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  • View author's info Posted on Aug 29, 2005 at 06:26 PM


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  • View author's info Posted on Aug 28, 2005 at 02:51 PM


    my first and only wife was abused too, but I did my best getting her out of her shell and showing her that all men arn't bad,6 months to the day we married 14 years and 2 children later... so why are we not married now that's easy I taught her to well and she went back to a high school sweetheart. I'm the marring type too ! and to be honest what the heck is taking so long 11 years and 2 relationships later geezze
    any ladies offer some good advice good is the opertaive word here lol
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 19, 2005 at 06:49 PM


    BKLYN GUYS ARE COOL! IT MIGHT BE THE LAWENFORCEMENT THING! -- I JUST HATE TO SEE PEOPLE USING OTHER PEOPLE--NO NEED FOR IT-WELL NOT FOR MOST OF US ANYWAY, WE DONT NEED TO MAKE PEOPLE FEEL LIKE CRAP TO FEEL WANTED OR EXCEPTED
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 17, 2005 at 04:20 AM


    I guess widows and divorcees start from different points of view. The former has loving memories and ideal set of benchmarks to meet and the latter have only hate memories and disillusioned benchmarks..hence it is probably harder to woo a widow than a divorcee.
    Maayan and I did discuss that at our meeting..widows don't fear never finding true love again if they have enjoyed it , may miss it but can live without it. For the divorced, they probably are keener to find true love having been cheated of it.
    I don't know what it feels like since I have never been divorced but have enough divorced friends to understand their cynicism, bitterness and anger..it never goes away, a divorce on paper does not erase the pain and hurt that continue to haunt and intervene in your present and future..
    only the lucky ones who remain amicable with their divorced halves could accept the past, come to terms with the present , repair and build for the future.
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 16, 2005 at 10:58 PM



    Bonnie88 write:
    Marriage someone said is about 3 rings..engagement ring, wedding ring and Suffering...and Sharp I am glad the kids in your divorce is not suffering...like so many others.
    I have often asked women which of the two bad circumstances they would rather suffer, to lose their husband to another woman or to untimely death...9 out of 10 would rather be a widow than divorced ..now that I am a widow I would say that the only difference is that in my case as a widow I could remarry again and have as many husbands as I wish but my children will never have a father..while in divorces , however bad the case maybe , the kids will still have a father..and it is important that divorced parents treasure their kids and mitigate their pain by staying amicable and friendly ..they owe it to their kids as responsible parents.


    Bonnie I agree with everything you say. As for 9 out of 10 wishing they were a widow...here may be an explanation for that. I read a book a few years ago, "Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends" written by two Dr's. One the points they raise is that it is easier to get over a loved one's death that it is to get over someone you loved who has dumped you! The loved one who died, you know they are gone, and will never come back. But the person who has dumped you continues to live, and sometimes people will harbor in the back of their mind, 'what if' we were to run into each other, etc. Also, when being dumped that rejection leads to feelings of pain, grief, anger, etc. all emotions that linger because one knows this person is still alive, so it's not completely over for them.
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 16, 2005 at 10:25 PM



    SGTJB write:
    WELL NY I GUESS THAT IS WHY YOU ARE STILL ALONE. CANT FIND ONE DOPEY ENOUGH TO FALL FOR YOUR B.S.

    Sarg- come on give me a break brooklyn guy..u know there is no shortage of men for me-- i find dopes all the time.. or i stop at dopes r us.. lighten up brooklyn guy thought brooklyn guys had sense of humor .. must be that law enforcment thing
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 16, 2005 at 01:16 PM


    WELL NY I GUESS THAT IS WHY YOU ARE STILL ALONE. CANT FIND ONE DOPEY ENOUGH TO FALL FOR YOUR B.S.
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 16, 2005 at 11:09 AM



    SGTJB write:
    HEY NY YOU SOUND VERY MATERIALISTIC IF YOU WANT PAYMENT FOR DATING A GUY THERE IS A PROFFESION FOR THAT!! SOUNDS LIKE YOU FOUND YOUR CALLING

    HEY SGT YES VERY MATERIALISTIC AND THE NAME OF THE PROFESSION IS MARRY DOPEY GUYS
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 15, 2005 at 02:21 PM


    RE THE GOODLIFE 2005---SEE NOW HERES A WOMAN WITH CLASS!!!
    THE GOODLIFE WE SHOULD GET TOGETHER!!!
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 15, 2005 at 02:16 PM


    HEY NY YOU SOUND VERY MATERIALISTIC IF YOU WANT PAYMENT FOR DATING A GUY THERE IS A PROFFESION FOR THAT!! SOUNDS LIKE YOU FOUND YOUR CALLING
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 04, 2005 at 10:13 AM


    I loved being married too, but I rushed into it too soon, as O look back I would've dated a man for at least 2 years before I married him. Security and honesty is very important. Your husband suppose to be your best friend and it hurts when one day you find out that he is a total stranger..
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 02, 2005 at 12:15 AM


    Could not come here for a couple of days, (I was too affected by the stat 9/10)...anger, jealousy...to this level..are regressed emotions...What is happening..next...at the thought that these woman have kids...And I was just brousing the Corporate forum...
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 29, 2005 at 06:56 AM



    Aetios write:
    Bonnie, my english is not so good, but if I understand well the statement that 9 of 10 women wish to be widowed than divorced (that their man go with another women) ( read it many times), I got terrified.because..in my opinion it's a wish of death of the other person...(in this case a husband)....I wonder if they realize this uncounscious wish...or anticipated choice....
    I would prefere anything bad he could do to hurt me, or me to loose him, than dying....
    I hesitated to post this, but, I think it is necessary not to say nothing to such weird things...I wonder if these woman took time to think at what they were saying....



    Well, 'Hell has no fury like a woman scorned..' a betrayed woman is a sadder and angrier woman ..jealousy is a harder emotion to contain than grief..
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 28, 2005 at 10:09 AM


    Bonnie, my english is not so good, but if I understand well the statement that 9 of 10 women wish to be widowed than divorced (that their man go with another women) ( read it many times), I got terrified.because..in my opinion it's a wish of death of the other person...(in this case a husband)....I wonder if they realize this uncounscious wish...or anticipated choice....
    I would prefere anything bad he could do to hurt me, or me to loose him, than dying....
    I hesitated to post this, but, I think it is necessary not to say nothing to such weird things...I wonder if these woman took time to think at what they were saying....
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 27, 2005 at 11:28 PM


    Hello all, I am quite new here, and my impression reading this subject, is that either on paper or saying it verbally, the commitment makes no more sens, it has been erroded; thus we might find why a word given or writtent has no more consistency, for a lasting period of time; why we can not keep our promise...
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 18, 2005 at 09:21 AM



    sharp1 write:


    You are so right Bonnie. My daughter tells me horror stories of her friend's parents fighting and doing horrible things using the kids to get back at the other. Or telling their kids things about their Dad/Mother that they have no business saying.

    I told me ex when I separated, "We WILL get along! For the sake of our kids. We will BOTH be at their weddings." And we do get along. Many times over the past 4 yrs people have commented to me that my kids are well adjusted, and the separation does not seem to have affected them in anyway. That means I am accomplishing my goal! :-)



    Marriage someone said is about 3 rings..engagement ring, wedding ring and Suffering...and Sharp I am glad the kids in your divorce is not suffering...like so many others.
    I have often asked women which of the two bad circumstances they would rather suffer, to lose their husband to another woman or to untimely death...9 out of 10 would rather be a widow than divorced ..now that I am a widow I would say that the only difference is that in my case as a widow I could remarry again and have as many husbands as I wish but my children will never have a father..while in divorces , however bad the case maybe , the kids will still have a father..and it is important that divorced parents treasure their kids and mitigate their pain by staying amicable and friendly ..they owe it to their kids as responsible parents.
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 18, 2005 at 07:07 AM



    wwwww123 write:
    This says it all.

    They keep deleting a wonderful innocent picture of two old folks snuggling each other that I have posted with this statement. I am not crazy folks, or at least not certified. MM monitors are crazy however.


    Hey 5w's try posting it at a different time of day, ie. the morning. I believe around midnight or later they start removing things. So yours never makes it to the morning.
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 18, 2005 at 12:23 AM


    This says it all.

    They keep deleting a wonderful innocent picture of two old folks snuggling each other that I have posted with this statement. I am not crazy folks, or at least not certified. MM monitors are crazy however.
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 17, 2005 at 03:55 PM



    Bonnie88 write:
    hey , you guys forgot that the other by-product of marriage are the kids..NOT rings or pretty wedding gowns and expensive wedding celebrations...more important than a licence to marry, is a licence to have kids and be responsible parents ...and there should be penalty for non-performance.



    You are so right Bonnie. My daughter tells me horror stories of her friend's parents fighting and doing horrible things using the kids to get back at the other. Or telling their kids things about their Dad/Mother that they have no business saying.

    I told me ex when I separated, "We WILL get along! For the sake of our kids. We will BOTH be at their weddings." And we do get along. Many times over the past 4 yrs people have commented to me that my kids are well adjusted, and the separation does not seem to have affected them in anyway. That means I am accomplishing my goal! :-)
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 17, 2005 at 06:50 AM



    TallSwtInstblKat write:
    I still believe, someone perfect is out there, looking for me. We all just have to choose very wisely and pay attention to the little signs, make sure you are happy this time, listen to your Gutt...remember the things that annoyed you, the things that made you happy, look for the heart the personality.

    Everyone is looking for the perfect body, be realistic, body can be altered as I have commented on before, but no matter what you do with your hair, nose, bust line or figure you will still remain the same person, your heart and soul makes you who you are, your experiences, your attitude is what makes you "YOU"

    The only thing from looks that I want is that my love is taller than I...lol, but his heart plays the major role here. I want a Tall sweet kind loving Teddy Bear, if he is genuinely kind and attentive and treats me with the respect and love that I will offer to him, he will find... I am not very hard to please.

    Marriage can be a beautiful thing, just make sure you make the right choice this time. Don't rush into it. The best of luck to you all.
    Sincerely, Kat


    Kat
    Very well said!
    Thanks!
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