Being someone other than ones-self ultimately will not make one happy. I think we have all gone down the road at one time or another trying to please our partner and found that in the end a large percentage of the time it does not work. Hopefully they fell in love with us for who we are not who we think they want us to be!
Yes DECEPTION...that's a bad thing. Just be honest, be yourself...my best friend is so worried on this yachting trip that we might have a few glasses of wine...and start cracking up and saying the f word, like f you Lisa or something of that nature in front of her new boy friend. I'm concerned about this one, I feel like already???????? She can't be herself? Not good!
Kittee thank you for being clearer than I was... the point is the deception. If this is the way a relationship is going to start then what does this mean for the rest of the relationship. Honesty up front is the best policy, then at keast you know the person loves you for you.
Yes I had a similiar situation happen to me years ago Sooner...it's not that I'm above having a new friend in my life...he could have been a great guy down the line...who knows, but I couldn't get over the deception...if it started out like that before we met...ugh who knows! Just be yourself and honest guys! Honesty is the best policy!
Though I am LMAO at the dissertations on the "dates" I am still amazed at what some folks will do. I had a similar experience, guy wa handsome and very charming in his online posting and in his pics. He flew into town on business and we decided to meet for dinner. When I got to the restaurant and they pointed him out waiting for me... you guessed it, I would not have picked him out n a million years. He was about 200 lbs more than his pic, no hair and the thickest coke bottle glasses you have ever seen. Nice guy but when I asked him about the pics he said they were from about 11 years ago. AMAZING!!!
Okkkkk I'm curious. I've emailed back and forth with a few men from this site. Haven't actually met anyone live yet...Now I'm horrified to! I met what I thought was a nice respectful man. We were to meet this week as a matter of fact at Harris Ranch for lunch perhaps dinner...I know its quite a drive for him...so he mentioned he might get a room there...fine w/me if thats what he wants to do etc. But he had the nerve to email me asking me to spend the night w/him...Guess that lunch date is off! ugh!
Yes Annie I agree...Oh my gosh this was quite a few years ago...but this man I had been chatting w/for some time...fairly nice..nurse etc...it came the time to meet at the coffee house...well let me tell you his picture had to of been 20 years old that I had seen...now why do that? Like I'm not going to notice?
Why lie guys, its not like we wont see the real you when we meet !! I was speaking to this fellow in Cornwall, Ontario Canada and he mentioned to me he had a slight limp.. and I asked him how it affected his daily life and if it prevented him from doing certain activities, he said no no nothing its just a little limp and I can still danse, long walks, swim.... well we met, no way can he danse, or go for long walks he is crippled, he has to walk or almost run to stay mobile, and he flings his arms in the air to keep his balance, he even falls over trying to walk slowly... I was not impressed when we met.. I guess he felt this could be over looked and he was madly in love with me and sent me roses (even b4 meeting) but I told him that I am very active and into sports and working out sorry but lies like that are just not funny or acceptable...come on guys get with the program and be up front.... no more lies.... Annie in Ottawa Canada