 2005 21:15

hi stupot01 one thing everyone is forgetting,dating is not marrage.i have been married to a very specailw= woman that happen to be black.the streets are hard on you when you are in interraceail relationship. black men don't like quote there wemon with white guys,white don't take it searous. say they are not racest but there words and actions say otherwise. i know what he's talking about.youre not free to intermingle even in the famliys .when siblings get mad or jealous the race thing comes out agasnt both parties. don't get me wrong,I LOVE BLACK WEMEN.they are the most loving and careing ,that is my opinion.i have not ment to insult or anger anyone,but face it this world we live in is not as nice as some would like to beleave



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Posted on Tue, Oct 25, 2005 16:53

Hi Neighbor,

I'm in Atlanta too and I've found that there are good and bad people no matter what the color of their skin. I'm not attracted to black men at all and not sure what I think about interracial relationships. I just know that it's not for me.
It sounds like there was a lot more to be concerned about with your lady rather than just who she dated.
Whew....lol
Hi Neighbor,

I'm in Atlanta too and I've found that there are good and bad people no matter what the color of their skin. I'm not attracted to black men at all and not sure what I think about interracial relationships. I just know that it's not for me.
It sounds like there was a lot more to be concerned about with your lady rather than just who she dated.
Whew....lol



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Posted on Thu, Oct 20, 2005 20:25

I have dated a lot of white guys in my life and they are awesome. My last boyfriend was very cool and his attitude about the whole thing was amazing. Being that he was mr. fortune 500 business guy. It never seem to bother him which to me made him worldly, humble and very attractive. Plus, it is a total myth about white guys in bed. I can surely say it was fantastic. But, you do have to be aware of those who are just looking for the experience and not the person.
I have dated a lot of white guys in my life and they are awesome. My last boyfriend was very cool and his attitude about the whole thing was amazing. Being that he was mr. fortune 500 business guy. It never seem to bother him which to me made him worldly, humble and very attractive. Plus, it is a total myth about white guys in bed. I can surely say it was fantastic. But, you do have to be aware of those who are just looking for the experience and not the person.

  


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Posted on Mon, Sep 19, 2005 02:10

have dated Caucasian gentlemen since I was 9years old when the first boy I kiss was my neighbor who was a young Caucasian boy. Now mind you at that time people against inter-racial relationships was still a ta bu and many African Americans still harbor ill feelings and my family was hard press about me dating out side our race but as long as I like the gentlemen and they treated me right they could not say much. Well that was many years ago now one of those same uncles married a Caucasian woman and I have others in my family including my mother also are dating out of our race as she so nicely put it one time (SMILE) this is the international house lol. But what is race really there are so many of us including myself that has so many different race with in ourselves even those who think other wise. I believe if you really trace your family tree back far enough you will find that you more then likely yourself are of an inter-racial family of some sort. What are we anyway are we a color or just the human race with different shades. As long as you and your partner are happy then all else will soon fall in place and think about it real love is not found easily. So are you going too let your possible soul mate or best friend the person when all else goes wrong and everyone else turns on you they are the person that will always be by your side. Even when your family is not talking too you they are there for you and so are you really willing too let them go because of what others think. Are you willing to give up your happiness just because someone else is trying too push their hatred and closed minded issues upon you. I am not willing to be lonely for someone else who probably has some one and more then likely are miserable and just want me too miserable to.
Others are followers because they are afraid too lead I myself prefer too be a head of the pack not behind. Most of those people criticizing us secretly wish they had the courage to go where do to leap out and grab their happiness instead of settling for less.

  


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Posted on Thu, Sep 15, 2005 08:29

I agree with everyone. There are so many other thing' to worry about. Why limit yourself with LOVE. But then were different! Everyone of us want LOVE; and the haters do to,they just dont know how to recieve it. And its not going to come from your racist neighbor. I am a sexy black southern female and I love a sexy white man. From redneck to rich. Everything is a learning experience; why not try them all!!!!!



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Posted on Tue, Sep 13, 2005 15:01

I TRULY BELIEVE COLOR OR RACE IS NOT AN ISSUE IT IS ALL ABOUT THE PERSON. FACT 1 BEFORE MARRIAGE STUDY YOUR PARTNERS CULTURE!!!! ALL CULTURES ARE VERY DIFFERENT. FACT 2 LOVE THAT PERSON FOR WHO THEY ARE NOT THE COLOR THEY ARE AND DISCUSS YOUR INTERESTS IN YOUR FUTURE BEFOREHAND!!!! I WAS MARRIED FOR 13 YEARS TO AN AFRICAN AMERICAN AND BECAUSE THAT DIDN'T WORK OUT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIS COLOR!!! :) DON'T PUT EVERYONE IN A CATEGORY BECAUSE OF PAST FAILURES

  
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Posted on Fri, Sep 09, 2005 12:31

Kelly, tranquil water...ummm .. have you ever been in 15-18 foot waves.... might change your mind a little...



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Posted on Fri, Sep 09, 2005 12:03

cutiepie is so right. You have to look past the beauty on the outside because if you listen you will hear what's on the inside. I too have dated outside of my race for awhile now and had no problem accepting who I was with or introducing them to anyone. Check within yourself and judge individually. Kell



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Posted on Wed, Sep 07, 2005 15:56

I must agree with cutiipie. Like cutiipie, I was somewhat insulted by your post. I'm not seeking a mealticket, I'm seeking a decent, hardworking man, whether that man is Indian, Italian, Caucasian or African.

I am the offspring of an interracial marriage. Both of my parents are multi-racial. I didn't realize that my parents were different from one another until SOCIETY brought it to my attention. For the most part, it was wonderful growing up in a multi-cultural home where we celebrated many different customs.

I've dated men of different races and when the relationship failed, I didn't view it from a "race" perspective. I looked WITHIN myself and WITHIN my mate to troubleshoot the reason for the failed relationship. Skin color is merely a "shell" that encases the inner person. People become who they are based on how they were raised and their experiences in life.

In my opinion it has nothing to do with one's skin color. I have had troubled relationships with black, white, asian, and bi-racial men. However, that doesn't prevent me from dating any other man from that same race.

I took the time to evaluate THE TYPE of man that I'm dating and when I did that, I realized that ALL of the guys that I dated, although they were of different nationalites, they shared the same basic ( negative) characteristics that I was subconsciously drawn to. And of course, I had my own personal issues that I needed to tend to and change.

Love is COLOR blind.

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