Thanks CUB for the info..
In fact from what I see that goes on in my son's boarding school , it is the boys that are being relentlessly chased by the girls as well as their 'social climber' mums because these boys are thought of as 'great catch' and I would think that the 'puting out' is deliberately schemed ,all there for them to pick and choose and as a mum I m more afraid of the girls' mums than the girls..lol..
Excuse me folks, pardon me for my ignorance, is 'put out' an American slang for 'going all the way'?
Just wondering what you guys are trying to 'put out' , an emergency ovrheated fire or put out a bet that there won't be the next time..?
And who is puting it out, the female or the male?
Men, other than those that like "pickups" also need to feel confortable and feel right about the situtation. I don't think the average normal, well adjusted male is ready to hop into the sack with anyone that is willing. I sure am not.
I find this intresting an subject. I feel that since we are all of age, we know when the time is right for us as women. And any man with real respect for himself and for the woman he is with will respect this.
Only if they are in High School!
Peer pressure (only marry a virgin dude!)vs hormones (does she really put out?) causes many young men to be hypocritical.
However, if either party is just in it for the physical gratification, then "one and done" may certainly be the rally cry.
If I met a woman for the first time who indicated she wanted to be intimate, but wasn't going to, I would wonder why that was the case. For instance, is she being manipulative?
If I met a woman for the first time and she said, "I don't know if I do or not..." I would say she is being realistic, if not honest.
If I met a woman for the first time and she said "NO WAY!", I'd wonder how a blind woman could use a computer keyboard!
Hmm honestly in my wild days I have put out on the first date and I found that most of the men didn't have as much respect for me as they did for ones that didn't.So, I would say speaking from my personal experience the respect isn't really there but, I could have just been with the wrong kind of guys as well so, thats a tough one.