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Posted on Tue, Jun 14, 2005 11:35

I agree..my divorce was one of the hardest events I have ever been threw. I guess because I am truely a loyal person and partner. I also agree it is a loss of dreams I once had.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 14, 2005 11:27

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I too was married to an emotional and physical abussive man. He didn't show signs until the year after we were married. I loved being married. I am also the marriage type. Everyone has a different opinion and that is fine.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 06, 2005 15:39

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Madama Butterfly :) I think that women of Asian descent sometimes have advantages over women who are not - in addition to physical beauty, many are beautiful internally!

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only some Six..I have met some terrible Asian women who could not cook nor do anything that is domestic..but sure know how to take advantage of the men with their feminine wiles...lol ..and get away with lots..

Angel..I think it is nice that we know how to bring up our sons to respect women. My son is in one of the oldest boarding school here where they are brought up to be real charmers, but he however thinks that he could get away with anything using his impeccable charm and fine manners..!! All my women friends love him to bits and think he could do no wrong, and that is dangerous too...:)



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Posted on Mon, Jun 06, 2005 14:59

Well said Lucky...



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Posted on Sun, Jun 05, 2005 23:13

I understand Lucky...divorce for many are as distressing as widowhood..
but I guess if we see that as a new chapter of our lives, esp for the divorcee who has to fight for his/her freedom from an oppressive relationship then it is a relief from years of pain..a bit like recovering from a terminal disease..you get your life back to repair and rebuild again..
New chapters in life need lots of rethinking and replanning just as recuperation needs time .



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Posted on Sun, Jun 05, 2005 17:31

I don't think I could ever throw a party and celetrate the divorce....

I would however have a wake, to mourn the loss of that dream....

A divorce is a terrible loss of love and dreams.....

  


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Posted on Sun, Jun 05, 2005 14:13


sharp1 write:

Bonnie88 write:
..after all if it fails , am I going to have a divorce party?



LOL...I went to a "My Divorice is finally through!" party last night! She made a toast with champagne...no not this CP the real, drinkable kind! lol



That must be fun, to go to a 'Im finally free- divorce decreed absolute!'party... I can see why that calls for more of a celebration than wedding sometimes, when one of the party refuse to sign the papers and the settlement takes forever...lol
so did they serve half a wedding cake? you know . ..severance cut..lol



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Posted on Sun, Jun 05, 2005 12:04


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Anyone who believes that acting like a gentleman is a sign of being a wimp needs to have their head examined.


OOPS!

It looks like I didn't explain myself very clearly in my previous post - that's not what I meant at all. :(

In my book, the following is 'de rigueur' gentlemanly behaviour on a first date:
Promptness, cleanliness, manners, good conversation (and willingness to listen!).

The following is not on:
Politeness to the point of insipidness or complete indecisiveness.

Let's face it, who wants to be on a date which ends up along the lines of:
"What shall we do now?"
"You decide."
"No, you decide."
"No, no, you decide..."


This definitely spelled it out more clearly, as I didn't interpret your first post as this at all. I wouldn't necessarily think a guy was a wimp though, but like it if he could come up with an idea.
BUT...maybe she should be able to come up with an idea or two herself, so their are options to consider and go from there. Sometimes when you don't know a person well, you might be uncertain what to suggest, thinking, what if they hate that idea? You'll only find out the answer if you ask. Then again, I've heard married couples claim they only did something, because they wanted him/her to like them! lol The lengths we'll go to for love! lol



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Posted on Sun, Jun 05, 2005 11:01


sixfeetwtc write:
Anyone who believes that acting like a gentleman is a sign of being a wimp needs to have their head examined.


OOPS!

It looks like I didn't explain myself very clearly in my previous post - that's not what I meant at all. :(

In my book, the following is 'de rigueur' gentlemanly behaviour on a first date:
Promptness, cleanliness, manners, good conversation (and willingness to listen!).

The following is not on:
Politeness to the point of insipidness or complete indecisiveness.

Let's face it, who wants to be on a date which ends up along the lines of:
"What shall we do now?"
"You decide."
"No, you decide."
"No, no, you decide..."

  


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Posted on Sun, Jun 05, 2005 10:25

With that thought I wish you lived close to So Cal. I prefer a woman who actually states what she wants.



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Posted on Sun, Jun 05, 2005 09:46


Bonnie88 write:
..after all if it fails , am I going to have a divorce party?



LOL...I went to a "My Divorice is finally through!" party last night! She made a toast with champagne...no not this CP the real, drinkable kind! lol



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Posted on Sun, Jun 05, 2005 08:44

I agree also. I would love to meet a true gentleman or even one that knows how to be one most of the time. I watch the boys at the school I work at. They demand, not ask, they forget please and thank yous, and just overall, forget, being nice to people. I realize that they are just boys and going through puberty (it's Jr high) but they should have been taught manners early on. My son can be a pain in the bu*tt at times but he does remember to be polite to other people especially adults most of the time. He does say thank you and please. I am not saying he is perfect....far from it (he is 13 lol), but at least, he remembers his manners. I love watching him holding doors for people at stores or a restaurant. I have never had to ask him , to do that.

Nice to see you all again. Things are starting to slow down for me at work. I hope to be around a little more. Take care and be safe.



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Posted on Sun, Jun 05, 2005 00:05

! I would love to meet someone who believes in relating to long lost customs of a past era when dealing with members of the opposite sex, and I in turn would reciprocate as a true lady should.



Bravo Six...that is exactly my view too..and luckily most of the men I have met who want to date me seriously have been that..I think there are some great guys still around who are true gentlemen. Lots of them however prefer dating Oriental women because these men feel that they understand them and are far more feminine...lol ,of course that is their ultimate Madam Buterfly dream and the ironic twist to the tale..lol



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Posted on Sat, Jun 04, 2005 05:02


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Really?? OMG - it would never even cross my mind that a man is a "wimp" just because he is being very polite and has good manners!!



I don't know THAT many women intimately :-) , but in my limited knowledge of these things, whilst a woman may want a "knight in shining armour", she also wants him to be tough/decisive enough to slay any dragons** that wander too near!

** Metaphorical of course. I think if you were a real dragon slayer these days, you would soon get bored.



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Posted on Fri, Jun 03, 2005 22:27

Marriage is not the "ultimate" position in life that it once was. To me a committment is. Have to many male friends in relationships & married who call their wives at night lying through their teeth. Have heard a couple of them lies through the years. Want a relationship where I can tell the truth & still share love.



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Posted on Fri, Jun 03, 2005 17:51


AlpenSnow write:

Minerva415 write:
A man can NEVER be too galant or too chivalrous, in my book!


This is a surprisingly difficult line to tred if you're a man (or at least it is in Scottish society at any rate).
Act TOO much like a perfect gentleman, and you get accused of not being forceful enough (and dare I say it, wimpish).

Go to the opposite extreme, and you get accused of being selfish and arrogant. It's a fine line...

PS A woman I once knew had a "1:00am taxi test." Anyone who wasn't forceful enough to get her a cab at 1am wasn't going to be good enough for her...!



Really?? OMG - it would never even cross my mind that a man is a "wimp" just because he is being very polite and has good manners!!
Well Alpen - that woman with the taxi test.... lol... whew... I bet she's still single... what kind of test is that?? lol....



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Posted on Fri, Jun 03, 2005 17:48

CP, I noticed that too! It's a bit disconcerting... it made more sense the other way around, having the most recent one on top...
Why'd they do THAT...??

  


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Posted on Fri, Jun 03, 2005 15:51

Am I going crazy or all the posts here in reverse chronological order??? Seriously I have only had one drink....



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Posted on Fri, Jun 03, 2005 14:18


Minerva415 write:
A man can NEVER be too galant or too chivalrous, in my book!


This is a surprisingly difficult line to tred if you're a man (or at least it is in Scottish society at any rate).
Act TOO much like a perfect gentleman, and you get accused of not being forceful enough (and dare I say it, wimpish).

Go to the opposite extreme, and you get accused of being selfish and arrogant. It's a fine line...

PS A woman I once knew had a "1:00am taxi test." Anyone who wasn't forceful enough to get her a cab at 1am wasn't going to be good enough for her...!



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Posted on Fri, Jun 03, 2005 08:16

Well MIn most of my dates are more friends than special romantic dates..so that is fine by me..well the ones who are seriously dating then of course they are generous and they pay for everything for the pleasure of my company..lol ..but like Sixft..I like cooking at home too for the special one since I rarely get that pleasure now that I m an empty nester and seem to eat out far too often..



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