My pleasure to have such a pleasant tete-a-tete with you. So do I take it that this being a topic on long distance relationship..that you are prepared to relocate for the right guy even at mid-life?
I have done it for 20 years..in different countries..a great adventure.and I was not short-changed..and it comes highly recommended but requires enormous resilience and courage especially when relocating to a country where you can't speak the lingo nor understand the culture. .
But as you have confessed to coming from a 'loveless' home , it is important that the man you love and relocate for is the right guy and not one you exchange for loneliness or an escape route from a love-starved background.
As an expat for many years living all over the world.. I have seen so many expat wives lose their husbands to Oriental women when they move to Asia for e.g. ..a high price to pay indeed..so relocating for love has far more serious implications and it needs a very strong marriage to withstand the vagaries of living in a different country or even state, away from your normal support and familiar surroundings..especially at middle age where people are conditioned to their comfort zone.
May Cupid be with you..
a menagerie of tabby cats I suppose is cheaper to maintain than a harem of demanding women..
and you don't have to give them clothes allowance..and milk is cheaper than gourmet cuisine and champagne..
and they keep you warm and cuddly in winter..
so why are you on this site, you should be ringing the RSPCA..lots of stray cats for your picking..
www..so are you going to exchange cat furs to fill you pillow or stay with thongs..
guess you should consider your cleaning lady as a prospective bed-warmer too huh? That way you need only pay her in kind...
Naww, not true. I usually have someone to do the cleaning on the whole place. However, no one can come and clean up in the "cave", I would never find anything after that, and they would probably throw away my lifetime collection of panties that I stuff my pillows with. Man, it sure takes a lot of those thongs to stuff a pillow. It was easier back in the granny drawers days.
even in a large duplex..someone still got to pick up the pieces and clear the mess in between and it would have to be the unlucky woman who has to live with you..so Statuesque are you willing to play housemaid ?
You are a gorgeous lady and I m truly surprised that you have not found anyone yet..or rather you might be very picky and have not found the right one..esp when you are marriage minded.and would be a dream wife for the lucky man who gets you?
I do enjoy the company of men and date many great eligible guys ..but have also turned down marriage proposals because I find marriage a daunting commitment..and too demanding..hence I advocate a lighter diet , so to speak.. LAT relationship that I advocate.has one legally valid advantage..income tax and inheritance tax..my legal mind goes overboard when I think of the economic and legal aspect of marriage..and the impact it has on people who have substantial wealth..and complicated trust funds to deal with and children too..
Im on MM mainly to find likeminded friends both male and female (and indeed have found some really good friends so far) to add to my growing global network of friends since I do travel quite a lot for work and play..if a soulmate comes along , it is just an added bonus but I don't depend on that ..and I don't think I am a minority either..at least not amongst my girlfriends..and even some guys..
I don't rule out the possibility that I might find HIM when I check into an old folks home when I am 75..by then he could hold my hand and some nurse could take care of his daily needs...
ONe thing for sure Stat..I won't be competing with you for the same guy..certainly not for marriage..lol
How about a big duplex. Her end, my end, our den, our kitchen, our bedroom. That way, I can be as messy as I wish, and scatter my projects, books, and papers all over my end of the house. Not sure where we will put the nudes of Halle Berry yet.
YOu have got it spot on..but not many of us want to marry and commit either..the Empty nester has done it all..she wants a rest , she wants freedom and liberty..she has earned it..all she wants is someone to LAT (LIving Apart Together) with...just get together and have fun...he can wash his own socks..you will understand when you get to that age..
There's a handful of women here who would seriously consider moving to be where their love interest is. Fortunately, they're all in their forty's and fifty's - stunning, and are looking for something eles to fill the void of "Empty Nest Syndrome." Men couldn't be luckier! If you find a woman you like the looks of, and she has posted that she would gladly relocate for love ....... go get her!
When I lived in Houston, long distance was someone from the other side of town. If it added a hour to your commute in the morning, that was too long. I did try it once, and just gave up- two extra hours of driving each day left too little time for each other on a regular basis. I probably would have been better off with someone out of town and scheduling the whole weekend together as often as we both could. I could have been more relaxed.
Well, my blood pressure is usually low, heart is ok. You are right. I will go for it, unless they are french or belly dancers. Then I think I will just go on vacation. No sense being embarassed and humilitated.