Well, I've tried dating a few "older men" - in other words men between 40 and 55 (I'm 26) , and you know what - I have to agree with the earlier posters. It's rediculous.
Here's my analysis:
1) In general, men in that age range who want to date a woman in her 20's was a nerd/dork when he was that age and couldn't get a hot woman in her 20's when he was in his 20's. Therefor he's emotionally "stunted" at that time frame of his life and is trying desperately to re-live his past.
2) Men in that age range who gravite toward younger women are also secretly seeking DUMBER women. Why? Because most likely they're not overly interesting or intelligent men to begin with. I know this because I've wound up intimidating some older men because though I look younger than my age, my mind is about 10 years older than my chronological age.
3) Most of these older men dating younger women are insecure and delusional. They love being around someone who could be their daughter's school mate, yet they're paranoid that they look even older than they are around the woman. They act "oh so appalled" when the woman is asked for her ID at the bar, yet they are not. I mean COME ON.
4) Most of these men don't want to "help a younger woman" - they want to CONTROL a younger woman. Here's an example: The last older man I gave a try, I told that I was planning on going back to school. He responded with "BUT THEN WOULD YOU HAVE TIME TO SEE ME STILL?" - now in my opinion that is BEYOND selfish - but it's typical. Rather than the older man caring about the younger woman bettering herself, he wants to hold her back because he wants "attention". Pathetic.
In conclusion, I feel most older men who are trying to get it on with a younger woman are pathetic. I think in general an older woman would do well to steer clear of these loser men because they are totally disfunctional for the most part. If you're a relatively dumb and young girl you could do well with a man like what I've described but if you're a smart young girl, being around a man like I've described would make you want to shoot yourself in the head.
Sweetsixteen, if a 53 yr old (or older) man is 16 yrs older than your mom and dad, that would make him just about old enough to be your Granddad! Yes, of COURSE he's too old for you. Any man who's as much as 20 yrs older than you would be old enough to be your Dad.
You have 2 things that make you VERY vunerable to men at this time in your life: 1) Your very young age, thus your inexperience with men, and 2) You've just had your heart broken by your former b/f, and that usually spells rebound.
If you were my own daughter and you asked for my advice, here is the advice I would give you. And remember, I know these things from my own life experiences and what my own mom taught me. Plus, I have a 6 1/2 yr old daughter, whom I love dearly. Someday I will be saying these same things to her.
1. Please take your time when it comes to relationships. You don't know/realize this right now, but you have plenty of time to worry about getting serious again or even getting married someday. You are young only once and only have 1 chance to do it right. You can't go back and undo things later, no matter how much you may regret your choices.
2. Set personal goals for yourself to accomplish and do/live them BEFORE you ever get entangled in a longterm relationship or marriage. There is a big world out there to explore and discover, things to do and see. There is so much more to life for a young woman than just relationships and/or marriage. Do all of those things FIRST. You will be so glad you did, someday when you are older.
3. When it comes to men, don't pick someone old enough to be granddad or even dad. That's just too old for you. You want someone young enough, so that if you 2 should marry and have kids, he's young enough to help raise them. Imagine an old man trying to go and out and play with the kids! Kids do NOT like to just sit in the house. Chances are, you'll be the one doing that with them, not him.
Only you can make the final decisions when it comes to your life. I truly hope you make the ones with the least regrets.
Sweet16 - it's like sharks swimming around a wounded fish with you young lady.
No self respecting man over the age of...???24 ???...should be sending you e-mails from this site. And under no circumstances should ANY guy be writing you e-mails with sexual content...well...maybe after you've corresponded with him for a while....a LONG while.
Can some of the ladies here take this one under their wing(s)?
54 years old...creepy, just creepy.
Jeez - hearing about stuff like this makes me embarrassed to be a guy.
SweetSixteem....and just how does a 53 y/o want to help you. My advice here....stay away. This man is WAAAAY too old for you and if he has begun asking the sex questions,, he is interested in much more than JUST helping you. Sounds to me like he wants to help you right into his bed. Stick with guys closer to your age. Personally, I think you are way too young to be on here in the first place.....
At 42, I find it hard to have a conversation with a woman in her early 20's. And yes conversation can be a potential form of forplay for those who are only looking for sex. But I have been around some women in their 50's who made the 20's look like rocket scientist. So age can't mean much of anything except to people that are looking for trophies. The wisdom of a seasoned woman can teach a man how to really satisfy a woman. Just because you participate in conversation doesn't mean that you enjoyed it. As I am sure there are women that some of the men hear have been with can say the same about their sex life with most men. Try to lay next to a beautifull nude woman and just talk to her. look into her eyes and listen. Ignore her body. You will never regret the returns you will recieve when she becomes a person instead of a blow-up-doll.
bfdeal...wow...you have quite the imagination... you really make me think it's well spent money on this site..:) (who needs to go to creative writing classes..?) thank you again.. you made my evening...
sweetsixteen...if you read this...older men might be nice and eager to help a fresh, exotic girl like you only to satisfy their sexual cravings. 99% of the time there is a hidden agenda and it's sweet of you to think that he had good intentions but the fact and the matter is...you know how good those yummy, fresh apples taste? That's what you represent for a 53 yo man. If you think you are emotinally ready to try that out... think again...unless he is incredibly attractive to you and sweet and you just can't resist his magnetism...hmmm... ask yourself before you do anything... can you still be happy with yourself if he leaves you? If the answer is trully and really YES...then you got the maturity to deal with this situation, so then go for it!
babeat... I too get more emails from guys between the ages of 25 to 35. Flattering, maybe, but I wasn't born yesterday, so know what they have on their minds. I'm not that desperate to go out with someone half my age, only because they want to "learn" something from an older woman... Just not my style...
The world today celebrates equality and diversity in every sense of the word..
women too could go for toy boys and younger guys..the autumn /spring match works both ways and could be successful too..
the average lifespan of women exceed men by about 6 years, so working just on bio-chronology, women should be marrying men at least 6 years younger...if we hope to live happily everafter..
I enjoy the company of younger men, they are fun, add a refreshing and dynamic dimension to life and much more respectful of women ...the young guys I date vary from 8 years to 20 years my junior...perhaps I have been fortunate that I look half my age, they are all successful in their own right and enjoy my intellectual and sensual compatibility...so girls..don't confine yourself to your age range...likewise with the guys...older women are delicious and delightful as mature wine...so don't miss out on some thrilling experiences, just look at Demi Moore and Ashton , Cameron Diaz and Justin Timberlake...great to know that a lot of women are now setting precedents..
May I suggest that this site should delete the mention of age in the profile..
should'nt LOve be age and color -blind.?..
I think this preferance of men is understandable: when I'll be 50 I'll admire a strong and hot man at his 30, this is nature, we are more evolve "animals", animals feel the need of reproducing and they are attracted of the strongest partners. This is human nature, we can not impose ourselve who should we be attracted of.
A recent statistic shows that until men hit about 35, they are typically after a woman who is their equal on all accounts....physically and intellectually. After that, intelligence takes a drastic downward turn. They no longer care if she can hold up her end of a conversation, now he just wants someone young and attractive.
This is bad news for intelligent women (I guess I'm in big trouble!). With each passing year after the age of 25 or 26, her chances of marrying decreases taking a huge hit after her mid thirties.
It all comes down to our biological make-up. Personally, I'm attracted to "older" men (though really it's a maturity thing)....I'm told I act very mature for my age.
Men want a young women that can bear children and women want a good provider for their family. That's my two cents. Sooooo? I'm intelligent, successful, young, and single....any takers?
So....Divacura....let me see if I understood you well....What you're saying here is that " men over 40 are looking for women under 30 to give them MORE??'....More what?? Are you saying that women OVER 40 can't make them have an erection...and they would have to take a pill!?
Older/younger I don't know I go for the person and their qualities not the age. My last b/f of 5 years was 10 years YOUNGER than me and most of his friends thought we were the same age. He enjoyed "older classic rock" which sometimes made me laugh as I remember that song in high school, while he was in kindergarten!
Prior to that my next longest relationship was with someone 10 years older! So no I don't put a number on things, I enjoy the person and new things I can learn from them whether they are younger or older!
Alberto is correct,. If age is a restriction, then they are not considering the person.
And in consideration, I have no age restrictions.
Naked. Your post got deleted when your old account was deleted. But I did respond. Here is my response in case you didn't get it because you didn't answer the questions.
I assume you're capable of sustaining me in the lifestyle to which I've become accustomed?
Pizza, I like pizza. Will there be pizza?
Where's the ring? To propose, don't you need to have a ring?
Did you ask my Dad?
If you asked my Dad, does that mean you prefer my Dad?
Are there rules? Because I'm not good with rules. Especially about other women. Now don't get upset. Mom's a woman.
Do you like Mothers? Because mine will have to live with us so she can show you how I like things. Sje saod you should just do what oyu are told during the first month. Haha, gotta love my Mom, don't ya?
I'll expect you to have my name tattooed on your ass before you get here and I'll do the same. Well, I mean at some point I will, really.
I heard WVA girls are skilled at the alarm clock move. Do you know it? AKA, the oral wakeup call? Is it true? Don't tell mom.
Your cage comes in Green or Blue. Blue's OK, right? It's used but not rusty. Well, some rust, you can clean it off though.
Will there be a drug test? I mean the kind where we get to test all kinds of different drugs.
You are a virgin, right? If not, do you have any sex videos that you might have made that I can watch?
I need to make sure you don't do that bloody devil worship thing every month with those puffy pads in your crotch like MOM does, where you pretend you have a demon in your belly and it's fighting to get out and then does but you kill it and throw it in the trash, bloody and beaten,. You don't do that do you? It's OK if you do, I just hope yours doesn's smell like Mom's.
In WV, we can stay with your parents and my mom will get to check out your Dad. Do you think your Dad would mind a woman that has a lot of moles? What about scabs, because if he doesn't like moles, Mom offered to shave them off before she comes down but they will be pretty scabby looking.
Anyway, the answer is yes, as soon as we complete the 30 year tryout period, which is to be performed with you topless and in big heels and thong panties of course. Wait a minute, didn't we marry last week? Oops. That wasn't you. Pretend I didn't tell you about that.
Hey, is this a survey or are you requesting. Have your people call my people to make the arrangements. There is a sizeable dowry right? I prefer you give 10% down now, the rest when you get here.
Just kidding, marry, are you nuts? That's government interference in a private matter.How about you just promise to obey me and we see how it works.Bait that hook and we'll see.
Or no, just come over. Put the bait where I can reach and I'll bite.
Lapdance. It has been known to corrupt the finest men, destroy marriages, break up families, tear apart communities, take down powerful politicians, cause men within the highest ranks of the cloth to falter, to cause counties to go to war while other nations cover their daughters? faces and forbid their education, and it has caused atheists to declare the existence of GOD. Are you good at them? Do you think you can do them in your cage because your cage kind of has a low ceiling so you'd have to do the dance an your knees and keep close to the bars.
Don't worry about the cage thing, I have this leash I made on metal shop and it will be long enough to be able to clean the whole house. The only problem is that it's kind of heavy. That's because I built this special needle thing that injects poison if you try to take it off or make phone calls or a lot of noise, things like that. But we'll test it without poison the first day so it will just be jabbing and poking while we adjust it, it's not like I want to inject you with poison or anything.
Maybe we'll use some good drugs for the testing, that would be so fun to watch the escape attempts get slower and more stumbly! I know, I talk too much and should have saved all of this for after the marriage so we have something to talk about.
But I had this idea of having your voice box removed so I wouldn't have to worry about you making noise when I do fun things with you. To you actually, ah, what's the difference.
Jodi, you are so beautiful. I still have your cage. It's clean, the other girl didn't last and cleaned it before she left.
Can you stop and get some sandwiches on the way? Wait, I'll just fax yuo the grocery list, I know you won't mind.
I will tell you a secret, :))) from my own experience, :))) men who is 40 and more and looking for a women 30 and less are : #1:selfish, #2 low penile potention, so they need more and more to get a proper erection...but usually it dose not works, :)) but viagra helps, for sure...good luck!:)))
This will not apply to all older men, but I dated someone 11 yrs older than myself recently. Never thought I would, but he was a super person...55 yrs. He was separated. His wife was around his age. But he told me he would not consider dating anyone his age. He tried dating someone in their mid-30's and found they did not have enough life experience yet. He preferred women in their 40's. I asked him why he would not consider dating someone his own age...he answered he didn't really know, he just didn't want to. His confidence level had been blown out of the water by his wife. It's my opinion it was a boost for his confidence, self-esteem & ego if he could actually get someone younger to date him and care for him.
Another fellow I never dated, but talked with a while ago (not on this site), he was 47 yrs...he said he had also dated women in their mid 30's and found they did not have the same wisdom in life that is more prevalent amongst women in their 40's. So he resorted to dating women in their 40's.
HEY!!! No one attack me for those comments about life's wisdom in their mid 30's...I am merely repeating two fellows comments...I don't necessarily agree. I think I had just as much wisdom in my mid-30's as I do now at 44 yrs. :-) BUT as we know there are exceptions and maybe these men just unluckily dated some airheads! lol
The point was about boosting their confidence levels and making themselves feel good when they date younger women. :-)
If men on this site are bypassing women in their 40's for women in their 30's it is their loss. If you are a young looking 40 yr old who is attractive and physically fit, you will attract attention at the grocery store, walking down the street or thru a mall...especially if you dress yourself elegantly casual or appropriately for the occasion. You'll turn heads...watch for it. In person, if you look 35, they'll take you for 35 and won't care when you tell them you are 45...or whatever one's age maybe. Make sense?
It's their loss. They say well who knows what she will look like into her 40's. I have surprised myself actually, when I was in my 20's I could not IMAGINE being 40. Now here I am pushing 50, and still looking pretty good. I would love to msg all of them and tell them how silly they sound actually, but won't waste my time..