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  • View author's info posted on May 04, 2005 13:57


    bonnie
    Why do successful , intelligent people find it hard to cope when their expectations of themselves and others they love fail them? Has social pressure and status anxiety overtaken in our ruthless world of competition and survival? Has survival of the fittest meant self-annihilation if you find you are losing the game? HOw does one recognise these symptoms and seek help before it is too late?

    That is sad about your friend, but u stated u returned years later only to find her different.
    I think mental illness- personality problems rum the gamat no matter if u are successful or not. I do however agree that there is a lot of pressure on successful women, espeically while being a parent too, so that the tendancy for anxiety or depression is greater in that area..
    How does one recognize the signs. There are many signs and symptoms of illness such as depression, what is sad is that sometimes the person does well hiding what they are feeling and by the time another sees the change they may be further along in thier illness

    There is help for those who suffer from mental illness and there is no shame in one having to take medication for it.

    sometimes i think depression can be situational - like something traumatic happening or a problem someone is having a diffucult time with.. medication can be over used.

    a good freind or a spouse generally if they are paying attention to their loved one can normally see the change.

    its the teens that scare me- they isolate and parents dont always see the change they may mistake it as part of the growing independent process..

    but on the whole mental illness does not discrimate rich or poor
  • View author's info posted on May 04, 2005 02:29


    WEll, I have met and known quite a few seriously disturbed friends in my time who have taken their own lives. My closest girlfriend at law school , without whom I would not have passed my exams, was a staunch Christian, hardworking girl, the first to start her own practice and the first to marry..she believed devoutly that God has planned her life for her and everything she prayed for has come true..I return home each year to see her..and after she had her daughter , she kept complaining that she has got serious post-natal blues, this went on for 15 years..though her practice was thriving, she was a worrier..When i went home for the 20th Law Class reunion, the week before that , she killed herself by jumping down a 20th floor building..I could never know what happen to this cheerful positive and optimistic girl..another girlfriend of mine did the same thing shortly after the birth of her first baby son..she was one the finest violinist in the country..
    Since then I have come across several other cases of women who are sucessful ,positive and optimistic in life but yet succumb to taking their own life when they find it hard to cope and beyond their control..it has prompted me to even study psychology and read more about how our minds work..
    Why do successful , intelligent people find it hard to cope when their expectations of themselves and others they love fail them? Has social pressure and status anxiety overtaken in our ruthless world of competition and survival? Has survival of the fittest meant self-annihilation if you find you are losing the game? HOw does one recognise these symptoms and seek help before it is too late?
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