The great debate; to spank or not to spank. Every child is different. What works for one, doesn't always work for another one. Some children are more difficult than others to keep in line and deal with. I can see that Spoils was probably one of those children. I was raised the old way that spanking was the only discipline method there was. It's passed down from generation to generation. We live what we're taught. So when I first heard about 'no spanking' and that spanking was abuse, I laughed. But you know what? When it comes to my daughter, the thing that really upsets her the most is when I put her in time out. Spanking doesn't do a thing, except make her become aggressive(worse tantrum, kicking, etc.) Time out turns her back into the sweet little girl I know and love. After time out, she comes and hugs me and tells me, "I love you mama."
Sometimes you have to consider WHY children act out in the first place, other than the obvious fact that they're kids. Kids act out for a lot of reasons. Sometimes kids are ignored at home, so they act out to get attention. Sometimes the parents have a crappy marriage, and the child sees and hears fighting in the household, and kids have a way of acting out because of their frustration and insecurities from the parents problems.
Sometimes, just changing the atmosphere at home can make a difference in a child's behavior. Spanking won't fix it. Sitting them down and communicating with them about what is bothering them, is a sure remedy.
Spoil, I wonder what would ever make a woman want to hit you in the first place?(I just can't imagine lol) In my book, it would have to be over something pretty serious. Say for instance, you believe in spanking kids and even hitting women. It's obvious from your posts that you have an aggressive nature, especially that mouth of yours. It won't stop. (just a scenerio) If it were me, I'd hit you if I were defending myself against you. But if you weren't being violently aggressi...
We teach children what we want them to learn by our own actions. Do we want to teach kids to grow up to hit, spank, and be violent? Our society is already filled with so much violence it is sad. I have three children. Although it may have been tempting to spank them when "I" lost my temper, I never spanked them. A baby starts hitting when he/she doesn't get their way. It is a natural reaction to want to do so. I have been teaching for 16 years. The inner city children I teach get spankings way too much. Consequently, when another kid bothers them, they smack them without even thinking. It is a vicious circle. If one knows how to handle children based on psychology or common sense, spanking does not need to occur.
Cindy, spanking and "hitting" are two total different things and i sure can tell which kids are spanked and which are not - the same with adults - yours shows. So, you think you are smarter than God about raising kids huh? Again, as usual, you are wrong - never have,never will hit a woman unless she hits me first THEN, she has put herself in a mans place and will get it back. Darned if i will be someones punching bag and subject to any persons physical abuse.
So Spoil, you are either divorced or a hypocrite, both by the sounds of it. Considering your posts on this forum I think you need psychiatric treatment since you obviously cannot separate fantasy from reality, which is a recognised psychosis.