Ladies, if you were fortunate enough to meet a millionaire man on this site, and the two of you made a mutual decision to engage in a romantic relationship after getting to know each other...Would you prefer that he put on a pedestal by treating you like a future trophy wife? or Would you want him to treat you as an equal and accept you just the way that you are?
I don't know about being a trophy though. Were you a trophy when me met you? Was your relationship based on that? How do you translate the word trophy? Take a look at the first lady - she can not be disheveled at any given time, does that make her a trophy? She is a strong woman, and yet she is very feminine but NOT a trophy. To me trophy wide means all she is good for is her appearance. If he wants a trophy he needs to go get one, you are a human being. He was attracted to you when he met you however as humans there's always room to grow. Keep yourself in a presentable condition for yourself not for him. He will appreciate it if he has a pumping heart. Humans are visual but please keep the word trophies where it should be otherwise it does not sound good on humans.
I beleive the foundation of a relationship is not based on ur pocket size. If I were to become involved with a millionaire, Id treat him like the man he is not what he is and could only hope to be treated the same in return.
I think that if the relationship was to flourish, he would treat me as his future wife which entails accepting me as I am, as I would him. I have long ago accepted that men and women are not suppose to be perfect equals. There can be a 'perfect' balance however.
Well I am a foreigner as trophy wife if I understand correctly is a wife to show up to your friends, family or acquintanes.
I am sure the kind of man I am interested on is the kind of person who works to develope himself beyond what are the social requirements. He has SERIOUS LIFE COMMITMENTS and is looking for a partner with whom to keep going on this travel to improve oneself and help the ones around you. Someone who is aware that after 5 or 10 years of our existence nobody will care about what we did. Instead of that what we did mutually to have life quality is more important than showing up to oters. I am COMPLETELY SURE I will choose someone who has in his head and soul quality thoughts and feelings to improve a life. It can be in this site or outside.
Well if I fall in love with someone with this point of view of the throphy wife I wish we can work that out and erase this idea. At least I am normal and I guess I will not have that problem ;) This usually happens to perfect beauties ;)
I would want my partner to be proud of me and me of him! Respect each other, make each other feel good, have good conversations and be equal in some things and compliment each other on other things. Its a give and take!
To be treated like a Trophy wife is what?
I guess most women and men also want to be treated with respect and made to feel special if that's what you mean.
However to allow myself to be treated like a brainless tart who's just supposed to look pretty and tag along going 'yes sir, no sir, three bags full sir' with the hope of getting something in return - I don't think so! Those people allowing themselves to be downgraded like that have no self respect and those who treat them like a trophy wife or trophy husband definitely have an oversized ego and are control freaks, who are usually not well tempered and balanced when things don't go exactly the way they want it!
I was married to a narcisist - been there, done that, read the book, seen the film and got the T-shirt!¿
Where would you draw the line or would you draw the line? To be dictated what you wear, whether or not to have plastic surgery, where and when to go out, who you are allowed or not to mix up with? ¿
As far as I am concerned a relationship should be a partnership not a dictatorship!
Let's get for real. We all want to be treated like a trophyie wife or eye candy. That's what makes us the way we are. We are a one of kind species. We take what we can (love and money) and then we take some more. Now, for all the guys that are reading this "suck it up butter cup" because the male species made us that way. Now, I'm not saying that every woman is like that but if they fall under the category of "eye candy" then you can bet they fall under that category. Would I want to be kept by a millionaire? You bet. Would I want to find someone that will put me up in a fully furnished penthouse in New York and Boca Raton? You bet. Would I want someone to go home to his wife and let me do my own thing. You bet. Think about it ladies. Money or love. At my age I will take the money because love is definitely overrated.
Well the whole idea of pedastal or trophie wife does not really mean anything in a mature relationship.¿
A mature person will never accept being a trophie wife because she will have a great need to be more than a frozen¿ statue (one gets dated as time passes and we know where thy end up), a need to give more than one¿receives will broaden ones place in life and hopefully create a niche that no one else can fill¿.
Putting anyone on a pedastal means you are valuing youself less than them, so why would you want to be with someone who has the right to look down at you with your consent.....dah...grow up, value yourself and others will too, long term.¿ Soon you will be looking eye to eye and enjoying it !