Miss Butterfly honey you said it the way it really is. I also happen to think men our age look older than us girls most anyways maybe not all, and its their loss really they can go and chase younger woman............but how long will the relashionship last? So honee.........I so agree with you totally when a woman takes care of herself ................age is just a number!
Butterfly said, "Fat, BALD and out of shape." Now, I don't think I have EVER seen a fat, out of shape man who was beautiful, outside and in. Their build alone indicates they don't care about themselves, or people's opinions about themselves, or their health, sex appeal or ability to keep up with the rest of the world. If their outside shows that kind of attitude, wouldn't the inside be hiding a lot of resentment, apathy and bitterness as well? Maybe SOME men who are overweight and out of shape are confident, self-assured, proud of their appearance and ooze sex appeal ...... but I bet you could count the ones you know on one hand.
Women win that contest because many BBW's looking for love still know how to keep their hair gorgeous, have the whole spa treatment done every so often, wear becoming and stylish clothes, tone up at the gym and enhance the best qualities they possess (usually cleavage and booty) to their strongest advantage. That's because they KNOW they can be beautiful on the outside if they make an effort and stay on top of it. The proof is in the fact that there are scores of men who adore BBW's (Alberto, luv, if you're wondering .... that stands for Big, Beautiful Women, over here in the Americas. lol) and there are dating sites exclusively for those who are attracted to larger sized women.
Maybe if overweight or otherwise unattractive men would stop being in denial, stop thinking people should just accept them as they are, and quit using that old, tired phrase, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder - (which is really only relevant if you're talking about gorilla babies or a beat up old ratty pair of comfy slippers) they'd see that being attractive is a choice. Not an act of God or an unfortunate accident.
Age..shmage...sheesh! It's only a number. What's important is your health, attitude, activeness, self respect and the same for others. Numbers are a non-starter when feelings & emotions soar, and it's off the hook! That's it..2 cents.
lioncourt, Thank You, for bringing to my attention, that my chat line dialogue, is in approiate for the forum. I will do my best to adhere to the correct protocol, as the information gathered here is very valuable. Thank you as well, for the compliment.
What brought that 'tude on? I never figured you for a "bioche," but that was a really "catty" post to Tomi! What's up with that ? Men are in a "No Fly Zone" if they're thinking of using PMS, Menopause and estrogen to slap somebody out. with! How would you feel if Tomi did a "back at ya," using shrinkage, Viagra and ED as weapons?
I have not done research on the topic but I do notice most of the peopple responding to me are older than what I ask. So, in my opinion, many rich men are not necessarily interested in me as a person, simply interested in a trophy. That's not ok with me.
I agree Steel, I see a lot more people being positive and it would be nice to keep it that way. I think Tomi is adorable and she speaks the truth and certainly does not write posts to slam others. The older I get the more sex drive I have! Sometimes I understand where men are coming from when they think about sex every 3.5 seconds is it?? I think men should appreciate that in us older women.
barkeep... everyone's entitled to their opinion here, it's a forum, it doesn't mean we have to approve everything that is said but we do have to respect the other's opinion... and be diplomatic and civil and courteous... treat people like you would like to be treated...
Fun4two.. all of your posts that I've read are truly insightful and make you sound like the true lady that I believe that you are.
As for hypocrits.. well.. I find the people that complain about it not being ok for older women to date younger men.. are the same ones that find it not acceptable for older men to date younger women..
Personally.. I'm currently attracted to men a bit older than me. Hasn't always been that way and may not always stay that way. But it's my choice to make. I think that as long as the people involved are consenting adults.. who are others to say what's ok? In Sweden, 18 is the age when one is considered an adult. That's the age when you're allowed to vote and make all decisions about yourself. Surely you can also decide who to date. Now I too have to admit that I would react if I saw an 18 year old on the arm of an 60 year old, regardless of gender of the older person.. maybe that makes me a hypocrite? I don't know, but I do make an effort to keep an open mind and not to judge people whos situations I know nothing about. I try, but naturally I don't suceed everytime. Nobody's perfect, so I guess there's a tiny bit of doublemoral in me too.
Oh and for the record.. the ladies posting here.. most of you are simply stunning and have amazing figures! You're in better shape than many women a lot younger so keep your heads high!!
Take care everybody! It's 1am and I have rambled enough. Over and out.
barkeep, the news is out that some of us are trying to bring some order and decency back to the forums. If we all try a little harder, it'll be a much friendlier place. TomiGirl is a nice lady, not to mention a pretty face and personality too. Please try a little respect for other's feelings. It goes a long way.
If I had a 20 dollar bill, purchased something for 10 dollars and got 20 dollars back, what would that mean?...Can you explain your math to us again Absolute? Adding 10 to each persons age would still be a difference of 20, right? 44, 24 or 54, 34...Maybe they do math differently out that way.