Mas, now I see why the ladies think so much of you on this forum. You deserve a lot of respect. I read your comments regarding old men perverts, and I'm glad to know there are at least some decent men still around.
Hey everyone! Sweet's handle says sixteen but next to her name it says, 'Female 18.' Regardless, any man who is older than her dad and old enough to be her granddad, is sick in the head to pursue a girl that age.
SweetSixteen, I see by your last post that you don't want to listen to good sound advice. You take our advice as 'mean' and think that we're jealous of you? Did you not see Mas's post about this very same thing? Why would a man be jealous of you? We're speaking from life experience here, NOT out of meanness or jealousy. Just as Mas said, we have choices in life. You will make your choices, regardless of what anyone says. And as I said once before, I hope you make the choices with the least regrets. If not, well, then you'll have to learn the hard way.
Barkeep - wow, just read your post.
I'm your age, and...wow.
Nowhere in your post did I hear you mention what a wonderful, caring, compassionate, intelligent, humorous, intellectual person your 19 year old g/f is and/or how much you love her.
What I got out of your post was that the benefit of dating a person that age is the fact that they have friends that age that you can hit on, and...tail. If I misread what you were saying, please correct me.
"and provided the neurological wiring that ,makes so many of us naughty little boys to follow in their footsteps. Hey, it might suck, but there's not really a lot we can do about it."
What seperates us (human beings) from say...chimpanzees...is self awareness and the ability to control our urges. I don't buy the "hard wired" theory...people make choices in life...period. Genetics made me do it - poor arguement at best. The reason I don't get out of my car and kill the guy who cut me off in traffic is because I make the choice not to - even though I'm upset, I make the decision not to act on my impulse. An exageration (for the most part) - but I'm sure you see my point.
And while I agree with Faris and what she said about the selection of men a 20ish woman has at their age...and I don't like to judge people I don't know....a guy about to hit 40 dating a 20 year old just rubs me the wrong way. Live and let live - I know I know - and your lady is old enough to make her own decisions.
But have you told her the real benefits of dating her are tail and her hot friends?
Hmmm...I have to give some credence to what Faris said - she's right.
Guys in their younger 20's more times than not don't have a clue to where they are going. Some do - most don't. I sure the hell didn't.
(I was always great in the sack though)
Now...none of the above endorses a 50+ yeal old pervert sending e-mails to someone young enough to be his grand daughter. I repeat...that's just creepy. Frikkin' Chester the Molester.
SpoilYouRotten, excuse me?? Aren't you the exact same dirty old man who said 18-20 yr old young women's bods is what gets you going?? And yet you're sitting here giving advice to an 18 yr old saying, "Don't listen to them, what do they know?" We(women) know plenty because we've BEEN there. And we're also old enough to know you're just a dirty old man.
This is a prime example for SweetSixteen as to why she should steer clear of dirty old men like you. And by the way, let's do our math lesson today. She said the 53 yr old is 16 yrs older than her mom and dad. That would make her dad 37 yrs old...right? That does NOT make a 53 yr old man old enough to be her dad. It makes him old enough to be her GRANDDAD. How sick is that?
SweetSixteen, I believe us women have given you good sound advice when it comes to this sort of thing. We were there one time too, so we know what we're talking about. Old men like Spoil are only after one thing from you, and that is sex. Unless you're looking for a rich granddad(and believe me, he'll expect sex from you--how gross!), then stick to guys closer to your own age.
Men this old get kind of crazy in their old age and actually believe a young woman wants them. That is just disgusting. Spoil, I hate to say this but I believe even a minor would get you going. You have no decency about you whatsoever.
MonicaF1 you are so right... I have to laugh when I see a fella in his 40's + strutting along with a young girl... I have an older brother who will only date girls in their 20's... Of course he won't say when his last date was, lol... I would be interested in their conversations though... Personally I'd feel like I were a pervert if I were to pursue a young girl. Just my 2 cents, which when I was your age would have bought...
Hey, I don't know about some of you ladies in your 30's and above, but I think that I get more looks now in my thirties than in my teens and 20's. Makes me feel like that beautiful, vibrant woman. Could be the way I walk too. Like I'm constantly on the runway. I'm a modeling/acting instructor after all. Shows extreme confidence. And, beauty is truly from within. Doesn't matter young or old. Agree?
Sweetsixteen, if a 53 yr old (or older) man is 16 yrs older than your mom and dad, that would make him just about old enough to be your Granddad! Yes, of COURSE he's too old for you. Any man who's as much as 20 yrs older than you would be old enough to be your Dad.
You have 2 things that make you VERY vunerable to men at this time in your life: 1) Your very young age, thus your inexperience with men, and 2) You've just had your heart broken by your former b/f, and that usually spells rebound.
If you were my own daughter and you asked for my advice, here is the advice I would give you. And remember, I know these things from my own life experiences and what my own mom taught me. Plus, I have a 6 1/2 yr old daughter, whom I love dearly. Someday I will be saying these same things to her.
1. Please take your time when it comes to relationships. You don't know/realize this right now, but you have plenty of time to worry about getting serious again or even getting married someday. You are young only once and only have 1 chance to do it right. You can't go back and undo things later, no matter how much you may regret your choices.
2. Set personal goals for yourself to accomplish and do/live them BEFORE you ever get entangled in a longterm relationship or marriage. There is a big world out there to explore and discover, things to do and see. There is so much more to life for a young woman than just relationships and/or marriage. Do all of those things FIRST. You will be so glad you did, someday when you are older.
3. When it comes to men, don't pick someone old enough to be granddad or even dad. That's just too old for you. You want someone young enough, so that if you 2 should marry and have kids, he's young enough to help raise them. Imagine an old man trying to go and out and play with the kids! Kids do NOT like to just sit in the house. Chances are, you'll be the one doing that with them, not him.
Only you can make the final decisions when it comes to your life. I truly hope you make the ones with the least regrets.
Sweet16 - it's like sharks swimming around a wounded fish with you young lady.
No self respecting man over the age of...???24 ???...should be sending you e-mails from this site. And under no circumstances should ANY guy be writing you e-mails with sexual content...well...maybe after you've corresponded with him for a while....a LONG while.
Can some of the ladies here take this one under their wing(s)?
54 years old...creepy, just creepy.
Jeez - hearing about stuff like this makes me embarrassed to be a guy.
At 42, I find it hard to have a conversation with a woman in her early 20's. And yes conversation can be a potential form of forplay for those who are only looking for sex. But I have been around some women in their 50's who made the 20's look like rocket scientist. So age can't mean much of anything except to people that are looking for trophies. The wisdom of a seasoned woman can teach a man how to really satisfy a woman. Just because you participate in conversation doesn't mean that you enjoyed it. As I am sure there are women that some of the men hear have been with can say the same about their sex life with most men. Try to lay next to a beautifull nude woman and just talk to her. look into her eyes and listen. Ignore her body. You will never regret the returns you will recieve when she becomes a person instead of a blow-up-doll.
The world today celebrates equality and diversity in every sense of the word..
women too could go for toy boys and younger guys..the autumn /spring match works both ways and could be successful too..
the average lifespan of women exceed men by about 6 years, so working just on bio-chronology, women should be marrying men at least 6 years younger...if we hope to live happily everafter..
I enjoy the company of younger men, they are fun, add a refreshing and dynamic dimension to life and much more respectful of women ...the young guys I date vary from 8 years to 20 years my junior...perhaps I have been fortunate that I look half my age, they are all successful in their own right and enjoy my intellectual and sensual compatibility...so girls..don't confine yourself to your age range...likewise with the guys...older women are delicious and delightful as mature wine...so don't miss out on some thrilling experiences, just look at Demi Moore and Ashton , Cameron Diaz and Justin Timberlake...great to know that a lot of women are now setting precedents..
May I suggest that this site should delete the mention of age in the profile..
should'nt LOve be age and color -blind.?..
I think this preferance of men is understandable: when I'll be 50 I'll admire a strong and hot man at his 30, this is nature, we are more evolve "animals", animals feel the need of reproducing and they are attracted of the strongest partners. This is human nature, we can not impose ourselve who should we be attracted of.
So....Divacura....let me see if I understood you well....What you're saying here is that " men over 40 are looking for women under 30 to give them MORE??'....More what?? Are you saying that women OVER 40 can't make them have an erection...and they would have to take a pill!?
Older/younger I don't know I go for the person and their qualities not the age. My last b/f of 5 years was 10 years YOUNGER than me and most of his friends thought we were the same age. He enjoyed "older classic rock" which sometimes made me laugh as I remember that song in high school, while he was in kindergarten!
Prior to that my next longest relationship was with someone 10 years older! So no I don't put a number on things, I enjoy the person and new things I can learn from them whether they are younger or older!
Alberto is correct,. If age is a restriction, then they are not considering the person.
And in consideration, I have no age restrictions.
Naked. Your post got deleted when your old account was deleted. But I did respond. Here is my response in case you didn't get it because you didn't answer the questions.
I assume you're capable of sustaining me in the lifestyle to which I've become accustomed?
Pizza, I like pizza. Will there be pizza?
Where's the ring? To propose, don't you need to have a ring?
Did you ask my Dad?
If you asked my Dad, does that mean you prefer my Dad?
Are there rules? Because I'm not good with rules. Especially about other women. Now don't get upset. Mom's a woman.
Do you like Mothers? Because mine will have to live with us so she can show you how I like things. Sje saod you should just do what oyu are told during the first month. Haha, gotta love my Mom, don't ya?
I'll expect you to have my name tattooed on your ass before you get here and I'll do the same. Well, I mean at some point I will, really.
I heard WVA girls are skilled at the alarm clock move. Do you know it? AKA, the oral wakeup call? Is it true? Don't tell mom.
Your cage comes in Green or Blue. Blue's OK, right? It's used but not rusty. Well, some rust, you can clean it off though.
Will there be a drug test? I mean the kind where we get to test all kinds of different drugs.
You are a virgin, right? If not, do you have any sex videos that you might have made that I can watch?
I need to make sure you don't do that bloody devil worship thing every month with those puffy pads in your crotch like MOM does, where you pretend you have a demon in your belly and it's fighting to get out and then does but you kill it and throw it in the trash, bloody and beaten,. You don't do that do you? It's OK if you do, I just hope yours doesn's smell like Mom's.
In WV, we can stay with your parents and my mom will get to check out your Dad. Do you think your Dad would mind a woman that has a lot of moles? What about scabs, because if he doesn't like moles, Mom offered to shave them off before she comes down but they will be pretty scabby looking.
Anyway, the answer is yes, as soon as we complete the 30 year tryout period, which is to be performed with you topless and in big heels and thong panties of course. Wait a minute, didn't we marry last week? Oops. That wasn't you. Pretend I didn't tell you about that.
Hey, is this a survey or are you requesting. Have your people call my people to make the arrangements. There is a sizeable dowry right? I prefer you give 10% down now, the rest when you get here.
Just kidding, marry, are you nuts? That's government interference in a private matter.How about you just promise to obey me and we see how it works.Bait that hook and we'll see.
Or no, just come over. Put the bait where I can reach and I'll bite.
Lapdance. It has been known to corrupt the finest men, destroy marriages, break up families, tear apart communities, take down powerful politicians, cause men within the highest ranks of the cloth to falter, to cause counties to go to war while other nations cover their daughters? faces and forbid their education, and it has caused atheists to declare the existence of GOD. Are you good at them? Do you think you can do them in your cage because your cage kind of has a low ceiling so you'd have to do the dance an your knees and keep close to the bars.
Don't worry about the cage thing, I have this leash I made on metal shop and it will be long enough to be able to clean the whole house. The only problem is that it's kind of heavy. That's because I built this special needle thing that injects poison if you try to take it off or make phone calls or a lot of noise, things like that. But we'll test it without poison the first day so it will just be jabbing and poking while we adjust it, it's not like I want to inject you with poison or anything.
Maybe we'll use some good drugs for the testing, that would be so fun to watch the escape attempts get slower and more stumbly! I know, I talk too much and should have saved all of this for after the marriage so we have something to talk about.
But I had this idea of having your voice box removed so I wouldn't have to worry about you making noise when I do fun things with you. To you actually, ah, what's the difference.
Jodi, you are so beautiful. I still have your cage. It's clean, the other girl didn't last and cleaned it before she left.
Can you stop and get some sandwiches on the way? Wait, I'll just fax yuo the grocery list, I know you won't mind.
I will tell you a secret, :))) from my own experience, :))) men who is 40 and more and looking for a women 30 and less are : #1:selfish, #2 low penile potention, so they need more and more to get a proper erection...but usually it dose not works, :)) but viagra helps, for sure...good luck!:)))
It's their loss. They say well who knows what she will look like into her 40's. I have surprised myself actually, when I was in my 20's I could not IMAGINE being 40. Now here I am pushing 50, and still looking pretty good. I would love to msg all of them and tell them how silly they sound actually, but won't waste my time..
Thanks for understanding the humorous side of things too. If we(men & women) don't take all of this so seriously, we can enjoy the laughs while we share our points of view. Women and men don't always have to look at each other as a potential date. Sometimes we can see in the other a new friend. Someone to laugh and joke with. Laughter is the best thing going these days, in a world so troubled with war, violence, heartache and loneliness. It makes the journey a little more bearable. I was worried I was coming on too strong with my comments, and wondered if I should tone it down. I try not to step too hard on toes(lol) but I have to be me. And being the person I am, I often times like to see the hilarious side of things and hope that I can bring a smile to others. Actually BFDeal is just like the rest of us, in that he's learning as he goes. Life and experience teaches you, if you're willing to open up and 'listen' and learn.
BFDeal, I think you know what I was trying to explain in my last post. Let me say it again a little plainer. I would not want to go out with a guy who thinks I owe him sex. If I choose to have sex with him the first time we go out or the 5th time we go out, it's MY choice(whim is not the right term-CHOICE is), but I don't owe it to him. I will pay my own way during the date, if that is the way he happens to think. The whole point BFDeal is no man should think a woman owes him sex(during a date) if they were to go out and he paid for the date. I responded to a woman's post about how women should give men sex if they take them out and spend money for dinner, etc. That is what this is about. And NO, I do not find men in their 60's sexually attractive. My mom is in her early 60's, and I do not find 'pop' sexually attractive. Please don't assume you know what most women find attractive. As I stated before, I've dated men in their 30s since I've been in my 40s. Why should seek out someone old enough to be my dad? Gross! You say when you get older you will trade in the younger woman? lmaoooooo, you're as stubborn as I am I see, and have a comeback for everything. She will leave before you ever decide to trade her in lol.