barkeep.........and you would write that post to me BECAUSE????????? Just because I am THRU with menopause doesn't mean I represent "brittle".. I am just as active now as I was 10 or 20 years ago and can do those things I coudl do 20 years ago. My posts are not mean spirited, but more informational of women my age, and if you read the other women's posts, they feel the same way I do, so go back behind your bar and behave yourself!!!
Ah Tomi. They do think they have a monopoly on physical condition. Don't them. Put me in the water on a seadoo and i'll stay out there and come in for refueling only. Get me on the water skiis and i'll just go like the energizer bunny or under i get busted by a wave...(OUCH!!) and yours might be 100# but mine are 200#. And i do that every day that i work. Nursing is one of the best ways to stay in shape without working out i assure you. But these guys sometimes think we can't keep up with them. Oh but how little they really know.:O)~
If I had a 20 dollar bill, purchased something for 10 dollars and got 20 dollars back, what would that mean?...Can you explain your math to us again Absolute? Adding 10 to each persons age would still be a difference of 20, right? 44, 24 or 54, 34...Maybe they do math differently out that way.
Thank you Girls for the lovely compliments. Love my hair curly. It's easy to do and a fun hairstyle :)
Didn't know I was a diamond in the rough tho. At my age, I think we are all 100 ct pure! No "rough" here and as I look at the other ladies pics, there's no "rough" there either. Just because we are in our 50s doesn't mean we are about to lay down and die. We may be menopausal, but sexually speaking, we are in our prime. Sadly, alot of men can't say that, since they reach their sexual prime at about age 18-20. Who ever said "youth is wasted on the young" hit the nail directly on the head. :)
and someone who picked on my being from a country other than your own...I say...that doesn't matter either. Age doesn't matter, nor does country. Love will find you and hit you regardless of your age difference and country difference. My sister has been dating Americans and British thru the internet. And even her own fellow Canadians. God bless the internet. Everyone is having fun...trying to find love. If you're out there and you're for me, I can't wait to find you!
If you read my first post, I might sound like a hypocrite in my second post. I am seeking youth for their strength...and absolutely, I know there are lots of older women that are strong. But they are diamonds in the rough. I stand by my age doesn't matter statement. But my periscope is pointed younger...
I think someone was saying I look older and am dating younger women who look older. Not so. I look my age and the women I date look their age. I'll tell you my biggest problem is finding women that are attractive to me, it is very, difficult because I've gone out with or been married to gorgeous. You know what though? I've found being older and wealthy has made it easier to find those women...and it's not the wealthy piece, it's the confidence that comes from being wealthy and secure.
oh my god! this is funny! the "bob" guy...he is 44! I didn't see where he was from but they dont age well there. So this is simple, if he is 44 and looks 54, the girls he dates are 24 and look 34. Technically that makes ONLY a 10 year age difference. I am dating a guy who is 11 years under than me and we both look the same age (and the sex is great) so who cares!!!!!
When I was younger, I dated two different older women - about 7 years older, but both were in great shape and beautiful. Both decided that the relationship would not work over the long term because when they were 60 or 65 and not quite as cute or attractive, they believed that I would dump them for a younger woman. I doubt if that would have happened, but the age difference made them very insecure. Both later married older men so they could have the advantage of being younger, and thus always look like a good catch to their husbands. I later saw one of them when she was about 60 and she was still a knockout with the same tight figure she had 20 years ago. I sure fussed at her about ditching me. lol
First...love the new hairstyle Tomi...looks great!
Bobsthename...I prefer to drive my own snowmobile than ride behind anyone.
Every guy who has ever ridden behind me on my Seadoo has commented I'm a speed demon & wild driver, but they'd get on the back with me again for the thrill! And no one helps me with my scuba gear! I do believe we're the same age. Five years from now I wonder if you could still keep up with me, or if you'd be slowing down some?
Tomigirl.....................girl...thanks for the laugh ...........LOL your comments on bobsthename...........I could not have said it better! By the way girl I love your new picture I love the curls in your hair you look exotic. Now Mr. Bobsthename I will tell you that I do weight lifting 4 times a week and many times people cannot believe I am even 40 let alone 50 and I find men my age look so much older than me most not all, and I am not sure if they would be able to keep up with me! It is just what we believe and woman these days look much younger and take better care of themselves than men do in my opinion . Hang in there girls we are winning! LOL
Tomi, your hair is gorgeous!
Now, on the topic of age again, I must admit my ex is 9 years younger than I am. He left after 5 years of marriage because he found some greener grass elsewhere. When I'm checking out the other dating sites that allow you to include your likes and dislikes in your profile, I often read members' tastes in music and the kinds of activities they're into to decide if we have anything in common. I personally prefer music from the current century (although I'm eclectic in my music preferences) and know that, no matter whether the man is younger or older than I am, if he's trapped in the 50's to the 70's, we aren't going to be sharing music as an interest. I'm also interested in plenty of action and adventure, not sitting around all night watching rented movies and going to sleep early. That's one of the reasons I don't miss my ex anymore. For a young guy, he didn't have much stamina, and used to fall asleep every night at 9 pm on the couch in front of the TV. I've know men twice his age who had more get-up-and-go.
So, again, once you have met and approve of each other's looks, age is a moot point.
It's 1:50 am. Anybody wanna go out clubbing'?
I think the only problem with differences in age is what fun4two illustrated in her story. Who SHOULD care about any difference in age? If the couple is happy let them be happy. Problem is society dictates what is "acceptable" . If you TRULY find your "soulmate" in someone 10 or 20 years different in age, who should care? For me the only limit in age is a pratical one, I am ready to start a family and want to have my own child. Beyond that, the person matters, not the age.
bobsthename... I'm with TomiGirl here, I guess it's just that you never met our high-quality type of women, because let me tell ya... I have YET to meet a man my age and even younger capable of keeping up with me!! ;)
bobsthename....speaking of beating someone over the head with a sledge hammer... I resent the "brittle" implication. I have done the SeaDoo thing AND the snowmobile thing, and can keep up with the men with NO problems. I can outdrive any woman out there, so kindly keep the insults about older women to yourself. Before I tore the rotator cuff and labrum in my shoulder, I was lifting a woman who weighed close to 100# about 24 or more times in a 12 hour period......and dead weigh to boot.... To be perfectly honest with you, I don't care if I fall madly in love with a younger guy or an older one, but in the world of reality, women are looked down on if they date someone 10 to 20 years their junior. It's been like that for years, and even tho it's becoming more common, the looks will never change. While 50 y/o men have 20 y/o girls on their arm, we're supposed to settle for some old fart, and I for one, refuse to settle for anything!!! Thank you and have a nice day!!! :)
Lil1954....Well, I'll tell ya....10 years age difference is pushing it for me too, but HECK, let's just start there and see what happens!!! hehehe
Thank you so very much. I do appreciate the kind words. I have always tried very hard to be "diplomatic", but sometimes diplomacy just doesn't work and you just have to beat them over the head with a sledge hammer, ya know??? LOL
Tomigirl I agree with you about the age difference 15 or 20 years is a huge difference and it doesn't look right.................. for me 10 years is even a little bit much as well but if its the right person maybe.........I read such nice comments about you girl and the way you handle even the most difficult individual on here is fantastic you must be one great lady...........you go girl!
And...I'm looking for a younger woman because i can't have some brittle thing hanging on the back of my SeaDoo or Snowmobile (or driving her own) and keeping up with me. Or putting her SCUBA gear on. I work out 3 to 5 times a week for 2 hours a day, and even a lot of younger ones have a tough time with me.
I went out with a 26 year old girl last year, I'm 45. My cousin married a girl 10 years older than him. They're still married after 30 years. Age doesn't matter...it just brings a few extra issues to the table. I talked to a prominent shrink about age differences AND guess what, it is no big deal. Mom, escorting your daughter away from a 20 year older guy is not your business. I have a daughter too, and I hope she finds happiness. I'd rather have my daughter going out with someone who loves her to death than an equal aged down and out or wifebeater. Oh, and what are all you age gap people yipping about? 100 years ago, the AVERAGE age gap between married couples was 13 years, right here in Canada and the USA. Love attaches no age, so get used to it. I went out with a 39 year old woman last week and she just ended a 5 year relationship with a guy who was 58. My mom and dad were 14 years apart approaching their 50th. it works!
it's always so interesting to see everyones opinions on the age dilemma. There is no correct absolute. It is more of a comfort zone. I like Tomi and others do not like to go much more than 10 yrs.younger. I would feel like i am robbing the cradle. Did that once,even married the smuck and it was a total disaster. But we all learn as we are never too old for that.