Yes to both your questions. And more - if following my heart to be with a guy meant that I could no longer pursue my vocation, I wouldn't do it. I know form experience that having my own job and income, my own projects, achievements and pride in what I do, is a very important factor in my life and without it, I'm miserable and no fun to be with.
Wow...another great topic Bonnie. Although the last post was in May - I couldn't help but put a post too this. I relate totally to your theory of being disconnected because of being away from home for so long, to then return to see you have grown to much to fit back in to the same pace. I've been away and technically still am (home is 1 hour from where I live now). My spirit is to want to pick up and move somewheres new & exciting but my responsible side is staying committed to provide a family root system for my children. Seeing a little bit of both sides, I've deciede I want them to have a rooted place and a spirit to fly to adventure knowing they will always have somewhere to return if they fall. As you might sense from this post, I am very devoted to my children and find it a struggle to meet someone who can not only handle that but truly "understand" it. Color
I already HAVE relocated to go to school....and I am middle aged....so given that, what's the difference between relocating for love and/or a job? However, I must admit that 30 years ago I relocated for love and lived to regret it....the man used and abused me...and the only good thing I have to show from that relationship are 2 grown, well educated, successful children! But.....don't we all believe that he that has loved and lost lives to love again?
well, Spanky, I have been thru LDR and it takes alot out of the couple and is the true test of the relationship. Unfortunately email was not invented then, so we landed up writing everyday and when we finally met again, it just did not seem possible. Sadly he never married while I moved on, it takes a diehard romantic to believe in LDR but sometimes out of sight is out of mind and absence does not necessarily make the heart grow fonder..
I hear what you say about this site and the difficulty of making friends in a new place. From my own experience, having kids or walking your dog here in London is certainly the best way to start making friends.. a hobby that takes you into a group or class of like-minded people...I have pockets of friends from different backgrounds and age groups whom I mix with and that broadens our perspective to life as well. Here on MM is another group that I have not met face to face but certainly daily over the forum. I have also been lucky in making some good friends, male and female from this site and continue to correspond regularly like penpals. I know the ones that you talk about, but don't let a few bad eggs spoil the rest for you. Focus on the nice guys and you will find that having turned enough rocks over, the real ingots will find you..
It takes time to find good friends, don't be shy and never hesitate to make the first move to extend that hand of friendship, you will be amazed how infectious that smile of yours could be, and you have it ..so go enjoy ourself..
www...don't think CUB needs u as a mentor ..just look here , he is being stalked by so many young nubile beauties whom he has been charming all this while behind our backs..you seem to be the one who needs his help...
CUB, go charge www. and teach him some real lessons on courting and flirting and whipping..
It is my duty, as a mentor, to tell him all I know. Esp what fun it is to polish bu*tts. He has been polishing his cars for years, so he should be a natural. Should be able to do 20 per hour, 10 each hand.
Cub39 write: Yawn, I need bare and spread for this whip. It is the type with the leather knob on the end with about eight little leather tassels coming out of it.
lol..Cub..you are learning fast with me..switch allegiance , www..ain't too good at this game of dominatrix..I have my knee hi-boots on and all the paraphernalia...all the bare necessities you will learn for just 2% spread ...lol