oh . . . and to prevent any cat fights . . . by the word "afford" I mean afford in the literal OR figurative sense. A woman might be perfectly beautiful, but if she's a pain in the asz, most men will decide they can't "afford" her, LOL . . .
dang, now I have to post this in 2 other places . . .
This is the third time I've posted on this same topic - - it just keeps coming up, so here goes. There is no getting around it: Unless a man is blind and/or under the age of 18, he's a visual creature, and generally needs visual stimulation for sexual enjoyment(if he's under 18, a stiff wind will probably do).
Men everywhere - - - rich and poor - - - want the most beautiful, sexy woman they can afford, to maximize their sexual enjoyment for as long as it suits them. A poor man can only afford so much, but a rich man is like a kid with a trust fund (and no nanny to slap his hand) in a candy store. And blonde, brunette or redhead (he really doesn't care) he'll only chose women who look nubile enough to breed - - - whether or not he actually wants children. The more nubile, the better.
If you want to play this game well, you need to know the rules and make shrewd choices about which rules to follow and which ones to break. You can't break the "nubile" rule and win this game; you just can't, so whatever your age, do everything in your power to appear as nubile as possible; i.e., a good waist-to-hip ratio, a pretty face,
shiny hair (preferably long), and
If you nail these things down, men won't care about your actual "age" so much. In fact, in the early stage of attraction they won't even care about your brains, your character, or anything that really matters in the long haul, because in the initial stage of attraction they don't care about the long haul.
It really is all about looks, no matter what they tell you. Your brains and good character are your ace-in-the-hole: what will keep him around AFTER he's gotten his hands on you.
Hey sassy and all...interesting chat you've got going about age. I met my ex when I was 21 and he was 35. I wanted an older guy cos I thought they were more mature. In some respects they are but then after 5 and a half years and a beautiful little girl, it turned out he wasn't that mature.
I've been single for 3 years since I left him and enjoy my freedom and my time with my daughter. I find it so wierd that now I'm approaching 30, I'm being hit on by so many young men. It's flattering but I don't know how I could have a real relationship with a 21 year old (the last half english/half italian model who was smitten). He was so amazed by how 'cool' I am and so easy to talk to...no games, etc.
I still feel like a child...I guess mainly because I still look like one
:-). I've been stopped so many times on the street and asked whether that little girl is 'really' my daughter.
But one thing I do agree with is that the older you get...the more you feel you know what you want...and most importantly not being afraid to say it or ask for it.
carolinasunshine write: A lot of late 40's and early 50's men on here want women UNDER 40. They say it's because they are young for their age and want someone who can "keep up." Do men think they have a monopoly on eternal youth??? How arrogant of them.
Why do you think men are being arrogant? Psychologically it is quite known fact and understandable one. IMHO, men in their 40's, 50's and even older are looking for younger females, as .... probably they can offer lot more: life experience, better care, etc. Same with women, who hit younger men.
well sasssy, you shouldn't have a problem finding a cool guy, you are very pretty. It's funny what you said about the "oops, younger than you thought" scenario. I went out with a girl one time that I met at one of the local clubs of where I used to live. I figured her for early 20's. She was only 17!!! They were letting her in!
Obviously, I backed out like a Mack truck and moved on. I was 30 at the time. (nothing "happened") whew!
zman01 write: LOL. Some of you here may remember me from a while back....I have dated women from 35-55 ever since I was 19. Why, you ask? Because they know what they want. They have been through the "stages" and bs in life. Not that I wouldn't date a woman in her 20's, but the attitudes are much better after 30. jmo. Good luck to all.
So funny you should say that. I look relatively young for my age (33 in a few months). So I get hit on by verrrry young guys. My last little boyfriend was 23. I had no idea he was 23. I didn't ask, I met him at a club one night, we talked hit it off, went on a few dates and the age thing just happened to come up over dinner. I was floored when I found out how old he was! He had actually been married before, his ex wife was only a year younger than I. I asked him what the deal was with the attraction to older babes, and he said the same thing. He told me it seems that once a woman hits her thirties she just knows what she wants, thers no bs or indecision and its very attractive.
Which I think is funny...because here I am 33 years old, still not sure if I want to have kids, still not sure which State I want to buy my home in and settle down in...and still not sure if the career I've chosen is the one that I want. Hell, I'm not even sure what I want to have for dinner tonite!
Geeze, I'm a mess! I've got some catching up to do!
LOL. Some of you here may remember me from a while back....I have dated women from 35-55 ever since I was 19. Why, you ask? Because they know what they want. They have been through the "stages" and bs in life. Not that I wouldn't date a woman in her 20's, but the attitudes are much better after 30. jmo. Good luck to all.
micoma write: Hey BFD how many good looking 20 year olds are still good looking when they are 40. Not that many. The way a woman looks when she is 40 plus is an indication of how she will look when she is 60, 70, 80. That's not to mention that seasoned is sexy. "Who's your daddy" is just saying. It is not suppose to be put into practice. LOL. Also have to consider the issue of kids. If you don't want any to raise then odds are you will be looking at older women. Give me a good looking 40 plus anyday.
Must agree. I've gotten winks from women as young as 22. Considering that my daughter just turned 37, that just seems ridiculous to me. While we're talking about sex, I know that at 54 I could not keep up with a 22 year-old if she's like the ones I knew at that age, but I also know no 22 year-old is liklely to be as uninhibited as a 40+ and while the sex may be less frequent, it's far better and the rest of the time it's nice to talk with someone born before Reagan was president and who knows Paul McCartney was in a 4-piece group when he was young.
I can't speak for anyone else, but at this point it's not the quanity of experiences I treasure, but their quality, and much of that quality lies in having shared them with the same person. Be well.
I get hit on fairly regularly by very young guys.... mid to late 20s, early 30s. Heck I even got hit on once by an 18-year old girl!!! Email, picture, proposition - the works. LMAO
There are a lot of men out there who prefer older women. That's good to know but unfortunately I am not into boy-toys!! LOL But a lot of my friends are into much younger guys and they have no problem finding them!
Someone 10 years younger now may not be such a big deal but 10 years down the line...?? When I'm 55 and he's only 45..??
When I was much younger I always preferred much older men - never liked the guys my age, don't know why.
Now I would prefer someone fairly close to my age - maybe 5-6 years younger would be OK and up to 10 years older....
but this is not fixed in stone. I can't rule out the possibility of meeting someone who is just right for me and who is outside the age range I am thinking about.
It's like the height thing.... (on another thread). You think you only like tall men and then you meet Mr Right and he's short. Hmmm.....
Alex, yes i got wet looking at your goat picture of yourself, I was wet from laughing so hard that I pee'd all over myself, you actually have a sense of humor, there is hope for you still. Be kind Alex, besides I wont be here for you to aggrevate, having surgery tomorrow, so be nice to all the people on here, I think you should repost your pic.
Kalypso, hi girly girl, welcome to our little platground,nice tattoo by the way, looks like fairey wings, is it? Just me careful as there are a lot of dirty ole men out there, who are waiting to get there dirty hands on young little girls. Be careful, you remind me of my daughter, as she also has a fairey tattoo.
Hay girls and nice guys say hi to Kalypso.
Be careful sweety!
Well now I know that glasses don't always make the goat... alex...you might want clean those specs and reread colorado's profile... He is a HE, not a she!!! Course, if you're a goat, then of course, GOATS CAN'T READ!!!