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Posted on Mon, May 16, 2005 17:41

An excellent lesson for all Moon, thanks for sharing.

  


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Posted on Mon, May 16, 2005 10:58

I liked your Chinese Fable Moonray! Makes me feel better about my own cracks.... lol
XOXO from one Crackpot to another...

  


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Posted on Mon, May 16, 2005 10:47

A Chinese Fable ~

A water bearer in China had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which he carried across his neck.

One pot had a crack in it, while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water.

At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his house.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect for which it was made.

But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.

After 2 years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream...

I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.

The bearer said to the pot, "Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path, but not on the other pot's side?

That's because I have always known about your flaw, and I planted flower seeds on your side of the path.. Every day while we walk back, you've watered them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house."

Moral:

Each of us has our own unique flaws. We're all cracked pots. But it's the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding.

You should accept each person for what they are, and look for the good in them and be thankful.

Blessings upon all my crackpot friends and relatives. :~)

ps - Too bad he was deleted...



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Posted on Sun, May 15, 2005 21:41


crabtrap write:
ed thank you and moonary, and orion sharp petiteone and katie and real deal ru for sticking up with me, like isaid iam a nice guy ed but ican be very very dangrrous, if some one crosses me, ed ibeg of you to tell your naacp friends to put this man back on he bench here in houma before he threathens to sue naacp, he has lots of power here crazy in alabamba, was filmed in his court room, so ask your friends to put him back on the bench it was just a holloween joke he did, his 2 nd best assistiant us black after my sister. he even after htat to show his power went on time magazine with a kkk out fit.



Bobby,

While we're trying to rebuild a relationship with you Bobby please allow me to give you some more advice.

Please don't tell us how dangerous you are. That sounds threatening. We already know that when you are attacked you attack back. That's what we're all trying to stop.

I also recommend you stay away from the whole race issue. It takes someone much smarter than I to address the type of issues you have brought up without seriously offending some people. I think I know what you want to say Bobby but you lack the skills to explain them without sounding bad sometimes.

I don't have any influence with the NAACP and it confuses me why you think I do or would offer to use it to help somebody I don't even know. I have to know somebody very well before I will put my reputation on the line for them. Don't you feel the same way?

Why don't you tell us about your hobbies and how you like to spend your spare time. What's your favorite food? Do you want to get married someday and have kids? What is it about your best friend that is most special to you? Let's start SLOOOOW and get to know you.



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Posted on Sun, May 15, 2005 20:42

Good advice Cub, maybe you could give some suggestions to Bobby of names that might be more appropriate.



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Posted on Sun, May 15, 2005 20:31

You are welcome Bobby. Cheers! :-)



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Posted on Sun, May 15, 2005 20:18

I agree with Moon, and I think there is another factor to consider here.
Bobby has never insulted me either, but I have always been nice to him when I've posted. I'm not sure, but I think people are overlooking a condition that I am remiss to mention here. Think about it people. Bobby has the feelings of an adult and the heart of a child. Treat him with kindness and he will treat you with kindness. Do I make sense? I hope so.



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Posted on Sun, May 15, 2005 17:20

Bobby has alsways been nice to me. He may have been inappropriate at times, but I am not perfect so everyone deserves a second chance. I never reported you Bobby.



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Posted on Sun, May 15, 2005 16:15


Moonray77 write:

You're a riot, bobby, I must admit... ;)And I must say that you've improved yourself a lot since you came into these forums. One thing I've noticed too is that you don't provoke anyone unless provoked, and you do it in a polite way, always going "mr this" and "mr that"... lol, contrarily to SOME people on these forums. Keep up the good work, Bobby, at least you're making a real effort.



Moonray,

Maybe you're right and we can all get along.

Bobby,

I posted something to you in the Messages/Cajun thread. If you want to make this work let's give it a try. OK?



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Posted on Sun, May 15, 2005 13:17


crabtrap write:

1HotMama write:

Cub39 write:
There is something inherently funny about seeing the title Personality Disorders with joecajun/bobbybo listed next to it!



HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Absolutely! I expected to see KissesKisses in here though. ;-)

excuse mehot mama butistraightened that out with cub already, it is taken care of no personality dis order here. sorry, is that your car iknow a fellow down here who buys porches for fun, so hot mama it is ok for you to harass but not others you get all mad?



You're a riot, bobby, I must admit... ;)And I must say that you've improved yourself a lot since you came into these forums. One thing I've noticed too is that you don't provoke anyone unless provoked, and you do it in a polite way, always going "mr this" and "mr that"... lol, contrarily to SOME people on these forums. Keep up the good work, Bobby, at least you're making a real effort.

  


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Posted on Sun, May 15, 2005 11:36


Cub39 write:
There is something inherently funny about seeing the title Personality Disorders with joecajun/bobbybo listed next to it!



HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Absolutely! I expected to see KissesKisses in here though. ;-)



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Posted on Sun, May 15, 2005 11:17


LOOKATME2 write:
from now on joecajun,,,this is your forum,,you have worked for it, you belong to it, and it is yours,, good luck and it is yours! good luck with it..

The Bomb Squad



ROTFLMAO



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Posted on Sun, May 15, 2005 01:46

from now on joecajun,,,this is your forum,,you have worked for it, you belong to it, and it is yours,, good luck and it is yours! good luck with it..

The Bomb Squad



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Posted on Sat, May 14, 2005 22:00

Definations from the web.

Psychiatrist: a licensed physician (MD or DO) who specializes in the evaluation, diagnosis, and treatment of mental disorders. Their medical and psychiatric training prepares them to treat adults and children either individually, as part of and involving the family unit, and/or in a group setting. Psychiatrists can prescribe medications, if needed.
more:
Psychiatrists are board certified as specialists in their field. Physicians wishing to become board certified psychiatrists will practice as residents for four years, learning the specialty before taking the psychiatry boards. While any physician may prescribe the medications used to treat various forms of mental illness, psychiatrists are more extensively trained


Psychologist - a licensed mental health professional (Ph.D. or Psy.D.) who specializes in the evaluation, diagnosis, and treatment of mental disorders. Training prepares clinical psychologists to treat adults and children either individually, as part of and involving the family unit, and/or in a group setting.



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Posted on Fri, May 13, 2005 23:56

Ideally, (and sorry for my english), there is a need of a multidisciplinary followup around the ill person, and adequate followup after a crisis like that
: psychiatry, psychosocial work (to work the bound with the family and children), m?dication and psychotherapy, all toghether...Usually, they repeat something of a trauma while in crisis (and a crisis is not always bad, if adequatelly treated). I dont know if it was a good thing to send her back or "ship" her in her family (maybe where the trauma began...as a child, etc.) in addition to the problem that her family didin't want to keep her; also ideally, something might have happened in her own family that got her ill, to the point not to trust her husband for example to talk about her emotional situation, or her husband to notice long before something was going wrong...(to prevent)...there are possibilities...but getting well informed is important...not waiting till the last minute...And finally...a person canot be treated if she does not want to...; and, for stopping the medication, this is a usual pattern ill people try...and a process (of learning by themselves that if they stop their medication, they will get ill)...and not to fear...but, they have to have the adequate support, a progressive one, at their path, because they are very fragile...

  


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Posted on Fri, May 13, 2005 20:16

Cub "I think this is dead-on doll. Addiction transfer is a real phenomenon."
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Agree, this is quite common, especially when the problem is alcohol or drugs. Violence or danger or even a arguement can also be a substitute way to get a "high".

wwwww



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Posted on Fri, May 13, 2005 16:25

Scope of the problem, taken from mentalhealth. com web site
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In Developed Countries, 8 of the 10 Leading Causes of Disability Are Mental Illnesses

The massive Global Burden Of Disease study conducted by the World Health Organization, the World Bank, and Harvard University measured the leading causes of disability (counting lost years of healthy life). In developed countries, the ten leading causes of lost years of healthy life at ages 15-44 were: (1) Major Depressive Disorder, (2) Alcohol Use, (3) Road Traffic Accidents, (4) Schizophrenia, (5) Self-Inflicted Injuries, (6) Bipolar Disorder, (7) Drug Use, (8) Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders, (9) Osteoarthritis, (10) Violence. "The Global Burden Of Disease" by C.J.L. Murray and A.D. Lopez, World Health Organization, 1996, Table 5.4 page 270



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Posted on Fri, May 13, 2005 16:03

I can find a excuse to not pick up someone laying in the street to prevent the next car from running over them if I wish. I don't look for excuses, I look for ways to accomplish results.

Like individual lock boxes; not "dispensing" meds, but "witness" that they take theirs or go home. Heavens forbid, hire a company nurse for two hours per day. What is the crime if non controlled drugs are stollen? Any company that can't solve a "take your medicine" medicine problem or that doesn't do thing to help keep people healthy has bigger problems than that. We need to find solutions, and not ignore the problems.



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Posted on Fri, May 13, 2005 00:31

As far as im conserned any addict wheather he/she drinks, snorts or smokes, has a major embalance in the brain.... your best friend can become your worst enemy...



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Posted on Thu, May 12, 2005 23:53


fun4two writes:

People who are not alcoholic sometimes don't understand why an alcoholic can't just use willpower to stop drinking. Alcoholism has little to do with willpower. The individual, once addicted, has moved from a state where drug use is voluntary & controlled to one where craving, seeking, & use are no longer under the same kind of voluntary control. Alcoholics & other addicts are in the grip of a powerful "craving" or uncontrollable need for alcohol that overrides their ability to stop drinking or using. This need can be as strong as the need for food or water.



Fun, I read this with interest.

My dad was an "occasional alcoholic;" something would trigger it like meeting an old war buddy, the Christmas season, an upsetting, traumatic experience, etc. and be hooked. He'd quit for months & then show up at home one night inebriated & without the car or take a week off work to sleep every day, fight with my mother, not come home until next morning.. He?d fight with alcoholism for weeks at a time. Then he'd wean himself off his addiction, cold turkey. Months later, it would start all over again
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When I reached 21, I partied & lived it up, celebrating my freedom & age of majority. I was a tequila girl & often came home Saturday nights staggeringly blurry-eyed. My mother was appalled & was convinced I had the same "disease" as my dad. But I was just a "party animal," only on weekends. I never did become an alcoholic like my father, even tho my family thought that was how I turned out, enjoying drinking until I was giggling. I still drink wine with a meal, but after two glasses, I'm jumping sailors in parking lots! That's not easy to do when you live 200 miles from an ocean port!

Something about alcohol made my dad addicted while it did nothing to me. I can take it or leave it unless it's Saturday night.

Two different people.



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