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Posted on Fri, Jan 07, 2005 17:12

Happy New Year Everyone!
Here's a topic to consider:
What makes a first date wonderful for you?
I love a first date that feels like its a 10th date...
He understands me... we can relate.. we have many common interests and it just flows...( He doesn't ask 20 interview-type questions) we make eachother laugh, smile and he makes me: silly/sexy/sassy all at the same time...
Chemistry is indeed a wonderful thing...
Trust me, they are out there..
Hey Cupid !!! V-Day is just around the corner ... Round Em' Up!!! ;) Hee! Hee!
I wish you all my very best for this year and always... :)
Cheers!

  


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Posted on Sat, Jul 02, 2011 03:02

Quoting BFDeal:

Let's see. MillionaireMatch.com. Who cares about money? LOL!

When a woman tells me she doesn't care about my money, she has just told me that everything I have done to get it is of little interest to her and I am immediately deflated. This is not a positive comment, despite the intent of telling a man you are not a gold digger that is intrested in is money more than him. And, he knows you are lying. If you truly don't care about money, can I have yours? Please? Oh, so you do care about money.

Then don't say you don't care about money. Say what your really mean so that he does not misinterpret. You believe to convey, I think, that the fact that a man has a lot of money has it's draw but is not high on the list of characteristics that you find attractive. Excess money is simply icing, and that lots of money isn't a requirement or important enough for you to overlook the other characteristics that you find important.

When a man brags about money, he is trying to show you that he is a man of achievement, a winner, on top, a successful man and not a failure, and he is in no way saying he does not also have compassion, feelings, love, sensitivity, consideration, manners, honesty, or any other appealing characteristic. He just wants you to recognize his achievement and agree that achievement is a positive quality.

He wants to impress you. And in response you are unimpressed. He gets an F for wanting you and doing what he thinks will help make you want him. Give him a C for no affect, acknowledge that his impressiveness is implressive to the extent that it should be even if YOU don't care about it, and be nice. You ARE on this date to and it is not up to him to win you over. By defeating him, you have defeated yourself because a date that ends because his efforts were not the right approach to take with you is just as much your fault if not mostly your fault. He is trying, you are not.

Judging a man as a failure because he desperately seeks to cause you to find him great by telling you he is great is going to cause you to overlook men that otherwise have many positive qualities. Just because he sucks at winning you over and desperatley has put you up as the better person and hopes you will acknowldege his chest thumping and pull him up to your level or even place him above yourself does not mean that he isn't already the better person, it just means he lacks a skill that is mostly the domain of players anyway.

Give him a break and smile. He doesn't know any better and he just wants you to like him. Is is so bad that he wants that and isn't a good player? It does not define him and you should be happy that if this is a good one and you get him, you don't have to worry so much about other women, for he sucks at acting in a way he'd need to in order to get them.

So, when he braggs, your response would better be something like, "So, you are saying you want me and hope I will want back". Because that is the fact.



Tha's exactly what I always say to all those hypocrits who claim not to care about money and yet the are right here on MILLIONAIRE mate)))
It is normal to respect mans achivments and to welcome his care. I never understood those seek feminists,all they get is being unapreciated and underestimated, as well as bringing up week "undermen" who would sleep on a woman"s chest or watch her fighting with a man,without interfering).If a man worked all life, built a great conditions,whom is all this for? Real man is happy to make the life of his woman better even if she leaves later.. this is life. Yes, the money he spent would't come back to him but he wouldn't think of it,he would rather think the years they spent would not come back..neither to her,and how would she be doing? She is a woman and it is not same a man. I general woman needs much more care and yes-money than man. Would peole just stop lieing? I saw pretty many agressive feminists from the West,coming to Japan to work..and selling them selves soo cheap when getting the first offer fro a man))) Because in the feminists world thy get no offers,but one's in the situation close to natural female nature wins. So,it just shouldn't get the ugly form like in those cases. It is natural that man takes care of a woman,and it is an art af a woman to accept it beautifuly with dignity. And off course she should be able to take care of herself too.To know when to accept the care and when not,when to be dependant and when agressively independant. Many women just don't),because fighting with nature for genirations,making men get lost about their role,making them weak and low. Women,simply stop lieing:you chose this site by the NAME,AND NOT NEED TO DENY A NATURAL INSTINCT OF A FEMALE: INSTINKT OF CARE ABOUT THE POSTCAMERS),AS WELL A NATURAL SELECTION.How ancient your feminists ideas? And how ancient are the instincts? Fighting with nature you will loose.



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Posted on Sun, Oct 01, 2006 07:45

BlueEyz2006 write:
MichelleInTx35 write:
Donald Trump's new wife said it best. When asked if she would still marry The Donald if he weren't rich and powerful, she resonded by asking the reported if he thought that The Donald would be still marry her if she were ugly and fat.
Checkmate! For me, income takes a backseat to the respect I have for the prestige and power that comes from success. I would only date men who are successful in their chosen field--whether it be as a public servant or a corporate tycoon.


This is well said. Men with money aren't always worth marrying for the financial impact but because, hopefully, men with money tend to have the intelligence, discipline, charisma, judgment and ambition to have it. Of course, there are many men (especially where I live in Southern California) who simply inherit it and while that's not always bad you might want to make sure they choose well what to do with their inheritance.

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Oh yes! The Eaton's brothers are a prime example of inheriting a company & fortune, but never being taught good business sense. Hence they lost the company and their fortune is dwindling, albeit they have enough, they will probably never suffer.



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Posted on Mon, Sep 25, 2006 20:46

MichelleInTx35 write:
Donald Trump's new wife said it best. When asked if she would still marry The Donald if he weren't rich and powerful, she resonded by asking the reported if he thought that The Donald would be still marry her if she were ugly and fat.
Checkmate! For me, income takes a backseat to the respect I have for the prestige and power that comes from success. I would only date men who are successful in their chosen field--whether it be as a public servant or a corporate tycoon.


This is well said. Men with money aren't always worth marrying for the financial impact but because, hopefully, men with money tend to have the intelligence, discipline, charisma, judgment and ambition to have it. Of course, there are many men (especially where I live in Southern California) who simply inherit it and while that's not always bad you might want to make sure they choose well what to do with their inheritance.



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Posted on Wed, Oct 19, 2005 05:31

First dates... Well, let's not jump ahead of ourselves. How about we start at first contact at MM. THEN, email, possibly chat, then a telephone call or two... If all is clicking along in terms of mutual interests and a hint at mutual chemistry, let's meet face to face to see if it is real and our energies compliment one another. As for that first date and meeting, how about coffee, lunch, dinner, or perhaps a walk around a local park, zoo, or beach? If it's still clicking between us, how about we repeat that first date scenario a few more times... just to make sure the mutual chemistry and interests are really there and don't wear off with the newness of it all. THEN... let's chat eyeball to eyeball about keeping it going, casual to start, but reliably so. Let's also require honesty and being straight up with one another without personal feelings being threatened and how to do away with expectations that are too early to be put out there. We can set some mutually agreeable objectives together and have fun on the way to meeting them. After all, I'm not looking for a husband and you're not looking for a wife, right!?! NEXT... let's enjoy one another as wholistically (involving mind, body, senses, sensuality & spirit) as our personal lives and schedules will allow! If that means you travel to me, great. If that means I travel to you, great. If that means we travel someplace together, great. FINALLY... let's work on our relationship being something that we can both count on, in whatever its specific form of friendship and methods of personal interaction that we have defined for each other. Let's also work on making sure that the type of mutual support and rewards that we have both agreed to gift each other with (specific to our individual desires) actually happens. Did I forget to mention, we should end up playing safe, having fun, keeping it kinky, bringing on the SPICE, and sharing ALOHA? My bad!
First dates... Well, let's not jump ahead of ourselves. How about we start at first contact at MM. THEN, email, possibly chat, then a telephone call or two... If all is clicking along in terms of mutual interests and a hint at mutual chemistry, let's meet face to face to see if it is real and our energies compliment one another. As for that first date and meeting, how about coffee, lunch, dinner, or perhaps a walk around a local park, zoo, or beach? If it's still clicking between us, how about we repeat that first date scenario a few more times... just to make sure the mutual chemistry and interests are really there and don't wear off with the newness of it all. THEN... let's chat eyeball to eyeball about keeping it going, casual to start, but reliably so. Let's also require honesty and being straight up with one another without personal feelings being threatened and how to do away with expectations that are too early to be put out there. We can set some mutually agreeable objectives together and have fun on the way to meeting them. After all, I'm not looking for a husband and you're not looking for a wife, right!?! NEXT... let's enjoy one another as wholistically (involving mind, body, senses, sensuality & spirit) as our personal lives and schedules will allow! If that means you travel to me, great. If that means I travel to you, great. If that means we travel someplace together, great. FINALLY... let's work on our relationship being something that we can both count on, in whatever its specific form of friendship and methods of personal interaction that we have defined for each other. Let's also work on making sure that the type of mutual support and rewards that we have both agreed to gift each other with (specific to our individual desires) actually happens. Did I forget to mention, we should end up playing safe, having fun, keeping it kinky, bringing on the SPICE, and sharing ALOHA? My bad!



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Posted on Tue, Sep 06, 2005 22:21

In Texas we call that "Big hat, No cattle."



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Posted on Tue, Sep 06, 2005 22:17

Donald Trump's new wife said it best. When asked if she would still marry The Donald if he weren't rich and powerful, she resonded by asking the reported if he thought that The Donald would be still marry her if she were ugly and fat.
Checkmate! For me, income takes a backseat to the respect I have for the prestige and power that comes from success. I would only date men who are successful in their chosen field--whether it be as a public servant or a corporate tycoon.

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Posted on Fri, May 20, 2005 16:30

What does someone want out of a first date?

I would suggest that it's to see if there's any hint (or not so subtle hint!) of any chemistry there. If not, then at least a polite understanding that "we're not right" and to go each other's ways.

If this last bit sounds a bit reserved, well I am British after all! ***

To answer one of the other questions in the thread below, people join a site like this for various reasons, but one of them must be that it is a means of meeting good/intelligent/smart people who don't fall into the "Friday night clubbing camp".

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*** Only joking - I would normally class myself as Scottish.



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Posted on Mon, Apr 25, 2005 07:59

It is great to have money and all, but a women would love to see the sensitive, intellectual person that you are. They also want to know what you think about them, and not just yourself. Thanks for the post.



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Posted on Mon, Apr 11, 2005 12:48

If a man excuses his braggadocio by rationalizing that he is just trying to get the girl to like him, that screams, "I AM INSECURE!", hello?
And as far as money goes, what about the wealthy gentry (both male and female) born with a silver spoon in their mouth? Often they have accomplished nothing in their lives, have nothing intelligent, rational or constructive to offer to a relationship, and are frequently socially retarded.
Believe me, I've met more than a few. Lots of money, very unimpressive.
If you were born poor, and then thru perserverance, effort and integrity manage to generate wealth, then that is perhaps admirable.
But hey, don't let me curb your technique, but be forewarned, often times you get exactly what you're looking for!



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Posted on Tue, Apr 05, 2005 02:15

hmm first dating...i can't say i could ever consider a first date special. yeah there's the talking..but for me it's all about the second date. the way i tend to work is i openly allow someone to know my likes/dislikes and from that they should be able to think up a creative second date that would be ideal for the both of us...



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Posted on Wed, Mar 16, 2005 12:37

cont'd - confident, assertive, and strong demeanor about them. I'm attracted to those qualities. They were the good qualities in my ex that I admired. We are amicable.

As for men on this site who are looking for women to spend their money...I don't believe those are the men doing the complaining about gold diggers. I agree with you they are controlling men, and who'd want them? They are looking for show pieces to display on their arms...once they get bored with them, they will move on to a new beautiful gal...and so on and so on... Just my opinion here... others are entitled to their opinions too, which may be different!Good advice to women about making their own money so they can have their freedom, etc. Unfortunately, their will always be those individuals male/female who lack the drive to do that, or to change anything in their life.
Unfortunately, I have concluded I will probably never meet anyone from MM...but I certainly find the forums entertaining enough to maintain a membership. And who knows...maybe I'll get lucky...stranger things have happened, right? lol



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Posted on Wed, Mar 16, 2005 12:35

SEXLOINESS...first...no offence, but I had to do a double take when I read your ID name...I read it as "sexy loin ess (or less)" I was thinking...why would she imply she had no loins? lol DUH!!!Anyways, I quickly clued in you meant sexy lioness...sp erro for lion. lol

Good for you. Like yourself I came to this site looking for someone who is on an equal or greater financial level than myself. Education is also important for intellectual conversation. But the reason I want him to have equal or more financially is not the same as yours...Although I wouldn't want someone to be a burden to me either. I have found men with less may not show it initially, but eventually, they are intimidated by my possessions, my freedom, my ability to buy what I like, when I want or travel whenever I want to and not bat an eye lash. They start getting angry & making snide comments to me. I don't need that.
I used to live in this exclusive posh neighborhood, beautiful house. I've since moved, because people made a judgement about me if they learned where I lived. Also I didn't like living there. Only once did I have a date pick me up at my home. He had barely walked into my house and he uttered some comment to the effect that "people with three houses are sickening". I responded, "Are you referring to me, because I own three houses!" That really set the tone. Never saw him again! After that, I never allowed anyone to pick me up at my house, unless they had equal or greater than myself. I've had other tell tale experiences too, but won't write them all...you'd all fall asleep! lol
Additionally, men who have equal or more than myself are usually successful business men, who have a confident, assertive, and



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Posted on Wed, Mar 09, 2005 17:28

you really post a lot of bull.... you have a opnion on everything but all of your words are like smoke one moment its there and the next its gone. so why don't you stop b.sing and be yourself



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Posted on Sun, Feb 20, 2005 18:38

Well I am a woman who has accomplished alot and i came to this site with the intentions to meet a man that is on the same level as me I am not looking to live off of anyone elses money because i have my own, what i have noticed on here is that alot of menn are looking for women to spend their money so why are they complaining about gold diggers, If you put it out there thats what youre going to get, and women if thats what you are looking for someone to take care of you be prepared to accept what ever comes along with that teritory, The controling man . When you put yourself in that postion thats what you get ,so go out and make your own money and you can do as you wish come and go as you please thats why im am glad i make my own
futher more if someone approched me he would have to be own the same level financially that i am because after a while if they are not on youre level they become a burden two incomes are better than one.

  


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Posted on Sun, Feb 20, 2005 18:37

Well I am a woman who has accomplished alot and i came to this site with the intentions to meet a man that is on the same level as me I am not looking to live off of anyone elses money because i have my own, what i have noticed on here is that alot of menn are looking for women to spend their money so why are they complaining about gold diggers, If you put it out there thats what youre going to get, and women if thats what you are looking for someone to take care of you be prepared to accept what ever comes along with that teritory, The controling man . When you put yourself in that postion thats what you get ,so go out and make your own money and you can do as you wish come and go as you please thats why im am glad i make my own
futher more if someone approched me he would have to be own the same level financially that i am because after a while if they are not on youre level they become a burden two incomes are better than one.



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Posted on Thu, Feb 03, 2005 20:07

Money is important if you know how to use it well. To use money well is to advance the four truths: beauty, justice, truth, and well, I forgot the fourth, but you get the general idea. I would insert life itself, to make it longer, that is what I would do with my money.



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Posted on Thu, Feb 03, 2005 12:53

Thank you BFDeal, great insight about what some men really try to tell you when they seem to brag about their wealth and achievments. I can get a bit confused, and that's because a lot of men are scared of women who are after their money. I think a man who is succesful is so attractive because he has a purpose in life that keeps him happy and satisfied. I may not have all that money but I appreciate the work that comes with achieveing it because that is what I am doing right now. So, I don't know about others but I will always admire an accomplished man and try to model that. Your comments are welcomed!
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Posted on Wed, Feb 02, 2005 22:45

It works both ways as well, unfortunately there are alot of male parasites out there as well as female, c'est la vie. Many of us women with money seek men as equals, just mutual respect and consideration, seems to be hard to find the right balance



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Posted on Mon, Jan 31, 2005 15:12

Money can buy alot of things, and alot of happiness but it may not necessarily buy health and true love...at some point it reaches a point of diminishing returns..

For those who know the price of everything and the value of nothing..life is sad if defined only by your bank account..



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