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Posted on Sat, Sep 24, 2005 10:10


gonewiththewind write:
I think its wellknown that age are 3:the age of our look, the age of our feeling, and the age mentioned in our birth certificate.the age of the look depends on our heritage.If many ppl in our family are having an old age, it means the body is getting older slower. The differences can reach 20 years. Added with healty living it could make more. I have seen a 20 years young looks like 30 somethign and a 40 years old woman like 26 or so. F.e:My grandma is 95 and still alive, my mom is 60 and most of the ppl mistaken her to be in her 40 ties. I am almost 40 and thank God, its not uncommon a 20 years college boy asked me what am i Studying? and some girls are surprised when I told them I am married and got babies...(while actually i got one in the college as well).This is just example. But to tell you the truth its risky for a woman to marry someone younger more than 4-5 years. Its the panic that will tire you...that he might find you old, not attractive anymore, and leave you for a younger..believe me I have been there.The diff is 6 years and he still can't accept the fact, asked me to fake my document, which I did. And now we are separated. this age thing is one of the reason, he kept on saying that I am too old(while he himself doesnt look younger than me according to all my friend...), he said he supposed to marry someone 5-8 years younger....and this incidence has killed our relations.Its the main reasons of our misunderstanding and fights...I believe, what our parents and grandparent said in the old time that if the husband is 4 years older than the wife, the marriage has a better chance to survive.the 4 are like the legs of a stable table....

Very insightful comments and you managed to express your concerns without appearing cynical.



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Posted on Sun, Sep 18, 2005 21:20

You an't met that old woman Halley Berry yet have you? If you don't want her, send her my way.



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Posted on Wed, Sep 07, 2005 19:45


thegoodlife2005 write:
Yes you're a rare exception . . . but admit it now: Your 44+ candidates have good waist-to-hip ratios, great skin, shiny hair . . . etcetera! Meaning, they still LOOK capable of breeding even if it's the LAST THING on both of your minds!!!!!! Meaning, you've chosen your age cutoff, but LOOKS still sell.

Breeding is certainly the last thing on MY mind . . . but married OR single, I want to appear at least capable of it for as long as I can for as long as I'm interested in having sex with my man.

And if I never meet my True Love, and too much plastic surgery turns me into a cartoon image of a nubile female, I've already instructed my daughter to fish me out of the dating pool and put me into rehab! Once out of dating rehab, hopefully I won't care anymore what men think. I plan to be a proud, happy free crone someday, married or single, no matter what happens.


I won't deny that I am attracted to women who are attractive to me, and as I have posted here or elsewhere in these pages this does include bright eyes, clear skin and lustrous hair, but that's a biological thing, entirely beyond my control. What is within my control is to ignore women under a certain age, or rather politely suggest I am not a good candidate. And as I think I put in my profile itself (but may not, as I have had ads on multiple sites and they are not all worded the same), I had a vasectomy (in 1991) so I have zero intention of further propagation.

I suspect you could retain your beauty well into your 50s without plastic surgery, but as I am on record elsewhere advocating whatever it takes to make a person feel good about themself, I won't contradict myself here. And by the way, my desired age range is based entirely upon Chinese astrology. I am most compatible with someone either 4 or 8 years older or younger than myself (or 8 & 16, theoretically), and ok with most others. Considering that a) a woman may not have had her birthday yet and b) at least some admit in their profiles they have fudged on their ages, I'm allowing a little wiggle room. I am absolutely NOT compatible with someone 1 year older or 11 years younger, and were it to come out in the early stages that she fit that category, no matter how much I liked her it would go no further. So in a couple of months, when I'm 55, I'll change my age criteria as well. I still have some qualms about going past 59 in my search range, but were I to find someone born in the year of the dog or horse who liked me, age would not be a large barrier. Except today I got a wink from a 28 year-old! What a weird situation to be in...

  


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Posted on Wed, Sep 07, 2005 18:11

Yes you're a rare exception . . . but admit it now: Your 44+ candidates have good waist-to-hip ratios, great skin, shiny hair . . . etcetera! Meaning, they still LOOK capable of breeding even if it's the LAST THING on both of your minds!!!!!! Meaning, you've chosen your age cutoff, but LOOKS still sell.

Breeding is certainly the last thing on MY mind . . . but married OR single, I want to appear at least capable of it for as long as I can for as long as I'm interested in having sex with my man.

And if I never meet my True Love, and too much plastic surgery turns me into a cartoon image of a nubile female, I've already instructed my daughter to fish me out of the dating pool and put me into rehab! Once out of dating rehab, hopefully I won't care anymore what men think. I plan to be a proud, happy free crone someday, married or single, no matter what happens.

  


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Posted on Wed, Sep 07, 2005 14:04


thegoodlife2005 write:
This is the third time I've posted on this same topic - - it just keeps coming up, so here goes. There is no getting around it: Unless a man is blind and/or under the age of 18, he's a visual creature, and generally needs visual stimulation for sexual enjoyment(if he's under 18, a stiff wind will probably do).

Men everywhere - - - rich and poor - - - want the most beautiful, sexy woman they can afford, to maximize their sexual enjoyment for as long as it suits them. A poor man can only afford so much, but a rich man is like a kid with a trust fund (and no nanny to slap his hand) in a candy store. And blonde, brunette or redhead (he really doesn't care) he'll only chose women who look nubile enough to breed - - - whether or not he actually wants children. The more nubile, the better.

If you want to play this game well, you need to know the rules and make shrewd choices about which rules to follow and which ones to break. You can't break the "nubile" rule and win this game; you just can't, so whatever your age, do everything in your power to appear as nubile as possible; i.e., a good waist-to-hip ratio, a pretty face,
shiny hair (preferably long), and
great skin.

If you nail these things down, men won't care about your actual "age" so much. In fact, in the early stage of attraction they won't even care about your brains, your character, or anything that really matters in the long haul, because in the initial stage of attraction they don't care about the long haul.

It really is all about looks, no matter what they tell you. Your brains and good character are your ace-in-the-hole: what will keep him around AFTER he's gotten his hands on you.

good luck, ladies!



I may only be the exception that proves the rule you express above, but my cutoff is about 44. When you're older, you may understand, and I hope you don't take that as a criticism, for it is not. Case in point is the 22 year-old who wrote to me last month. She was, judging by her photo, very nubile indeed. And gorgeous, and even seemed pretty intelligent. But these things cannot replace shared experiences. I'll have someone from my own generation or I'll find something else to do with my time. No offense meant to you younger gasls, but at present you don't have what it takes. Ain't that a switch? Be well.



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Posted on Wed, Sep 07, 2005 07:19

oh . . . and to prevent any cat fights . . . by the word "afford" I mean afford in the literal OR figurative sense. A woman might be perfectly beautiful, but if she's a pain in the asz, most men will decide they can't "afford" her, LOL . . .

dang, now I have to post this in 2 other places . . .



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Posted on Wed, Sep 07, 2005 06:47

This is the third time I've posted on this same topic - - it just keeps coming up, so here goes. There is no getting around it: Unless a man is blind and/or under the age of 18, he's a visual creature, and generally needs visual stimulation for sexual enjoyment(if he's under 18, a stiff wind will probably do).

Men everywhere - - - rich and poor - - - want the most beautiful, sexy woman they can afford, to maximize their sexual enjoyment for as long as it suits them. A poor man can only afford so much, but a rich man is like a kid with a trust fund (and no nanny to slap his hand) in a candy store. And blonde, brunette or redhead (he really doesn't care) he'll only chose women who look nubile enough to breed - - - whether or not he actually wants children. The more nubile, the better.

If you want to play this game well, you need to know the rules and make shrewd choices about which rules to follow and which ones to break. You can't break the "nubile" rule and win this game; you just can't, so whatever your age, do everything in your power to appear as nubile as possible; i.e., a good waist-to-hip ratio, a pretty face,
shiny hair (preferably long), and
great skin.

If you nail these things down, men won't care about your actual "age" so much. In fact, in the early stage of attraction they won't even care about your brains, your character, or anything that really matters in the long haul, because in the initial stage of attraction they don't care about the long haul.

It really is all about looks, no matter what they tell you. Your brains and good character are your ace-in-the-hole: what will keep him around AFTER he's gotten his hands on you.

good luck, ladies!



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Posted on Fri, Sep 02, 2005 12:58

Hey sassy and all...interesting chat you've got going about age. I met my ex when I was 21 and he was 35. I wanted an older guy cos I thought they were more mature. In some respects they are but then after 5 and a half years and a beautiful little girl, it turned out he wasn't that mature.

I've been single for 3 years since I left him and enjoy my freedom and my time with my daughter. I find it so wierd that now I'm approaching 30, I'm being hit on by so many young men. It's flattering but I don't know how I could have a real relationship with a 21 year old (the last half english/half italian model who was smitten). He was so amazed by how 'cool' I am and so easy to talk to...no games, etc.

I still feel like a child...I guess mainly because I still look like one
:-). I've been stopped so many times on the street and asked whether that little girl is 'really' my daughter.

But one thing I do agree with is that the older you get...the more you feel you know what you want...and most importantly not being afraid to say it or ask for it.



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Posted on Fri, Sep 02, 2005 06:03


carolinasunshine write:
A lot of late 40's and early 50's men on here want women UNDER 40. They say it's because they are young for their age and want someone who can "keep up." Do men think they have a monopoly on eternal youth??? How arrogant of them.


Why do you think men are being arrogant? Psychologically it is quite known fact and understandable one. IMHO, men in their 40's, 50's and even older are looking for younger females, as .... probably they can offer lot more: life experience, better care, etc. Same with women, who hit younger men.



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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 18:47

dang man! no way. I can see how she did it at 5'8". I see all these sexy ladies walking around who look like they are in thier mid-20's, most of which are still in thier teens.



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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 15:07

As a lark, my 5'8" youngest daughter put on a ton of make-up and got into a club at age 14 without getting carded. Better watch that make-up.



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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 11:27

well sasssy, you shouldn't have a problem finding a cool guy, you are very pretty. It's funny what you said about the "oops, younger than you thought" scenario. I went out with a girl one time that I met at one of the local clubs of where I used to live. I figured her for early 20's. She was only 17!!! They were letting her in!
Obviously, I backed out like a Mack truck and moved on. I was 30 at the time. (nothing "happened") whew!



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Posted on Tue, Aug 30, 2005 20:50


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LOL. Some of you here may remember me from a while back....I have dated women from 35-55 ever since I was 19. Why, you ask? Because they know what they want. They have been through the "stages" and bs in life. Not that I wouldn't date a woman in her 20's, but the attitudes are much better after 30. jmo. Good luck to all.



So funny you should say that. I look relatively young for my age (33 in a few months). So I get hit on by verrrry young guys. My last little boyfriend was 23. I had no idea he was 23. I didn't ask, I met him at a club one night, we talked hit it off, went on a few dates and the age thing just happened to come up over dinner. I was floored when I found out how old he was! He had actually been married before, his ex wife was only a year younger than I. I asked him what the deal was with the attraction to older babes, and he said the same thing. He told me it seems that once a woman hits her thirties she just knows what she wants, thers no bs or indecision and its very attractive.

Which I think is funny...because here I am 33 years old, still not sure if I want to have kids, still not sure which State I want to buy my home in and settle down in...and still not sure if the career I've chosen is the one that I want. Hell, I'm not even sure what I want to have for dinner tonite!

Geeze, I'm a mess! I've got some catching up to do!

Maybe I'm still in my twenties!!

Aloha
Tina

  


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Posted on Sat, Aug 27, 2005 19:16

LOL. Some of you here may remember me from a while back....I have dated women from 35-55 ever since I was 19. Why, you ask? Because they know what they want. They have been through the "stages" and bs in life. Not that I wouldn't date a woman in her 20's, but the attitudes are much better after 30. jmo. Good luck to all.



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Posted on Sat, Aug 20, 2005 09:03


micoma write:
Hey BFD how many good looking 20 year olds are still good looking when they are 40. Not that many. The way a woman looks when she is 40 plus is an indication of how she will look when she is 60, 70, 80. That's not to mention that seasoned is sexy. "Who's your daddy" is just saying. It is not suppose to be put into practice. LOL. Also have to consider the issue of kids. If you don't want any to raise then odds are you will be looking at older women. Give me a good looking 40 plus anyday.


Must agree. I've gotten winks from women as young as 22. Considering that my daughter just turned 37, that just seems ridiculous to me. While we're talking about sex, I know that at 54 I could not keep up with a 22 year-old if she's like the ones I knew at that age, but I also know no 22 year-old is liklely to be as uninhibited as a 40+ and while the sex may be less frequent, it's far better and the rest of the time it's nice to talk with someone born before Reagan was president and who knows Paul McCartney was in a 4-piece group when he was young.

I can't speak for anyone else, but at this point it's not the quanity of experiences I treasure, but their quality, and much of that quality lies in having shared them with the same person. Be well.



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Posted on Sat, Aug 20, 2005 02:56

I get hit on fairly regularly by very young guys.... mid to late 20s, early 30s. Heck I even got hit on once by an 18-year old girl!!! Email, picture, proposition - the works. LMAO
There are a lot of men out there who prefer older women. That's good to know but unfortunately I am not into boy-toys!! LOL But a lot of my friends are into much younger guys and they have no problem finding them!
Someone 10 years younger now may not be such a big deal but 10 years down the line...?? When I'm 55 and he's only 45..??
When I was much younger I always preferred much older men - never liked the guys my age, don't know why.
Now I would prefer someone fairly close to my age - maybe 5-6 years younger would be OK and up to 10 years older....
but this is not fixed in stone. I can't rule out the possibility of meeting someone who is just right for me and who is outside the age range I am thinking about.
It's like the height thing.... (on another thread). You think you only like tall men and then you meet Mr Right and he's short. Hmmm.....



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Posted on Fri, Aug 19, 2005 22:27

Hi European
Thanks for your thoughts, I could not have said it better myself
Like attracts like



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Posted on Thu, Mar 31, 2005 10:30

Alex, yes i got wet looking at your goat picture of yourself, I was wet from laughing so hard that I pee'd all over myself, you actually have a sense of humor, there is hope for you still. Be kind Alex, besides I wont be here for you to aggrevate, having surgery tomorrow, so be nice to all the people on here, I think you should repost your pic.

  


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Posted on Thu, Mar 31, 2005 06:30

Kalypso, welcome to the zoo! I agree with Butterfly, have fun but watch out for us dirty old men. Some are dirtier than others, so I recommend that you simply ignore them totally.



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Posted on Thu, Mar 31, 2005 04:41

SOUTHERN YOU KNOW I COULD BE SPEWING OUT VENOM TOWARDS YOU RIGHT NOW, BUT I WILL REFRAIN, I FIND YOU SIMPATICO...BUT CHILL OK NO NEED TO INSULT ME OR THE ITALIAN IN ME WILL COME OUT AGAIN