Just got in from Bulgaria..as expected , this is the umpteenth time I have to answer the annoying question from all these backward bigots at the immigration who would ask me each time I enter my resident country of domicile , as they look at this strange oriental woman with visas and stamps from Japan, US, France , China and now Bulgaria..and a passport with a right of abode stamp for UK the inevitable question in different tones of suspicion would be..'and madam how did you get this stamp ?' with a marked tinge of derision in their voice..so this time I chose to be upperty: 'HOw about I got it lying on my back thinking of The Great British empire while my colonial master was on top of me?' She was not smiling...I had my last word, 'I happen also to pay 40% tax to support the likes of you!'...lol
Prejudice and bigotry could be found constantly in all corners of the world but those that are most irritating are found at the immigration offices of the West...from US to UK..the freest countries in the world.. often out of experience I would choose never to stand behind a line that has too many Indians, Africans or dark skinned foreigners because 9 out of 10 times that line will be the most time consuming wait because their passports from the 'developing world' will be under closer scrutiny than a line with more whites and Europeans...a fact that stands out as the greatest evidence of racial discrimination...and as a WEstern educated Asian , just a shade lighter but I still get as much scrutiny ..and the price I have to pay for being a well travelled professional is humiliating questioning by people who barely understand their own constitution ..the hypocritical declaration to democracy , freedom and respect for all races and creed..
As a minority (I'm Black, American Indian, German, Irish & French, WOW what a mixture), I find it very difficult to date interracially. Not for myself personally but for others. Sadly, there are not many open to the idea. However, there are a lot of men open to dating Asian or Latino women but not other races as if other races are not attractive. I've dated men of various races. A person's race really doesn't matter much to me. I'm more attracted to the person inside, his interests and desires. Race is only part of his character which singly is not a deciding factor to date or not to date a person. I simply love clean cut men who are gentleman. Well, maybe not always a gentleman. He does need to know when to behave and when to be bad.
with in this interacial thought I am only looking for the man who is just a man no matter what skin he is in. and who cares not what skin I am in. just the love one shares for the other who. what color is love.
Cub "5w, what has one of these playgirls ever done to you to make you run"
First, I am scared of all females/women. I have two bossy sisters, bossy ex girlfriend, two bossy daughters, and three bossy granddaughters in training, -- and believe me, they don't need much training, especially the 3 year old.
Now, take a sexy playgirl, add demanding and bossy to the mix (genetic with females), maybe a little narsistic if you want real troubles, and you would never have any peace or sleep. After a month without sleep or peace, (or with too much bossy, demanding sex, depending on how you look at it) you may wish you had never heard of women and be ready to move to a deserted island. I have my boat almost ready. lol Better watch out what you wish for Cub.
So maayan, are you saying you would like to have a different man at every port or just the same man at different ports?? If it's the former then I would say that 'International Playgirl' definitely fits better ;-)
Lol Cub, What my family means is why don't I look for love closer to home.
When I was 18 I went to the UK to be with my British boyfriend and I have traveled the world meeting lovely men along the way hehe. I guess I am a bit of an international playgirl..lol
Perhaps it's living where I do and the men that live here that makes me look further afield for love. I would never be satisfied with a man who has never traveled or experienced different cultures. I like a man who's interests are more than go to the bar every night out of boredom.
As for myself I describe my family as a mini United Nations, my son is part African and my daughter is part Turkish...me, well I am Welsh/English/French.
Cub wrote "Question becomes, how do you signal back to the white men that they are Ok also? How do destroy the concept of "once you go black, you never go back"?
I had my daughter after my son so I think that is a pretty good indicator that I don't go for one look or skin color.
My family never had a problem with my dating different ethnicities, just the comment was "why don't you date a nice Canadian fellow?" lol I like men from different cultures than my own that's all.
I have experienced racism when I dated a man of color -from his family... I was apparantly "too white"??? I was good enough to provide a home and food and love for his children when they were unwilling to, but was not good enough to marry when their son managed to get back on his feet...
Okay guys, I have finally got my huge Bulgarian visa, took up an entire page of my passport which will be a pain when I face the US immigration, two Communist regime in a month, they might think Im a spy..lol, so flying out tomorrow morning early, don't think I shall be missed here, in fact it would be a respite for some..to be rid of such a bossy old boot..lol
www..I could see you grinning , get this woman out of my hair...yeah promise will look for beautiful submissive Bulgarian mistress for you..one who is musical too..since I will be checking all 30 gorgeous female musicians to form the orchestra..lol ..so what music do you like..Paganini, Bach, Borodin, Piazolla? Strings or wind? Only 2% cheap cheap...:)
Will send you pics to choose...lol
I m pretty good at tempting ..Champagne ..I will be in London till July 10th and leave for Fareast for a month , return maybe August 10th if I don't decide to go to China or USA via Fareast, depending on job demands, my holiday there maybe cut short..so if u are tempted to go to S. AFrica via London when i m around..do drop me a line..always keen to play host to American friends..
Women have evolved far more in the last 50 years , the feminist movement have left the men rather lost in the sexual equation and they have yet to find a comfortable role to achieve that equilibrium..or to be fair , the both sexes have to work out that final equilibrium..but Champagne you are right on about the fairer sex..we all age so much slower, inspite of being the baby machine..lol..hence I m continually being propositioned by men from 30 to 60..and long may that last!!
cub, no I havn't tried your strategy YET. I was engaged in 92, to a great guy (who happened to be caucasion). We never talked about the color subject. That's why this is so interesting reading the messages on here. I love men PERIOD. It doesn't matter how light or dark your tan is. lol
I'd have to say that we (men) are probably a lot closer to our chest pounding ancestors than women. Somewhere in the evolution from Homo Erectus to Homo Sapien women starting looking a lot more beautiful and we just lost some of our hair ;-) Sorry I am biased towards the female form.
Bonnie, don't tempt me. I may be passing through that way on my way to S. Africa in August