#1 Dating Site for Successful Singles and Admirers

Home > Millionaire Forums > Friendship > Long Distance Relationships - your thoughts requested... Previous topic Next topic
Jump to:
Long Distance Relationships - your thoughts requested...
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Wed, Dec 14, 2005 01:20

Hello,
Just to let you know that I just joined today and found your picture of you and your kids very beautiful. I read your question and all the answers that everyone had to say. I can tell you that I would say that long-distance has in goods and bads. I currently reside in Chandler, AZ. If you are interested...email me. I winked!

Available only
to logged in members


Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Mon, Dec 12, 2005 19:47

I say definitely continue it (if you know the person is real). Long-distance relationships can be an advantage in the beginning...an incubator for a more pure meeting of the minds until the day when you can meet. Society puts way too much emphasis on physicality. Think of in past generations during wars when couples would correspond for years waiting for each other! Amazing.



Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Sun, Nov 27, 2005 18:25

OKAY YOU CAN BE MY FRIEND. I WANT YOU TO E-MAIL ME.

  


Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Wed, Nov 23, 2005 21:13

If she's all that you say.. work it out.. get over whatever obsticles get in your way.. make a 2-5yr plan if you have to.. atleast your making some kind of progress with a forseable and positive end.
If both of you can't work it out, I recommend backing off for your own emotional good. LDR's are difficult when all you want is to BE with that person. Good luck.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Thu, Nov 17, 2005 11:05

Ford8366 write:
I've been in this situation before. I corresponded and developed feelings for a woman that lives 3 states away. She came out to me a few times and we really hit it off. We were "together" for a while until the distance started to pose a problem. Flying back and forth wasn't enough and each of us wanted the other to be there full time. Though, neither of us were able to leave the area where we reside. Ultimately we realized that no matter how much we felt for each other, it wasn't going to work out, so we ended it. In my opinion, it's not a good idea to become involved with someone that lives miles away from you even if both are the soulmate of the other, especially if you or she is unable to relocate. Take it from a guy that's been there...it's not worth the heartbreak.


I generally agree with you, but on the other hand some people have the means and the time to see each other whenever they want to, for as long as they want to and any place that they want to. In that situation living in different cities really doesn't matter.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members

 Chat now 
Posted on Thu, Nov 17, 2005 09:51

I've been in this situation before. I corresponded and developed feelings for a woman that lives 3 states away. She came out to me a few times and we really hit it off. We were "together" for a while until the distance started to pose a problem. Flying back and forth wasn't enough and each of us wanted the other to be there full time. Though, neither of us were able to leave the area where we reside. Ultimately we realized that no matter how much we felt for each other, it wasn't going to work out, so we ended it. In my opinion, it's not a good idea to become involved with someone that lives miles away from you even if both are the soulmate of the other, especially if you or she is unable to relocate. Take it from a guy that's been there...it's not worth the heartbreak.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Mon, Nov 14, 2005 15:06

A problem, to be sure! One has to follow one's heart. But FIRST, one has to KNOW one's heart; meaning, KNOW THYSELF, and know what you want to do in Life, when searching for that one last LOVE... that person whom you want to spend the REST of your life with! There are many, many complications, such as family, old ties, or even the stubborness of I don't want to move/relocate, but I want to be with you! Go BANG HEAD against wall, here, for you who want, but do not DO something about it! If the chemistry and the yearning is there, DO something about it, and quit whining.

SURE, it is GREAT to have a LDR with a hunky guy who writes prose that makes you weak in the knees and has your lil ole heart going pitty-pat, but this is -- to me -- must be what my kids and friends warned me about -- having cyber sex. This is all I am getting on this site. And the ones who are my two daughter's ages, forget it! I don't have time to potty train a 45 year old. Ain't gonna get you anywhere, unless you do something about meeting the guy head on! OH MY! Now you have me on a roll ... for I also have a real guy (older than Moi) who wants me to come back to live with him in FL., yet HE refuses to meet me halfway, let alone move. I will always love him for what we had, but I have to move on with MY life.

And what about all the gents MY age who finally admit that they lied about their age? I've had admissions from several that they "reduced" their age by 5 years, and that their photoes are five years old! I could do that, and my pics would knock yer socks off, but I will not be so deceitful! I've earned these laugh lines. Baby!

I am so windy... guess that is because the windy is blowing but I've put my sailboat away for the year, and this cold autunm is pulling at my Gib sheets-- I am packing this week to go to Fl. for the winter, as always.

Sure would have liked to have met you in person, many wwww's, since we are close in geography, and you seem to have a stable ballast in thinking!



Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Sun, Oct 30, 2005 13:27

To me chemistry is one of the most important elements. As far as the distance things goes I would just take it one day at a time.

Gracie
To me chemistry is one of the most important elements. As far as the distance things goes I would just take it one day at a time.

Gracie

Available only
to logged in members


Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Fri, Oct 21, 2005 07:05

Hey,

This is an interesting topic to me. I had a LTR from PA to Utah (not a mormon!) He'd fly out, and flew me in. In the summer he flew me and my three kids in for weeks at a time. It was great. Very doable, and worth the love. It just wound up that we weren't exactly suited for each other, but I consider each relationship a stepping stone. I still care about him, and hope for the best for him. And having friends all over gives you a reason to travel. Also, I'd just like to say that I know what I'm worth, so I never batted an eye at the extremes he went to to get us together. A man who recognizes what's good will not let anything stop him, and neither would I.
Hey,

This is an interesting topic to me. I had a LTR from PA to Utah (not a mormon!) He'd fly out, and flew me in. In the summer he flew me and my three kids in for weeks at a time. It was great. Very doable, and worth the love. It just wound up that we weren't exactly suited for each other, but I consider each relationship a stepping stone. I still care about him, and hope for the best for him. And having friends all over gives you a reason to travel. Also, I'd just like to say that I know what I'm worth, so I never batted an eye at the extremes he went to to get us together. A man who recognizes what's good will not let anything stop him, and neither would I.

Available only
to logged in members


Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Wed, Oct 19, 2005 22:04

well after a year on here and being disappointed with guys on here, i met one maybe thinking twice about? i am in fla, he is in calli, omg, here we go, but you know what this guy seems different,he is funny, caring, and means what he says. he even offered to help me during this hurricane coming, wow, he is in calli...bummer, but if it hits off, i will live in calli, love is stronger than distance in my book
well after a year on here and being disappointed with guys on here, i met one maybe thinking twice about? i am in fla, he is in calli, omg, here we go, but you know what this guy seems different,he is funny, caring, and means what he says. he even offered to help me during this hurricane coming, wow, he is in calli...bummer, but if it hits off, i will live in calli, love is stronger than distance in my book



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Mon, Oct 17, 2005 03:52

I haven't tried long distance but am very curious.
I guess that it all depends on how committed you are and if you want it to work.
I mean I'm in a relationship at the moment and at times I wish he was distant! LOL!!!!
Well hey there's always room for more!

Available only
to logged in members


Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Fri, Oct 07, 2005 22:30

Good day!
I am astonish your photo.
U be encouraged me. It is gratefully.
Do U like to ride bike or swim?
Attention! See my photo!!! )?and write me free?Don?t miss me.
I glad will write and meet with U.
All the best!



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Fri, Oct 07, 2005 22:29


tanamaria write:
long distance sux, but if ur mature, ur
bound to make it work
just rememebr to visit each other often


Good day!
I am astonish your photo.
U be encouraged me. It is gratefully.
Do U like to ride bike or swim?
Attention! See my photo!!! )?and write me free?Don?t miss me.
I glad will write and meet with U.
All the best!



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Thu, Sep 22, 2005 22:52

I have tried a long distance relationship,a man who lived in Hawaii and works in Thailand, and I am clear across the states. I agree it is hard to find true love, believe me, chemistry, balance, the works let alone distance. I know of people who waited 6 years and cut it off then returned to marry. I know that if the partner, in this case for myself if the guy is focused on work or something elsewhere,the time you do spend is more like a vacation and not real. Frequent dating is required - hands down and feeds the heart or moves the relationship one way or another. If one is sitting on the fence, move on. It just isnt their time or stage of maturity/mentality or the other partner isnt a priority. I waited 2 years to meet and dated a man who is multimillionaire before that I was really drawn to, believe me, it isnt about money.
Their are options if both do their own part. Life is about choices, whether you choose the choice or you let the situation make it for you.
p.s. Takes two to become one.
Cordially,

  
Available only
to logged in members


Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Fri, Jul 22, 2005 16:31

Just want to say thanks to all of you for your comments. You've given me some additional factors to think about.
My best to all of you.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Thu, Jul 21, 2005 11:25

you can have a long distance relationship for so long... sooner or later someone should consider relocating... if the realtionship is worth it.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Wed, Jul 20, 2005 19:13

we're all basically wealthy right.

So whats the big deal of spending money on plane flights.

I think if your at a dating site like this, odds are he/she will not be in the same city.

I say, expect a plane fight. Or, say in your profile.

Available only
to logged in members


Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Tue, Jun 21, 2005 14:10

well they said love crosses boundaries...and i know both of you will find a way soon to be together...that is, if you trully love one another



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Tue, Jun 21, 2005 14:06

you're right danish, i agree....we wouldnt like to live with that "what if " in our mind....we do only live once and we have to explore a promising things or opportunities...like true love



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members
Posted on Tue, Jun 21, 2005 01:12

No matter how unrealistic the distant relationship is, if there is a hint of love somewhere in the communication process of that connection there is always HOPE , and where there is a will there is a WAY, I will have a photo soon! True love Never gives up!Love is faith not Doubt. The mystery in love is that it keeps us alive looking forward to that next moment, and enduring whatever the costs.



Reply / add comments      Quote      Report abuse   Bookmark and Share