Would you sign a prenuptual agreement? Long Term Relationship

  • View author's info posted on Aug 22, 2008 21:53

    You bet I would.
    I don't know how much more it would stand up than the original vows. If you have enough money and a good enough attorney none of those pieces of paper mean anything anyway.
    The pre-nup process would give the parties an idea of how the other might conduct themselves in the event there was a divorce.
  • View author's info posted on Aug 17, 2008 14:55

    I say no matter what class of society you are in, you should sign a prenup. I say this because the prenup doesnt effect just the rich, it affects the poor as well. Unfortunately for me, my x was secretly pulling out loans and credit cards and didnt pay them so I wouldnt notice he had them. After getting himself in extreme debt and indulging in other affairs a married man shouldnt do without his partner I decided to divorce him and now I am paying off half his debt. So ladies and gentleman, unless you have the best lawyer on the planet, a prenup can save you from debt, or a money hungry spouse.
  • View author's info posted on Mar 09, 2008 12:17

    Quoting beauty4u:

    hell, no.

    amen sister, you go into a marriage equal... would if the one who had little got richer than the mate??? do you get one in the middle of your marriage,lol...
  • View author's info posted on Mar 06, 2008 17:25

  • View author's info posted on Dec 10, 2007 21:15

    If your lucky enough to find real Love, there won't be any insecure emotions regarding signing legal paperwork.

    A pre-nup in today's world is as basic as a marriage license,driver license, name change,etc...

    I really thought that all these emotions tied to pre-nups were long gone. It's important to prepare for the unexpected. We insure everything we can, have health care proxy's, many types of wills, all preparing to make difficult times easier.

    I think the best way to avoid any bad feelings from either side, is to bring up the subject when you first start dating & asking all the other important questions.

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  • View author's info posted on Nov 25, 2007 14:54

    When I marry I want a prenup.
  • View author's info posted on Nov 09, 2007 15:10

    I HAVE GOT TO AGREE,what Tarheelman 316 says is true...marriage is somewhat associated with values,morals and please G.d virtues and honorability...if so your heart at that time should be so in sync that what on earth are you doing signing a prenup? IF your suspicions are prevalent...dont get married..simple.No prenup
  • View author's info posted on Jul 05, 2007 16:24

    loveseeker32 write:
    I see nothing wrong with signing a prenuptial agreement. The way I look at it if I meet the love of my life its not because of his money its going to be what is inside of him. If he has worked for everything he has why not sign one its not my money. I believe that would make him feel better about our relationship as well. Knowing I'm not with him for the financial gain. He will know I am with him for love. I look at it as non marital property he had it prior to me and god forbids if we don't make it together he will have it after me.


    You are RIGHT on the money...See, there are many ways to skin the cat here....Speaking for myself, this is my take...

    If you want to marry me, and I feel the same way, yet I am the one with the assets here, then you should WANT to eliminate the potential "business" in our relationship and marry me because you are in love with me, and ONLY that reason...NOT because you know that you will never end up on skid row...NOT because it would be cool to drive a new Benz every 2 years, etc...

    Frankly, if I was with a woman that DIDN'T think it would be a good idea to sign one, and that DIODN'T want me to know that no matter what, it was only for the right reasons, then I would question whether or not she really loves me...

    Love is blind, but when it comes to all of the things that I have worked hard for, I am not ready to put that on the line to see if my heart is telling the truth, or if I can tell that hers is....

    If it didn't work out, then we both take what we came into the marraige with, and thats that...

    Also, if we have children, there would HAVE to be a child support agreement in place...NO CHANCE that a woman is going to get $200,000+ per year in child support for one child, from me...I agree that you have to do what is best for the children, and that doesn't include being dropped off at school in a SL600...

    Other guys need to understand this...
  • View author's info posted on Jun 20, 2007 11:23

    I see a serious oversight in regards to prenuptial agreement. Your Will and Testament should be in order also if a union of marriage is proposed. Unfortunately Anna Nicole Smith is a prime example of what a mess things can be.

    Love can be real and realistic at the same time. Most marriages only last approximately 5 years so if would be safer to protect assets.

    However if you do a prenuptial agreement to protect assets a agreement should be signed by both so the other that has no assets understands if things go wrong they aren't left destroyed.

    Again leverage is the question and having that over your relationship is your choice.

    More Protection = Less Freedom
    More Freedom = Less Protection
    is just a fact of life.

    Values of assets create personal preferences in these areas.
  • View author's info posted on Jun 19, 2007 12:25


    tarheelman316 write:

    If you think you need a prenup, you shouldn't get married in the first place.

    RIGHT ON!!!

    ...I couldn't have said it better myself.

    I recognize that there are some pretty shady characters in this world and people will go to great lengths to swindle, steal and manipulate to acquire their wealth. HOWEVER, I am not one of those people and I do not want to be forced to make that guarantee in writing. If he is that attached to his "things", then he is most likely not the man for me.

    I don't want to marry a man who doesn't trust me enough to know that I am not going to marry him and then divorce him and take his "stuff". The man I marry will value the love, honor, support and respect I provide far above the value of his physical possessions.

    For those men who require a Pre-Nup...

    You can lose material possessions in the blink of an eye for any number of reasons. True love will be there even when the money runs out and a GOOD WOMAN will help you get back on your feet and rebuild that empire.
  • View author's info posted on Jun 17, 2007 06:59

    SweetSue2004 write:
    It would also be necessary for a man to sign a prenuptial, don't you think?


    Indeed. I agree.
  • View author's info posted on Jun 12, 2007 16:25

    It would also be necessary for a man to sign a prenuptial, don't you think?
  • View author's info posted on Apr 04, 2007 21:34

    A prenup is necessary, sadly.

    I wish it wasn't, but it is.
    Personally, I can see why the women would use it as much as the men.

    If I could get some rich woman to marry me, I'd divorce her the next second to get half of her fortune.

    Selfish and cruel? Yes, but so is the idea of sex before marriage.

    Comparing apples to oranges? Sure am, they're all fruit anyway.
  • View author's info posted on Dec 04, 2006 14:48

    I am going to be honest and speak for myself and some women I know. We are on here to find a man that is amibitious, strong and willing to do what it takes to succeed. These same men have played the field and are mostly ready to settle down and not play games.

    Every woman I know, including myself have had dreams of a man that could take care of her. There is nothing wrong with that as long as she takes care of him in the home.

    Being able to take your children to school, stay with them when they are sick, go on vacation, support them in extracurricular activities, fixing dinner on most nights, etc. is a dream come true. Not having to worry about how the bills are going to be paid, if you can work overtime, taking vacation or sick time and being off to do the things that make having a husband and children worth while.

    Keeping this in mind, if the couple agrees with this arrangement then fine if not the man needs to respect the fact that she may want to work outside the home. Never the less an agreement should be signed. You can agree til death do us part but because of life you never know what may happen and you should always be prepared for the what if.

    Now if I am with a man for 10 to 50 years, stayed at home or worked part time and we decide to break up it wouldn't be right for me to walk away from the relationship to start all over again. It has been done but that doesn't make it right. So when you are looking for a woman find out what she wants out of her life and relationships. Her past should speak for itself.

    Everyone on here is not a millionaire and they can lie saying they are. Who is going to verify it? So the name of this site doesn't guarantee that he is financially stable.
  • View author's info posted on Nov 02, 2006 09:04

    Hmmm, I am learning more about the femmine intuition every day! Man, have I been niave
    about you ladies! A pre-nuptial is the only way to go after the first marriage! Especially if no children are involved, and if children arrive, that also can be covered in a pre-nuptial.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 24, 2006 12:28

    yes i would because like many people have said it protects both people and it also makes sure that either party if something were to happen would be safe if a divorce were to proceed. along with financial safety it also protects the kids to make sure they are protected if anything were to happen...
    with my first engagement i was goint to sign the prenup but then things went sour and dont want to talk about it but when i did get married i didn't because we didn't have anything but anywayz what im trying to say that if my future husband or someone that i plan to marry came up to me with a prenup i would have no problem signing it becuase its not just protecting them its protecting you to becuase it also helps them know if your marrying for love or money. and either way it should be signed. now im blabbling and so i will quit but thats all i want to say..lol
  • View author's info posted on Aug 08, 2006 17:37

    Could be very important is both sides have kids from previous marriages.
  • View author's info posted on Jul 22, 2006 22:13

    Anyone that makes decent money nowadays should. It is ridiculous to not protect yourself and your assets. And frankly if I was marrying a wealthy man I would think less of him if he wasnt wise enough to protect everything he worked so hard to make.
  • View author's info posted on Jun 22, 2006 21:06

    Dear Poemscaper,

    I hope you didn't take me wrong, I have always maintained that pre-nupts are good for much more than allocating money, but you make an excellent point about confidence. The fact that successful men are often secure may be a case of the chicken and the egg; I think secure men typically succeed. And secure men are normally that way because of positive reinforcement from others who appreciate the choices they make, their work ethic, their moral compass and, sadly to a large degree, their appearance. But, any one of these can lead to a strong sense of security and therefore lead to success. There's nothing sexier than confidence (and nothing less sexy than conceit) because confidence is never given and always earned.
  • View author's info posted on Jun 17, 2006 10:20

    I just want to say in response to BlueEyz2006, that there are more reasons than money to want a successful man. Having dated and been dumped by two who had about the same or less money than me (and I am not rich, but comfortably middle class)and acknowledged that I was a wonderful person and partner, I have discovered that many men who are not so financially successful have self-esteem issues that interfere with their having a good relationship. While I never pushed them to make more money in these relationships, I found that because I had been in a long marriage to a man who did become more financially successful than them, they were intimidated. I, personally, joined this site at the advice of my most recent guitar-playing architect boyfriend who told me to "go find a rich man." It is not the money I am after, but the self-esteem that seems to go with it for a man, that allows him to weather the ups and downs of relationships with a little more ease.
    Please don't jump to conclusions. Money really is not everything, even on this site.
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