I can appreciate everyone's comments on here however if I ever did get married it wouldn't be for anyone's money so if they asked me sign a prenup I wouldn't even batt an eye lid, it really wouldn't bother me!!!
I know ypu're meant to love nad trust someone completely when you marry them and someone asking you to sign a prenup may offend some however I believe that with the way things are nowdays and current divorce statistics it's not showing a lack of trust when asking to sign a prenup it's merely a formality.
If someones worked hard for their money I don't think they should be at risk of losing that for whatever reason, and because I'd like to believe that if i ever get married it would be forever i also belive that the prenup signed means nothing to me at all, I'm in it for love and persuing dreams of having a family and not the money!!
Yes, I would. The purpose of marriage is to have another soul to grow with and love. Although money does bring perks to a relationship that may not be afforded while single, it shouldn't be the reason you marry someone. Ive been asked for my hand in marriage to a man that could have given me anything my heart desired, but I didn't love him in the marriage way. I love someone for who they are.
I would just be thrilled to be married again!!!! (and hoping the next time is forever!)
When I was born, I was butt naked and poor. When I die I'll probably be almost naked (in one of those hospital gowns) and money won't mean much to me then .. Love is something that cannot be bought. Yes you can rent some pretend love and kid yourself, but the real thing has nothing to do with money. If I was madly in love with a man, I would sign anything. And if someone looked at me and said I don't love you, I would give them their space and walk away, not expecting anything. All relationships get tested and challenged, simply because all of us have some personal growth to do.
I absolutely will. I would not proceeed w/ a wedding without one. It protects current and future assets, AND debts. It also puts in place expectations of how things will proceed should the marraige fail. It's not a pleasant thought, but the reality is marraiges don't always work... for various reasons. I would want to know that I am financially protected. It doesn't mean I don't trust my partner, it's just good common sense.
My belief is that if a couple is older, and both have assets, then the view is not if the marriage should work out, at this stage the more likely would be that one would die before the other, a prenup would prevent the children of the living partner trying to usurp the deceased legal heirs from their inheritance.
However, a younger couple who would be having children together should be building their children's inheritance jointly.
You bet I would.
I don't know how much more it would stand up than the original vows. If you have enough money and a good enough attorney none of those pieces of paper mean anything anyway.
The pre-nup process would give the parties an idea of how the other might conduct themselves in the event there was a divorce.
I say no matter what class of society you are in, you should sign a prenup. I say this because the prenup doesnt effect just the rich, it affects the poor as well. Unfortunately for me, my x was secretly pulling out loans and credit cards and didnt pay them so I wouldnt notice he had them. After getting himself in extreme debt and indulging in other affairs a married man shouldnt do without his partner I decided to divorce him and now I am paying off half his debt. So ladies and gentleman, unless you have the best lawyer on the planet, a prenup can save you from debt, or a money hungry spouse.
If your lucky enough to find real Love, there won't be any insecure emotions regarding signing legal paperwork.
A pre-nup in today's world is as basic as a marriage license,driver license, name change,etc...
I really thought that all these emotions tied to pre-nups were long gone. It's important to prepare for the unexpected. We insure everything we can, have health care proxy's, many types of wills, all preparing to make difficult times easier.
I think the best way to avoid any bad feelings from either side, is to bring up the subject when you first start dating & asking all the other important questions.
I HAVE GOT TO AGREE,what Tarheelman 316 says is true...marriage is somewhat associated with values,morals and please G.d virtues and honorability...if so your heart at that time should be so in sync that what on earth are you doing signing a prenup? IF your suspicions are prevalent...dont get married..simple.No prenup
loveseeker32 write: I see nothing wrong with signing a prenuptial agreement. The way I look at it if I meet the love of my life its not because of his money its going to be what is inside of him. If he has worked for everything he has why not sign one its not my money. I believe that would make him feel better about our relationship as well. Knowing I'm not with him for the financial gain. He will know I am with him for love. I look at it as non marital property he had it prior to me and god forbids if we don't make it together he will have it after me.
You are RIGHT on the money...See, there are many ways to skin the cat here....Speaking for myself, this is my take...
If you want to marry me, and I feel the same way, yet I am the one with the assets here, then you should WANT to eliminate the potential "business" in our relationship and marry me because you are in love with me, and ONLY that reason...NOT because you know that you will never end up on skid row...NOT because it would be cool to drive a new Benz every 2 years, etc...
Frankly, if I was with a woman that DIDN'T think it would be a good idea to sign one, and that DIODN'T want me to know that no matter what, it was only for the right reasons, then I would question whether or not she really loves me...
Love is blind, but when it comes to all of the things that I have worked hard for, I am not ready to put that on the line to see if my heart is telling the truth, or if I can tell that hers is....
If it didn't work out, then we both take what we came into the marraige with, and thats that...
Also, if we have children, there would HAVE to be a child support agreement in place...NO CHANCE that a woman is going to get $200,000+ per year in child support for one child, from me...I agree that you have to do what is best for the children, and that doesn't include being dropped off at school in a SL600...
thegoodlife421 write: Saw this topic come up on another thread and thought I'd start a new one here.
Seems some women seem hurt and offended by the very suggestion of a prenup. I, on the other hand, think it's a sensible move because it protects BOTH parties.
What do YOU think?
WEll...Id be dissapointed to realize the man i think im spending the rest of my life with is even thinking of us not being together! Like his faith in our sucsess as a couple is shakey...witch would put doubts in my head as well.
But its not more than that. Im a strong beliver that marriage if forever, so to realize that the person your marrying dosent see it that way (or trusts that you do?...OUTCH!)
All that having been said if he wants one im not sure I can trust HIM or his intent to stick around when i get old...id have to really sit down and get to the bottom of it with him.
Is it really about him feeling he needs to protect him money from me? (indicating a lack of trust and perhaps a reason nt to get married) or is it more of a way for him to rest assured that i wont leave him for another( becouse he loves me so much) it would have to be one hell of an argument to put my heart at easy and if i did decide to sign it id make sure that if he messes up im taken care of as well. another option is just not getting married...id rather that than feel a looming distrust between us.
its really a complex situation and while i understand why a man with alot of hard earned money would want to protect that...its painful if you know you have only good intentions.
I see a serious oversight in regards to prenuptial agreement. Your Will and Testament should be in order also if a union of marriage is proposed. Unfortunately Anna Nicole Smith is a prime example of what a mess things can be.
Love can be real and realistic at the same time. Most marriages only last approximately 5 years so if would be safer to protect assets.
However if you do a prenuptial agreement to protect assets a agreement should be signed by both so the other that has no assets understands if things go wrong they aren't left destroyed.
Again leverage is the question and having that over your relationship is your choice.
More Protection = Less Freedom
More Freedom = Less Protection
is just a fact of life.
Values of assets create personal preferences in these areas.